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Q: ok so i really really like a boy who is 18, and he likes me. but he said "we probably wont date" because of our age difference. but i cant get him off my mind.

so i am now dated a boyt i like, just not as much.

and i dont want to hurt him, but i want the older boy so bad.

what do i do?
what do you think will happen?
will the older one date me eventually??

thanksss.

umm.. i think that you should go for the younger one. if he is already telling you it wont work.. then dont push it. when i was a freshmen i was ALWAYS going after older guys.. so one of my friends told me " if you date an older guy. its cool. if he dates a younger girl. it says alot about him in a negitive way" so i would defff go with the one your age!
good luck girl!

Q: Any one know any good friendship qoutes they can send me?

http://www.xanga.com/hillrollersquotesx3

those are soo cute and soooo many!

Q: every year i get 2 swimsuits, but last year i didn't get any because i forgot about it. anyway, i saw this really cute burberry bikini that's 175$ and i really want it, but i just got back from san francisco with my dad and he bought be 2 pairs of 170$ pants. i feel bad asking for the swim suit now, but i do need a new one, and if i just get one this year do you think my parents would be okay with it? help, i don't want to sound spoiled!

i think that they would understand. like if 175 would be the price of the two combined. lol. maybe like wait a week or two so your not asking for so much at one time! but if they say no.. tell them the reason you didnt ask for the two earlier is because you already had your eye on this one.. ! good luck!

Q: ok 17/f

how do i dress up football jerseys.

my bf gave me his football jersey to wear tomorrow and i HAVE to wear it tomorrow.

but i don't wanna wear sweats with it.
how can i dress it up with a denim mini or something!!

it's kinda cold here, keep that in mind!!

i need to know NOW NOW NOW

ILL TAKE ANY AND ALL IDEAS!! NOW PLEASE!

oohhh.. okay wear the jersey and the denim mini.. but wear leg warmers with it that is the same color as yalls school colors.. and maybe a bandana worn like a headband in your hair... i think that would be very cute!

Q: I was wondering what peoples opinions are on telling a guy you like him. If you like a guy that you're fairly close to, do you tell him or not?

hmm. i would drop in in a conversation casually.. like. be talking to someone else.. but close enough for him to hear you.. and so that he knows you want him to hear.. like. yell it almost.. haha. and be like. yaaa.. i have the biggest crush on (name).. but dont tell him!.. and then when he looks at you.. wave.. lol.. or something else that is obvious.. but not desperate.. and something that wont make him uncomfortable.. lol. like.. just dont be all serious about it.. be playful!

Q: Me= 17/f Him= 15 almost 16/m

We're dating.
He's indecisive(sp?)
Making stupid choices..
He's breaking my heart..
It hurts so bad...
I can't let go..

How do I?
Help? =[

ugh. okay im like in the same situation. im 16 hes 15.. but yeah. like i thought he was mature.. and now he is BREAKING MY HEART too. so this is what i did.. i pulled way back from him.. i didnt call or text until he called or textd me.. and i blew him off when he wanted to hang out.. and now he is calling me every 3 seconds.. lol. but yeah every guy wants what he cant have.. so i would say def. pull away.. and dont be the "stupid girlfriend" who is so in love with him and he is talking trash to his friends about you.. just dont be too vulnerable.. it should make him come crawling back.

its working for me so far.. so good luck hun!

Q: ohkay well i whore a lot on myspace.. and i really want thousnds of friends.. does anyone no somone on myspace who has thousnds of friends and whores everyone? thanks

http://www.myspace.com/shannonleighb2

haa.. that would be shannon. she is defff one of those. lol. & shes such a nerd. haha

this is her advicenators... sxyshedevil332

Q: Just to make sure, In the Bible in Revalations, it says the sexually immoral go to hell. What does that mean?

it means to have sex or sexual relations before you are officially married

Q: 13/f
ok so theres this guy i like named cody. were kind of friends but not really. i talk to him on myspace and aim sometimes. so one day i see hes on aim so i say hey to him. heres how it went..

me-hey
cody-what do you want now
me-umm i dont know
cody-then dont talk to me
--cody signs off--

im not exactly sure what i did to deserve that. my friends are saying maybe he was in a bad mood or hes under alot of pressure right now (he has me and my friend ashley chasing after him you could say. she asked him out and he said no and he also knows that i like him). anyway when i read that i almost cried. what should i do??

guys are dumb sometimes and like. their friends will be over and they`ll write like that.. and then the next day.. they`ll talk to you.. also.. it could have been one of his friends. especially in junior high... he`ll mature in about 3 or 4 years.. if that.

Q: Alright, i was wondering if it's normal for someone to go to homecoming alone? do alot of people do that? also what is the right attire for attending a homecoming dance? I'm a freshmen so this is my first one and I don't know a thing.. thanks alot

yeah thats normal.. a few of my friends did thatand they had a blast.. you dance with EVERYONE that way.. and there is probably way less drama.

and the dresses are usually right below the knee.. its semi formal. so yeah..

http://shop.nordstrom.com/C/6007415/0~2376776~2374327~2374331~6001765~6007415?origin=6001765_Shop+by+Event%2fOccasion6001765

go there.. they have a realllly good selection!!

Q: So I'm thinking of getting colored contacts, but I have two questions!

1) How much more expensive are they then normal ones?

2) What color should I get?
I have really dark brown eyes, & dark brown hair,
I'm thinking of maybe some greens? or lighter browns?

Any opinions?

um. i dont know how much it costs.. sorry..

BUT i definately think that bright blue eyes on a brunette is GORGEOUS!! or light light green.. thats really pretty too.. i guess it depends on your skin tone too.. but like. if your dark with dark hair.. go for reallyy light.

Q: Hi. I'm fifteen years old and i'm a female. I've had my naval pierced for about a year now, and I have my ears pierced twice in both ears. Now however, i'm wanting to get my tongue pierced. I've been wanting it done for about 3 months now, and i've done my research. I know the positives, the negatives, and all the care needed. I've done so well with all my other piercings, and I know I can take care of my tongue if I get it pierced. The problem is, my mom won't allow it. I don't understand why? She was ok with all of my other piercings and I don't understand why this one is any different. My question is, what makes this piercing any different, and what can I say to her to make her change her mind?

Thank you all in advance.

hmm. one reason might be that there is like a main wain in your tounge that if its messed up... you could die.. but you could also tell her that the person who is doing it is a professional and has done it a million times..

another reason is she may think its too bold or something.. but i would like.. take her to your school and show her hoooww mannyy people have theyre tounges peirced and its really not that big of a deal..

just try to be mature about the whole thing.. show her you can handle having it...

good luck hun

Q: What do girls do when they flirt? like how can you tell when they are flirting or just being a friend? any girls out there who can answer this quesition? how do you flirt? i want to know cause i like 2 people and i sometimes think that they are fliriting with me but i'm not sure. thanks!!!!!

girls get louder.. they stand closer.. they laugh at your dumb jokes.. they`ll touch you. they`ll compliment you. theres a million ways..

but..... sometimes we dont realize we are ecen flirting!!

flirt with them and see what theyre reaction is...

Q: Hi,

well, i really like this guy, but i dont know how to flirt well, or how to catch his attention. I'm in class with him for like 3 hours a day, and i was just wondering, like, what types of perfume scents, or little flirting tips, would help me to get his attention.

Please help!!

PS (i'm 16 and so is he)

k ill name some perfumes that boys have commented on... love spell from victorias secret. esencia de duende.. iiittss so so so good!! paris hilton.. curious..

my advice for the flirting.. next time yall have an assignment with partners.. be like.. do you have a partner? and if he says no.. be like. well you do now. and if he says yes.. be like. well.. sucks for them.. cuz im your partner now! lol. you just have to be condident in yourself!! :) thats really like the biggest turn on for guys because they like loud outgoing girls.

good luck!

Q: Me and my best guy friend talk all the time on AIM. Mainly every night before school. But I have 2 classes with him, and he RARELY talks to me in class. Is there a reason for this? It kind of makes me upset.

i used to do that.. in junior high.. i would talk to guys on aim and be so close and we could talk for like.. hours.. and then at school we barely talked.. i think its because its awkward.. unless you go out of your way to make it un awkward.. you just have to be like. "oh. remember when we talked about this?" and like.. yeah. just try a little bit to get him to talk to you.. it will get easier soon.

Q: 17/F

I'm dating a guy but we're not bf/gf... just dating open ended so we're pretty much allowed to date other people too. The thing is that I don't want to go out with anyone else; just him. So far he hasn't been seeing any other girls, but if/when he does I know that I'm going to feel completely crushed. How do I get him to like me enough to consider only me in a relationship? Lately he's been kinda cold to me, too. I feel like I'm losing his interest, any ideas on how I can spark up our relationship up?

Sex is not an option

a. talk to him about it.. tell him you want to date exclusively and see what he says. the worst he could say is no.. and it stay the way it is..

b. try new things with him.. go on pic nics.. go hang out with his friends and do what they do.. just do cute little dates that would make yall like each other even more.. do things yall both like!

Q: heyyy on myspace how do you skip a space?? like on the about me section?

instead of
just like
this...

how do i

skip a space

like this??

try to push shift and enter at the same time.. that usually works

Q: 15/f

so theres a halloween party on halloween and your supposed to dress up
i have three costumes in mind a pirate, witch, and angel
and im not sure which one to pick so i just want people's opinion im leaning towards the pirate and then the angel and then the witch but wht do you think

pirate: http://howcool.com/catalog/product_info.php?products_id=12582

angel: 1. http://www.fredericks.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=Holiday2002&category%5Fname=Costumes-Fun+and+Flirty+Costumes&product%5Fid=90428

angel: 2. http://howcool.com/catalog/product_info.php?products_id=12545

( i think i like angel one better its a cute corset and fits well when i tried it on but idk)

witch costume: http://howcool.com/catalog/product_info.php?products_id=12501

i need your're opinon which one i should be (ps. please dont tell me there too skimpy, etc)

i like the second angel one... its cute and makes a point at the same time! so ya!! i think the witch one is ugly.. :-/

Q: Is this normal weight for a thirteen year old-- 105 pounds and 4'11 or 5'0. Thanks.

the doctors say its 100 pounds for every 5 feet and 5 pounds for every inch after that.. so it aslo depends on your bone structure and your frame... but yes 105 i think would be the in the normal range

Q: Alot of the time, I start to like guys after I find out they like me. I feel like this is wrong or cheating them somehow. I mean it kinda feels like I only like them because I like the attention of having them like me. Is this ok? does anyone else do this?

okay. i dont want to say that i do that... but i totally do that.. i think its because you kinda sorta look at them a different way.. like idn.. lol. but yeahh i defff do that too!!