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there really isn't much you can say to shock me. i've seen and heard a lot, so if you need help, don't be afraid to ask anything. i'm amazing at answering anything to do with sex.. so ask away =)

oh and yes.. that is ME in the picture. it's my halloween costume: a mile high captain!

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ok so me and my boyfriend were going out for exactly 2 and a half days. I thought our thing was going great untell the 2nd day. I went to fnl and the next morning I got a call from his X GIRLFRIEND saying he hated me and he did not wanna be with me and he needed a brake after two and a half days!! I cryed so much because i really liked him and i don't understand what i did to deserve this!! Please help me and this is the 4th time we have gone out is it over or wat?

you should talk to him yourself, to find out if he really does want to break up. if that's the case, find out why. if this is the fourth time you've gone out.. then you've most likely broken up for the same reason before.

if you date a person more than once, then whatever caused the breakup will probably cause it again.

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OK sorry if this is long
My friend is 13 and she is very nice, an A student and is always pretty good, well she went to new Jersey during Thanks Giving and she met a really hot guy there named ****. and well 2 days after she met him they went to a party and she had sex with him. She only did it 4 like 5 minutes then she chickened out and left. he is 14 and she hasnt started her period yet so she cant get pregnant but she feels so bad because it was her 1st time and she wanted to save herself for someone special. Last night we were at my friends party and we were all playing Secrets, and she told us she wasnt a virgin anymore but i am the ONLY one who really knows she isnt because everyone else thought she was joking. and last night we didnt get to sleep til 3 and i woke up to her crying at 4 and we talked for like 2 hours and she said she wished she didnt do that and that if her parents found out, they would literally kill her and that she was really scared because she thinks her cousin might have found out that she did it because she was at the party and everything and she doesnt know what to do and I am really worried about her because she is really good and that she might get into a lot of trouble because of it and I am really worried for her and she said she couldnt stop thinking about him (the guy) and I dont know what to tell her!!!!!! I am afraid she will hurt herself because she said she used to cut!!!!!


Please help me i will rate 5s THANKS!!!

first off, just because you haven't gotten your period DOES NOT MEAN YOU CAN'T GET PREGNANT!!!!
you can always get pregnant. okay?! it doesn't matter if you've had your period or NOT!

if your friend is really as good as you say, then why did she have sex with him after a couple of hours? she may have felt pressured, or he could've forced himself on her. if that's the case, then that is considered rape and she needs to tell an adult, because it's not her fault.

if she used to cut, she needs to talk to her parents, a counselor, or a trusted adult. she's confided in you with all of this, and she'd probably hate you if you told somebody, but your friend could possibly hurt herself again. tell her she needs to tell an adult (not specifically her parents) about it, or you will.

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Im 16 and ive been going out with this great guy Jason(changed the name)for 3 years and have been best friends for 7 i really do love him .we only had sex once but i still got pregnant I told Jason and he was happy and said he wanted us to keep the baby but I still havent told my parents yet Im 5 months pregnant we told his parent and she totally freaked out so Jason* is living with a friend. My parents are really relgious so theyll want me to get married but I dontn know if Im ready to get married because I dont want to marry Jason* and then get a divorce so how should I tell my parent Im pregnant?

you really really need to tell your parents. you're 5 months pregnant, and.. nobody has noticed..? well, anyways, you definitely should sit your parents down and make sure they see that you are ready to take care of the baby. i hope you have money and a job, because babies are very expensive to take care of. you shouldn't expect your parents to help you.. but if you're lucky they might. you have to tell them sometime, and better now than when you have the child.

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hi.. um i was just wondering... can you reccomend a special brand of lubrication?
we need it cause my boyfriend has a hadr time getting it in

don't use baby oil. use KY, because it's water-based. you should always use water-based with a condom, because oil-based breaks down the latex in condoms. but from your question it sounds like you aren't using condoms. if you don't want to buy lubricant, just use water! just get it wet and it'll glide right in.

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Okay well i have acne and i don't like it.I was woundering what are the best products to get it to go away fast. cause having acne can be pretty embarassing and i don't really like it. so i was woundering if anyone knew any good products to use

proactiv is really good, but if you use it for a long time, your skin gets used to it so you have to switch like every 6 months to make sure it stays effective.

biore isn't that great, nuetrogena is pretty good but might dry out your skin. if you want to get a really great skincare product and can spend a lot, go to http://www.sephora.com/browse/section.jhtml?cm_re=leftNav*skincare*acneSolutions&categoryId=C8882





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ok im 15, 4 11, 80 lbs, and i dont even fit into an A yet. i wear a AA 30 -32. and it SUKS! my bodys done growing, does that mean my boobs are too? thanks =)

your boobs don't stop growing until you're around 20. i'm 15, 5'6, and i am a C. which is really bumming me out because I will be a D soon. lol. just be glad you can fit into cute little shirts and not have the writing stretch out.

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okay so i like guys, ALOT, iv gone out with tons and love everything 'bout em. i could never actually LIKE a girl (that creeps me out) but i like girls bodies, like i like think'n about "doing" things with girls. wats up with that.

it doesn't mean that you are a lesbian, or even bisexual. it could mean that you are bi-curious. which means you want to know what it's like to be with a girl, and since it's weird to you, it turns you on.

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My ex and i havent been together now for a year.
Him and his gf of a year have broken up now for the 100th time. This is the longest break tho. He has never told me when theyve broken up in the past, except for this time.
We had been talking to each other way before they broke up this last time.
He said that he was surprised that i havent been into his place of employment yet. He always would come into mine with his gf.(never knew why tho)anyways, i did the next night with my gf.
He was joking around with me and saying to my friend, "hey rachel, call me sometime." Then hed give me this stupid grin.
Well, days went on and 1 night while talking to him online, he wanted to hang out with me, then asked me to call him. I did and we talked for 2 hrs. The next night he called me and told me to come into his work. I did and his other ex came in(cant seem to leave him alone) he got mad at her and they argued in front of me. He told her he was taking her back home(after she walked there). I gave him this look, and left. 1 and a half hrs later he called me up saying he didnt want to be with her. So he picked me up and we went to his house. We talked, wrestled, and i gave him a backrub(like i used to do) We cuddled, and he started making out with me. He asked me if he could put it inside me. I said no, and he asked me like 4 more times after that. I kept saying no. After he told me that he still loves me. 2 of his friends kept calling, and i told him to go out with them. He told 1 that he was just gonna go to bed. I told him to hang out with the other 1 and he said ok.
The next day he called and i took him out for lunch (i owed him as a favor a yr ago)an hr later he took me home.(that was saturday)
Sunday night we talked online, but i didnt bring up anything that happened friday night. We always used to talk about that after.
I knew he had a party to go to on saturday night, and i asked him how that went, and he said it was gay. He told me he left at like midnight and went to his "recent" exs to "talk", and then he fell asleep. He said he couldnt even keep his eyes open anymore. He said he woke up at 3am and then went home. I was really hurt inside, but didnt say anything.
I didnt hear from him for 4 days and thats when i called him to wish him a happy thanksgiving. He was invited over to "her" house. He was there again the next night because it was her bday. I called him the following night, and he called me back later saying that i made him realize how much he loves "her".
What a kick in the pants was that?
All i need is every1s opinion. See if it matches up with mine!!!
Thanks!(heartbroken again)

he used you. he knew he would get back with the girl, but just wanted to sleep with you before it happened. he asked if he could "put it inside" you, which is pretty lame. that shows that he just wanted to get some while he could. he obviously knew that he could get to you, and he thought that you would be easy. i'm glad that you didn't sleep with him, and i'd say stay away from him while he's single. he's just messing with your head because he knows he can.

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I used to like this girl in my math class and she's always had a big crush on me. I'd always be nice to her and let her borrow things when she asked, perhaps too much. I drove her home a few times from school and friend even advised me to ask her out, but she also likes my best friend and only showed more interest in me when she got mad at him and she hates him now, but now she apparantly likes some stupid mexican named Juan at her friends work, she asked me if I'd drive her to her friend work and I said "sure" at first, then she was like "do you even know why??" then I got really mad. This was like at the end of class, now I'm completely giving up on her, I'm not giving her a chance and I'm going to be bitter/mean/not talk to her for a while. If she can't decide what she wants I'm not going to put up with it.

Is this a good thing to do?

it sounds like this girl is just using you, and keeping you around for a backup. maybe if you show her that you really aren't willing to stick around while she treats you like shit, she'll have a reality check. don't be bitter, because being bitter makes you seem extremely jealous. just try to avoid giving her rides, letting her borrow things, etc. maybe if she sees that you have lost your respect for her, she'll grow the fuck up and stop playing with your head.

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home remedies to clear up pimples?

try putting head & shoulders dandruff shampoo on it. i know that sounds retarded but it works.

definitely DO NOT put toothpaste on a pimple, that is the stupidest thing EVER. it dries out the pimple, but it also dries out the skin around the pimple which makes it red and it usually peels/blisters up.

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Help! I get gross sweat marks all the time. I've swithched deoderants and I shower daily! How do I get rid of them, please?!

you can buy certain-dri at grocery stores, and you just put in on at night. it closes up the pores in your underarms that release your sweat, so you don't have the sweat marks. i asked my doctor about my sweat problem (i run track and i HATE sweating) and he said that anti-perspirants could be causing breast cancer later in life, so it's up to you to use them.

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OUCH! I have terrible terrible cramps that keep me up at night and make me tear. Ive been in tears off and on..I REALLY NEED SOME HELP! Make these stop. Please help! Ill rate 5! Umm I cant go get any type of medicine like midol. Im stuck at home...so dont say that..HELP!

the only reason midol works is because it has calcium in it. calcium helps stop cramps, so if you have any calcium tablets at home, take those. if not, try drinking some milk or orange juice. run a warm bath and get a good book, just stay in for a bit. or if you don't feel like taking a bath, put a washcloth in hot water, ring it out, and put it on your stomach. hope i helped. if you have anymore questions about anything leave one in my inbox. :)

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Is this a stupid thing to do?? Or does it feel better?

some girls i know said it feels better, i guess because of the extra lubrication, but i personally wouldn't. the blood would most likely gross me out, but if you don't have a problem with it then go ahead. just make sure you use protection because you're most likely to get pregnant around the days of your period. :)

any more questions drop one in my inbox.

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would i see fast results if i went on a liquid diet?

it's only good for short term weight loss. diurex makes you shed your water weight, although i'm not suggesting you use this form of weight loss. once you eat solid food, you gain everything back, immediately. excercise is best for long term results, along with a diet of small meals throughout the day.

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Okay I am a bit scared right now. I have been having sex I am on the patch and when having a sex my boyfriend always uses a condom. Well He is in college and he only comes back on weekends. The weekend (last weekend) he came back was also week 4 (my period week) from the patch. So I decided to skip over to another patch instead of taking the week off. So it was week 1 again. Well, the next week I took the patch off, this is what would have been week 2 but I changed it to the off week so I could still have my period, I decided one day after my patch change day to do this (patch change day= wednesday, day I changed it= thursday)It is now sunday and I still have not had my period. Could I be pregnant, or is it just that I was not supposed to have it yet or something else? Pleas help me!!

they give you directions with birth control for a reason, and it screws with your cycle majorly. if you used a condom, then you're most likely NOT pregnant. just be sure to keep using one, and changing your patch like you're supposed to. :) that happens with any kind of birth control.

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Hi
I'm 15 years old and i've had my period for a little bit over a year now. I have always used pads, but i'd really like to start using tampons. But there's only one problem, im so scared of them. I've tried using the before, but im just scared to leave something up there...please help me. Are there small tiny tampons for teens to use? im sooo freaked out.

please help

ill rate hight

thanks

they have slim tampons for teens, but tampons really aren't that scary. you have to leave it in there for like 13 hours to get TSS, so if you just wear it and change it, it's safe. be sure to read the information that comes in the box of tampons, so you know what to do.

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ok im with this guy and weve been together for 1 month and i am so ready to have sex with him and i really do trust him and weve spoken about sex so many times but after how many months do u think i should actually have sex i dont want to have it too early..
please answer thanx
ill rate high
xxx

if it's your first time, and you have to ask how long you should wait, then don't have sex. if you feel ready to have sex, then you'll be ready. not to seem rude, but if you have to ask an online advice column for suggestions about a personal decision, i don't think you're ready.

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ok i had an abortion about 2 months ago.im back on bitrh control, my last period blood was red for like 1-2days then its was brown. ive been to the gyn to be treated for chilmidya and some other bacteria, the doc gave me meds, so that should be good right, now its about 1 week before my next period, im still taking my birth control and ive had brown spotting yesterday and today. what is wrong with me??? i need help.

with birth control, your body is adjusting to it, so spotting is normal. also with an abortion and chlamydia, there could be some spotting. if you're really worried, ask your gyno.

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i am just wondering because i read this somewhere but what is a g-spot?

it's a spongey area a couple inches in the vagina, and if it's stimulated during sex then you pretty much have an awesome orgasm.

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Hey, ok well ok im 14, and i recently lost my virginity a few days ago. I didnt use a condom, and im scared. Do you think i could be pregnant? But we probably only had sex for a minute. Please help im wooooried!!

take a pregnancy test, even if it lasted a minute you could be pregnant if he ejaculated. and always alwayssss use condoms.

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