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make him want me...
okay soo i've been dating this guy for alonnnng time for like a year. and we broke up a few weeks ago. we're hanging out in like a month because we still want to "try and be friends"....i told him i wanted him back so he knows but he said we should break up and we can hang out in like a month and see where we are then. (we've broken up in the past for the same reason but then hung out a few times and ended up getting back together) but i want to kinda pull the whole "look this is what you're missing out on" kinda thing to him without coming off as desperate...like i want him to remember all of the fun times we've had...how can i make this one of the most memorable days of his life without looking like i'm trying to hard :)
17/f and 17/m
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well maybe you should remind him of the fun times ya spent toqether & like act all happy and sttuuf trust me it always hurst boys when they see you happy wit out them , even though your dieing inside put a smile on that facee
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Hey,
So the thing about trying to get back together is you have to think long and hard about the reason that you've had to break up a few times. It must be a pretty big deal if it meant the end of your relationship, even if just for a while. I have been and am in your shoes, so I know how badly it feels to be without someone that was once yours. And I know that sometimes you just want to say "hey I love you! I'm sorry! Everything will change, we won't have these problems anymore. I will do ANYTHING to change this." But the question is, will it really change? Can it really change?
If you think that it can, you need to make him believe it too. Making him miss you might not be enough, because he already knows how great you are. He has dated you before and knows the good and the bad. So, I think that it would be wise to give him his space to think, to miss you, and to give you time to think about what you can say and do to actually change the relationship that you once had into one that won't end in another break up.
The day you guys hang out, I think it would be best to do something together that the two of you used to do when you were dating. It will seem familiar to both of you and help to bring back old memories. That will help him remember how good things once were. Be yourself: fun, happy, make him laugh, talk to him, make him realize that the love is still there and can be rekindled. And, when the moment is right, talk to him about the solution you've come up with. How will it be different this time? What is going to change? Make him believe that it will change. Hopefully, all of this will be enough to make him realize what he is missing out on. Take care, and good luck!!! <3
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