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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

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Im 17
and iv never had a real boyfriend i dont know why it might be because im big but i mean come on iv been kissed but never in a relationship im a good friend and thats all i can be the best friend but nothing els iv been close but it never happens all i ever get is your friend is cute hot and everything els or does she have a boyfriend im lost i just dont know what to do do i stop trying and hope it comes my way soon

You're only 17. You have a lot of your life left, and undoubtedly you will find someone.

If you go off to college, you'll probably meet someone there who is very similar to you and who you'll really enjoy being with.

Don't give up hope. Just because everyone has had a boyfriend, it doesn't mean that they are happy and that it's going to work out.

--Jack
(18/m)

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I need advice! please help im 19/f and my boyfriend is 20yrs of age and I we want to make love but I dont want to have it on my house or at his place because of parents we want total privacy and I was wondering in a motel but dont want him to pay or neither do I for just making love should we still go? I dont know what to do...please help

I agree that the motel is the best option.

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Just insert your town/city/whatever into the search. =]

--Jack
(18/m)

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what does it mean when someone says: my mind's on overdrive.

like in a sexual kind of way. when you see someone that you really think is hott or something xD
thankies

x

Uhm, I would think that it means that they have a lot going on and they have a lot to think about. It isn't necessarily sexual...

--Jack
(18/m)

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I'm 16/f. My boyfriend is 17.
God, I love him a whole lot. We just started dating, but we've been friends for so long that it's just like what was supposed to happen.

Except...

He lives an hour away from me.

I'm trying to be realistic here, because I'm only sixteen years old, so how does anyone expect a sixteen year old to even WANT to make a long distance relationship work.

It's just that, all the guys at my school are total jerks. And he's tired of all the girls at his school because they're kind of sluts. And we just have liked each other for so long.

It would've been easier if he still lived here, but he moved about a year ago.

I don't know what to do, if I should bother having this relationship or just stay friends. It's hard to make that decision because he's just so sweet to me, looking out for me. And it's so nice to actually have a guy care about you for a change.

Has anybody ever tried a long distance relationship before? Worth it or not?

The truth is that some long-distance relationships work, and some don't.

You'll only know if it works or not if you try it out. I personally haven't had one, but I think if you really like him, then it's probably worth a shot. It's probably not smart to just throw away the relationship without trying to make it work first.

--Jack
(18/m)

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Ok, so I'm a freshman.. And the guy I really like Is a senior. He likes me to. It's just hard to get him to be 'mine' because of the age distance... And he has never had sex so he is not just using me or anything.. And I really trust him but.. How can I get him to be mine?? Were in the I like you you like me stage and we have been for like 2 months... Just any advice would be good!

Just wait it out. If you rush into things, it just won't end up like you want. So waiting is a very good first step.

But, I wouldn't wait for more than another two months. Because then you're just waiting for nothing when you could be dating someone your own age and be happy, at least for a little bit.

--Jack
(18/m)

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kso, 14/f
I am going to the pool with my crush and other friends on Saturday, and its Tuesday right now! and I have a few zits that arnt going away! I have a lot of little bumps on my forehead, a couple on my chin and a few by my nose. They are red and pretty small but I dont want them to get bigger!! I have read ways to get rid of them but they are creams and tea tree oil and stuff, but I dont have money, or roses that grow in the winter!
So, my question to you is, what are some easy remidies around the house to clean it up in a matter of day! Thanks so much!!

Hey. I know this sounds weird, odd, strange, etc., but what I'm about to say to you ACTUALLY works:

Get some lemon juice. You got the lemon juice? Alright- now take the lemon juice- and take a Q-tip and dab some lemon juice onto your zit with the lemon juice. Just a thin layer- not the whole bottle, silly! =D

Alright- so doing this at night is the best thing to do- it will really reduce the size and shape of the zit- and you won't know it was there in a few days.

Make sure not to touch it with your fingers after you put on the lemon juice- the oils from your fingers will stop the effect.

Relax- everyone gets zits- so you're only normal =D.

And here's a forum discussion from one of my friends on here that talks a lot about acne:

http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutmetopic.php?t=368&userboard_id=35415

From there:

Acne pretty much sucks ass and we all hate them.
I'll pretty much share what I know and my experiences.

So, I used to have really bad acne for like 2 freaking years. It sucked and I hated it. But now I'm better and here are my views on stuff:

Dermatologists are hard to get an appointment with and very pricey. They don't do much except look at you once, then they have their assistants take care of you after the dermatologist her/himself prescribes you acne medicine. It's usually Differin [sp?] and Benzaclin [sp?].

OTC Medicine:
Not all medication work effectively on all people. I've learn that it doesn't work for me or for anyone with sensitive skin. It may work for some people but as soon as they stop the use, acne comes back. Whether it's a cream, gel, or oral medication, they all suck! They dry out your skin, irritate it, increase sunburns/tans, and enlarge your pores. Not your dream skin, huh? And ironically, they sometimes make it worse. And you know what the 'best' part is? They're freakishly expensive! And once you stop the medication, acne comes back and parties like there's not tomorrow. Oral medication also makes your insides bad =/

Acne Products:
Acne face wash, gel, cream, whatever. Proactive seems to be a big one, too. Anywhos, as I've mentioned above, some work for some people while it makes everything worse for other people. It all depends. But most of the time, all those products dry your skin out, irritate it, and/or makes your acne worse. And it enlarges your pores too. Again, not very dreamy. And if they do work, as soon as you stop using them, they come back. Same line second verse.

So what the hell are you suppose to do?
Go the natural, cheap way.

Washing your face:
Wash your face gently only twice a day. Once is okay, I guess. But washing your face when you get up and before you go to bed is a good idea. More than twice a day could irritate your skin. Also, do not scrub your face, wash it gently as if you were washing a baby. Use face friendly products, too. I recommend a brand called Cetaphile. It's gentle on your skin and softens it. PAT your face dry with a clean towel.

Towels and pillow cases:
Try and change them as much as you can. Every day would be PERFECT but hard to do sometimes.

Squeezing:
Not only does that sound disgusting, it is. And it leaves nasty scars. Don't touch your face at all unless you have a slight itch. Don't rest your chin/cheeks in your hands or your arm. Just leave it alone as if it was a $10,000,000 mask that if you touch, you'll get arrested for. Oh, and try to keep your hair out of your face.

Sleeping:
Sleeping plays a big, huge role. Your body starts to renew its skin starting around 10PM and ending around 2AM. So be sure to be sleeping somewhere in between or the entire time. Sleeping early helps, and getting adequate sleep improves your skin and its tone.

Eating:
Milk makes acne worse. It's scientifically proven. Junk foods, sweet, sugars. ALL BAD FOR YOU PERIOD. Avoid/limit them along with sodas even if they're diet. Sports drink contain loads of sugar. Juices, too. Instead, eat healthy foods like veggies and fruits! I've noticed that my skin improve immensely when I turned vegetarian. So maybe give a shot to eating lots of veggies and fruits and other healthy stuff and cut down on meat? Also try and drink green tea [tea bag with no added sugar] or green tea with aloe [again, tea bag with no added sugar].

Masks:
Home made masks are probably the best. Here are few that work and softens your skin:

1. Red ginseng syrupy liquid thing mixed with warm water and a bit of all purpose flour. Make a mask thing with that.

2. Green tea [tea bag] cooled down to room temperature. Splash it on your face for 5min or so. I know it sounds weird but it helps. Or mix it with a little bit of all purpose flour and make a mask.

3. Mix warm milk, honey, and all purpose flour. Make a mask with that.

Only do the mask right after you washed your face. Make sure you don't put on any lotion and what not. Do not leave it on for more than 10-15min because bacteria will become attracted to the mask. Do not laugh, squint, whatever. Just keep your face neutral or you'll get wrinklies. Do not peel the mask off. Slowly wash it off GENTLY with LUKEWARM water. Keyword: GENTLY.

Lotions and make ups and what not:
Lotions/Sunblocks have products that won't clog pores, are fragrance and oil free. I suggest you buy from either Neutrogena or...some other renown company. I use Neutrogena's Oil Free Moisturizing Face Lotion and Neutrogena's Oil Free 55 SPF Sunblock. And Aveeno's 50 SPF Sunblcok [oil free] sometimes.

Make up should be limited to only eye and lip make up. No foundation, no concealer, not blush, no powder. Get my drift? Good. If you MUST wear make up, limit it down to special occasions [School does NOT count] and take it off as soon as you can. Whatever you do, do NOT go to bed with make up on!



--Jack
(18/m)

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What is the average IQ for an average person?

As they have said, 100 is the "average".

It's the 50th percentile.

http://www.iqcomparisonsite.com/IQBasics.aspx

That might help.

--Jack
(18/m)

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what does it mean when a guy texts you, and you respond, but then he doesn't text back?

he has a girl. and he knows i like him.
what do i do?

Maybe he's trying to let you down easily. He has a girlfriend and if you are trying to intrude on that, that's really immature.

It's either he's ignoring you or he just got busy and couldn't text you back.

Ask him if you really would like to know.

--Jack
(18/m)

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no speeches and no need of trying to convince me otherwise, trust and believe everyone would be happy if i was dead or better yet to see me suffer, all i wanna know is if i continue to take these sleeping please without eating and drinking period how long will it take for me to die and how will i feel, i don't mind pain, i just wanna know how long

No one is going to give you advice on how to kill yourself, nor are they allowed to.

So, I'll say one thing:

Making the choice to kill yourself is finding a permanent solution to a temporary problem, which can be solved through therapy and counseling. So, just don't do it, please.

--Jack
(18/m)

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My gf is worried because i was touching my penis and i know i didnt touch any juice on it but even if i did lets say if afterthat i fingered her and she is worried she might become pregnant after that? is that possible?

Sperm doesn't die when it hits the air. I'm just debunking that rumor that the person below me said.

If you had ANY semen, cum, pre-cum, whatever on your finger, then yes, she can become pregnant. Next time, wash your hands first.

--Jack
(18/m)

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19/M
I have been a thumb sucker my whole life. My New Years resolution is to quit it for good. I am going to go cold turkey. If that doesn't work, what else can I do to help me quit?

Try buying mints or gum to constantly have so that your mouth will be too busy to have the chance to suck your thumb.

If not, putting something on your thumb would work. Like clear nail polish or something. That way when you put your thumb in your mouth, it tastes bad and you won't want to suck your thumb.

Good luck! =]

--Jack
(18/m)

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How do i turn a guy on at school and in class?

Hmm. Most guys tend to think that girls that are trying to turn them on at school are whores. Plain and simple.

How about you be a mature young lady and talk to him and get to know him, rather than just be sexual. It's a total turn off if you want the truth.

I think it's much more attractive if a girl will actually sit down with me and have a conversation about something intelligent rather than just try to get in my pants.

--Jack
(18/m)

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If I am a 16 year old guy and I'm going out with a guy that is 20 is it illegal if it is will I be able to be with him when i turn 17

It depends on your state. I know that in Michigan, if you are 16-17, you can have sex with anyone in that age range.

If you are 18 or older, you can only have sex with people 18 or over.

Google "age of consent laws for [your state here]" to get the specifics.

--Jack
(18/m)

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what are some ways to turn a guy on with out taking either of our clothes off? haha.

thanks for any advice. (:

I have no idea why a 13 year old girl is worried about turning a guy on, so this baffles me.

Ask him. All guys are different.

--Jack
(18/m)

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I'm 13, I have never had sex before and I'm not sure that I have ever even popped my cherry, just so you know.
One day I gave my boyfriend a hand job then he went in the bathroom and finished up. After he did that he washed his hands then came back and started fingering me. That month I got my period and it came on time but now I'm not feeling the greatest . And it's been like a month after that.
I was wondering could there be a chance that I'm pregnant ? someone please reply to this I'm freaking outttt.

First off, I hope the fact that you're freaked out is making you sensitive to the fact that you are 13 years old and you're already doing sexual things, and it's wrong.

Secondly, if the guy washed his hands with soap, and actually washed his hands, rather than just run them under water, then you shouldn't be pregnant.

I hope you learn your lesson.

--Jack
(18/m)

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I have a free response question im having a lot of trouble with:

Angeosperms (flowering plants) and vertebraes obtain nutrients from their environment in different ways:

(A) Discuss the type of nutrition and the nutritional requirements of angeosperms and vertebraes.

(B) Describe 2 structural adaptions in angersperms for obtaining nutrients from the environment. relate structure to function.

(C) Interdependence in nature is evident in symbiosis. Explain 2 symbiotic relationships that aid in nutrient uptake, using examples from angiosperms and/or vertebrates.

need asap
anything will help, will rate 5.
thanks!

Hello. If this is a past AP Bio question, the answer can usually be found online. Just search the question number and the year. You should find an answer.

I did find something on Yahoo Answers. Hopefully it helps:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090114180811AAjd7jU

--Jack
(18/m)

Happy New Year =]

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okay, im 15 my cousin is 17. we have been around eachother when we were kids, and i guess you could say we have 'ecperimented' but we were only 3 and 5 so idt that counts. Well we grew up a lot after that. he ended up dropping out of school and hookin up wid all these sluts. i feel he is just a good part of the family (honestly, i dont have feelings like that for him). i get along with his gf's wen they r over. but he kept telling me to send him a dirty pic tonight. i said no. so he sends me one of his man junk. oh i wanted to throw up. that made me so freaking mad. he told me he wanted one because he has always kinda liked me. well i told him if he liked me then he wouldnt force me to send something i dont want and will never send. wat should i do? im not going to tell him tha i dont like him and i like im as just part of the family now cuz im pissed at him... maybe later i will. but how would you feel if his happened. and wat should i do?

Tell your cousin you absolutely do NOT want this type of relationship. Be VERY clear.

If he doesn't listen, talk to other family members and warn them that your cousin is being completely inappropriate.

--Jack
(18/m)

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how do i get powerpoint for macs for free

Unless you illegally download the program, you won't get it for free.

I suggest you invest in buying Microsoft Office for your Mac.

I'm not sure if Keynote comes with that, but get Keynote, because it's the Mac version of Powerpoint.

--Jack
(18/m)

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So I'm in Drama 1 in my high school, and we have our first play coming up.
We're doing Snow White, and we just received our roles yesterday.
I'm really excited because I got a major role.
But I need some memorization tips..seeing as there are a lot of lines to remember.
Any tips would be great, thanks.

How I usually memorize lines is walking around my house saying them over and over, and putting inflection into them like you will on stage, so that you remember them.

And, if you know your blocking, then you could start acting out your blocking and saying your lines.

If you're nervous about family seeing you practice, wait until no one is home. That's what I do.

Also, just read your lines out loud before you go to sleep. If it's the last thing you do before you go to bed, you'll remember it better. =]

Break a leg!

--Jack
(18/m)

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Today I walked past this guy that I really like. I've told him that I like him so he knows. We usually just greet each other when walking past but today he winked at me. What does he mean when he winks at me????

He might like you. You should ask him.

--Jack
(18/m)

It's my birthday today =]

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