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OK sorry if this is long
My friend is 13 and she is very nice, an A student and is always pretty good, well she went to new Jersey during Thanks Giving and she met a really hot guy there named ****. and well 2 days after she met him they went to a party and she had sex with him. She only did it 4 like 5 minutes then she chickened out and left. he is 14 and she hasnt started her period yet so she cant get pregnant but she feels so bad because it was her 1st time and she wanted to save herself for someone special. Last night we were at my friends party and we were all playing Secrets, and she told us she wasnt a virgin anymore but i am the ONLY one who really knows she isnt because everyone else thought she was joking. and last night we didnt get to sleep til 3 and i woke up to her crying at 4 and we talked for like 2 hours and she said she wished she didnt do that and that if her parents found out, they would literally kill her and that she was really scared because she thinks her cousin might have found out that she did it because she was at the party and everything and she doesnt know what to do and I am really worried about her because she is really good and that she might get into a lot of trouble because of it and I am really worried for her and she said she couldnt stop thinking about him (the guy) and I dont know what to tell her!!!!!! I am afraid she will hurt herself because she said she used to cut!!!!!
Please help me i will rate 5s THANKS!!!
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Well first off, she does need to be checked out, because she had unprotected sex, and all kinds of nastys other than preagnancy can be tranmitted, before the first period.
As for the emotional thing, if she's really feeling awfull about it, mabye she should see a therapist, but remind her that it was a mistake, and everyone makes mistakes, and that she just needs to learn from it and everything will turn out ok.
Also, please tell her that cutting only makes things worse and more complicated (trust me, I know) if it at all seems like she may try to end her life, get help!!! She may not speak to you for awhile, but at least she'll be safe.
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e-mail this person she can help. no1left2understand@yahoo.com
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Tell her that everything is all right and that mabey youi could find out his phone number or an e-mail address of his try everything you can to help her and if she ever needed a friend this would be the time k well
I hope I helped
sorry for your friend
Jessica
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first off, just because you haven't gotten your period DOES NOT MEAN YOU CAN'T GET PREGNANT!!!!
you can always get pregnant. okay?! it doesn't matter if you've had your period or NOT!
if your friend is really as good as you say, then why did she have sex with him after a couple of hours? she may have felt pressured, or he could've forced himself on her. if that's the case, then that is considered rape and she needs to tell an adult, because it's not her fault.
if she used to cut, she needs to talk to her parents, a counselor, or a trusted adult. she's confided in you with all of this, and she'd probably hate you if you told somebody, but your friend could possibly hurt herself again. tell her she needs to tell an adult (not specifically her parents) about it, or you will.
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She needs someone to talk to. A school counselor, a psychologist, a doctor, someone of that sort. It certainly doesn't help that her parents are uptight about the matter; she'd be a lot better off with support at home.
She's certainly too young for those sorts of things, but it's not a life-ruining event. The real damage comes when it gets blown out of proportion; she wasn't forced into sex, and (hopefully) she did not contract any diseases, so the odds of things turning out all right in the end are fairly good. The important thing is that she gets a responsible, supportive adult to talk this through with. Helping her find one is the best way to help her.
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