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one of my guy firneds recently told me that he thinks he has a sort of cancer. he says he's sore all the time and there are some over symptons (which he didn't tell me what they are) he hasn't told his mom or anyone (i'm working on it...) but i think he said something about there being a bump too... does anyone know what this is??? please help
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He needs to see a doctor, as soon as possible. Tell him to stop worrying about telling people; his life is much more important than temporary social discomfort.
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I have a problem and I don't know how to go and fix it. My brother had a motorcycle accident in june 2005 and he lost his apartment because he couldn't work. He has healed and now he's working and he's been here for almost six months now. I have given him until then end of December to be out but he's not putting in any effert to look for a place. I some advice to get him out with out making him hate me. I am married and have three children to take care of. Plus since he's working he's not giving anything toward the rent and stuff like that. Hope someone can help. (link)
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Kick him out.
It's ultimately for the best, for you and for him. He won't see it now, but that is of little concern. A little pain now saves a lot later.
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OK so im really good friends with this guy, Michael. I have been for 10 years. whenever i talk to him online, hes nice and sweet and hes really funny. But when i see him in person, like at church or w/e, its like he doesnt even know I'm there. My gramma died a month ago, and he asked his priest to pray for me, and his priest gave him a prayer card to give to me. Tonight at church Michael gave it to me and i was like "Awww thanks!" and he was like "It's not from me, its from my priest." idk .. he was being weird. what do yu think this means? why is he acting like this? (link)
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He may be uncomfortable; he may be hesitant to be outwardly emotional because of uncertainty or insecurities on his part. It's not as much of a problem as it may seem; perhaps the best thing you can do is to be warm and friendly to him despite his seemingly cold demeanor. Sometimes it takes people a bit to feel comfortable with others.
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I don't know what my problem is. I talk to other guys constantly, and hang out with other guys alot. I'm around hott guys every day. Everytime I start to either talk to a guy, like a guy, or kiss a guy..I think about my ex-boyfriend (we broke up a few weeks ago). And it's like I want to call him right that second. Just to see what he's doing, or where he is. Why is this? When will this change? And when will I stop thinking about him when I kiss other guys? Is this normal to think about people while in the process of getting over them? sorry for so many questions at once. But can you please try and answer them all. (link)
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Why is this? You are/were attracted and attached to him.
When will this change? There's no way to know; it's an individual thing.
Is this normal to think about people while in the process of getting over them? Yes, it's quite normal. People get attached to each other, and those attachments take a while to fade.
The key is to stop worrying about it; the more you fixate on it, the more it will manifest itself.
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I've known this guy since I was three and we have been dating since I was 15. we are totally in love. but, we havent had sex yet and I'm 21!!! Is there something wrong with me? (link)
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I don't know. What's your reasoning for not having sex? Has HE wanted to have sex?
If you've not had intercourse simply because you don't want to, then there's nothing wrong with that.
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OK sorry if this is long
My friend is 13 and she is very nice, an A student and is always pretty good, well she went to new Jersey during Thanks Giving and she met a really hot guy there named ****. and well 2 days after she met him they went to a party and she had sex with him. She only did it 4 like 5 minutes then she chickened out and left. he is 14 and she hasnt started her period yet so she cant get pregnant but she feels so bad because it was her 1st time and she wanted to save herself for someone special. Last night we were at my friends party and we were all playing Secrets, and she told us she wasnt a virgin anymore but i am the ONLY one who really knows she isnt because everyone else thought she was joking. and last night we didnt get to sleep til 3 and i woke up to her crying at 4 and we talked for like 2 hours and she said she wished she didnt do that and that if her parents found out, they would literally kill her and that she was really scared because she thinks her cousin might have found out that she did it because she was at the party and everything and she doesnt know what to do and I am really worried about her because she is really good and that she might get into a lot of trouble because of it and I am really worried for her and she said she couldnt stop thinking about him (the guy) and I dont know what to tell her!!!!!! I am afraid she will hurt herself because she said she used to cut!!!!!
Please help me i will rate 5s THANKS!!! (link)
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She needs someone to talk to. A school counselor, a psychologist, a doctor, someone of that sort. It certainly doesn't help that her parents are uptight about the matter; she'd be a lot better off with support at home.
She's certainly too young for those sorts of things, but it's not a life-ruining event. The real damage comes when it gets blown out of proportion; she wasn't forced into sex, and (hopefully) she did not contract any diseases, so the odds of things turning out all right in the end are fairly good. The important thing is that she gets a responsible, supportive adult to talk this through with. Helping her find one is the best way to help her.
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I never payed any attention when my schoool nurse talked to us about it. can you answer this please? are we supposed to bleed ALL the time? i thought you only bled on a cycle or something.
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Menstrual cycle? Yeah. With most women, it only happens once a month, for a period of..a week? Or so I'm told. If you're bleeding continuously...that's a bad thing. See a doctor.
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i first got my period in 6th grade i have had non stop discharge since and it alway stinks down there and right after i get a shower and wash down there it still stinks does any one know how to get it to go away? (link)
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I'm told that birth control pills are used to reduce a woman's menstrual cycle to happening 4 times a year, rather than 12. I'm not sure if that's the way for you to go, though; age may be a factor. Ask your doctor.
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Let me ask you all reading my post right now: What is it called when you take a piece of a living being to create another living being? 'Playing GOD' right? We all know it better as Cloning! So lets speculate that a higher life form manipulates the DNA of a primate by adding their own DNA, or "creating them in their own image". Then they take a piece of their creation, lets just say "a rib" for example and make another one just like it only the opposite gender, (so they can reproduce naturally). That's creation, and with creation comes a natural side effect, evolution. Evolution is adaptation to survive in your surroundings. Please do not comment on my question if you are going to tell me that this is absurd. I have read the bible many times and have been a Christian, a Catholic, a Protestant and a Mormon. I have studied many other religions and they all confirm that God created Adam in his own image, God took a rib from Adam to make Eve. Thousands of years of history prove that we are evolving with every generation. So what religion am I if I believe in creation and evolution? (link)
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You're still a christian.
You're going through leaps and bounds to make evolution fit your religious outlook. You've basically lost all important understanding in doing so.
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I just got my work schedule for a new job. The store is having it's grand opening on Thursday. I have my first shift from 5-10. I'm sure the store will be jammed pack. I'm working in the clothing department of the superstore.
Does anyone have any tips on how to deal with the customers? I've never worked in retail before. I know the obvious, like be friendly and work hard, but what can I do to really impress my supervisor and make me relax a little? (link)
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Just dive in.
Customers value two things: helpfullness and happiness. They like an employee to seem happy, and to give them what they want.
It's your first night, so don't stress out about the helpfullness; you'll learn with time.
As for happy: you don't actually have to be happy. Just have the customer think you're happy. Speak pleasently, smile. It takes getting used to, but it works.
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16/m. You've probably heard this topic before, and might even be sick of it, but I am curious to know what any and all of you think a 'nice guy' is. Is he a pushover? or is he the one who will lend a should to cry on? I want to know what you personally think a nice guy is, what qualities and personality traits would follow him, if you would want to have a nice guy as a boyfriend, and should there be more of them. Sorry it's a long question, but because too many people have so many different views on what exactly a nice guy is; I think this will offer everyone a chance to see things from a different perspective - nobody is right or wrong in this one. I'm not complaining saying its a bad thing or praising them either, just curious. Thanks (link)
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Just be a good human being. Don't put extra effort into showing it; being showy attracts the wrong kind of woman.
Unless you like that type of woman, then, by all means, go ahead.
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Hi I'm a 27 year old woman but dress like I'm a lot younger. I was wearing a pair of tight track pants that showed off my figure. They were not slutty, but just the style right now and I also wore a black jacket. Anyways these two older men were sitting on a park bench when I walked by, one man said "that's a little tight".
Also two days ago me and my friend who is 33 (but looks 25) were at Tim Hortons having a coffee. We were sitting outside and these old men were sitting behind us. We were not talking to them but they were eavesdropping on our conversation ( which was about men). When we left they jeered at us and said BYE GIRLS.
Why do I always get this reaction from older men? I am not a slut and not a flirt. (link)
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It doesn't matter that you're not a slut, or a flirt, or whatever.
People are going to judge you based on the way you dress. It may not be nice, or fair, but it's the truth. You want men to stop leering? Fine - dress more conservatively.
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If God gives humanity purpose and meaning, what gives God purpose and meaning?
Is God meaningless and purposeless?! If so, wouldn't that mean that humans are just meaningless and purposeless, and that their "meaning" and "purpose" given by God is purely arbitrary? (link)
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God doesn't give humanity purpose and meaning.
You give yourself purpose and meaning. No one is going to do that for you.
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Do you believe in Intelligent Design or evolution?
If you believe Intelligent Design is an adequate critique of evolution, then tell me what designed the irreducibly complex designer, please. I'd really like to know! (link)
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Intelligent design is another word for creationism.
"Irriducible complexity" is another way of saying "I don't understand how this could have happened, so it must be magic!"
There is no designer.
If you honestly want to learn about evolution, then grab yourself a highschool or college biology textbook. It's not hard to understand, if you're willing to learn. But remember: you're still not going to entirely understand everything. That doesn't mean it's magic, or a miracle; that just means that you're lacking in the areas of chemistry, biochemistry, and biology.
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Im a single woman (no kids - one dog) recently moved to the area, dont know anyone here. How do I go about meeting Mr Right? How can I actually meet someone who is Genuine, honest, kind, honerable, intelligent with a sense of humour?
Ive tried online dating sites but nothing has come of that. I dont like to go out on my own.
Ive been told that Im attractive, funny, kind, caring, intelligent but if anything that seems to put guys off.
Im not desperate to find a partner - infact Id rather be on my own than go out with someone just for the sake of it. Its just that it would be nice to settle down at some point in time.
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Be proactive. Just putting yourself out there isn't enough; they aren't just going to come to you.
As to where you can find this type of man...
Everywhere. But, as I said, the man you're looking for is probably not going to be the one who approaches you.
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hey does anybody know any websites and/or any stores that sell real toe rings that like won't turn your toes green? and like between $50-$75 please and thanks (link)
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What is a fake toe ring?
No but really, the thing that determines whether or not a ring will stain your skin is the metal composition. A "gold" ring, for example, is not really gold; it's an alloy of mostly gold, with copper, nickel, and silver. The karat number is what tells you just how gold a "gold" ring is; the more karats, the more gold (and less of the other metals), and so the less staining that will occur.
No ring made of precious metal can be worn with absolute certainty of no staining occuring. A ring made of stainless steel will never stain you...but then, who wants jewely made of stainless steel? Metals to avoid are nickel, definnitely copper (almost certain to stain), and sterling silver, which stains black, not green.
There is one way that I would recommend to stop a ring of any metal composition from staining: coat the inside of the ring with a single layer of transparent nail polish. This will prevent the metal from directly touching your skin, thus no staining will occur.
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do you do if you like a guy who is a really bad kisser and he wants to make out with you?
i know he bit a girls lip and made it bleep. lol. and also he like of doesn't give you time to break or anything.
plus i have never kissed anbyone before! (link)
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Don't believe everything you hear. Unless you experience it for yourself, claims such as this are often exagerated. If you feel concerned, don't stress out. Ask him! Talk about it a bit first. A little communication goes a long way.
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Okay, first off, I'm one to listen to advice and take it, but usually what I end up choosing lies within me. Basically what I'm trying to say is, I know I should follow my heart, I just want to know what YOU would do if you were me. The question is going to be kind of long, sorry.:]
I was born in Singapore, and basically for half my life I've been shuffling between Toronto and Singapore living and studying with either my mom or my dad. I came back to Toronto again in November of 2003, and I guess you can say I was not happy about leaving Singapore. The reason me and my brothers are here is so that we have an easier access to university in the future, but I feel so sick here, as if there is no meaning to my life, nowhere I'm heading, at least in Singapore, they force feed you to do well in school and as sad as that sounds, I felt as if I was going somewhere. I had plenty of friends and I was happy.
Now I haven't been back to Singapore for 1 1/2 years, and everyday my mom is saying how I've turned into this..mentally depressed person. She said that she wont force me to stay here. The question is, should I stay here until I finish my university studies, or go back to Singapore and study until Grade 11, and come back for Grade 12 and university? The problem is, my little brother wants to stay, and we have a lot of family problems, I kind of want to protect him. I don't want him to have to grow up the way I did. If I go back to Singapore, I will learn a lot more education-wise and feel challenged, I will finally be around my family again, and it's not as if I can never come back to Toronto. If I stay in Toronto, I'll be able to protect my brother, I'll have an easier life, but it just feels meaningless. After all, it's not liek I can never come back to Toronto again, but I'm afraid, once I make my choice, I cannot turn back. I can't go back to Singapore and try it for 1 month or so, it is too expensive. I have to stay there until University. If I stay here, I can't help but think "what if?" I just feel so dreadful, it's as if all my happiness was sucked out of me the minute I left Singapore. What would you do? (link)
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If I were you, I would stay in Canada. Mostly because I prefer living in North America; it's my home! But that obviously does not help you.
That your friends and your studies are in Singapore, and you are in Toronto, are not the most important facts to consider. You ought to think about what you want to do with yourself.
This is a matter entirely independant of other people. You stated that you prefered your studies to be forced, otherwise you felt unmotivated. The important thing about learning is that it is useless if it must be forced. What are you accomplishing as a consequence of pursuing your studies in either location? Nothing. Education is not an end unto itself; it is a means to an end. While one may enjoy learning for its own sake, this is clearly not the case with yourself, in that it must be forced. The thing to figure out is what you want to DO with your time, and then to figure out what studies must be pursued to accomplish that objective.
Your brother, while important, is not necessarily the primary concern in the matter, unless his health is in some form of danger; otherwise, he'll live, and he'll learn to care for himself. And, while in Singapore, although you will have friends, they will be as temporary as your stay there. They are not necessarily the most important reason on which to base your decision.
The important thing is, in the end, to figure out what it is you want MOST, that which you want out of life itself. Institutions cannot decide what you need (as with learning in Singapore), it is YOU who must decide what you want; your motivation comes from within. That is the best way to find purpose; it is self sustaining.
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is it wrong if you are 15 yrs old and have a 25 year old boyfriend??everyone tells me that its wrong.. (link)
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When a man of his age is attracted to a young woman of your age over women his own age, it's a psychological disorder called "pedophilia." And when you have sex, it's called "rape." I don't know about other places, but in my state of Massachusetts, he could be sent to prison for the rest of his life.
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i will be a new freshman in High school, will i get picked on like in Mean Girl movie?
well here are reason why i might (and i am already being picked on in my bus because they are racist) but i am pretty decent in friends and cliques... i dont get picked on by popular kids
1. i am Asian
so in bus there is my neighborhood and other neighborhood where all black people lives and few of them pick on me for being asian.
2. i am not skinny, i am not obese because when people guess my weight, they guess less then 20 pounds then i actually weigh, but i can lose lot more pounds.
3. i have this enemy who was my ex best friend.
so please help how to avoid those mean racist people in my bus and my enemy... and how to get a boy friend ! =) (sorry about the last one but i am desperate) (link)
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Basically, you'll just have to deal with it. Other kids are mean. It'll get better as you get older, though; most of your peers will gain in maturity, and even if they're racists, they'll know better than to bitch about it. High school is a drag, and worrying too much about socialization will just make it worse. Concentrate on your studies; if you go on to college, you'll be glad that you did.
And don't threaten people with the law, no matter how many lawyers you know. You can't press charges because someone makes fun of you, even if it is because they're a racist. Read the Constitution, especially the First Amendment. It guarentees that people can say whatever they want to, barring those things that cause harm (like yelling "bomb" on an airplane, when there's no bomb). Racism ain't nice, but it's not illegal either, no matter what your family tells you.
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