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Guy Friend.
Me and my best guy friend talk all the time on AIM. Mainly every night before school. But I have 2 classes with him, and he RARELY talks to me in class. Is there a reason for this? It kind of makes me upset.
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The guys. well you know how guys are. They usualy don't like to talk in real life. You know, theyd prefer online. No clue why it is. But me and my guy friends are the same way. We talk on phone and online, but rearley in school. Its perfectly normal :] Just guys for ya!
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Guys and girls just don't talk well in person a lot of the time. There are a lot of reasons why he might not talk to you in class. For one, it is in class. He may just be trying to pay attention. Or, he has his guy friends he hangs out with in school. Or, he doesn't know how to talk to you in person (could be a small crush doing that). Or, perhaps he is wondering why you aren't talking to him.
If it bothers you, talk to him about it. It seems you are more comfortable talking online, so next time you are online just ask him why he doesn't talk to you at school. Don't whine or complain. Just flat out ask him. Don't offer reasons either. Whatever reasons you give him, he will use. Say that it won't be a problem if he has a reason to not talk to you in person, that you just would like to know what it is. Then, accept his answer and get on with your friendship.
Or, you could just start conversations in school. Start small, then increase time. It will help to get the awkwardness out of the way. You could even talk on the phone. It isn't as personal as in school, and not as impersonal as online. It could be a good transition. It is how I talked to my friends when we weren't at school or otherwise together. Of course, that was pre-internet :)
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i used to do that.. in junior high.. i would talk to guys on aim and be so close and we could talk for like.. hours.. and then at school we barely talked.. i think its because its awkward.. unless you go out of your way to make it un awkward.. you just have to be like. "oh. remember when we talked about this?" and like.. yeah. just try a little bit to get him to talk to you.. it will get easier soon.
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kinda same deal with me. but i like the guy haha
but hows he your best? thats okay though but boys are sometimes nervouse and they dont like to be open- well thats some and sometimes its easyer to express yourself over online becasue no ones really judging you :).
dont take it personaly at all. he'll change soon trust me
xox good luckk.
and maybe start talking to him?
kendraa<33
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This is sort of me and how of my friends are too. I think it's because you two are better friends just over the internet that in person.
Whenever you talk on the internet you're more comfortable with talking to people and more open with yourself and are allowed to be silly because nobody's looking at you and nobody's making weird faces at you or anything. Also because you don't have to be talking every 4 seconds, either. So you're allowed to have your silent moments and everything, but still have an awseome normal conversation whereas on the phone or in person if you're quiet you're sort of just sitting there staring at eachother and all awkward.
So, don't take it personally, he just might be worried about how to talk to you in person, so make more conversation. Ask him how his day's been so far, anything cool happen, did he see any fights, haha whatever you guys want to talk about. And just show him it's comfortable talking to you too in person and there's alot to talk about. :]
I hope I helped.
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Hey!!!
Here is my advice...
I know how you feel, I have a guy that was my best friend and he NEVER talked to me at school. When I tried to talk to him he just ignoreed me. He probably thinks that if he talks to you then people would think that you are going out.
Here is my advice to you... I think that you should just talk to him.
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its easeier to talk on aim because you can just think of what you are going to say before you say it. its harder in person, because than there could be awkward silences. see, on im, you can pause and think about what you are going to say but you cant with person.
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hey.
guys can be complete jack offs sometimes. like my ex bf for exaplme.. great when it was just me and him. but around his friends he use to ignore me. guys do that alot. he might be embarrassed by you. he might just be really nervouse around you in person when there other people around. i say that last part because, he might have told other people in those classes stuff about you. and maybe he dosnt want you finding out. i would talk to him about it.
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this might be because its easier to express yourself when your not talking right to the person. he also might be shy. try talking to him in class and making conversation. he'll start to feel more confortable around you
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This is a guy friend, right, then maybe there is another girl in his life that knows about your firendship with him, you is trying to worsen it. Or maybe he thinks that you spend to much time on him, or that you are obsessed with him. So try trying to talk to him after school when you are both alone, and try to get to the bottom of things. I have also had a guy frined that have stopped talkin to me over his girlfriend. It happens ya know. Girls always want control over their man. You'll just have to accept his ways.
PS I am an excellent columnist, that has been through it all. Frm wanting to kill myself, been threatened to be killed boy drama, girl drama, and life drama spreaad the word. I've goteen all these crazy things in my life. Now I'm just a teen helping everybody else
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hes probably really shy and doesnt know what to say in person. you should be the one to go up to him and start a conversation!!
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Hm, guess I'm not the only one then.
My best guy friend has been doing that to me since school started. It seems like he talks to everyone in class but me. Ask him on IM why you guys don't talk much anymore. Maybe he likes you and is too nervous to talk to you now. Try talking to him first in class and see if he starts talking to you more.
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