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Hey I don't know what to do. I am torn in half, not knowing what to do! Ok let me explain. I am 10 going on 11and I am going into middle school. I have 2sets of friends. The first set of friends have been with me for 5 years, Ariana and Ariel. Ariel introduced me to Ariana on the first day of school in my new school. They were my first friends in my new school. At first Ariana thought i was going to steal her best friend. After a month she relized I meant no harm and took me in. Although i was part of the group, i felt like a third wheel. they had knowwn eachother scince the day ariel moved into her house right across the street from ariana. Then in 4th grade, I was in a class without Ariel or Ariana. I had started to hang out with Elaine ,who I'd also known scince the first day of school but wasn't really close but now was in my class, and Laura , Elaine's best friend. Again I felt like a third wheel. In the beginning in 5th grade my older sister had snuck out and gotten drunk. She got arrested. My mom told me and I started crying. My mom told me she would only be gone for a day and I calmed down. I went to school and tryed to control myself. I accidentally let my tears fall in class and rushed to the bathroom. There in the restroom were Ariel and Ariana. They asked me again and again what happen but I wouldn't budge. They eventually said that they wouldn't let me leave until I told them. I did. They slap sweared they won't tell anyone yet the next day ally was telling everyone what happened. I asked her who told her and she said Ariel. I was furious. I stopped talking to them.elaine found out from other kids and only told laura.The day after that Ariana's mom dropped by and said she had to pick up Ariana's jacket that she left here. When my sis opened the door she was so surprised to see her she HUGGED her which is rare scince she doesn't hug anyone. Q:Hmm why would she come then to pick it up when I told her about it weeks ago? A: Ariana told her MOM. They both told someone when Elaine and Laura didn't tell ANYONE. The whole thing blew overand set 1 apologized a million times. Now it is back to the way before but now I have to pick between set 1 and2. Before you think I should choose set 2 listen to this: during the time I was furious at set 1 I was giving set 2all the juicy info on how much I hate them. After a while, I calmed down and told set 2i didn't mean what I said about set1. 2 months later, I hear word that Ariana got tp. She told me on their doorstep was a paper that said love ally. She said that she was framed because that week she was in France. Half a month before I hear that elain tells me she was going tping and she was going to put a paper that says love ally on the person she's tping doorstep. I asked her who she said i don't them. Why would Elaine tp Ariana when I was convinced they were the mature ones and the kids I should be friends with?why did she lie to me? Why would Ariana and Ariel also tell people?? HELP!! Ps. Elaine and Laura sort of make me jealous but they don't try to. (link)
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Yep, stupid drama.
Girls bond with other girls by sharing secrets. Even Elaine told someone, even if she didn't tell everyone. And you behaved just as badly as everyone else when you were giving out all that juicy info.
You are all a bunch of rotten teenage brats, if you ask me. But I'm grouchy and old.
Whatever. Google "first world problems".
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My boyfriend enjoys porn, and I have no qualms with that. But im finding more and more that instead of coming to me for sex or other things he will just browse porn instead. I make it more than clear that i want him, a lot. I'm not sure how to approach the situation because I don't want to sound like the bitchy girlfriend that doesn't allow porn, but I'm really not like that. I just want to be the one that he goes to if he has those needs. I wouldn't mind if he used porn if i turned him away or something but it's like I'm his second choice. We have a good relationship otherwise, it has ups and downs, and when we do have sex it's great. So, what to do?
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Go visit yourbrainonporn.com
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I am only 10going on 11and I have the worries and stress of an average teen! First off we are NOT poor! My mom is a doctor and my dad is a pharmacist. They don't have to pay for childcare cause my dad works when my is off.i have literally clothes that would be considered " babyish" for a 7 year old. I have very little clothes. Please don't think I'm a spoiled brat who is complaining when she doesn't get what she wants. In 2nd grade rumors were going around because if my clothes.everybody expet for my 2 friends looked at me like a was a monster. This has been going on scince then, but I try to ignore it. I am willing to pay for it from my own $but my mom says I have enough clothes. Am I crazy for wanting more clothes??am I ungrateful? According to my mom I am. HELP??? (link)
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People always respond better when you ask them for something specific. Instead of asking for "some clothes", work out what items you want and ask for that.
I don't know anything about clothes, but the other advice you have been getting about simple pieces that work with everything sounds like good advice, and grown-up.
Do you go to the mall? (Duh, of course you do) Maybe choose some items, and keep track of the prices.
BTW: just because you are "not poor" doesn't mean money doesn't matter - you probably don't know what your parent's money situation actually is. The main problem with buying clothes for someone your age is that you grow out of them so quickly.
Other option is to ask your parents for an amount they think makes sense - no, I don't mean for them to hand you some money, I mean for a budget. Choose some stuff keeping in that limit, and then go say "this is what I would like". Bonus points if you choose a time period, like "amount for stuff to wear to school until winter", maybe.
Window-shopping with a budget in mind is great practice for life later on.
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I am a 21 year old female, and I'm having a really hard time reaching orgasm without using vibration.
I know it's possible. Which brings up a second part to this question as well that I'm actually really embarrassed to explain.... I'm a total freak in bed. I LOVE having sex - ANY kind of sex. And I'm really enthusiastic about it too; I arch my back, I moan and breathe strongly (I don't scream at the top of my lungs, or anything), and any act I perform I put my all into it. I genuinely enjoy pleasing a guy and myself, except, I can't please myself. Not truly. Unless I use vibration. So could it be that I'm defective, or because I feel like I don't have the right person to be the one to do it? Because I feel like I'm never on an equal playing field with who I sleep with. I say what I want from him, but he's either intimidated or just can't do it. Don't get me wrong, making love is great but I find it so much more sexy to be thrown around and fucked like a dirty whore. If I find someone who feels the same way about sex could I possibly orgasm? The best way to try and explain it is that I can only do so much on my part. And do you think I should go for older guys in hopes that they know what they're doing? Like 10 or maybe even 15 years older? I just feel like I have this inner vixen that has yet to truly be let out and maybe that's why I haven't been able to orgasm. Like maybe if I find the right guy to tap into it and bring it out I won't have this problem anymore. I want to handle and be handled. Dominate and be dominated. But I seem to freak guys out with how sexual I become. Either all of that applies, or I'm just not able to orgasm.
So: Am I "defective"? What are some ways to try and orgasm? Or should I find someone older, more experienced and compatible with my style of sex, and be willing to do what pleases me to see if that might work? (link)
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It's pretty common for women to not orgasm from PIV sex. Don't know why you are here on advicenators - this topic has been done to death over the past 20 years by people that actually know what they are talking about. A basic internet search will get you more advice than you could possibly use.
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well im female/19.
Me and my ex boyfriend are still in contact were still friends, and well we have them conversations where we always talk about the past, like we bring up memories and our sexual experiences together..
we've spoke about us having sex again, he was the last guy i had sex with to be honest.. and well we both want to do it would it be wrong? cause inside it's something i really want to do and i would o it over and over again, like i know it would be just sex but since he's my ex we both know what we like, and I have that feeling that by us having sex feelings would be there he once said it himself..
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I don't know what "wrong" means in this context. It depends on why you broke up.
But yeah, it will mean that you are back on again. Most people agree that sex with the ex is a bad idea. Why not hook each other up with a friend?
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I am a black female, so keep this in mind haha. I want to grow my hair out, but I don't know where to start. I am cuban also but my hair texture is that of any normal black person. I don't know where to start any suggestions that pertain to my hair is welcome. Thank You! (link)
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I wasn't aware that growing hair required any special effort. People have been doing it for aeons without special protein shakes or scalp massages.
The nice thing about hair is that if you find you don't like it longer, you can always arrange to have it made shorter again.
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Okay i will be going into college in 2 years, and i Really want to study for a field agent, but my boyfriend doesn't agree with me. He wants me to have a job where i can spend some time with him, and our future kids. He says i need to find a job where i'm going to have time for him, and be able to spend time with the kids, not a job that i will probably never be home, or always have to travel places and blah, blah, blah. We are planning to get married and have children, but anyways. I really want to become a field agent, and i don't know if i should look for another career to satisfy him, what should i do, i don't want him feeling sad ???. : /
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If you want kids, then you will want another career to satisfy *you*.
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Ever since my period ended (started July 22), I've been having the weirdest symptoms. I did have unprotected sex with my husband. But it was only a few days after my period ended in the "safe zone", cycle day 7. I don't ovulate until next week (or so they say - 30 day cycles). But I've been having ovary pains, very light cramping, no discharge! (which is bizarre for me), headaches, slight stomach aches, armpit pain, and sore breasts. I feel like my hormones are out of wack. Could unprotected sex cause this? I don't know what else it would be. I don't get my period until Aug 19. (link)
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And yet another couple discovers that the rhythm method simply doesn't work.
Welcome to motherhood.
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My mom complains about me sitting round the house all dau but NEVER lets me hangout with my friends! Is that bs? (link)
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Is this just over the summer vacation? It's summer in the USA, right?
Meh. I sympathise - women can't bear to see a guy kick back and relax, you know? To late to nail down a summer job. If you are going to do that, then you need to have organised it well in advance.
Look - you are going to leave home one day, right? Strike out on your own? Well, it's a fine time to learn to cook, maybe do a little housework. You could crack the books and study a bit for the upcoming year. Learn a martial art. Work out!
But realistically, all you can really do is put up with it for another few weeks. Them's the breaks.
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I know i'm not crazy & I don't want people to think I'm crazy. I hear voices talking to me & I feel like there's an evil spirit around me. I hear loud evil noises & when I was 10 years old, an evil spirit even said my name. It scared me but I didn't tell anyone cause I know they wouldn't believe me.
The doctors don't believe me, my parents don't believe me, they think that this is all in my head & that I just have some mental disorder. I even see evil spirits around my house moving around on the walls.
When I was at my grandma's house I heard something evil whispering to me & I go scared and shook for days
I can't sleep either, sometimes I have sleep paralysis. I'll be awake in my room & freeze up, then start hearing voices. I can't talk or move either. I hear voices all day.
I don't understand why nobody believes me or thinks that evil spirits are real. The doctors I went to told me I have psychosis. They just want to tell me it's all made up & I'm being delusional. These voices & spirits scare me. They are always around me & I hear them. These are demons trying to get me!
I don't do drugs or drink alcohol. No one will listen to me or believe me. I believe these voices are REAL
How do I get rid of evil?? (link)
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You have a serious case of schizophrenia. You badly, badly need antipsychotic meds. If you want to "get rid of evil", nothing else works.
You need to ride the denial-anger-bargaining-depression-acceptance curve and come to terms with the fact that you are mentally ill. It can't be cured, but it *can* be managed.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for quite a while now. We're very in love and getting our own place soon. We both work full time jobs and he talks about wanting to marry me all the time.
For the last two weeks I had been staying at his apartment pretty much 24/7 but yesterday when he went to work I went home because I felt weird knowing that his parents knew I'd been there so much and I didn't want them to think I was living there and using him. He begged me to come back over last night and I didn't (because I wanted to show his parents I wasn't living there ,his parents pay for his apartment which is outside their house).
I explained all of that to him and he was okay with it after some convincing. Then tonight after I got off of work I waited around for him to get off because I was supposed to go back over to his place. He texted me a couple hours later "I just got off work and I'm heading home!" Immediately I got angry.
I don't understand why he always goes straight home and it makes me mad when he does because it makes me feel like he doesn't want to do anything he just wants to go straight home.
I'm always the one driving to him but he never wants to drive to me so it takes me an hour and a half to get to work and an hour and a half to get back and if I go to his place another hour which takes up a lot of gas even though I have a hybrid. I fill up pretty much every week because of it and it's costing me a lot of money too.
Whenever I ask him to come my way he says "I don't have enough gas for that" or "It takes a lot of gas to do that" and I feel like there's a double standard. It's okay to him for me to use lots of money on gas to see him but not okay for him to spend a lot of money on gas to see me?
I feel like I shouldn't really be mad but it always upsets me when he says that. Especially since he only lives ten minutes from his work place and pretty much everything else for him is really local where as he's 30 minutes away, one way and my job is 90 minutes away, one way.
It's not just that either. I often get angry when he works days I have off or when he has days off that I work. Today I got home around 6 and he got home around 8 so I was already thinking wow it's already 8pm I probably shouldn't go over there it's too late now unless I stay over since I have to work tomorrow and he has the day off.
He also won $1k a month ago and blew it all on an ipad mini and his car and I felt as if he should have saved part of it towards his share of wherever we move into or towards a cheap engagement ring and I'm still mad about that though I haven't told him that.
How can I not be so clingy? I'm just so in love with him that I want to be his world 24.7 because he's mine and I know that's wrong and selfish...
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He is exhausted after work, and this makes you angry. He is short of cash, and this makes you angry. He does shift work, with days on and off that he doesn't have any say in, and this makes you angry. He spends money on himself that you think he should be spending on "us", or on a ring for you, and this makes you angry.
And he's thinking of moving in with you?
What a fool.
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Hi, 20/M
Me and my girlfriend (all but name) have been going through a rough patch recently.
I saw some messages on her phone at like 1am from a guy that she was introduced to at work. He sent her a pic of herself, and sent messages like "I'm not the type of guy that has sex with just anyone". I told her that I saw them, and it really upset me. Not only do I find it to be inappropriate to be texting someone else at 1am, but what really upset me was that I left hers, because she claimed to be too tired, at 12am.
We spoke and she apologised, and she said she didn't see it like that and understood why I was upset.
There is also this other guy, who is the boyfriend of a mutual friend. We went to a BBQ a while ago, and I kept telling her that he was flirting with her. I then saw messages from him, on her fb, at 1am, with him telling her that "she's cute".
Again, we spoke about this and she said that she didn't really it as a problem, and she didn't see it as flirting.
I'm worried that because our relationship status is not public (people just think we're friends), when she is nice to guys that flirt with her, may give the guy the wrong impression i.e. that she is interested, when really she says that she doesn't know the difference between flirting and someone being nice.
It feels now that she has really taken on board what we've spoken about before. But do I have anything to worry about? Is it inappropriate for a girl to be like that with another guy? My friend says yes, but my girlfriend just happens to get on better with guys than girls (I also get on better with girls than guys).
What also confuses me is that sometimes she will say "I can't just stop talking to them, thats rude" or "He helped me with my job application, I can't make it look like I was using him" which to me sound like excuses.
I just don't know what to think. Am I being paranoid, stupid, and jealous? Or are her actions inappropriate? I of course want her to have friends, but why am I being so paranoid when it comes to these two guys? Is it just because it happens to be that they were flirting? Or am I going to carry on being like this with every guy friend she has?
I should reinforce that our relationship is fine apart from that. She loves me, and I love her. She hasn't physically cheated on me. It's just this messaging. (link)
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Not sure what "worrying" means. Yes, your g/f is sexing other guys. She has been doing it the entire time you have been together. It's what women do.
This secret relationship of yours - why so secret? More importantly, whose idea was it that it should be? Her's I'll bet. And the reason why is pretty straightforward.
Try this for an experiment - stop supporting her financially: free rent, car, paying her bills, groceries, tuition, whatever. How did I know you were doing that? 'Cause I'm psychic, that's how.
Stop giving her money, and you will find out very, very, very swiftly where you stand.
Sorry man, but best you find out sooner rather than later.
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Hey, um I'm a girl obviously, but I have been thinking lately. Why am I still single? I mingle and everything but is there something wrong with me?
Short description of me:
I have realist standards for guys, not expecting some 10 or perfect romeo or even a 8inch. I'm looking for someone who I am reasonably compatible with, and has the same morals. Is decent, clean and is just into me. I am decent looking, though many of my friends (including strangers and men) have said I am beautiful, though I really am just decent and normal. I'm not uptight and sometimes my beer does get the best of me, but I don't smoke nor am I a heavy drinker unless I am at a rave. I'm 25 fresh out of college, but put together and I am in med school. I want to finish school before I am marry and I do want to have kids, but then again I'm not sure.
Is there something wrong with me? Am I actually too uptight or too, I don't know, do I have high standards? I'd just like a man who has his assets together and can provide. I am just lost by society and it's love honestly. (link)
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So. You get drunk at raves, you are 25, and I imagine you are sexually active (because any young woman who isn't a hog is, and because you think about penis size), and you want a dude with money.
Truth is - most young women *say* they just want someone normal, but in reality they are all competing for the top 5% of rich guys or players.
Apart from being decent looking, what do you have to offer? If a guy goes with you (marriage, LTR, whatever) will his life be better or will it be worse? This wealthy guy with the 7.5 incher - why would he tie himself down to you, in particular?
I'll bet that you are simply on the hunt for someone to pay off your student loan debt. It's pretty common. The bad news is that guys with enough money to do that who aren't either a) aware of how the marriage laws work, or b) already paying off a quarter of a mill after marrying someone just like you are getting pretty thin on the ground.
It's getting so bad that you may have to consider working for a living.
Sorry.
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Hi , Im 13 years old , & Im 5'6 & I weigh 256 pounds . I am WAY over weight . I cannot go to dieting because I have a physical in one month so i NEED to loose weight before I go off the charts and I dont want him to yell at me . I literally just started making myself puke to loose weight . How long will it take for me to be average weight ? (link)
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Not wanting someone to yell at you is 100% the wrong reason to not want to be rocking a BMI of 41. And having the attitude that you just need to do it for one month … kid, you know you are going to live badly and die young, right?
A far, far better plan would be to set a *realistic* goal for *next year* and begin working on that goal. (doing this will also stop the yelling).
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(Yes I'm aware this isn't a "food" site but this is really my only option. Sorry if this question offends/bothers anyone in any way.)
Hello, so I'm a new vegan and I don't really know what to eat... I know to avoid animal products such as meat, milk, etc., but I'm finding it very hard to find foods.
I'm not really much of a "cook" person, but I suppose I can be. Can you all help me with some recipes, vegan name brands, and stuff to eat? I already eat fruits and things. Thanks :) (link)
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You are going to have trouble following a special diet if you are not a "cook" person. Buying preprepared, processed foods kinda defeats the purpose. Boiling some pumpkin and mashing it is not that hard. Neither is slicing a tomato, adding salt, pepper, and fresh basil and putting it on some appropriately vegan bread substitute.
If you're determined to feed the processed food business, go have a look at tinned soup. Read the labels, and get familiar with what the numbers mean.
But seriously - learn to boil, and maybe fry w/ some olive oil. It ain't rocket science.
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Does losing your virginity mean that you've had a man's penis enter you or is it only when your cherry pops? I just had sex I guess but I did not orgasm, nor did my cherry pop but he came sooo? (link)
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It doesn't matter. Unless you were going to have sex just this once, ever. However you lawyer the word "virginity", sooner or later (I'm betting on sooner) you will lose your V-card.
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i have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years almost 3 and we have made out many times and i was thinking what can i do to make him ejaculate faster other then giving him a blowjob or handjob.any help please? (link)
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Dragonfly - if this person is not keen to give hand or head jobs, she isn't going to be massaging anyone's prostate any time soon.
OP: generally speaking, if you want a guy to ejaculate, you have to touch him on the penis.
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My mom went to a heart doctor and he said that she has an artery clogged in her heart and in her neck. He said it was plaque. She smokes & she says that she's going to quit, she's been trying to eat healthier and she exercises a couple of times a month. Can it be unclogged by surgery or something? Can she die from it? (link)
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I'm sorry, dude.
It seems that they can be unclogged with surgery, but it's a major deal. And yes - you can die from it or worse (there's worse things than dying: living with the aftermath of a stroke can be one of them).
Depending on how bad it is, your mom is in for a rough time.
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Hi, so I went in for an interview a couple of weeks ago for Walgreens and he gave me the drug test sheet to take and I had to wait for the drug test to come back. The interview went well. After they received the results, he then called me to let me know that there isn't enough budgetting for me to start working yet since the people who were suppose to leave haven't left yet. He said hI got the job and he would call me back when there was available hours and it's been a whole week since he called. I was beginning to worry that I really didn't get the job...so I called him and I found out that he will be getting transferred to another Walgreens. It sounds like he's also one of the three people who are leaving. What is going on? He's the hiring manager that hired me, and if another manager comes in for him I don't really have a connection to work there anymore. Should I start looking for a different job? Or wait? It's been a couple of weeks and I really need to start working. I get depressed if I don't have anything to do. (link)
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This is pretty standard for minimum-wage employers. They have people leaving without notice all the time - just plain not turning up for work - so they keep people on the books so they can call someone who has already been cleared to work when this happens.
IOW: there isn't a "the job". There's people leaving and starting up all the time. They checked you out and ok'ed you.
If you like, read the book "Nickel and Dimed".
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Why when I'm going out blood coming out and have a pain on the inside of my stomach on the right habd side (link)
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Appendix? Whatever it is, it's serious. Doctor/hospital, pronto!
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