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My Mom Won't Let Me Hang Out With Guys
A guy from my school that I recently started to talk to texted me the other day and asked if we could hang out at the park sometime next week.
I asked my mom if I could, and she said no. Her reasons were fair, legitimate reasons such as: she doesn't know practically anything about him, she's not comfortable with leaving me alone at a park with some guy, etc. I completely understand those reasons, and I tried to argue my point (in a responsible manner), but she still won't let me go. She trusts me, she's just unsure about him.
Now I'm afraid that he won't ever try to hang out with me again or he'll be scared off and we won't get a chance to hang out with each other. I mean, the only way we can get to know each other and learn more about one another is if we hang out, right?
So I should I just leave it, or do you think I should try to argue my case some more?
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If this guy really likes you, he won't give up just because your mother doesnt know him.
that seems pretty dumb to me!
he will stick with you, and respect your parents.
take it slow, one step at a time...
how about you guys hang out sometime at your place where your mom can mingle with him... but don't make it too awkward, so play some guitar hero or soemthing!
don't stress!
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Did you suggest that your mom meet the guy?
That might really help if she is willing to meet him. I always find it weird when parents say they don't "know the guy" but when you offer to let them get to know eachother, they decline.
But anyways, you should ask. This may work!
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a few questions before i say anything...
how old are you? how old is he?
and how do you know this guy?
is your mom concerned that he will kidnap you or that he is just wierd?
if you are at least 14 or something, and you actually know this guy then heres what to do.
i understand that your mom is just looking out for you and shes right, but at some point you will have to be able to make yuor own decisions.
i had this issue when i was 13 my mom used to not let me see movies with guys even in groups, what you should do to assure your mom is maybe dont meet him alone for the first time, when you go to hang out, go in a group a few times, then once you trust him u can go alone.
but you might not want to tell him its becuase of your mom, just arrange a fun group outing, invite him, ya know....
goodluck!
plz let me know how this goes!
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