Hello, my name is Sam. There's a lot that I can say about myself, but if you'd like that then you could always message me and we can have a nice cup of tea together :D
I am not very old, so I might not have too much life experience, but I do like to help people. I know that life often throws unexpected blows at people, but I am so extremely optimistic. Hopefully some of my optimism will rub off on the people to whom I am giving advice. I am happy to help with anything! :)
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Okay, I'm kinda creeped out. Around December 8th I had a pimple on my leg which I noticed when I was pulling my pants down to go to the bathroom. It was really painful when the fabric rubbed against it. I mentioned it to my sister, and she said that it was probably an ingrown hair. A couple days later, it got worse. There was a black looking dot in the middle of it.. and the redness surrounding the 'pimple' or whatever was became a huge welt. My mom looked at it and freaked out and told me to squeeze it because there was probably an infection inside of it. I squeezed it and sooo much bloody pus came out. I put neosporin on it, hot compresses.. bandaged it up.. and it would continuously leak out.. all the pus. Anyways, everyday I would try to drain it. My skin around it was completely hardened.. I was thinking it was probably the pocket where the infection was. Anyways.. it got a little better but now its all black and stuff... and theres still a little hardness.. and now i have another pimple on my leg not far at all from where this one was. I'm afraid the first one i had is still infected.. and what if this one gets infected too?
what could thjis be?> Im really nervous. I haveg to wait til monday to go to the doctors beacuse I've had work.
Please give me suggestions/advice... is this urgent??
Also, I never get pimples.. its rare that I do.. especially on my legs.. so its out of the ordinary.. in case this info is relevant.
thanks.. (link)
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This sounds like what my uncle had: A spider bite :(. It is important that you see a doctor soon because this condition only gets worse as you have already seen.
Good luck!
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i was in love...scratch that...i AM in love.. completely head over heels...and i know it wasn't infatuation, it was love. and to top it all it was my first love. this guy was amazing and treated me like a princess...like it sounds corny but i felt like i could fly when i was with him. we dated for over a year then like a couple months before we broke up, he just changed...he would blow me off to do absolutely nothing...then he dumped me because he said it wasn't fair to me, which i agree...but i have this hole in my heart and it won't go away...and its been 3 months since we broke up...
he also tells me he doesn't believe in love lasting forever. his parents are getting divorced so i could see where he's coming from, i think this is a big thing to do with it but i don't want to seem desperate for him back...but its so hard....i've already tried talking to him about it but it seems like he's made up his mind that he doesn't want to be in a relationship...advice? anything will help ...thanks. (link)
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Hey.
Well I was also broken up with a couple of months ago. It is rough, I know. But sometimes love fades. A relationship only works when both people want it fully, if not it just falls apart. I know that getting over your first love isn't easy. It's hard to imagine that there will ever be anyone like this guy. But the truth is, you will meet so many more people in your lifetime. There are endless amounts of people. The chances of you someday meeting someone that will love you and who you will love in return are really high!
Just think about it. He doesn't want a relationship and he may not change his mind for a long time to come. If you try to wait around for him, time will go by, and he may never come around. You don't have to stop loving him, but do realize that the more you allow yourself to experience life without him, the closer you will be to being able to be happy again. There's a whole life out there waiting for you and someday you'll get to experience a relationship again. We don't know what the future holds for us, but if we don't start living right now and trying to be happy, then when will we?
Take care.
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I've had an eating disorder for two years. everyone tells me I need to get help but I really don't want to. Please don't tell me I need to eat or I need to stop throwing up because I get that all the time. Is there any way I can get help for this WITHOUT going into a treatment center? I already have a therapist, but I don't think she takes me very seriously. I don't think she understands eating disorders at all. What should I do? (link)
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Hey,
Well if your parents, family, or friends know about this already maybe you could have a talk with them. Tell them that you want to get better but that you don't want to get hospitalized or anything like that. Tell them that you don't think that your therapist understands you. Maybe they could help you get a another therapist. Have you tried getting into group therapy? It helps to be around people who can relate to you instead of always being around people who just don't understand what you are going through. I really hope you get better, not just because being too thin is dangerous for your body, but because I know how much it messes up everything else in our lives. Take care
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17/CA
This weekend we were looking through the garage and we came upon this receipt. The receipt said that someone paid 50 dollars for a United States Series EE Bond. It was bought nearly 17 years ago.
My questions are:
- What good is a bond?
- What do I do with the receipt?
- Do I get any money from it?
- What do I do with this receipt?
- Will I get to 50 dollars? or more?
Thanks in advance!! (link)
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Hey,
I used to work as a tutor and was paid in a bond. The way I figured out that it works is that you take the bond (or possibly the receipt) to the bank and depending on the number of years it has been, the money should have gone up. Keep in mind however that 17 years might not be enough for the money to be a tremendous increase, but it is definitely at least 50 dollars. In my case the bond was made out to my name and I had to present an I.D. when I went to get my money at the bank. I'm not sure how much information your receipt has but your best bet would be to just go to the bank and see what they say. The employees are very helpful to those of us who don't understand :D. Good luck!
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But my dad doesn't take me seriously at all. He wants me to go to community college and get a business associates degree so I can take over his business. I don't think he understands at all that cooking makes me so happy and it's all I would ever want to do. How can I get him to take me more seriously? How can I make him see this is something I'm willing to be serious about? (link)
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Hey,
I'm sorry that you're dad is not being supportive. I think, however, that sometimes parents try to steer us in the direction that they think is right because they believe that we do not know what we want. Like you've said, he doesn't take you seriously. Well I think that the best way to convince anyone of anything is to prove to them that you know what you are talking about. Find out information about how you are going to get into the cake decorating business. Are you going to go to a culinary arts school? How much will it cost? How far is it? Is it difficult to get a job in this? These and more are the questions you should find answers to. Then you should sit your dad down and possibly another more supportive member of the family should back you up. Then you can tell him all the information you have. Convince him that this isn't a joke. Convince him that this means the world to you, and he will take notice. Anyways, I wish you good luck :). It's good to hear that there are still people out there pursuing what makes them happy instead of what is sure to make them rich.
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A guy from my school that I recently started to talk to texted me the other day and asked if we could hang out at the park sometime next week.
I asked my mom if I could, and she said no. Her reasons were fair, legitimate reasons such as: she doesn't know practically anything about him, she's not comfortable with leaving me alone at a park with some guy, etc. I completely understand those reasons, and I tried to argue my point (in a responsible manner), but she still won't let me go. She trusts me, she's just unsure about him.
Now I'm afraid that he won't ever try to hang out with me again or he'll be scared off and we won't get a chance to hang out with each other. I mean, the only way we can get to know each other and learn more about one another is if we hang out, right?
So I should I just leave it, or do you think I should try to argue my case some more? (link)
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Did you suggest that your mom meet the guy?
That might really help if she is willing to meet him. I always find it weird when parents say they don't "know the guy" but when you offer to let them get to know eachother, they decline.
But anyways, you should ask. This may work!
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I'm with my boyfriend :) and we both know I'm not romantic or cliche. I dont agree with the whole posting it on your facebook, putting his name in your msn kind of thing. I'm just not romantic. It's our anniversary thing soon, and he loves it when I do something sweet.
I had a plan to do something that's cliche -when a guy does something for a girl - it's quite cliche - but if a girl does it go a guy - it's really suprising.
I want to do something really random, like turn up at his door step with a single red rose.
Does anyone have any ideas like that? He'll love it :) x (link)
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Hahaha
You should serenade him!!
Send him flowers for the holidays-delivered to his house.
Pick him up in a stretch limo haha
Bring classical music and ask him "Can I have this dance?"
Write him a cheesy love letter :D
Cook him a romantic dinner!
Blindfold him and take him to a scenic vista-might I suggest a sunset beach?
Buy him a teddy bear :)
Fill a room with candles and rose pedals on the bed haha
Buy him a heart shaped box of chocolates
Hmm, I'm all out. Have fun :D
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do people usually turn their heads all the way to the side when they kiss someone? or is that like a rookie move? or maybe a good move bc there is breathing space? lol
to clarify, like instead of having your head slightly tilted to either the left/right side, your head is tilted even more, like 90 degrees, or perpendicular to the other person's. dunno if that makes sense. (link)
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Haha.
Well I feel like that might be painful for your head after a while. Just do what feels natural and what doesn't hurt haha. Don't bump noses of course :)! But I guess if what you are saying is comfortable, it would be logical. Try it out and if it's weird then just go to a less extreme angle. Haha. Have fun ;).
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For the past few months, I can't seem to find joy in anything I used to do. I can't seem to find joy in the immediate future. I can barely stand to be alive. Everyday i take as many antidepressants in hopes that maybe just for this one day, I can make it through the day and somehow find a little joy in this world. But no, there is no joy. I've started to count out my prescription sleeping pills and antidepressants because I want to make sure I have at least 50 0f each for that day that will be here soon when I can't stand to be alive another second. Now that I'm past looking for joy I'm looking for the day that will be my last on earth. It is not a bad thing to commit suicide. I was in a coma once and the one thing I remembered the most was not feeling any kind of pain, physical or emotional. Dying must be like that feeling of no pain or sorrow. The holidays is a good time to leave earth. (link)
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Do you really want this?
Is it not possible that there will be a person, an event, a change in your life that would one day bring joy back into your life?
I don't think that suicide is the right choice. Death, whatever it may be will come eventually. You'll feel it one day. But right now, there is still life for you to live. You should experience what life has left to offer you. I can promise you that it will be something great if you allow yourself to feel. Emotions can hurt sometimes, believe me I know this. But there are also amazing emotions. I hope you will live your life, for at least another year. Trust me that things will change for the better. Your situation is only temporary. Just think about, okay?
I wish you a long happy life. Take care
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what do you do?
i need advice badly. me and my boyfriend broke up and then got back together and now we broke up again. its a couple months after everytime he says "i love you" to me..he has commitment issues because he grew up with his parents fighting so i understand why he's like this ( he hasn't actually told me that but i know it's it because my dad had divorced parents and went through the same thing). i've seen love die so many times when it deserves to live and i don't want this to be another. he tells me when we're apart (we live 20 mins from each other) theres times when he doesn't want to hang out and he'll make up an excuse why he cant but then when he's with me, he won't let me go... i know he loves me because he told me and he says he still cares about me.. but its sad to say that his parents screwed him over.
we're still hanging out as "friends" but i'm seriously in love with this guy. i need major advice. (link)
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Hey.
Well, I can relate to this a bit, seeing as I was in an on and off relationship as well, but it ended for a different reason. But same with you, we stayed friends and I wanted more (still do actually). What I've come to realize out of all of this is that while we were together things may not have been as perfect as I thought they were. I mean, I know you don't want to hear this, but we do tend to idolize people especially when we are forced to part.
Sometimes being friends is the best thing for the time being. I've had the experience of pushing someone back into a relationship that I don't think he truly wanted, and it inevitably ends again, and causes more pain than just a single break. Think about his logic. You've said yourself that he has good reason for his decision.
Be his friend. Let him open up to you when he is ready, but make sure he knows how you feel and that you want to be there for him. Right now he may not be ready for a relationship with you, but what he really needs now is a friend. And you can love him in this way for the time being. The future is unclear and foggy, we can't really predict where it will take us. But just remember that no matter what happens, there will be something good to look forward to. It may be that he will change his mind in the future or that your future will take you to find a new love.
Never lose hope and never forget that life works in strange ways. You'll be okay. I promise.
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I'm 5'7'' and weigh 127 pounds. According to height and weight charts i'm considered a small frame, but compared to others around me about the same height, i feel i weigh more. I'm going to Florida in a few weeks with people and would like to have a better stomach. Suggestions?
I know i need to eat better and exercise but i'm looking for like a daily schedule as far as eating and exercising. (link)
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Hey.
Well I don't know specifics but the way I lost weight rather quickly was just consuming less calories. You can check calorie intake on the food packages or for things like a banana you can check online. For example, a banana would have 90 calories depending on the size of it. So, you should make a little food journal and record how much you are taking to make sure you don't consume too many calories. Healthy is considered somewhere around 1500. You shouldn't drop below 1000 calories because that would be an eating disorder :/. So 1000-1500 is a good target.
As for exercise I know from my experience that running works! Run a mile or 2, or 3 a day! But make sure you stretch first.
And just to make sure about the food: don't eat things that are fried or unhealthy. Go for lean meat and if you don't eat meat there's tofu, beans, and lentil soup! Be creative. :) Remember all the food groups and please don't neglect your carbs because they are your main energy source. And also, if you tend to stuff your face at the dinner table, there's a really good trick where you drink a glass of water before a meal to curb your appetite. :) Good luck!
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okay soo i've been dating this guy for alonnnng time for like a year. and we broke up a few weeks ago. we're hanging out in like a month because we still want to "try and be friends"....i told him i wanted him back so he knows but he said we should break up and we can hang out in like a month and see where we are then. (we've broken up in the past for the same reason but then hung out a few times and ended up getting back together) but i want to kinda pull the whole "look this is what you're missing out on" kinda thing to him without coming off as desperate...like i want him to remember all of the fun times we've had...how can i make this one of the most memorable days of his life without looking like i'm trying to hard :)
17/f and 17/m (link)
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Hey,
So the thing about trying to get back together is you have to think long and hard about the reason that you've had to break up a few times. It must be a pretty big deal if it meant the end of your relationship, even if just for a while. I have been and am in your shoes, so I know how badly it feels to be without someone that was once yours. And I know that sometimes you just want to say "hey I love you! I'm sorry! Everything will change, we won't have these problems anymore. I will do ANYTHING to change this." But the question is, will it really change? Can it really change?
If you think that it can, you need to make him believe it too. Making him miss you might not be enough, because he already knows how great you are. He has dated you before and knows the good and the bad. So, I think that it would be wise to give him his space to think, to miss you, and to give you time to think about what you can say and do to actually change the relationship that you once had into one that won't end in another break up.
The day you guys hang out, I think it would be best to do something together that the two of you used to do when you were dating. It will seem familiar to both of you and help to bring back old memories. That will help him remember how good things once were. Be yourself: fun, happy, make him laugh, talk to him, make him realize that the love is still there and can be rekindled. And, when the moment is right, talk to him about the solution you've come up with. How will it be different this time? What is going to change? Make him believe that it will change. Hopefully, all of this will be enough to make him realize what he is missing out on. Take care, and good luck!!!
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Well, I'm shy.I really want to get out of being shy! I've been this way for as long as i can remember. Now I'm not like, shy shy, like one of those people who hides in a corner and doesnt talk to anyone, but I'm the kind of shy that keeps me from being overactive. I'm hyper and honestly, perverted, at times. I like being hyper but it only lasts for a little while then I go straight back into my shell. I also want to be less shy with my boyfriend and be able to actually have fun with him..any tips? (link)
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Well,
It isn't always bad to be shy. Sometimes people talk too much, and that isn't all that great either. But the good news is that you can be less shy! :)
Do you ever feel like there are awkward silences? You can talk about absolutely anything, think about it, the world is filled with things to talk about. When meeting someone new you start talking about something in common like the class you are in, or the music you like. Did something funny or interesting happen to you today? Feel free to share! Share your laughter or your despair. Sometimes life seems at a low point, and in that case you should talk to someone about your feelings.
I feel as you do sometimes: shy. Sometimes it's because I don't feel one hundred percent confident in myself and I get scared. But all it is is fear. And I'm guessing you are a teenager like me. The thing I've realized is that life isn't always going to feel great all the time. Sometimes we get hurt and don't feel that great about ourselves. But there's a whole world out there!
Talk to your boyfriend about your day, about your life, hobbies, whatever you feel like saying :). And be spontaneous! Go somewhere fun! Do something you haven't done before. My last relationship failed mostly because I didn't know how I was supposed to act. I didn't realize all that time that all I needed to do was be me, and be fun. Fear overtakes us. But it won't overtake you anymore, because you want to change it and you will. Talk, listen, and forget about what others think. You'll soon find yourself opening up. Take care
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I just got my period and it is BROWN! What does this mean? Isn't blood supposed to be red? This is almost like poop colored blood. :(
So what does it mean when your period is brown? I am very scared.
THANK YOU! (link)
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OH you shouldn't worry. That's normal. Normal normal normal. You'll be just fine, promise :).
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A few months ago a friend i used to be closed to (i had a major crush on him & maybe again) tricked me by askin me out n not meaning it so i didnt talk to him for months or be nice with him. Hes a funny guy in 10th grade 1 year older than me & an inch short. Now he makes me laugh like he used to & tries to be around n talk to me more. Many people even my friends and his friends say that he could have liked me but was to afraid to admit it n because hes a little shorter than me....Could this be true? And what do i do....I like him...Again? (link)
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It could be...
That seems strange, I mean there is really nothing wrong with short guys.... :/ But after what he did to you the first time it does seem difficult to trust him. I'd say you should just see how things develop and if he asks you out again hopefully it will be for the right reason...If not, then you should definitely try to move on. You don't deserve to be toyed with! Good luck. I wish you the best!
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I am in a relationship with a guy and things seem to be going pretty good. My problem is that last time I thought things were going pretty well he was just using me and he moved on shortly after we started having sex.
Can anyone tell me a for sure way to tell? how do i know if he is using me??
Thnaks! (link)
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If you don't have sex with him and he stays then he probably is looking for more than sex. Also, you really should look at the way he treats you. If you feel that he is in any way treating you in a way that makes you feel uneasy or unloved, then maybe there is a hidden agenda. But as for me, I think that intuition always helps as well. Sometimes you just know...Well good luck with this! I wish you the best!
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15/f
so me and my boyfriend of 8 months recently broke up but its nothing official because we have these bipolar moments where we say we hate each other and the next we're hugging and kissing each other. but he says we need a break because i was "unfaithful" to him 2 months ago. and now people at school have been saying that he is trying to get with this other girl, but i never see them talking or together so i dont even know if this is true. i know he has her number because i saw it in his phone but other than that, i wouldnt even think they knew each other. i really love him alot, there's no way i can possibly move on, there's no one out there for me except him .... so please i need to find a way to get him back and a way to prove to him that i really do love him or make him want me back . PLEASE HELP ASAP !! (link)
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It's like you are talking to me. My boyfriend of 10 months left me last week. Your relationship sounds familiar to me because we had broken up a few times before the final break up. I'm going to send you what I read in an article that has really changed the way I see things.
"STOP the inanity!" Your first problem is that you are begging him back. Wrong! In SO many ways that is the worst approach possible. Men sometimes want what they can't have. Men are territorial. He may not think he wants you, but I can assure you he will not sleep well knowing that you don't give a rat's *ss. All of the crying, begging, pleading, bargaining, and pity you hope for will never happen. It sickens men to know you are that obsessed with losing them. However, beating yourself up is not going to help you achieve future happiness. Are you listening? This is the best advice you are ever going to get. No therapist will give it to you like this. Either make the mistakes I've made in my naive days, or wake the hell up and give this schmuck a run for his money. If you do not follow the rules exactly, you will fail miserably and all of the crying and pity parties in the world will get you no where. I'm being blunt because there is no time for sugar coating. If you listen to me and listen up good, he will not know what hit him. If he never comes back, what do you have to lose? At least you will not feel like an obsessive fool that is allowing him to weaken the strength that you have if you choose to have it. You must adapt to these new rules: Don't call him. Don't write 5 page love novels to him. Don't act jealous. DON'T let him see you cry. Simply appear that you do NOT give a rat's *ss. Go out. I don't care if it is all you can take to drag your miserable butt out of that bed GET OUT and breathe. If he hears through the grape vine that you are out having fun and NOT pining over him, he will bust his balls to find out what you are up to. And that's just basic human nature of men being territorial. He knows that he has you under his thumb. In his mind you are too hung up on him to have a life, and he views it as a pathetic weakness. Oh heck no, Missy. We can't have that. STOP all of this 'I'll love you til' the day I die' (whatever) crap. It is dramatic and it disgusts him. You see, men lack empathy most of the time. Their emotions are based on what they feel is logic. Women base emotions on emotion. That may, or may not make sense to you. Take it, or leave it. I'm telling you that you absolutely must make him believe that you are completely over him. Happy go lucky. Do not yap to your friends. You never know which backstabbing wench will run at the mouth, or just tell the wrong guy pal of his what you don't want him to know. To your friends that are in ANY way associated with him: Always use that. They do your PR and damage control. No dramatic, pitiful, long drawn out goodbyes. Let him wonder what in the hell you are avoiding him for. Either allow your emotions to turn you into a rabbit boiling psycho, or sew him a new butt hole by becoming the radiant confident man eater that you absolutely have to appear to be. He can make you feel like a fool, or you can have a piece of mind. And I don't care what road lizard he drags up with. Don't you DARE for ANY reason whatsoever appear to be jealous, hateful, or spiteful. Any lot lizard he turns to is a non-entity in your life. Be as sweet a pie and as cool as orange sherbet if any encounters happen (by accident, do not deliberately run into him.) Avoid that man like the plaque and it will get to him soon enough. In a matter of the next few weeks: You now have a new man interested in you. He is a business man. Find one, or fabricate one. But by all means you have a new flame according to anyone that you know in his arena. It may sound crazy, but it does help you to gain a better piece of mind. You are not ready to date and that's fine. But he does not have to know that. Don't pass by his place. If you have to break your fingers, do NOT call or contact him in any way. I don't care what excuse you have to call him, avoid it at all costs. No emails. No boo-hoooo I love you crap. Hun, buck up. You are about to give that Viagra-reject the ride of his life. If you want that goofy loser back, this is the way to do it. But, I strongly suggest you do this just for a piece of mind and drop him like a hot potato. That's up to you. Be sure to keep yourself dolled up at all times. Don't leave the house without makeup. Get a new hairstyle. And get yourself a new red dress. Prance all over town in that dress and smile like you have just won the lottery. I don't care if you get that dressed up to go to a local Wal-Mart. Be seen. Get out of that house and let others see you looking good and appearing to feel better than you have in years. Get your butt out of that funk you're in. Anything he can do you can do better. Remember that. This one sounds like he needs a wakeup call. If he is out sniffing for the meow meow....by all means let him get his fill. Ignore him like he is nothing to you. It will drive his feeble mind up a wall. If it is a challenge he is after, you give him one to remember. And you remember what I'm telling you on this net: A man wants what he can't have. You show that rat bistardo what you are made of. He 'ain't' seen nothing yet. Let the shameless hussies drain him dry if that is what he is after. But, as long as he has to wonder what you are up to: his curiosity will kick in, and the challenge is there. If he things another dog is sniffing around his front porch, you are going to see him do a 180 in the attitude department. This just saved you a year's worth of therapy. Therapists answer questions with a question. Here's the answer babe. Make me proud! He won't know what in the hell hit him.
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It's been a week since my break up and so far I am feeling better even though I have given up hope that he will change his mind. But I'm not saying that you have to give up. You might actually have a chance, and you should keep your chances up if you follow this advice. Good luck! If you need anything just inbox me. I completely understand how you feel
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Hi,
I am a 17f. Theres this guy I met and have known for several months. He is 18 and he is the absolute sweetest guy ever, which is why I like him. We have hung out a few nights and cuddled a little. The problem is, I know he has another girl that he feels strongly for. He told me about her and hes told me he loves me, but its not the same love that he has for this other girl. Then he tells me later that he just loves me. He also said he wants to kiss me to see if theres 'a spark', I didnt think that would be right so I didnt let him. I dont want to get closer to him, expecially knowing he has another girl. Everyone thinks we are dating and I keep telling them NO WE ARE NOT. I think I really like him, Im just unsure. I think hes unsure as well. He makes me feel like I have never felt before, but I can't help but think that he will end up ditching me or I might find someone better.. you know? I told him we should just be friends..deep inside I want it to be more;I am sure he does too but..yeah. I have never dated before, cuz all the other guys I know are losers and just want sex. I want it to be right. I am not the kind of girl that dates just anybody for the hell of it. Please tell me what you think, Just be friends or.. ? (link)
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Hey.
I absolutely understand where you are coming from. So far I'd say that you have done very good in keeping your distance and not wanting to get too involved.
I've been in this situation and all I can tell you is that you have to either let him go, or deicide if you are willing to live with the knowledge that no matter how much time and energy you are devoting to him, he is only putting half an effort into you. Is that the kind of relationship you want?
I'm not going to assume that this guy is a jerk or a player because maybe he is genuinely confused about who he would rather be with. I would say that you need to be very straightforward with him and tell him how you feel. Tell him how you feel about him and tell him that you don't feel comfortable with him loving you both and seeing you both at the same time. Tell him that if he can't be without her, then he can't be with you.
I don't know if you've ever seen the movie The Notebook, but situations like this always remind me of that movie.
I think that only you can decide if this is worth it or not. Talk to him and if what he says isn't what you want to hear, then let him go or just be friends. I know that him being a sweet guy makes it harder for you to let him slip away, but if you know that you deserve better, then you will have the strength to let him go so that you can one day find the right person for you. I wish you the best of luck.
Please take care and know that you deserve only the best.
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Im not fat, but my legs do carry a lot of my weight. ive been trying super hard to work it off( i eat very healthy, i run at 2 miles every day, i have volleyball practice for 3 hours and its all running). the weight just doesnt seem to go off. i really want to loose the weight because im starting high school and i dont want to be critized because of my legs. please help. (link)
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Hey.
Well I probably shouldn't say this because it could be taken the wrong way, but if you decrease your calorie intake you will lose weight quicker. I'm not talking about anorexia, but being on a diet certainly couldn't hurt you.
Also, some people just have larger parts of their body naturally. Some have large breasts others and have large hips. Sometimes it's just the way our body is built.
I should also say that high school isn't that bad. I'm sure if you survived middle school you'll be able to deal with people in high school. If people do criticize you, then do your best to not pay attention to you. Having big legs is not a bad thing. I wouldn't worry so much about it.
Well anyways take care
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i'm waiting in the dark
can't approach what seems so big
i forgot every scar
so don't ask what i just did
it's 1:32 a.m.
i'm not afraid of heights
i've got a ripped up brainstem
paralyzed in flight
please put it in the ground
it's bleeding on the floor
the skeletons prance around
like they're welcome anymore
"dear God, i can't feel a thing"
dear God, that's just not me
i'll listen to every song you sing
suonato bella, banshee
addicted to the glittery glow,
i can't tear my eyes away
maybe i should go
what did i just say?
i'm drowning in moonlight
hopeless smiles, hopeless hair
it's getting too damn bright
like all i wanted was always there
i can't remember
much of that awkward, dizzy waltz
kids carry this stuff forever
i feel like it's my fault
i can't accept the truth
i gave up on wishing away
i wasn't raised like you
but it really is okay
everything's okay
What do you get from this poem? Anything that comes to mind at all. Opinion the quality, interesting observations, what you think about the writer, etc. Anything it reminds you of or makes you think of..? Also whether you think it could be a song.
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Hey.
I see someone who was mistreated as a child. Someone who had a troubled upbringing.
And the person is talking to someone saying that they aren't the same because they weren't raised the same.
I think the quality is good because it isn't your typical sad song. It has a lot of good imagery. I think it could definitely be a song. With the right melody, it would be great.
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