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is he just using me for sex?
I really really like this guy and ive never liked someone as much as i like him. Hes really sweet to me but much more experienced. He tells me all the time thats its cool that im a virgin that i should keep it and that hes not going to try to have sex with me. When we are kissing and he thinks it might go to far he just stops for awhile to cool off. He even checks to make sure im ok when doing just the little things. But im very confused one of my best guy friends hates him and tells me all the time that hes just going to use me for sex and then leave. The other night i was talking to one of my friends and one of his best friends and then he tells me that he thinks hes going to use me for sex because hes been having sex with girls and then just moving on. I asked him if he said anything if he had flat out said he was going to use me for sex but his friend said he has said nothing at all. So what do i do? is he using me for sex? I really really like him and i really trust him but its very hard when people are constantly telling me bad things about him. When we are together hes so sweet and honest he never pressures so how do i believe these awful things people are saying? do i talk to him? if so what should i say?
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take it from a girl who is getting used RIGHT NOW. yepp im whipped for a guy who i lost my virginity to 3 weeks ago and did he call NOPEEEE!!! we were together for 9 months then i lost it to him because i thought he was the one.. he said i was special and he liked me being a virgin he liked me being innocent he said he loved me how we'd be together forever. how beautiful i was he didnt even kiss or touch me till 5 months later in our relationship.. he said he respected me too much. and when i lost it to him it hurt so much i told him to please stop.. so he stopped got fustrated put his pants back on walked out my door and out of my life. take it from me GUYS ARE dogs... ! iknow when your with him it feels like everythings so right and hes perfect but sometimes when people ( PLURAL ) say identical things sometimes MOST OF THE TIME its true. my family my friends told me it was going to happen and im like pfffttt .. they dont know him and look what happened he did what they all thought he would do. left me because we sort of had sex but i didnt want to at the same time i gave him alittle taste of it and told him to stop and he did and left my life for good.
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Don't say anything to him. I know exactly what type of guy he is. He's able to act all nice and perfect and sweet because he really doesn't care. He's just manipulating you and trying to go as far as he can, but the minute you start getting into deep conversations with him, he'll be gone. Either just break up with him without starting drama, or let him use you. But instead of just believing your friends maybe you should do some research for yourself. Are your friends trustable? This is something you're going to have to figure out on your own.
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Most guys who "use girls for sex" tend to be sweet and nice.
That's not your issue. Your a virgin. You should save something SO special like that for someone who deserves it. Someone who has proven to you they love you and proving something like that takes a long time. I can tell by reading your post, your not ready for sex and having sex with that guy would be a wrong choice.
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If he was going to use you and knew you weren't ready for sex than he would have left you long ago. It sounds like you've got a really wonderful guy here. Don't let go of him.
As for your friend she either likes him and wants you out of the picture or has some problem of her own with him. Tell her you're getting pissed off with her constant slamming of him. Tell her to put a sock in it already. She's stepped over a boundary here.
As far as other girls go they may be jealous or he may have burned them in the past. Even if that's so it looks like he learned and grew up. If he wasn't willing to wait for you he'd have left and found someone else willing to have sex.
Unless he's given you a reason to distrust him than you have no problem except for one with your friend who can't stop voicing her opinion of your relationship to you. As much as you may like her she needs to be scolded here. It's not her place to say stuff unless she knows 100% something's wrong. And, she doesn't.
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