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2 "men", me, and my best friend.
Im having such a horrible boy problem right now. You dont even know. Well, theres this guy G (i dont feel compfortable putting his name, heh)that I like, and he isnt like OHMYGOD hot, but his face is cute, and he has a beautiful smile, and hes really nice. We hang out in track like, all the time... But the thing is, he kinda likes my Best friend. Its my fault they even started talking, but now I get the feeling she likes him, even thou she denys it every time i ask her. Hes 18...and My best friend and I are both 13. Which is totaly illigal (i dont know if it is in other states too?) But yea. I dont know, Im like, totaly in love with him, and no matter how hard I try, I cant get over him :-\. Urg... Then theres this guy K(dont wanna put his name)..yes, hes black, and 17, and also on track, but I feel like hes developing some kind of feelings for me.. Were really close, talk all the time and im his "Little Sis" .. when ever we have the chance to do ANYTHING (not like that, just take walk, talk ect) we do it. and sometimes he has his arm around me, and his hand is on my waist..And sometimes we sorta hold hands.. But I know I could never date him because hes black, and my parents would 100% completely disapprove of it.. But its weird because lately, not only does he call me little sis, but he calls me "his little princess".. Idk. Im trying my best not to like him, but its so hard trying to get over G at the same time. What in the world should I do?
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First, just relax with yourself and your lif. Your age means you have many years of growing up to do and many experiences left to explore and grow through. I can remember having the same kind of thing happen in my past. But I would suggest you just be friends and not try to make something out of the friendship. It nothing more ever happens, you'll still have a really good friend, and no better tresure can ever be realized. You'll push G out of your human experience by making more out of the situation than there is intended to be there. Pushing and pulling your life won't assist the very highest outcome for you. Just let everything relax, let it flow and be satisfied with having one true and real friend. It's hard in this crazy, silly and chaotic world, to find such a prize. Be thankful you have that and who knows how it will all turn out.... but leave the doors of communication between you and G wide open, so when he needs a really good friend you're there for him and then he will be the same for you. I feel focusing more on your school work, grades, and your family are important too and one day you'll look back, like I have, and be just a little sorry you didn't connect with that part of your life too. I know it's not easy being your age, well it isn't any easier being older and so if you can keep your head on start now, your years ahead will go more smoothly, because you 'got it' when you were younger. Be mature, reel in those loose emotions and pump all that energy into getting good grades, eating healthier foods and being good to your body. It has to take you through the rest of your life! And who knows, perhaps 50 years from now, G will still be your very best friend! You deserve all the goodness in your life, you are willing to open yourself up to receiving... don't push it away by trying to figure it all out... that's like trying to go upstream in a boat without a paddle or a motor or at worst, your eyesight. I wish you well and I believe in you and that you will do the best you can do! That's all you have to worry about.... doing your best and trusting that sometimes we lose our focus but can regain it at anytime we make the choice. Have a great new year!
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G is out of the question.. he's not very interested in you and he's way too old for you. But K sounds perfectly fine. He's only three years older than you, he obviously likes you, and you like him. So if anyone, I would go for K. And if your parents have a problem with K, you should get ready for a debate saying that he's a good person and that you like him and they should catch up with the times. It's 2006 and we don't judge by skin color anymore.
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What you should do is not get involved with guys that are way too old for you. All these guys are after is puntang honey. Rate me low, I don't care, but I'm being truthful. It's very illegal to be involved with these guys. Be careful next time.
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