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broken heart
15/f
so me and my boyfriend of 8 months recently broke up but its nothing official because we have these bipolar moments where we say we hate each other and the next we're hugging and kissing each other. but he says we need a break because i was "unfaithful" to him 2 months ago. and now people at school have been saying that he is trying to get with this other girl, but i never see them talking or together so i dont even know if this is true. i know he has her number because i saw it in his phone but other than that, i wouldnt even think they knew each other. i really love him alot, there's no way i can possibly move on, there's no one out there for me except him .... so please i need to find a way to get him back and a way to prove to him that i really do love him or make him want me back . PLEASE HELP ASAP !!
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broken heart... what you can do is talk to him face to face so that he is looking in your eyes make sure you are showing your feelings even if it consider you breaking down crying in fornt of him let him know that what you did was wrong and you want to fix thngs and make them better you just got to pour your heart out to him like no holding back at all....
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It's like you are talking to me. My boyfriend of 10 months left me last week. Your relationship sounds familiar to me because we had broken up a few times before the final break up. I'm going to send you what I read in an article that has really changed the way I see things.
"STOP the inanity!" Your first problem is that you are begging him back. Wrong! In SO many ways that is the worst approach possible. Men sometimes want what they can't have. Men are territorial. He may not think he wants you, but I can assure you he will not sleep well knowing that you don't give a rat's *ss. All of the crying, begging, pleading, bargaining, and pity you hope for will never happen. It sickens men to know you are that obsessed with losing them. However, beating yourself up is not going to help you achieve future happiness. Are you listening? This is the best advice you are ever going to get. No therapist will give it to you like this. Either make the mistakes I've made in my naive days, or wake the hell up and give this schmuck a run for his money. If you do not follow the rules exactly, you will fail miserably and all of the crying and pity parties in the world will get you no where. I'm being blunt because there is no time for sugar coating. If you listen to me and listen up good, he will not know what hit him. If he never comes back, what do you have to lose? At least you will not feel like an obsessive fool that is allowing him to weaken the strength that you have if you choose to have it. You must adapt to these new rules: Don't call him. Don't write 5 page love novels to him. Don't act jealous. DON'T let him see you cry. Simply appear that you do NOT give a rat's *ss. Go out. I don't care if it is all you can take to drag your miserable butt out of that bed GET OUT and breathe. If he hears through the grape vine that you are out having fun and NOT pining over him, he will bust his balls to find out what you are up to. And that's just basic human nature of men being territorial. He knows that he has you under his thumb. In his mind you are too hung up on him to have a life, and he views it as a pathetic weakness. Oh heck no, Missy. We can't have that. STOP all of this 'I'll love you til' the day I die' (whatever) crap. It is dramatic and it disgusts him. You see, men lack empathy most of the time. Their emotions are based on what they feel is logic. Women base emotions on emotion. That may, or may not make sense to you. Take it, or leave it. I'm telling you that you absolutely must make him believe that you are completely over him. Happy go lucky. Do not yap to your friends. You never know which backstabbing wench will run at the mouth, or just tell the wrong guy pal of his what you don't want him to know. To your friends that are in ANY way associated with him: Always use that. They do your PR and damage control. No dramatic, pitiful, long drawn out goodbyes. Let him wonder what in the hell you are avoiding him for. Either allow your emotions to turn you into a rabbit boiling psycho, or sew him a new butt hole by becoming the radiant confident man eater that you absolutely have to appear to be. He can make you feel like a fool, or you can have a piece of mind. And I don't care what road lizard he drags up with. Don't you DARE for ANY reason whatsoever appear to be jealous, hateful, or spiteful. Any lot lizard he turns to is a non-entity in your life. Be as sweet a pie and as cool as orange sherbet if any encounters happen (by accident, do not deliberately run into him.) Avoid that man like the plaque and it will get to him soon enough. In a matter of the next few weeks: You now have a new man interested in you. He is a business man. Find one, or fabricate one. But by all means you have a new flame according to anyone that you know in his arena. It may sound crazy, but it does help you to gain a better piece of mind. You are not ready to date and that's fine. But he does not have to know that. Don't pass by his place. If you have to break your fingers, do NOT call or contact him in any way. I don't care what excuse you have to call him, avoid it at all costs. No emails. No boo-hoooo I love you crap. Hun, buck up. You are about to give that Viagra-reject the ride of his life. If you want that goofy loser back, this is the way to do it. But, I strongly suggest you do this just for a piece of mind and drop him like a hot potato. That's up to you. Be sure to keep yourself dolled up at all times. Don't leave the house without makeup. Get a new hairstyle. And get yourself a new red dress. Prance all over town in that dress and smile like you have just won the lottery. I don't care if you get that dressed up to go to a local Wal-Mart. Be seen. Get out of that house and let others see you looking good and appearing to feel better than you have in years. Get your butt out of that funk you're in. Anything he can do you can do better. Remember that. This one sounds like he needs a wakeup call. If he is out sniffing for the meow meow....by all means let him get his fill. Ignore him like he is nothing to you. It will drive his feeble mind up a wall. If it is a challenge he is after, you give him one to remember. And you remember what I'm telling you on this net: A man wants what he can't have. You show that rat bistardo what you are made of. He 'ain't' seen nothing yet. Let the shameless hussies drain him dry if that is what he is after. But, as long as he has to wonder what you are up to: his curiosity will kick in, and the challenge is there. If he things another dog is sniffing around his front porch, you are going to see him do a 180 in the attitude department. This just saved you a year's worth of therapy. Therapists answer questions with a question. Here's the answer babe. Make me proud! He won't know what in the hell hit him.
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It's been a week since my break up and so far I am feeling better even though I have given up hope that he will change his mind. But I'm not saying that you have to give up. You might actually have a chance, and you should keep your chances up if you follow this advice. Good luck! If you need anything just inbox me. I completely understand how you feel <3
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