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heyy its me again =/ haha the girl with the ex bf problems. i hope you remember me.
so yeah one of my friends that's friends with him and me is having a little get-together thing at her house in a few days and she invited him. this is my first like long-term relationship ex-boyfriend so i don't really know how to play it. i want him to know that i still love him and want him back without acting clingy and stuff it's gonna be all our friends hanging out so i just want to have a good time and hope something happens between us. so my questions are what should i do to let him know i still love him and want to be with him without being all clingy and stuff and should i hug him when i get there? i know i'm gonna be the same girl i was last summer when he fell in love with me but any special tips? as you can probably tell by now i really love this guy and would do anything to get him back. thank you so much.
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I definately think you should hug him when you get there, but you really want to keep it fun. Don't get into a serious conversation with him, don't put any pressure on, don't have any of your friends pumping him for information.
Honestly and truly, the best thing you can do to catch his attention is have fun. Don't hang around where he is all night, but don't avoid him, either.
Keep this in mind-he knows you are going to be there, so he is probably feeling just as nervous as you. Girls tend to think that guys don't have any emotions, but that's not true, they just have to hide it better because their friends will give them crap if they don't.
I don't know if there is going to be drinking there, but if there is, I would be really careful not to get in over my head and make myself look like a drunken idiot. A lot of times, we think we'll just have a drink to calm our nerves and the next thing you know we're passed out on the couch. I should go into the whole "you shouldn't drink" thing, but reality is reality, so if you do drink, keep it to like two. If you don't drink, disregard that last paragraph.
I don't know if you guys had any "couple things". By this I mean, cute, playful things you or he used to do when you were together. For example, you could have an "accidental" slip and call him "baby." Or, if he knows you always loved his abs, touch them and tell him you should still have the right to check them out whenever you want. You get the gist. Don't be afraid to flirt because you will make him feel good.
Are there any really fun things all of your friends did together when the two of you were dating? If you guys are all sitting around talking, take a walk down memory lane, bringing up events that happened when the two of you were dating (you can even ask your friend to bring up a couple of funny things you and him did). You want his mind to start thinking about that kind of stuff, reminiscing about you. The next day, he'll be sitting around thinking about all of the fun you guys had together, and he won't even know you set him up for it.
One big thing you have on your side is that you share the same friends. This just makes it so much easier.
The most important thing-don't put so much emphasis on this one night, like it is now or never. Like I said, you share the same friends, so there will be plenty of time. Your main goal for this night should be having fun and going home with a smile on your face. You just want to lay the groundwork.
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Hey yup course I remember you =]
Okay what I think you should do here is not overwhelm him hes probably still all confused about his feelings and such just concentrate on being his friend for the moment hanging out and stuff remember what I said about hopefully trying to remind him of how good things were before that kinda stuff.
after a couple of times hanging out,then I think itd be okay to let him know your feelings for him are still there and strong rather then throwing it at him straight away if you get me,but its up to you i dont know this guy so however you think hed best react.
just talk to him like you would have before,get a convo going possible flirty one be fun outgoing show him what hes missing! =]
have him thinking "damn what did i let go!?"
hopefully an oppurtunity might arise when its just say the two of you alone and if something happens it happens just go with the flow and dont over annaylise the situation
good luck! hope I helped and hope everything works out
<3
Jess
[ohh and please let me know if you do get back =) ]
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A hug would definitely be okay as long as the timing and location are right. If you have to walk in between a bunch of people to get to the couch he's sitting on just to give him a hug, I probably wouldn't go for it when you first get there. Instead, just try to catch him in private and some point and say, "I'm glad you're here. It's nice to see you." Then give him a hug, if he seems comfortable.
If he's just standing up or in a good location when you arrive, definitely give him a hug. Say about the same thing, ya know, "It's nice to see you" and give him a hug at the same time.
Since it is just a casual get together, you shouldn't go as far as letting him know that you still love him. If he gets that feeling, he gets that feeling and that's great too, but you don't want to push things or make anyone uncomfortable.
Letting him know that you're happy that he's there and happy to see him will be enough to get him to keep his eyes on you. If you get an opportunity, talk to him in private. Say, if he goes to the kitchen to get a drink, try going with him. (without being too obvious) You know, if he says, "I'm thirsty" and starts to go to the kitchen, say, "Yeah, me too" and go along with him.
Then you'll get to talk to him in private. Ask him how he's been, let him know that he looks nice, and if possible, even slip in something like, "I've missed you, it's great to see you."
He'll catch on quickly (hopefully) and talk to you back so the conversation will be kept alive.
Good luck(:
Darby
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You cannot go up to him, hug him, and tell him you still love him without appearing clingy. That's very clingy, and there is no way you can do that without appearing so.
If you are both going to be at this party, there is nothing wrong with talking to him. Just ask him how he is, tell him you miss hanging out with him, but keep it casual. Let him know that you do still want him in your life, but don't make a big deal out of it. Keep it simple. If the conversation does somehow become intense, and he seems like he is responding well to what you are saying, then tell him whatever you want to tell him.
Good Luck. :)
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