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Oh, don't worry, he totally likes you. In fact, he likes you so much that he's going to propose to you (even if you're only thirteen) and you guys are going to get married, and live together happily ever after forever and always and have ten children in the country with the best jobs ever until you die at an old age together in your sleep!

If you know that's not how life works, and you want some real advice, you have my undivided attention. Ask me anything, and I'll try and figure it out for you (unless it has anything to do with geometry).

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Hey theres this kid at my skool that i like..well one day we got to pik seats and me and about half my class were away on a feld trip and the kids that were at skool (my crush) got to pik were WE sit and sumhow i ended up sitting behind him. He says he doesnt like me but he always talx about how i messaged him on myspace and hes always looking at me and today my friend sed (*name goes here*) My friend doesnt like u nemore!!! and he sed HA Kool! And like the weird thing is, he kept looking at me!!! Im so confused should i just give up? Cuz thats what i plan on doing!

Even if he does like you, he obviously doesn't want to admit it. So if I were you, I'd probably give up on him.

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i'm with this guy that i really care about and well, i've never had a serious boyfriend before and well, i'm not exactly sure what to do about people spreading rumours and stuff. i haven't been telling alot of people but alot of people know i'm going out with somebody they just don't know who, and i'm not sure if i should just let everybody know so they'd all shut up and stop bugging me to tell them or not tell them and let them find out for themselves. thanks

Why wouldn't you want people to know? A boyfriend isn't something you should be embarassed about... but if you want to keep it a secret, then go ahead... I mean, if it's for a good reason, then why let people know..

But, your boyfriend might think that you not wanting to tell people is an insult to him, so you might want to watch out for that! Do what you want, and if people can't except that, then that's too bad for those people..

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So me and one of my best guy friends have kind of been a little more then friends latly. Like last night we were watching this movie and he told me to sit with him and we started cuddling but not like friendly..more like intimate and I liked it. His best friend told me that hes going to ask me out but I dont know if I should say yes or no...see there are positives and negitives:
Positives-
I wouldnt be single
I could french someone
hes perfect(except hes a perv)
Negitives-
Im going to camp and so is he in like 4-6 weeks and wont be able to see tim all summer
are friendship will die

Plzz help im 14/f and rate ^ lyl mwaaaa

Don't count your chickens before they hatch.(No matter what anyone says)... if he does ask you out though, do you like him? Do you want to date him? Those should be the only things that really matter. And if he's perverted enough to try something with you, tell him to back off.

Going to summer camp is going to be a problem, me and my boyfriend broke up over it.. can you guys call each other or anything? Write letters?

As for your friendship dying, my guy best friend and I went out and broke up multiple times.. and we're still best friends. Just because you decide to make a relationship into something more doesn't mean you automatically just hate that person!! There's a risk, but as long as you break it off nicely, everything should be okay with you guys.

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I'm in 8th grade and there is this 7th grader in my Strings class that has like an aide and he is soo annoying and weird. When we went to Busch Gardens for a competition he would only be in my group and he stared at me CONSTANTLY. He wouldn't leave me alone either. He would only go on rides i went on. The other day my friend asked him without consulting me if he liked me and he said yes. My other friend wants to ask him if he'd ever ask me out but i don't want to have to break his heart. Everyone i know wants to ask him for laughs but i don't know what i would say if he did, not that think he would. What should i do?

Wow... that's kind of mean they're asking him just for laughs. Poor kid. Okay, well, I'd tell your friends to lay off... and maybe you should be upfront and ask this kid if he likes you. Then tell him that you're sorry but you don't feel that way... sometimes, breaking his heart is the only way to get across how you feel... Or you could ignore it. It doesn't sound like he's doing anything physical, just staring.

If he decides to ask you out, let him down gently (and truthfully)... it sounds like he's been through a lot. As long as your nice about it, there shouldn't be too much of a problem.

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My love life is so messed up. I have no idea what to do and I'm so sick of trying to meet people. On one hand, I have my ex from about 6 months ago, on the other hand, I have a senior who I'm interested in. I don't know if either of the guys like me, or if I have a chance with either of them, the whole thing sort of irritates me. What the heck should I do.

signed,
nearly given up

Everyone's love life is. For your ex, I'd say try and get over him. Keep yourself busy, get involved in school, hang out with your friends. Whatever you want to do. You can't find the future in the past.

As for the senior, why not ask him to do something with you? Casually, or an actual date.. you could always ask him how he feels, or tell him you like him. Most guys like to know that they're liked. It's apparently very flattering. Either way, if it doesn't work out with the senior, look around you! There are so many more guys out there! And usually, if you don't focus so much on getting/having a boyfriend, you'll end up with one (that's what happens to me, anyway)

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im 16 im living with my boyfriend i know im (young its complicated)I was kind of pressured into having sex with my boyfriend i did say yes at the start but then changed my mind and told him i wernt ready he ignored me and carried on i tried to push him off he was to strong i started crying wen it was finished in the morning he acted like nothing was wrong and brought me a cuppa tea in the bed. was i raped? or am i just being a baby? what should i do

You told him no, you said you weren't ready for it. You were raped, and you can file a statuatory rape report against him and have him arrested. Of course, you will have to go through tests and blood samples, to prove that he actually had intercourse with you.. and you will have to go through lie detector tests (and so much more)but if you want justice, it will be worth it.

You should move out of that house. Move back in with your parents, or grandparents, or even to an orphanage. Whatever you do, just get out of there. Obviously, you're not exactly safe. I'd go to the police station and tell them... that way you're out of the house, in case your boyfriend decides to walk in at that time. You don't even have to file the report if you don't want to, just get out of there, and break it off with this creep.

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I have been dating a woman for a year now. We have shared so much with one another, love happiness, and even upsets from other people, but at the end of everyday we could each say that we were in love and truly mean it. Then out of the blue, she told me that she wasn't sure about how she felt, becasue she is returning to college in august, and we will be going to sperate schools. But it hurt her to say it, becasue she cried. We believe in morality so absolutely nothing happened physically, but emotionally we were there. I have tried everything about explaining how I felt and how she felt, she just refuses to listen to me. How to I get her to see how she truly feels? She is the only person to ever of love me, and I can't lose her. What do I do? I am a male, of 22.

Ok.. well I'm not exactly experienced with love or anything, but I've watched my parents fall apart then get back together and everything... so hopefully I can help you.

If she won't listen to you, the only true way to get her to understand is to show her. Don't be all stalker like, just send her a letter, or a package (or both?)... A good idea would be perhaps to send her an engagement ring, if you are that sure about how you both feel. My Dad mailed my Mom her wedding dress and a letter when she left... and she came back a couple days later, with the dress in the front seat.

Or maybe you could make a sacrafice for her? Transfer to her college. You have about 2 years of college left, I'm guessing. So maybe you guys could remain friends for those 2 years, then get back together when college is over. Also, you might want to give her time to sort out her feelings. If you two are meant to be together, then it'll work out, and she'll realize she loves you. (sorry it was so long!)

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okay i went to the movies last night with my bestfriend. my bestfriend is a guy... we kissed and such because we had gone out b4. in th emovie theater he wanted me to give him a h.j. i wasentt all that comfortable right ?! so i didnt do it.. now hes like rly upset with me and i cant stand it when hes mad at me.. he asked me out and i said yes. (( again )) last time we broke up i got hurt rly bad so i was like "okay maybe he wont be the same" cz we got that close. he said hes gunna be grounded this summer so we cant chill.. we broke up later that night and now he wont talk that much to me cz i didnt give a h.j. but i said i would at school this week (( only 3 days left of school ))
is that bad .. what should i do ?

I dated my guy bestfriend before. We were on and off for a while, then we made a pact to end it for good. We're still there for each other and all, but it's definently easier this way. And even though we still like each other sometimes, we won't go out.

First you have to decide what you really want out of this relationship with him. Just friends, fwb, or a boyfriend? Because if it's anything besides friendship, this doesn't sound like the right guy to pursue it with.

Ok,if you're not comfortable with something don't do it. Your boyfriend shouldn't be upset with you just because you weren't ready for something. He should be understanding... so really, you should be pissed off at HIM! Tell him that you won't do anything you don't feel comfortable with, and he shouldn't pressure you to... then tell him, if he wants a handjob that bad, he can give himself one. Then turn on your heel and storm out!!

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my boyfriend and i broke up on monday. and i knew it was gonna hppen since a week and a half ago. but. i still like him. and i need to get overhim, hes a very bad person. i need to stop thinking about all the good feelings and times we had together. because i start crying again. i want to be over him. i wake up every morning with a heavy heart and i dont think he even cares. thats what gets me too. any advice on how to forget?

Something like that happened with me and my ex. And I couldn't get over him for like a year... I got majorly depressed. Finally, I got sick of myself acting and looking the way I did... So I decided it was time to get over it. I got involved and kept busy (4 jobs-- 2 are volunteer jobs). I went out with my friends when I had spare time. I started to try in school and do homework, etc. I even changed my hair cut and it's color to red (temporarily, just so I'd feel like I looked better)... And I think those really helped me get over it.

But the main thing that helped me was finding a new guy to date. Liking someone else was proof that I was finally over my ex. So get out into the dating world, and try to find a new boyfriend. And you know what... even if your ex doesn't care, someone else out there does.

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There's this guy @ school, Derek, who I'm friends with, and I've known him for a few years.. and I've been in love with him for the past 2 years. School just ended, and I just can't comprehend the thought that I won't see him again for another 3 months. The thought of it makes me nauseus, and I get depressed. Last night I cried myself to sleep because I missed Derek so much.. and school just ended yesterday. He doesnt have a cell fone, but I have his house #. I wanna call him, but I don't wanna sound dumb. Ive never called him before, and he doesnt have my number. I dont know what to do.. I just really wanna see him, or atleast talk to him. I'm going to go crazy this summer if I dont. What should I do? Btw im really shy :/

If I were you, I'd call him. I call my guy friends all the time, it's not too much of a deal for me.. but my friends have trouble with it. Usually, when they want to call a guy and ask him to hang out or something, I'm there, because ussually I'm the person who talks them into calling him. Or just for support, or whatever else. It's easier to call people when someone else is there.

Ask him to hang out. Say something like "Did you hear about 'name of movie here' (pick something he'd probably be interested in)? I really want to see it.. but, like, all of my friends are busy this weekend... yea, so I was wondering if you wanted to go?" Ask casually, make sure he has a good time, and there's a good chance he'll ask you to hang out next time (even if it is just as friends.)

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Me and my bf have been going out 4 three months he just found out something bad about a family member and its been making him really angry. I understand how he feels but he takes all of his anger out on me! Last nite he was being such a jerk we almost broke up he tells me he loves me all the time but idk if its true. im only 14 but how can i talk to him without bringing up anything thats going to hurt him?

People get angry, or depressed... it happens. They push other people away... and that's just how it is in our society. You could try to talk to him about it, or just ignore it.. he probably doesn't mean most of the things he says. It's obvious he's going through a rough time right now. And even though he's being a jerk, you're his girlfriend, and you should support him.

With that in mind, I'd just talk to him about it. Tell him to stop being so mean, and that you're always there for him. It's best to be gentle, and nice in these situations. If he truly cares for you, he'll try to calm down, and be happy!

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It was my birthday and all on May 17 and that's when this guy I used to like started paying attention to me again. We would sometimes look but that would be once or twice a week. Since my birthday, I've recieved more than eight looks from this guy. Well, anyway I told myself that I should move onto another guy because I deserve love and he's not the right one to give it to me. I mean he flirts with other girls in front of my face. I also acknowledged some things that I have been in denial about. Why has he waited to now to pay me any attention? IS IT MIND GAMES? Or is he being serious. Spring Fling is tomorrow.

Well.. if he's only giving you looks, that's not necessarily a sign that he likes you or anything. I mean, if he hasn't even talked to you... it's kind of pointless. First off, decide whether you like him.. and whether or not you seriously think he's not right for you. If you like him, and think he's right for you, find out about what's going on with him...

As for the flirting thing, lots of people flirt. Most don't even mean what they say. If it hurts you when he does that, ask him to stop. If he cares for your feelings at all, he will.

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theres this girl that i was close friends with named amanda so i asked her out and she rejected me. we werent that close for a while after that, but now were friends again and i cant stop thinkin about her but i dont have the guts to ask her out. plus, i heard she liked me not too long ago during a time when i was messing around with one of her friends. i need some advice on how i should go about this before i go crazy about this girl

Wow... that sounds like me and my best friend, except we rejected/went out with each other multiple times. And even though we're still good friends, we still get little crushes on each other from time to time. Personally, we made a pact not to go out again.. but if you really like this girl, then just ask her out. There's no harm in trying. Plus, it's flattering. Maybe try showing her that you like her.. help her with stuff, or do something for her... whatever...

But if she decides to reject you again.. well, maybe it's time to move on. That's my opinion, and my best friend's is: "Get a new girlfriend and force yourself not to think about her... eventually, you'll get over it. Though that is kind of hard when she calls you all the time." (Don't say things like that, and there is an even better chance she'll go out with you!)

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theres this boy...my mom like loves him and she wants me to go out with him and he's all she talks about..well i rlly like him and he knows that..we walk home together everyday and just like talk about different stuff..but i really wanna kno wat he thinks about me and if he likes me back and stuff...please help me find a way to ask him wat he thinks without lookin desperate because he's not in my grade...he's a grade lower but he's my age so it's okay

Ok.. you could find out whether or not he likes you by asking him yourself or getting a friend to ask him. Either that, or you could tell him that you like him. I mean, he might not know... it won't seem desperate. You like someone, you want them to ask you out, and you ask if they like you. It won't be that big of a deal.

Of course, if you're the outgoing/romantic type of person, you could always just lean in and kiss him randomly one time while walking home. I always thought that'd be cute. Then tell him you like him. See what he says.

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Ok im 13. I have a boyfriend but..i always so nervous around him, like i dont know what to say and i dont want to say something stupid or embarrasing. We aren't in the same class and we dont live near eachother so we don't even really see eachother much. Then in school he won't come over to me and i can never find him and when i do see him he's always with this girl Deena and her boyfriend Jeff. I really wish i wasn't soo nervous to talk to him and we could be closer and hold hands and hug. What should i do?
Signed ~Lemontwist

I'd probably talk to him more... he sounds kind of shy. And he's your boyfriend, so he probably wouldn't be all 'uh, I hate you, go away.' .. and seriously, you're always going to be nervous about talking to someone you like... just push it to the back of your mind. Invite him to go some place with you, and if you want to get 'closer' make the first move.

At least say hi to him in the hallway.. as long as Deena has a boyfriend, she shouldn't be much of a problem/care.

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Hey,
well my mom has been reading this book "the rules" and my friend told me the rules of dating and she told me about it and i was like "that cant be right!" so now i'm totally flipping out cause i sorta do the opposite, and no guy has asked me to the prom this year and everyone has to go with someone, and i dont want to be with someone that picks their nose.. you know? so i need some flirting, relationship, ect. advice. Even though i'm really good at giving advice to other people, i cant for myself which is sorta weird.. well please help. I'll rate high!
oh and also if anyone needs advice, i'm here. Thanx!

*Jill*

Be yourself, talk to more guys, and remember that nose picking is a habit that you can make them break (at least for one night).

The nicer you are, the more likely you are to get dates to places... I don't really know what to tell you. Maybe you could go as friends with one of your guy friends?

You shouldn't flip out over what one book or person tells you to do. I've never heard of "The Rules of Dating"... I mean, why follow the rules if they're not for you? I've had plenty of dates (in my whole life, 9 boyfriends) and I never followed any type of rules.. I just tried to have a good time.

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For guys- What physical turn-offs do you have in girls? I know personality is what REALLY matters, but the reason you go to try and learn a girl's personality is because they look nice, neat, and well-kept. SO what do you think?

Once again, I have bugged the crap out of my brother and guy friends to make them talk. This is what they said thier turn-offs were:

-Odor
-Too much make-up
-Fried Hair
-Too much acne
-Obesity, or, as so tastefully quoted "being more than a bit pudgy" lol
-... Teeth(?)
-Voice counts, apparently, but I'm not sure if that's physical...

There are probably more reasons, they just won't talk about it because I am a girl. Or a sister.

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I NEED HELP!!!!!!!!!!!i am in love w/ this guy named Travis...we have been "Friends With Benefits" 4 quite a while now...he knows that i luv him...We say "I Love U" EVERYTIME that we r on the fone together...he treats me like a PRINCESS...last nite he told me that i was like a sister 2 him.....i was CRUSHED....i cried myself 2 sleep.....he is my EVERYTHING!!!!!....i dunno what 2 do....i feel like giving up on EVERYTHING...including life....I NEED ANYBODIES HELP!!!!!!
*~*~*~*Emmy*~*~*~*

O_o friends with benefits AND a sister? You're just filling multiple rolls here, lol.

You should definently try to talk to him about it. It sounds like you're close, so it shouldn't be too weird talking about personal problems.

My best friend and I were like that. I had this HUGE crush on him... and we tried dating. But I dumped him. And it went something like that, on and off... He's like, the nicest guy I ever dated, seriously.. but I began to realize that it wasn't going to go anywhere besides friendship... and I talked to him about it. Then I realized that we had chemistry.. but no destiny. (hahaha, I know it's corny, but it's true) Sometimes giving up is the best thing you can do. He still treats me like he'd treat his girlfriend, but I learned not to take it to heart.

If you really feel like giving up on life, I suggest therapy, though it's not for everyone, it's helped a lot of people I know. For help getting over this guy... well, become busy. Get a job, volunteer, whatever. Chances are, you'll meet another guy there anyway. (Sorry it was so long!!!)

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mkayy sooo i think that i like this guy and hes really sweet, but idk if he lieks me too. i mean sometimes i think he does and then there are ohters when i think he doesnt. what should i do? PS weve been pretty good friends since the beginning of tthe year if htat helps any

There is pretty much only one way to figure out if a guy likes you. That's to ask him if he likes you (or get your friend to do it). Or you could tell him you like him. I think those are definently the two best ways...

It's cool that your friends. Even though it might be awkward for a little while after you ask/tell him (if you decide to take my advice), everything will eventually go back to normal. At least that's what happened with me and my best friend. This is basically my philosophy when it comes to dating:


You never know until you try, so why not try?

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There is this boy that I am crazy for. I've been getting to know him very well now and he is great. And I know he feels for me but I don't think he's attracted to me. What are some little ways to flirt and flounce around him to come across as more attractive?

I have interviewed a number of sources (aka: my brothers and my best guy friends) and this is what they told me:

- Smile. Not so much as where you seem a little crazy, but enough so that he knows your interested.
-Blush. It's just plain cute.
-Wear your hair differently. Ask him if he likes it. Then smile. (lol, they're such losers!!)
-Laugh. Even at his horrible attempts to make a joke.
-Get close to him. Lean forward when you're talking. Whatever.
-Ask him to do something for you. When he does it, give him a hug as a reward. (Once again.. such losers....)
-Tell him you like him. (wow... they actually gave good advice! *shocked*)

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