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Hey, I'm Samm and I'm 15-year-old freshman at Downingtown East High School. I've got a pretty average teenage life, except I'm in no way your average person. I doubt you'll ever meet someone exactly like me.



Feel free to drop one by in my inbox and I'll tell you what to do to the of my best ability in any situation. But remember, if it doesn't seem right, then don't do it. It's only my advice, not me telling you what to do.


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Thanks.. and.. I hope I helped. =) ♥

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Sorry this is long but please help me.

Well yesterday in school I told my one teacher i was going to my locker and went to another one of my friend's classes where the teacher doesn't care whos there. But he was actually teaching for once so i started talking to a friend that was in there (during his lunch period). This guy.."Bob" was in there and I sorta liked himt then. He came over to the door where I was and gave me a big hug and I walked out into the hall and stuff with him. So we talked for a little bit and I realized I did REALLY like him. So I saw him a lot more than usual the rest of the day and he gave me about 4-5 hugs each time and had his arm around me and everything. Well he even came to my locker after school and waited to walk out with me and he was like pretty much holding me and stayed with me til i got on my bus and didn't look to happy when i was talking to another guy. But the catch is..we just started talking again yesterday. And we hadn't really talked since him and my one friend broke up. I'm just wondering do you think he likes me cause to me it sorta seems like it and I really like him. what do you think? if you dont think he likes me..can you give me an idea of whats going on?

Thanks

Ahh! He totally likes you. Drop hints like mad, he'll catch the drift and would definately ask you out. Excitement! Good luck!

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what do you guys think of sweatpants?? in er out?? i have these maroon ones that say basketball on the butt & idk if i should wear em with like a white hollister hoodie.

any ideas?? i'm tired of wearing jeans

In, but don't over-wear them, or else you'll look sloppy. But with a white hollister hoodie, it'll be totally okay. Make sure you spend some time on your hair and make-up, though. You don't want to look plain. But they sound cute.

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hey, my boyfriend and i just started going out last sunday (of this week). he tells me he loves me and tells my friends that he does and that hes crazy about me.
im not crazy about him, lately ive been getting mixed feelings about him. i dont know what to do about it either.
i dont know why im not crazy about him. whats wrong with me? has this happened to you? what should i do?

Ahh.. it's totally okay. You see, he probably wants to make you feel loved because you obviously deserve it. He's proud to say that you are his. Now, feeling a little unsure it common. He's completely overreacting, after all, how well does he even know you? Boys often times misuse, "I love you," because they don't know how deep that is.

This has happened to me plenty of times. When he says "I love you," just reply with an, "Aww.. you're so cute," instead of lieing to him and responding with an, "I love you too." The thing is, you can be honest without being mean. That's the trick.

It's happened to me tons of times before. Just don't immediately turn away from him, he really really likes you. Try to learn to love him as well. If you can't, it's alright to break up with him. It's better to speak the truth than live a lie.

Hope this helped

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i have a jelly belly and I wear baby-t's (the really tight shirts) and i wear tight hip huggers. my fat hangs out everywhere and the shirts are so tight you can just see all my rolls. i use to think i looked hot until all the popular girls and hot boys started teasing me,
calling me names like jelly rolls and chunky. im so upset about this! what should i do? i love wearing these clothes but i dont want to get made fun of. should i still wear these kinds of clothes or no?

Well, if your fat is hanging out, that's extremely unattractive. You can still wear the clothes that you like, but try layering it with longer camis or wifebeaters underneath. If your fat rolls over your hip huggers, you can still wear low rise pants, but maybe something that will come up enough to conceal your "jelly belly". Also, make sure that you're exercising and eating healthily to prevent weight gain and maybe even lose a couple of pounds!

Good luck.

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okay so im a girl at lms , 8th grade, wohooo. and i have a boyfriend, and he's nice and stuff but there are little things that are bothering me about him . maybe im just being anal, but i dont know if i like him as much as i did before, and if i should break up with him .. i mean it's like the week before valentines day and i feel bad.but i still kinda like him or i woulnd't be saying this it would be over..what should i do im really confused. PLEASE HELP thanks soo much

Well, if you still like him, than stay with him. I know that after awhile, the relationship looses its wonder and mystery because you no longer have to earn his love, but there are still things you can do to keep the relationship fun! Make sure that you don't hang out too much, but get together with him. Mix it up, sometimes go in a group (sometimes his friends, other times yours, other times both), go alone.. Do whatever. And don't always do the same exact thing.. Spice it up! Also, don't rely on all emotional aspects of the relationship.. but also get physical. Once again, don't over use that either. However, if you feel like you really don't like being his anymore, feel free to break up with him. You don't have to do it all officially like, "It's over." You can just gradually stop hanging out with him and gradually stop talking to him. When he starts to ask about it, let him know that it's not working out and for the past you feel like you've just been friends, and you should leave it like that. Date around.. you're only in 8th grade. We're not looking for soul mates here!

Hope it helped.

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i am a 14 female, henderson middle school:
i really like my friends boyfriend. i hate that rule of not dating your friends ex. i don't think she really likes him, i feel like she is using him and i've been friends with him since 6 grade and with her since 7th. if they break up can i date him?

You can date him when you break up, but she'll be hella pissed. Plus, since you've been friends with him for quite awhile, you would also be risking your friendship with him. If your friend is using him, you should maybe bring up the topic when the two of you are hanging out. Like say something like, "Girl, you don't even like him." in a half-kidding kind of a voice. But in the meanwhile, they're still dating. And if you become the cause of their break-up, both of them may never forgive you. So for now, keep your eyes open for some other guys.

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Please do not delete Im honestly 100% want to know this.
Do you believe in Aliens?
Life on other planets, Aliens.
Thank you.

DUH! I mean.. space is HUGE, it would be extremely unintelligent to think we're the only ones. Superior life forms? Maybe not. But maybe so. For all we know, greater things are looking down on us under a microscope.

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okay well i go to Lionville right now and i have to pick a high school for next year.( So i am 14, and in 8th grade) And i cant, i have no idea what to do. But i have a crush on this guy( so i am a girl) who is in my grade and will be going to the other high school. My best friend is in 9th grade and she goes to the other high school. I mean they are both great schools, but i want to get the most out of high school, and i am not sure what to do! Can you help?

Okay, so I don't know what high schools you're picking between, but it really is a big decision to make. I'm sure wherever you go, you're going to get a good education.. so go wherever you're going to be the most comfortable. Maybe you can try a school for a year, and if you don't like it, you don't have to go back. To be truthful, I don't really know what you're asking. Sorry.

Hope I helped?

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Here's the deal: I love singing. I've been singing since 4th grade and I've been in choirs since 5th. I haven't taken voice lessons.

Now, I want to sing a song for a talent show, but my only problem is... MY VOICE IS HORRIBLE. I have experience, but it's just the way it SOUNDS, do you know what I mean?

I recorded my voice on my cell phone, and I got so depressed at the way it sounds.

What can I do? Will singing lessons help at all? Thanks!

First of all, I am not an experienced singer, but I'm going to answer anyway.

As for the cell phone recording, that isn't quite accurate. If people seem to cringe when you sing, than your voice is probably bad because, hey, not everyone can have a beautiful voice. I know I don't. Voice lessons may improve some of your skills, but your singing voice doesn't have a huge chance of completely turning around. And lessons are EXPENSIVE. But if your talent show dream is that important to you.. go for it.

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are there any products that have been found to be both safe and
effective in treating excessive underarm perspiration?

uh.. deoderant?
try mitchum for women
it's THE best ever

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hey, i am working out basicly everyday and im trying to get abs, nothing big, just toned abs. And for the 3 weeks ive been working out, i've gotten pretty good, tight UPPER abs, but my lower abs are like not good at all .... what can i do to get lower abs? because i really want to have toned abs.thanks in advance.

Try doing side crunches. Another thing you can do is something where you are laying flat on the floor with your arms at your sides and then you pick up your legs and upperback off of the floor with your limbs straight. If you don't feel the burn, you're doing it wrong. Hope I helped.

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Hey Sam,
Okay..basically I have been best friends with somebody for a really long time..BUT, this year in 8th grade I have grown really really close with a different group of people...I mean, we all hang out, but I'm best friends with them and considering how me and my other "best friend" act..we aren't even really that good of friends at all. The problem is, she still thinks we are best friends. I don't know what to do because she is really starting to annoy me and I have recently been coming up with reasons why not to hang out with her..=\ i know that it is so mean and I realize how much of an ass I'm being...but its really starting to get to me and I have no idea how to handle it. If you could help...you would most definately be my hero haha.

Thanks!!

It all depends if you still want to be friends with her anymore. If you don't want to be involved with her anymore because you feel like you just have nothing in common anymore, gradually stop hanging out with her, but you don't have to lie about it. Make sure all of your weekends are filled up with plans with your new friends. If you see this girl in the hall, don't really pay a great amount of attention to this girl, but be polite. If she waves acknowledge her existance. Eventually, your friend should catch the drift. Basically, don't associate yourself with her anymore, but there's no need to be rude to her. Put yourself in her shoes. And just because you're not best friends doesn't mean you can't be regular friends or aqaintences! Hope that helped.

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Sam!! I'M LOST!!
So me and this guy have been going out for 2 months now. We were going out before, but I broke up with him because we didn't even act like we dated at ALL...the only thing we did was hug! I got tired of it, and i guess convinced myself that I didn't like him, so i broke up with him. He lives in my neighborhood...and we hang out a lot like with our group of friends and everything...so i realized that i still liked him...he asked me out..i said yes. BUT the only reason i sad yes was because he promised it would be different and we would act like we actually liked each other. it's been two months now and i've only had time to see him 4 times and its still the same. BUT I'M LIKE IN LOVE WITH THE KIDD!! seriously...he's all i think about and i can't get enough of him! its INSANE how muc hi like him...but my one friend keeps saying how do i know i like him because i don't even know him anymore and she thinks he's hideous and blah blah blah. everyone else tells me not to listen to her and that its my choice...but its so hard to have a boyfriend and a friend that don't get along at ALL. usually my moto is chicks before dicks...but this girl isn't even really a good person to me anyway so i guess you can call us friends...guess you can't. i don't really know. the situation is so confusing =[ i have no idea what to do at all.. please help!

Well, if you're convinced that you really like this kid, go for it. If this girl keeps ragging on your boyfriend, than it's time for her to step back. You can still have a good friendship without ever mentioning him. They will never have to be associated with each other. Who says you need to eliminate one of them? Learn to compromise. Hang out with her on Saturdays, him on Fridays. It's easy.

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okay i wear what i like...its from hollister and abercrombie and american eagle and stores like that, but my friend thinks i only wear that because everyone else does and stupid people think that you have to wear that to be "accepted." I don't care that i'm not up to date or whatever with all the pearls and cropped sweaters and uggs and big bulky bracelets/necklaces etc...but now i'm finding out that people are talking about me behind my back saying that i should go shopping with somebody who knows what they are doing and that i need to find better styles and wear different things that what i do and that i have to stop wearing these things every week...but like...i don't have the money to buy something, wear it once a month and then wear something out. THATS GAY IN MY OPINION. i don't want to change my appearance just to fit in..but i DONT want people talking about me behind my back. i told the girl that told me some of this stuff that middle school isn't a fashion show...but here at LMS a lot of people make it out to be like that. I HATE IT!! how do i deal with this?!?!

thanks!!

If you want to spice up your fashion a little bit, don't feel restricted to brand name stores. Kohl's, and some department stores, H&M, forever21, urban outfitters, dealias have REALLY cute stuff.. if you look for it. And it's fairly inexpensive too. But, hell, if you don't want to change your style, than don't do it. Don't show any signs of lack of confidence on your face. Confidence is the key. It's not what you wear. It's how you display it.

Be outgoing with colors, mix up textures you normally wouldn't and people will respect you for your fashion sense.

Most of all, like what you wear. Don't change for anyone else. We've got to have SOME unique people in this world.

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Im having such a horrible boy problem right now. You dont even know. Well, theres this guy G (i dont feel compfortable putting his name, heh)that I like, and he isnt like OHMYGOD hot, but his face is cute, and he has a beautiful smile, and hes really nice. We hang out in track like, all the time... But the thing is, he kinda likes my Best friend. Its my fault they even started talking, but now I get the feeling she likes him, even thou she denys it every time i ask her. Hes 18...and My best friend and I are both 13. Which is totaly illigal (i dont know if it is in other states too?) But yea. I dont know, Im like, totaly in love with him, and no matter how hard I try, I cant get over him :-\. Urg... Then theres this guy K(dont wanna put his name)..yes, hes black, and 17, and also on track, but I feel like hes developing some kind of feelings for me.. Were really close, talk all the time and im his "Little Sis" .. when ever we have the chance to do ANYTHING (not like that, just take walk, talk ect) we do it. and sometimes he has his arm around me, and his hand is on my waist..And sometimes we sorta hold hands.. But I know I could never date him because hes black, and my parents would 100% completely disapprove of it.. But its weird because lately, not only does he call me little sis, but he calls me "his little princess".. Idk. Im trying my best not to like him, but its so hard trying to get over G at the same time. What in the world should I do?

G is out of the question.. he's not very interested in you and he's way too old for you. But K sounds perfectly fine. He's only three years older than you, he obviously likes you, and you like him. So if anyone, I would go for K. And if your parents have a problem with K, you should get ready for a debate saying that he's a good person and that you like him and they should catch up with the times. It's 2006 and we don't judge by skin color anymore.

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Ok im 13 and im in 8th grade..and im already tired of school. Ok? Like i have a lot of friends i just dont like people and all the drama with my friends so it takes all of me to get up in the morning and go to school. Then like the teachers are ok and all but they just put too much pressure on me and i teach myself better than they teach me. So i want to be homeschooled for highschool...my sister said she would do it i mean she works at home anyway. But my dad doesnt think its such a very good idea because then i may not get into a good college but i dont know if i want to go to college...i really desperately need help.. should i stick it out and try for college or just be homeschooled what would you do? Also im pretty much inlove with this guy actually im fully inlove with this guy and we have our whole lives planned together. So we want to get married as soon as I graduate because he's joining the marines and like thats another thing... i was gonna live on base with him... so i dont kno what to do. I dont know if i want college and i dont know if i was to be homeschooled... i'm really thinking about it but then like i dont kno im just so confused can anyone help??
Sorry if this is confusing i just kinda wrote what i was thinking and my toughts are all jambled right now...please help!
Kayte

It's winter. It's tiring. It's boring. It's school. But, hey, there are going to be tons of boring and tiring things in your life that you aren't going to be able to pull yourself out of. Why not go to college!? I mean, you want to make a living for yourself, don't you? And as for this boy, you don't know if you're going to marry him.. that's such a long time from now! I think that right now you need to live in the today, not the future. Take things one at a time. For now, stay in school, keep your head up high, and continue dating this boy. But making big huge plans for your future could be bad, because if things go wrong, you won't know what to do. Tomorrow is a gift. Concentrate on today and live it to the fullest.

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okay i want to straighten my hair tomorrow & i was wondering if anyone had any tips??

-i have to do it in the morning after my shower
-i have to blow dry my hair (i dont have a straightener you can use when your hairs wet)
-i have pretty much time about 15-20 mins
-my straightners pretty good. its the revlon thin ceramic straighteners

i juss wanted a few tips.

thanks!!

Blow dry your hair straight with a round brush and made your hair curve in, not flip out. While you're blow drying your hair, have your straightener plugged in and ready to use. When you're straightening, work in sections. First, clip up (or pony tail) all of your hair excepting the bottom layer. Then straighten the bottom layer, and then keep sectioning it off like that. When you're finished, put on a smoothing milk or leave in conditioner (only use leave in conditioner if it's a liquid, not a gel). Then, when you're all done, use the blow dryer very quickly (no brush, just the top layer needs to be done) put your blow dryer on the cool setting for a finished look. Good luck!

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hi sam,
I know how annoying it is to give advice about relationships, but I don't know what else to do, so I'm sorry in advance.

today was our 10 month anniversary, so we've been going out for a pretty long time. things just don't seem to be as good as they used to be. phone conversations are boring, and everything just seems to be....boring. he seems to be losing interest, even though I'm not. we're really close and I'm one of the people he talks to the most, so when he's angry, he tends to take it out on me a lot. My friends all think we should breakup but I love him and I really don't know what to do :(

Never feel like you are pestering me with questions... this is an advice web site and I'm open to answer any questions at all

Well, new relationships are always more fun. There's tons of small talk to make, the first kisses are more exciting, being with each other is fun and you learn more and more about each other... And after awhile you feel like you really know the person and there's no excitement. How do you liven things up? Do something out of the box. You guys go to a movie every Friday? Try going bowling, or going to Hibachi. You guys always end up talking about the same old thing? Try talking about his childhood. Maybe you need to take things onto a higher level on your physical relationship too. If you love him, don't break up with him; things will never return to normal. Just try to spice things up.

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heyy i just wanted to let you knoww that i didn't steal that schrunching thing from your column .. i never even saw your column beforeee .. if i did i would have added you. i got my advice because that's how i do my hair only ONE ponytail, so i said try that with littler ones. sorry if you still don't believe me, but i just wanted to let you know that i didn't steal that. i don't steal - i hate joggers so i would never do it. i don't know if you believe me or not, because honestly, if someone messaged me and told me this, i probably wouldn't believe them just because i know what asses people can be. haha um i know it's not a big deal, but i just figured why not try to get you to believe me? oh and if i did steal that from you, it's not exactly the same and why would i have searched through all your pages just to find it? alot of the other answers were similar so yeah. well i just figured i'd try to make you believe me and i hope you do because i just don't want you to think of me as a jogger. so um wow this probably seems like a big pile of bullshit but who knowss maybe you'll believe me. i've had people steal from me before and i hate it so much. i would DEFF never put anyone through that. it screams unoriginality. so againnnn, i'm sorry for the misunderstandingg =\ hope you understand i didn't mean for our answers to seem so alike!!! byee ♥

Thanks for clearing everything up. It wasn't a big deal or anything, but thank you.

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My bf lives out of state and he is coming to see me for valentines day. i am taking him dancing and i already have this very cute dress. I tried to scrunch my hair... which is what i want to do for valentines day but my hair wont stay. It is naturally straight and wont hold a curl no matter what. I have tried hairspray, gel and mousse. any ideas on how to get my hair to hold without getting a perm or going to a salon? Any particular products that work for you? I really want to scrunch my hair but it isnt holding. It will hold for about 1 minute then it will straighten back out.

I rate high!!

Okay.. I think the person before me stole that from my advice column.. but here's mine, someone asked this just a little while ago:

I would give yourself a good hour in the morning. (No, it doesn't take an hour. You need that hour for it to start drying) You wet your clean hair, don't dry it, but make sure it's not dripping wet, brush it down in the part that you want it in, and put in a fairly good glob of mousse in your hair because your hair kinda has to be a little crunchy. Samy Mucho Mousse will work great. To put in the mouse, you put a glob in the center of your palm, rub your hands together, and ease it out of your hand applying with your fingers, NOT YOUR PALM! You want your hair to be locky, not one solid thing. Once the mousse is in, put three mini messy buns in your head (one on the left and right side and one in the back) and make sure the buns are as close to your part as possible. Leave the buns in for an hour and you should be good. DO NOT BRUSH YOUR HAIR AFTER THE MOUSSE IS IN YOUR HAIR! IF YOU BRUSH CURLS, IT'LL TOTALLY RUIN THEM!

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