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ok well i have a huge problem and its that me and my gurl have been dateing for about 5 months now and we are really close i love her more than anything and we are 15 i know i know people say that you cant fall in love when your as younge as us but personally i think thats a bunch of bull shi* but the problem is we are thinking about a kid and we are both really wanting to like BAD so what do you think i should do PLEASE HELP ::..Thanx..:: (link)
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Hi honey. I think you sound like a nice young man and it's great that you have someone you care about so deeply. I think since you love your girlfriend so much, you have to thnk about what is best for HER. If she has a baby now, or even in the next few years, it is going to be really hard on her- even with you around to help. She may have to drop out of school, and she may get a "reputation" or be called names for getting pregnant. It would not be a fun time for her. Then, she'd have to have some maternity leave from school which would hold her back. If she can return to school, she will have a hard time caring for a baby while also doing school. You could help, but you will be in school too, and so you're not going to have that much time or energy. Who would watch the baby while you two are in school? Also, you could not live together yet, so you'd still have to live with your parents, which would mean you'd have to have joint-custody of the baby, and you wouldn't be living together. Think about all those times you'd have to get up every couple hours when the baby cries, and then still get up for school in the morning. And don't even think about dropping out of school, because if you have a baby you're going to need money, and the best way to get money is to finish school and go to college so you can have a real career to pay for your mortgage, electric, gas bills, grocery money, childcare, maybe private schools for the kids or special things for the kids like music lessons and trips to Disney world and all that good stuff you want to be able to provide for your children. My point is, when you think about it, thee's not much you could really do for a baby right now, and you have SO MUCH to look forward to when you have your own family in the future. It just seems smarter to wait until you're financially ready for a child. PS- Do you realize how much diapers cost, and how many diapers you go through in one day?! Trust me, you don't want to deal with that yet!!
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Alright this is major im in school right now so i havnt much time. My little cousin she is 11 years old and she is in 6th grade her first year in middle school. Her mother never taught her good higeane habbits so she smells a little bad but not to bad cause she does take showers and what not. Alright but the other day she came oiff from her bus crying because people were spraying perfume in her face well im in highschool and she came to me crying. Im more like her big sister than a cousin. I confronted the girls when they got off the bus they told me no they didnt spray perfume in her face. Well this morning i went to her house to pick up her brother for school and she told me she got jumped at the bus stop this morning so she wasnt going to school. I asked why she got jumped because the girls told her to meet them at a park near my house and they were going to bring there boyfriends and friends and stuff. So she got scared and didnt show up so thats why she got beat up this morning. My question is im really heated and i want to beat them up cause my cousin cant defend herself am i in theright am i justified or does this just mean im acoward? Please help ASAP because with your help soon or not i will beat them up.
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Hi honey. Listen, everybody was right. Beating up these kids is only going to get you in trouble, and it isn't a very good example for your little cousin either. I would encourage her to tell a teacher when kids are picking on her,
BUT I think really the focus here should be on her hygiene. I think you should, or your parents should, watch out to see if she's being neglected. Child neglect is a crime, and symptoms include poor hygiene, not having clean clothes, nobody making you go to school, not having meals when you need them, nobody making you go to bed at a decent time, not being taken to the doctor when you're sick...there might be a few more, that's all I can think of.
What I would do for her, is have a "girls night sleepover" or a "spa day" or something, in which you get fun soaps, scented shampoos, body spray, etc and you can give these to her as a goody bag type thing, as well as doing fun things- like you can do each other's hair, do each other's nails, do home facials, etc- fun, girly kinds of things. Make some healthy snacks for it, and maybe watch a fun girly movie like Princess Diaries or something like that. Make it a real girl's day.
Be sure to give tips about taking care of herself, but be careful not to be mean about her odor, etc- you don't want her to feel like you're making fun of her. If you do it right, it might make her feel special to have a special girly day with you and she will learn something too. Hope it works out for her!! :-) And you sound like a good "big sister" for her. :-)
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