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i keep dreamin about pot. smokeing it, dealing it n the side effects. im tryin my hardest to refrain but its soo hard i wana yet i dont wana. what can i do to convince myself i dont want it?
Actually, its only the very beginning that's hard, after that it gets easy. Trust me, I know. So, for the first week or two, the smell, or even the mention of weed is going to drive you nuts, but after that you are really going to feel good and you won't even miss it. It's the truth. You will be sitting there with all of your friends and they will be smoking, talking about how stron you are for not, with money still in your pocket, and you will feel like a strong person. You will watch them all stoned and think they kind of look like dopes. Either way, once you get into the habit of living life without the crutch of weed, you will be better able to make decisions on when and where to partake.
my boyfriend is dressing up as a mountain biker(like lance armstrong) for halloween...is there anything i could dress up as that could kinda go along with that?
Cheryl Crow. Yo could even get into the whole thing, like he dumped you, but now you're friends.
Ok here goes... I am a 22 year old female... And it's this guy that I had a crush on since eighth grade... I mean he's really hot... And about a two weeks ago I was out with my friends... And I spotted him... Well we were in a night club so I told my friends about how I had a crush on him and... When I turned my back they went up to him and told him I liked him so... He came over to me and we started talking and we exchanged numbers... The day after I called him but he didn't answer and he called me the next day... We talked on the phone for about and hour and he came over my house... We sat in his car and talked for about and hour and then he left... After that day I called him and he didn't answer I left him a message but he didn't respond back until two days later... And I asked him when are we going to get togeather again he claimed last thursday so when that day came he said he was all tiered... and he said that we will chill one day when we are both not busy so... like everyday i text him and he rarely text back... or even answer the phone... So yesterday I was like I'm done I can't continue to chase him... But this morning he texted me good morning and I text him back... And so around 6pm I text him and I said how was his day... He text me back and for about ten minutes we texted back and forth until my tx messages ran out so... I had to call my phone company and order some more because... FINALLY he said we would spent some time today so... When I text him back after I finished getting ready... He didn't even respond nor did he answer my phone call... WoW! I'm pissed now... So since you read my long story what do you think? do you think that he's just playing me... And he have little if no intentions on spending time with me... maybe he don't even like me like that especially since my friends approached him... so should I just move on and leave him alone or should I keep trying I really like him and I'm so confused please help me
You are not gonna want to hear this, but it sounds like you keep playing yourself. This guy hasn't played you-yet. You already know what you have to do, it's just something keeps stopping you from doing it.
You have to let this guy chase you, but the problem is your self-esteem is kind of low, so you think he won't. He has already proven he will, though. When you finally stopped calling him was when he finally started calling you.
Try to look at this from his point of view. You are kind of acting a little obsessed, and he might be thinking that if he gets involved with you, you are all of a sudden going to get clingy (admit it, you're already kind of clingy and nothing has even happened yet) and then your feelings are going to get hurt and he's gonna feel like a jerk.
Back off-the next time he texts don't ask him to get together. Before you know it he will be asking you.
Then, and here's the hard part; allow him the joy of chasing you. It will make the both of you happy.
Ok, so my boyfriends dad offered to sell me a car, that was valued at 6000, for 1500. He said eh wanted to keep the insurance and title in his name until the car was paid off. I had no problem with that, but when i was on my way to take him somewhere, someone ran a red light and smashed the car. its gone, totalled. now he wants to pay his random bills with the settlement! My bf thinks im being selfish by thinking that he should keep the 1500 that he would have gotten from me out of the settlement, and give me the rest to get a new car. Am i being selfish, or is his dad being a real jerk? I really think that he only wanted to keep it in his name so that he could reap the benefits if I got in an accident. Help! dont want to see his face everyday while im so angry at the fact that he's gloating that hes making out on the deal!
Here's the deal--you bought the car for $1500. You must have paid him something, so you take whatever you paid him, give him whatever of the settlement adds up to 1500, and keep the rest. It's not some big win-fall for him. He was willing to give up the car for 1500. You should be able to take the rest of the money and buy yourself another car. After all, wasn't the whole point for you to have transportation.
there is this boy that i really like at my schooland he knows i like him due to my friends telling him but i dont really mind tbh it was just a crush at first but now i dont just fancy him i love him but i am scared to tell him how i feel incase he just laughes at me and when i speek to him on msn he never replys what should i do ??
13/f
I am going to tell you a couple things you might not want to hear, but the truth is the truth, there's no two ways about it.
First, you don't love him, you just can't stop thinking about him. What does he dream about? What issues are important to him? What is the name of his favorite uncle? How does he get along with his parents? If you can anwer all of these questions than I have underestimated you, but if you can't, you just really like him alot.
You had a crush on him and then your friends told him and all of a sudden your feelings got stronger. That's because we always want what we can't have. Once you knew that he knew that you liked him and he didn't give you the response you were hoping for you started to put him up on this pedistal.
Here's the good news-he doesn't respond to your MSN. You may think that's bad news, but his lack of response means he's not a player.
I don't think he will laugh at you if you tell him you like him, but he might get uncomfortable.
Obviously, the cyber approach isn't his style, and neither is the old send your friend to let him know you like him trick.
It sounds like this boy isn't really interested, but you already know that. So telling him your interested isn't going to accomplish anything. He knows your interested. Telling him you love him is only going to freak him out.
The best thing for you to do is to get the whole "love" thing out of your head and start off with friendship. Get to know the answers to those questions I asked you earlier. Who knows what the future holds, but you are never going to have a successful relationship with any boy until you get to know him first.
Remember, boys around your age are so different from girls. They are so much less mature, so don't come on strong. The best thing you could do to get close to him is find out something the two of you have in common, and then have an intelligent conversation about it. The quickest way to get him thinking about you is to let him see that you are cool to talk to, and smart too.
So, my boyfriend is on probation, for drugs. I am seventeen and he is nineteen and we have been together off/on scince i was fourteen and he was sixteen. Well weve both always sorta done pot but him on a much more extreme level then me. When he gets off probation which is in like jan. He plans on spending over a thousand dollars on drugs and booze. I dont like that at all b/c i stick to weed and he does like everything. I dont want him to get addicted to anything. Thats not the kind of life that I want for us. How can i tell him that with out sounding bitchy i feel like i always bitch cause ill be like are you gonna pass your drug test? so yea...
Tell your boyfriend that you think it's a huge waste to spend so much money on drugs because you'll have nothing to show for it in the long run. How about spending the thousand bucks on a trip for the two of you, or something else he would want.
What's really bothering you isn't really the money, it's more that he's so looking foward to it, and you think drugs are less important than he thinks they are. He is probably really into them right now because he can't do them, and that makes them all the more appealing. Hopefully, once he gets off probation the drugs won't feel as important to him-you always want what you can't have.
Keep in mind that you're not being "bitchy," you're being reasonable, and if I were you I would tell your boyfriend that you are getting a little tired of his immaturity. Kind of turn it around on him. Let him know that you want a man who can take care of you, and right now it is like you are the one having to take care of him. Tell him that you didn't get into this thing so you can watch a person you love make stupid decisions, and anything is fine in moderation, but he is having trouble controlling himself, and you are sick and tired of having to pick up the pieces.
I have sideburns and lip hair and am growing black hair on the side of my face.
it scares me ...
my lip hair is prickly but ive never shaved my face before.
why is it doing this ?
how come every girl i know doesnt have it
and i dont want to shave every day and have a prickly face
that's disgusting!
what do i do!?!
i can notice it in my bathroom mirror
and i feel angry/depressed/shocked
because this is exactly what i never wanted to have.
EXACTLY.
Lots of women have hair on their face, so there is nothing unusual about you. The best way to get rid of it is waxing. You don't have to go to a solon or anything, and for about ten bucks you can get about 2-5 months of use, depending on how often you have to do it.
Ok, so this guy, we became friends this past year. He got my phone number and continuously texted me. Like, all the time. If I didn't answer within 2 minutes he'd text again asking why I wasn't replying. So yeah, back then I didn't really talk to him that often because we didn't have classes together, we never saw each other, I just didn't think we had anything in common. Well, one day I actually replied and we were talking for a while when another friend of mine invited me to go to a movie with her. So I guess I mentioned that I was going to the movies with him, because he was like "Oh can I come?" so I said "sure, why not". So he came and we all hung out and it was really fun. So, I decided he was pretty cool because he could hold a conversation with me (something I'm not good at) so I continued to talk to him, even to this day. Well, as we got closer, he began talking more and more...sexual. He was like asking for pics and asking for phone sex and stuff. Of course, that can only be expected from teenage dudes, and I already knew that. I wasn't naive enough to think he wouldn't want anything... but I told him no anyway, and we just remained friends. However, lately, he's been more like "wow you're amazing, you're perfect" and he asked me what I want from him and I said I didn't know. So he told me what he wanted from me was "heart" and that he'd give anything to have me and he'd die if I ever stopped talking to him. Back to my question, do you think this could just be another way to kind of "sucker" me into doing sexual things with him? Or could he really mean it? I just don't really know...we're going to the movies in a week and I don't know what to do if he tries anything... thanks in advance :) I rate good answers
I don't think anyone can "sucker" you into having sex with them, but I did get a bad vibe off of reading your description. Did you ever see that commercial where the girl is hanging around all day and there's this guy in this big cell phone suit who is following her around, texting her about random stuff every two seconds?
He just keeps texting her about random stuff, she can't talk to her friends because he keeps interrupting, she can't even go to the bathroom. At the end of the commercial it says, "When does caring become control?'or something to that effect. Well, that's the vibe I get from this kid.
He is already giving you guilt trips. He's telling you he would die if you stopped talking to him. He's inviting himself out when you're trying to hang out with your girl.
If I were you, I would get myself as far away from this guy as possible. I know it gives you an ego boost that he likes you so much, but he will end up being controlling and emotionally abusive. You are getting the ego boost now, but I promise you, your self-esteem will go right down the toilet if you get involved with him.
You're a little shy, and this guy is making it so easy for you, chasing you and everything, but whenever anyone tells you they would die if you stopped contact with them it is a HUGE red flag. This relationship will end up in nothing but guilt trips. I just don't want you to have to learn things the hard way.
Another HUGE red flag, he contacts you and when you don't get back right away, he calls right back. YUCK! I really have a bad feeling about this guy, and I know a LOT about guys. It was my job for more than ten years to talk to guys and I got to the point where I can spot a good one or a bad one from a mile away.
I would be willing to bet that this boy's family is whacked, and his mother has been treated badly by the men in her life. You may have talked to him about it, and that's one of the things that impresses you, how protective he is of his mother. How he wants to be so different than his mother's partners. He loves her sooo much. But here's the thing-he's really angry at her, too.
He will take everything and use it against you. Like if you were to send him sexual pics, later on he will make you feel like you are a slut for it, and he might even threated to show them to other people if you cut off contact.
Call him and tell him that you and your friend are going to have a girls night. Your friend invited you in the first place, so if you were to say, "I told her you were going to come, but she kind of didn't want to be the third wheel. Since she invited me first, it isn't fair to cut her out like that." Any normal guy would understand, right, because that's totally logical. You would understand if the situation were turned around, right? You would probably feel a little sorry that you invited yourself and put someone on the spot like that.
After you do this watch how he reacts. He will give you a guilt trip. He'll probably try to say negative things about your friend. He might get mad at you. He might even just show up at the movie anyways because he doesn't really care about your friendships. Remember, your friend asked you first and you have every right to go out with her.
Now, take his reaction when you break this "date" and multiply it by 100. That is how he will be once he gets his hooks in you. It is really easy to tell someone they are perfect and amazing, so don't fall for it. You know that nobody's perfect, and so does he, he's just trying to get you, and once he does, he will stop telling you how perfect you are and start pointing out all of your flaws. I promise you this will happen and if you don't cut him off now, you will remember this advice and wish you had listened. You have been forewarned.
Me and my "boyfriend" had sex for the first time. He's a big jock and I was really excited that someone was actually interested in me. So when he came over to my house he wanted to have sex and I for some reason agreed to do it with him. Anyway, my period was 4 days late and I was freaking out and my bestfriend told me to take some pregnancy tests. All three of them that I took were positive. I told my "boyfriend" about it and he just laughed and broke up with me. I want to keep the baby, but I don't want to me known as a slut for the rest of my school life because I made one mistake. I don't know what to do. i still have to tell my parents too and they think I've never even have had a boyfriend before. I just need some advise, and please don't say, "your way to young to be having sex" because I already understand this. Thank you!
I came across this question in my in box, sent on May 20, but for some reason I never saw it there before. I know I'm writing this a month later, but maybe you will get an email alert someone has written to you.
I was in your shoes 21 years ago, and even my dad called me a "slut" when he found out. Then he stuck me in a foster home. You know what, all that crap I went through and I look back at my life and I wouldn't have it any other way. It made me the person I am today, and I like me.
I am sending you a lot of good wishes, no matter what your decision. You said you want to keep the baby, but a lot can happen when you are going through such a confusing time. I do hope you were able to tell your parents, and I hope they have offered you the support you need.
If you ever feel like you need some advice, or just someone to talk to, please feel free to contact me.
okayy so i hung out with my ex and one of my best friends and then we met up with 2 other friends, so it was the 5 of us. it was chill, we talked like friends would talk, nothing serious. he brought up things from the past though like i had my favorite necklace on my mirror in the car and he pointed that out and one of my favorite songs was on the radio so he stopped and let it play saying "oh you love this song" when he doesn't like it. then at the end of the night i didn't feel like getting up so i said to like everyone "can someone give me a piggy back ride to the car" and he gave me one. he's been really chill and i want him back, but i don't want to come on too strong. so my questions are, 1. when should i ask him if he wants to go on vacation with me? (he probably does cause he wants me to teach him how to surf lol) and 2. should i just keep hanging out as his friend or should i hint i still love him? if so, how? thank you soo much..i should seriously be paying you haha.
I don't know if you realize it, but it sounds like right now he is feeling the same way you are, or at the very least, he's open to the possibilities. He is trying to let you know he cares and remembers the songs you like and all that stuff. The thing is this-we girls can't figure out what the heck it is that guys want, but what they really want is to make us laugh, to see that smile he put on your face when he remembered your song, and to "rescue" you by giving you the piggy back. I wouldn't hint you still LOVE him, that's way too much information to throw on him, but I would hint that you like him. You might not even have to hint, I'm sure it's written all over your face. Plus, those "I like you" conversations always get complicated, and that's the last thing you want. So, it's not really so much about saying it, as it is about showing it. The best way to let a guy know you like him without putting him or you on the spot (and you'll make him feel like the MAN in the bargain) is to throw it out there to another person (or group of people)when you are all together. Like when you are all hanging out you could say something like, "no other guy compares to him," or 'believe me, if I had it all to do over again, he would be my man right now." This way, he isn't forced to try to say the "right" thing, or even say anything, and you've laid it all out on the table for everyone to know, no games, no bullshit. Make sure you don't say it in a depressed way, keep a smile on your face, but make it clear you wish things were different. I bet you the smile on his face will say it all.
Like I said, it makes a guy feel like a king when he can make his girl happy. So honestly, the best thing you can do is let him make you happy. Romance eachother all over again. You know there were certain things you did that he just thought was so cute, so do them. And don't be afraid to let him know ou're doing them for him.
Number one thing-don't pressure him!! Don't hint you like him with any expectations. Your aim shouldn't be to get him back as your boyfriend right now; your aim should be to make sure he isn't thinking about dating any other girls because you're the one on his mind.
As far as the vacation thing, that's a tough one, and I've rewritten this paragraph about five times. I am just going to send you a lot of good wishes that the right time to ask him presents itself. It kind of depends on what you want; if you are OK with going as friends, ask him any time, but if you want to go as a couple, that's a little different. Hopefully, if you talk about the vacation, planning it in front of him with your friends, or whatever, you can get him to almost invite himself. Good luck!
hey.
well i like this guy. he's not particularly good looking or anything, but something about his personality attracted me to him. the thing is, he's REALLY different. like really different. not different like has a mental issue or something, but just the way he thinks is unlike that of anyone i've ever met, or probably will meet in the future. he's very smart. he has a very high IQ. he doesn't study though, or do his homework, so people think he's dumb. like a mini einstein or something.
well, he told me (cause we are friends) that he likes this other girl & that he doesn't have a chance with her, etc. etc. all this stuff. so he hasn't really been talking about her recently or anything, but i know he still likes her, even a little.
he has the effect on people "can't live with me, can't live without me." when i talk to him, he makes me so frustrated because of the way he phrases things, and how he uses big words. but i still like talking to him. when i'm not talking to him, i wish i was talking to him. it's really complicated. i've seen us together in my dreams, but i still feel like we don't CONNECT.
he has a really big issue, which is that people judge him and don't treat him the way he wants to be treated. so i told him, because i care about him, that he should tell them to stop if it hurts him. he then shot down my idea like it was the stupidest thing in the world and gave all this bull about how he's for "the good of the people" and not selfish. so that really frazzled me. that's his only problem, and i don't know how to help him. i feel like if i helped him, he'd really like me... but there's no solution that's simple in his eyes to his problem.
i was just wondering, what does he think of me? does he strongly dislike me? does he like me? i have no idea what he thinks of me.. at all. i mean some people are easy readers and i know right away how they view me, i can do that with pretty much anyone, but man, this guy is... IMpossible to read. can you help me? & also, should i ever tell him i like him? his best friend likes me... so there's a love triangle right there. what should i do?
thank you so much, askjr. i really appreciate it!
It sounds like he really values your friendship, but it also sounds like he wouldn't ever be the one to assume you liked him. He seems to think nobody would ever really want to be his girlfriend. Unfortunately, he looks down on himself because of the way others treat him.
It probably wouldn't do you much good to tell him you like him right now, when you know he likes someone else.
You are operating at a disadvantage because if he knows his friend likes you that kind of means you're off limits. Just like if your best friend liked someone, you wouldn't jeopardize your friendship with her by going for the same guy.
The best relationships in the world have started off as friendhips, and believe it or not, you probably know more about him than any girlfriend because he can feel really comfortable talking to you about anything. Most guys don't go into talking about their feelings so much like he does with you, so think of that as a positive.
He obviously likes you, or else he wouldn't even bother talking to you, right? If I were you, I would find out how he feels about this girl. If he still likes her, then wait, but if he isn't really into her anymore, you might have to lay it on the line and let him know how you feel. Once you do, don't expect him to give you an answer right away, and don't put pressure on him, or let it change your friendship, just give him some time to process the information and keep being the good friend you have been so far.
heyy its me again =/ haha the girl with the ex bf problems. i hope you remember me.
so yeah one of my friends that's friends with him and me is having a little get-together thing at her house in a few days and she invited him. this is my first like long-term relationship ex-boyfriend so i don't really know how to play it. i want him to know that i still love him and want him back without acting clingy and stuff it's gonna be all our friends hanging out so i just want to have a good time and hope something happens between us. so my questions are what should i do to let him know i still love him and want to be with him without being all clingy and stuff and should i hug him when i get there? i know i'm gonna be the same girl i was last summer when he fell in love with me but any special tips? as you can probably tell by now i really love this guy and would do anything to get him back. thank you so much.
I definately think you should hug him when you get there, but you really want to keep it fun. Don't get into a serious conversation with him, don't put any pressure on, don't have any of your friends pumping him for information.
Honestly and truly, the best thing you can do to catch his attention is have fun. Don't hang around where he is all night, but don't avoid him, either.
Keep this in mind-he knows you are going to be there, so he is probably feeling just as nervous as you. Girls tend to think that guys don't have any emotions, but that's not true, they just have to hide it better because their friends will give them crap if they don't.
I don't know if there is going to be drinking there, but if there is, I would be really careful not to get in over my head and make myself look like a drunken idiot. A lot of times, we think we'll just have a drink to calm our nerves and the next thing you know we're passed out on the couch. I should go into the whole "you shouldn't drink" thing, but reality is reality, so if you do drink, keep it to like two. If you don't drink, disregard that last paragraph.
I don't know if you guys had any "couple things". By this I mean, cute, playful things you or he used to do when you were together. For example, you could have an "accidental" slip and call him "baby." Or, if he knows you always loved his abs, touch them and tell him you should still have the right to check them out whenever you want. You get the gist. Don't be afraid to flirt because you will make him feel good.
Are there any really fun things all of your friends did together when the two of you were dating? If you guys are all sitting around talking, take a walk down memory lane, bringing up events that happened when the two of you were dating (you can even ask your friend to bring up a couple of funny things you and him did). You want his mind to start thinking about that kind of stuff, reminiscing about you. The next day, he'll be sitting around thinking about all of the fun you guys had together, and he won't even know you set him up for it.
One big thing you have on your side is that you share the same friends. This just makes it so much easier.
The most important thing-don't put so much emphasis on this one night, like it is now or never. Like I said, you share the same friends, so there will be plenty of time. Your main goal for this night should be having fun and going home with a smile on your face. You just want to lay the groundwork.
16/f So Ive been in my relationship for 9 Months and we have Not had sex, we plan to wait for a while. So We were making out the other day and I am the one who kinda started the making out, But then when we started to make out I just stopeed and smiled and didnt continue... So He looked at me and called me a tease, now Im not positive what a tease is and is it a good thing or bad?!
He is trying to say that you got him horny without any intentions of following through.
This is crap.
If all of a sudden, you grabbed his crotch and started rubbing, that would be one thing.
This guy is starting to pressure you into sex.
That doesn't make him a bad person, only a horny person.
If you want to have sex with him, that's one thing.
But if you're not interested in sex and you let im know that, you are not leading him on.
13/f
my freind recently told me that he liked me i didnt make a big deal of it because i think im too young to date. now when i ask him who he likes he doesnt ever give me a staright answer but he makes it seem like its not me anymore. He told a lot of people that he likes this other girl in my school that i think is really bad for him. today i asked him if he really did like her and he said that he was just lying.. i really want him to still like me because i like him back to but i think i lost my chance, how can i get him to tell me who he really likes? i've already askeed him many times and he wont tell me so how do i get him to??
Imagine how you would feel if you spilled your guts and told a guy you liked him, but he didn't make a big deal about it.
It's kind of like you took his feelings and dismissed them, and now you want him to keep giving you an ego boost so you can ignore it.
Maybe it is time for you to take the chance, he already did and you let him know you weren't really interested. If you like him, you're going to have to tell him.
15/f
Hey,Okay so my mum and dad just started renting a pub
its owned by this reallyy nice local family who are fairly well off. see the father is a polititan and his eldest son just got elected.
anywho,so the youngest son is 17 and reallyy good looking and nice..there was a big party on last saturday night after his brother got elected and i had to work behind the bar everytime he came up to it he smiled at me,I Kept catching his eye all night too.
my mum told me today that the other day he asked her who I was that he thought I was nice & pretty ,my mum didnt let on I was his daughter though and she said oh "thats jess,shes only 15 though"
she said he laughed then and said that wouldnt bother him considering hes only 17 and that he thinks im nice
then mum goes "shes my daughter" and he obviously got all embarassed.
anyway my problem really is that i really like him and hes coming in to help clear the office overhead and mum asked me to help so basicly itl just be the two of us up there working all day..im worried about what to talk to him about?I dont wanna say something stupid or look like an idiot.
and do you think he likes me?(my friend said she thinks he does but like weve never properly even talked and i find it hard to believe how he could like me he could probably have anyone)
or what mum said scared him off?,should i even try start something with him or am I just kinda running away with the idea that something will happen and being naive
sorry if this seems stupid but id aprciate any advice or opinions on what I should do and how to go about it! i sometimes get nervous and mess stuff up when i really like someone and I dont know how to not!
thanks for any help,
sorry if this is long! =)
The truth is, you are both attracted to eachother, but how could you really like eachother when you don't even know the first thing about what is important to the other.
When you are hanging around up there working, make it a point to find out these kind of things. What music does he like? What things does he take seriously. What does he think should change about the world, and what does he think is just fine. What does he plan on doing next year, after that, and after that?
Really, you should look at it like you have an infinate amount of subjects at your disposal, since you don't know anything about him. Could you even name who his best friend is?
I wouldn't concentrate on trying to find out if he likes me or not until he knows me.
im 13 years old i need help because i went out with a girl and we dated for a little while we were friends before we went out but then when we broke up things were not the same i kept wanting to be her friend and she did too but then one dayshe suddenly
stoped talking to me. i want to be her friend but she does not return any of my textmessages what should i do?
I agree with venom, I wouldn't keep contacting her. There are probably a lot of really nice girls in your school, so why concentrate on the one who doesn't want to talk?
But, if you do see her in person, one day, you could ask her if there was something you did on that day that made her not want to be your friend, anymore? She must have a reason, even if it is something you don't even realize. Ask her why, and then accept her answer. She knows your number.
so for all of you that answered to my previous post: "Should i tell him the truth?" i finally spoke to him today at school right before class at the end of the day. so i went up to him and said: "hey, can i talk to you for a minute?" then he said: "sure" so i said: okay, i don't mean to sound annoying but about that msg i sent you on msn about prom, i didn't mean to say it like that." then he said smiling: it's okay, it's okay, who cares. then i said: no, i only said that because i didn't want to look desperate. but i didn't mean it." then he said: it's okay. then i said(blushing): i know this might not matter to you,(then i put my hands to my face and said "omg") then he smiled and said: "this must be hard for you to say" then i laughed and said: i'm gonna be honest with you, but you were the one that made my night" then he was smiling for the whole time then i said: i know you don't like me like that but i just wanted to be honest so yea...then he kept smiling then he said: ok well thanx...have a nice day, then i said: okay, thanx you too. so i guess i have to get over him for real this time:( i just don't know how i'm going to get over him
I don't see why you have to "get over him."
I think it was nice that he made your night.
I think you made him feel great when you told him that.
But, it's like your expecting him to take you into his arms and carry you off into the sunset.
He is sensing that you really want this, and he isn't ready to move that fast, so now he is scared to say anything to you because he doesn't want to lead you on. You're lucky he's a gentleman.
You need to stop freaking out around him. He can sence your anxiety, I can sense your anxiety.
You tend to think of every situation as of the utmost importance, and he's not up to so much work.
Just chill. He obviously likes you because he danced with you. It was like he opened the door to getting to know you. So chill, and slow down a little.
18 M
I work in an Italian restaurant as a waiter.
I have been working there for about 4 months or so.
My boss is a very vulgar, and rude man.
He constantly yells at all of the waiters and waitresses every night. Even when we do nothing wrong. When he makes a mistake, we are the ones who are wrong. Me being one of the only two male Waiters in this restaurant he feels comfortable saying very sexual things about women, and other stuff. Now I joke with my friends about different stuff sexual, what 18 year old boy doesnt. I am tired of the sexual harrasment and mental abuse that he dishes out everyday.
My question is, if i were to quit and want to take action in court, would i be able to?
And how would i go about it?
Your a young kid, and the last thing you should be thinking about is actions in court just because someone pisses you off. You are going to have to deal with pricks all your life, so don't pussy out now.
BUT...No, you can't just quit and then file a suit. You would have to put in a complaint with the company you work for first, then if they don't change it, you can sue.
Remember...There are always people in this world who really need that harrassment law there. Grown folks with children who lose their jobs and everything they have just because some guy with a title wants to play games. Don't use frivaloty to ruin it for those who need it.
well....this guy i know from school,we are friends and we had "cyber sex" and i dont know how i feel about it or how i should feel about it....i dont like him or anything and it was the first time i had "cyber sex"
It isn't going to accomplish anything if you feel bad about what you have done.
All forms of intimacy are learning experiences, even cyber sex.
But....If you don't like him, why would you invite him in on that level?
Reasons why not to get intimate with a person you don't feel "that way" about.
They may feel "that way" about you, and it's not fair to lead them on.
You're really just faking it, and you don't want to get into the habit of doing that (you'll miss out on some of the good when it's good)
Well, that's just two, but there's more, and you get the point.
But, you also can't make it a habit of regretting your past. The biggest lesson you'll learn is probably how going to far with a person you don't really like can change the whole mix and make things uncomfortable.
16/f, boyfriend is 17/m.
he's in this backyard wrestling federation, and i'll admit, he is VERY good at what he does. we live in Indiana, and he's been to Illinois, Ohio, Michigan, Tennessee, and Wisconsin to wrestle. in a week he's going to Pittsburgh to be in some other federation's show.
all things aside, he likes himself more than he likes me. his ego is..huge. he's cocky, yet confident, he's good at everything he does, and he knows it. i know he likes me, a lot a lot, but i don't like the fact that he puts himself before me. we've been together for almost two months, and it just hit me a few days ago. we were in his room, getting ready to go out on a date. i was looking in the mirror to see if i looked okay, and he said "Daaayum". thinking he was talking about me, i laughed and said "you like?". i turned around to see himself admiring his arms, not me.
i don't know what to do. do i fall into his shadow and appreciate that he's even with me, or what?
please help/
Every person should feel about themselves like your boyfriend, and he's only a jerk if he puts others down to bring himself up.
The mistake women make is giving up things in our life to surround themselves with their boyfriend's life.
What happened to all of your friends who were around before you knew him? If they are still there, it sounds like you're a lucky girl. If you don't really see them anymore, you need to start being yourself again, instead of just his girlfriend.
The good part is the more you hang out and do your own thing, the more he will appreciate who you are.