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ok well i have a huge problem and its that me and my gurl have been dateing for about 5 months now and we are really close i love her more than anything and we are 15 i know i know people say that you cant fall in love when your as younge as us but personally i think thats a bunch of bull shi* but the problem is we are thinking about a kid and we are both really wanting to like BAD so what do you think i should do PLEASE HELP ::..Thanx..::
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That's really cute that ya'll think you're in love. =]
But anyways, let's face real facts, shall we?
First of all, there are a million couples in their young teenage years that claim to be in love, and ALWAYS end up breaking up. Enjoy it now, but one of yall are gunna change your opinion soon. [I mean this with all due respect.]
And yes, you're ONLY 15. I'm sorry, but a kid? I wouldve thought any fifteen year old would have had more common sense than this. >.> A child requires a lot more attention and care than your goldfish. Trust me, my mom was 35 when she had 2 babys and I was 10-ish when she had the first one. And me, just being the sister was put with loads of responsibility. And only being the parent is tougher. Just dont do it k? Put down the drugs and use your brain.
Here's an alternate idea though:
Babysit together. You'll get the idea SOMEWHAT of how it is to take care of a child[Not in anyway raise one though.]
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That's really great that you two are in love and want to have a kid together, but I highly suggest waiting for a bunch of reasons.
First of all, you two are only 15. This is the time BEFORE you have to get a job and make a family, etc. To just enjoy life and do the things you might not be able to do whenever you're older. I always hear of teenage mother's never getting to hang out with their friends, not go to school, not do anything they want because they always have to sit at home and take care of the baby, and work a job all day too. So just enjoy the young life you're living right now, go places, have a great time.
Also, that's the other thing. A baby is alot of responsibility and alot of money. There's the diapers, the food, the clothes, the furniture, the possible babysitter, everything. And you two just working at the local food store probably isn't going to help you pay for everything at once. And you guys also need to think of where you guys would live, with your parents? Because they may not let you live with them or if they do, they might not help you out as much because teh babies your responsiblity ; not theirs.
I would also suggest you two going off to college and getting a good degree, because if you really want to provide good support and care for your child, because just having a high school diploma isn't going to give you two a very good future, it's very difficult to get a good paying job without a college diploma. My mother didn't go to college, and now she works two different jobs one in the morning and one later and whenever she's not working, she's taking care of me and my brother and cooking and everything. Not much time for a life for herself there, huh?
So I suggest you and your girlfriend wait a good while before you guys start having any children. Have fun now, have a good life and go to college so then you can really ensure your child's going to have good support and a good life later in their future. I hope I helped.
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hey. aww you guys sound totally in love. i wish i had a love life lol. but anyways. a kid is a big thing. i would wait alittle. since you have only been together 5 months and all. if you want a kid, go ahead... im just saying my friend got pregnant last year and it was hell for her. she could not stand right, she could not sit in certain seats, people made fun of her. she ended up having a abortion. i would if i were you wait like another month, maybe 2, and then rethink it. its up to you. if you do have a kid, i think you should name it after me lol, just kidding. hope i helped.
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my names marissa =] lol. your welcome, im always here if you need advice.
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Hi honey. I think you sound like a nice young man and it's great that you have someone you care about so deeply. I think since you love your girlfriend so much, you have to thnk about what is best for HER. If she has a baby now, or even in the next few years, it is going to be really hard on her- even with you around to help. She may have to drop out of school, and she may get a "reputation" or be called names for getting pregnant. It would not be a fun time for her. Then, she'd have to have some maternity leave from school which would hold her back. If she can return to school, she will have a hard time caring for a baby while also doing school. You could help, but you will be in school too, and so you're not going to have that much time or energy. Who would watch the baby while you two are in school? Also, you could not live together yet, so you'd still have to live with your parents, which would mean you'd have to have joint-custody of the baby, and you wouldn't be living together. Think about all those times you'd have to get up every couple hours when the baby cries, and then still get up for school in the morning. And don't even think about dropping out of school, because if you have a baby you're going to need money, and the best way to get money is to finish school and go to college so you can have a real career to pay for your mortgage, electric, gas bills, grocery money, childcare, maybe private schools for the kids or special things for the kids like music lessons and trips to Disney world and all that good stuff you want to be able to provide for your children. My point is, when you think about it, thee's not much you could really do for a baby right now, and you have SO MUCH to look forward to when you have your own family in the future. It just seems smarter to wait until you're financially ready for a child. PS- Do you realize how much diapers cost, and how many diapers you go through in one day?! Trust me, you don't want to deal with that yet!!
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I think it's great that you have such a great relationship with your girlfriend. If you think she's the girl for you that's great. What i'm not too sure about is this kid you guys want. Why not wait like 7 years to have a kid. If you have a child at 15 you won't be able to support it because you'll be at home taking care of it compared to being at school. School I think is number one. If you really love her you would tell her this and then wait until you're older. Not only would this be more practical but it would test and see if your relationship is really worth it.
*Hope I Helped*
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