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Oh my god.
Me= 17/f Him= 15 almost 16/m
We're dating.
He's indecisive(sp?)
Making stupid choices..
He's breaking my heart..
It hurts so bad...
I can't let go..
How do I?
Help? =[
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I have the same issue though it's a bit more complicated. I'll be 17 in december and he's still 15. His unwillingness to make certain decisions has been just giving me headaches. You really need to talk to your boyfriend. I've ended up having to talk to my guy several times and it turns out that he has the same insecurities as me (i.e dating an older girl/what his friends would think). It makes things easier when you guys understand each others feelings and fears in the relationship. He might think that he's the only one worried about your relationship and not realize that he's breaking your heart by not being able to make decisions. Chances are that he's insecure about your relationship which means you should definitely talk to him about it. It might also depend on.. are you senior or junior? Because it might be that he's worried about you graduating before him and how the relationship will last then and such. but yeah, the best advice i can offer is communication.
If you want to talk more about it, since i kind of know how you feel, then feel free to IM me (:
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ugh. okay im like in the same situation. im 16 hes 15.. but yeah. like i thought he was mature.. and now he is BREAKING MY HEART too. so this is what i did.. i pulled way back from him.. i didnt call or text until he called or textd me.. and i blew him off when he wanted to hang out.. and now he is calling me every 3 seconds.. lol. but yeah every guy wants what he cant have.. so i would say def. pull away.. and dont be the "stupid girlfriend" who is so in love with him and he is talking trash to his friends about you.. just dont be too vulnerable.. it should make him come crawling back.
its working for me so far.. so good luck hun!
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Are you lowering your standards? Being his doormat? Stop it right now! Tell him you are not going to wait around for him and that he needs to make a choice. Someone can only break your heart if you continue to give it to them! Take back your dignity and control of your life. If you lose him, because he does not value you, then what have you really lost? Nothing! You can't change someone by hanging onto them. You only get dragged around! Let go and see what happens.
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Talk to him about it. Tell him what is bothering you. Communication is a must. If he is hurting you, he may not even know that he is. You need to let him know. Fill him in. He is probably unaware of his actions. This reminds me much of my friends situation. I told her, she needs to be open with him and let him know how she feels. If he's like "oh really, well i didn't know anything was wrong." Then chances are he will straighten up. However if he starts to give out excuses and keeps up with the act, then it would probably be a good idea to get rid of him. I know that you love him, but maybe you are looking for a different type of relationship that he is looking for. Maybe you are just a long term type person, and he just wants to keep it simple. I really can't go on much from what information you have provided, but please email me or message me on myspace (in my profile). If i knew more about your situation, maybe i could help you more. ^.^ I'm here if you need me.
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