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a boy
hey.
well i like this guy. he's not particularly good looking or anything, but something about his personality attracted me to him. the thing is, he's REALLY different. like really different. not different like has a mental issue or something, but just the way he thinks is unlike that of anyone i've ever met, or probably will meet in the future. he's very smart. he has a very high IQ. he doesn't study though, or do his homework, so people think he's dumb. like a mini einstein or something.
well, he told me (cause we are friends) that he likes this other girl & that he doesn't have a chance with her, etc. etc. all this stuff. so he hasn't really been talking about her recently or anything, but i know he still likes her, even a little.
he has the effect on people "can't live with me, can't live without me." when i talk to him, he makes me so frustrated because of the way he phrases things, and how he uses big words. but i still like talking to him. when i'm not talking to him, i wish i was talking to him. it's really complicated. i've seen us together in my dreams, but i still feel like we don't CONNECT.
he has a really big issue, which is that people judge him and don't treat him the way he wants to be treated. so i told him, because i care about him, that he should tell them to stop if it hurts him. he then shot down my idea like it was the stupidest thing in the world and gave all this bull about how he's for "the good of the people" and not selfish. so that really frazzled me. that's his only problem, and i don't know how to help him. i feel like if i helped him, he'd really like me... but there's no solution that's simple in his eyes to his problem.
i was just wondering, what does he think of me? does he strongly dislike me? does he like me? i have no idea what he thinks of me.. at all. i mean some people are easy readers and i know right away how they view me, i can do that with pretty much anyone, but man, this guy is... IMpossible to read. can you help me? & also, should i ever tell him i like him? his best friend likes me... so there's a love triangle right there. what should i do?
thank you so much, askjr. i really appreciate it!
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It sounds like he really values your friendship, but it also sounds like he wouldn't ever be the one to assume you liked him. He seems to think nobody would ever really want to be his girlfriend. Unfortunately, he looks down on himself because of the way others treat him.
It probably wouldn't do you much good to tell him you like him right now, when you know he likes someone else.
You are operating at a disadvantage because if he knows his friend likes you that kind of means you're off limits. Just like if your best friend liked someone, you wouldn't jeopardize your friendship with her by going for the same guy.
The best relationships in the world have started off as friendhips, and believe it or not, you probably know more about him than any girlfriend because he can feel really comfortable talking to you about anything. Most guys don't go into talking about their feelings so much like he does with you, so think of that as a positive.
He obviously likes you, or else he wouldn't even bother talking to you, right? If I were you, I would find out how he feels about this girl. If he still likes her, then wait, but if he isn't really into her anymore, you might have to lay it on the line and let him know how you feel. Once you do, don't expect him to give you an answer right away, and don't put pressure on him, or let it change your friendship, just give him some time to process the information and keep being the good friend you have been so far.
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