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An actual decent girl ?
Hey, um I'm a girl obviously, but I have been thinking lately. Why am I still single? I mingle and everything but is there something wrong with me?
Short description of me:
I have realist standards for guys, not expecting some 10 or perfect romeo or even a 8inch. I'm looking for someone who I am reasonably compatible with, and has the same morals. Is decent, clean and is just into me. I am decent looking, though many of my friends (including strangers and men) have said I am beautiful, though I really am just decent and normal. I'm not uptight and sometimes my beer does get the best of me, but I don't smoke nor am I a heavy drinker unless I am at a rave. I'm 25 fresh out of college, but put together and I am in med school. I want to finish school before I am marry and I do want to have kids, but then again I'm not sure.
Is there something wrong with me? Am I actually too uptight or too, I don't know, do I have high standards? I'd just like a man who has his assets together and can provide. I am just lost by society and it's love honestly.
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So. You get drunk at raves, you are 25, and I imagine you are sexually active (because any young woman who isn't a hog is, and because you think about penis size), and you want a dude with money.
Truth is - most young women *say* they just want someone normal, but in reality they are all competing for the top 5% of rich guys or players.
Apart from being decent looking, what do you have to offer? If a guy goes with you (marriage, LTR, whatever) will his life be better or will it be worse? This wealthy guy with the 7.5 incher - why would he tie himself down to you, in particular?
I'll bet that you are simply on the hunt for someone to pay off your student loan debt. It's pretty common. The bad news is that guys with enough money to do that who aren't either a) aware of how the marriage laws work, or b) already paying off a quarter of a mill after marrying someone just like you are getting pretty thin on the ground.
It's getting so bad that you may have to consider working for a living.
Sorry.
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Don't settle for less. The decent guys are out there. They're just harder to find, like looking for a needle in a haystack. So maybe start by looking in places where you might have something in common.
Have you dated much at all? Do you have any ideas of what you are looking for in a guy and what you want to avoid? You can't overthink this...its an important part of dating and finding a relationship, being able to recognize qualities you are looking for in a guy you haven't met or been introduced to. So become a very observant people watcher. Once you think you have a prospect, start talking to the guy. You're gonna have to make the first move because most the decent guys are going to think they are out of their league. My 2nd husband of 4 years still shakes his head and can't believe that he out of all the men out there, got me!
When you have the kind of looks that dont just turn the eyes of the percent who like a particular look, but the kind of looks that catch the eye of closer to 100% of the guys, they will feel that you're reaction will be that they are beneath you. Guys worry about their looks, and personality and what they have and own and such and feel that most women won't even look at them twice. And yet there;s a great chance that there many prince charmings in this group and they just don't realize it. So make the first move girl, and good luck!
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I told my friend once, 'Just use common sense'. He replied,'But common sense isn't that common anymore'.
Thats the porblem here. You sound mature, intelligent, and good-looking! But maybe guys are just to shy. Who wants to be turned down by the pretty girl in medical school? Guys aare too busy not using thier sense on the smart girl. They're 'picking the rotten apples on the ground'. Don't lower your personal standards, though! That's even worse! Maybe try to make the first move, ask the guy you really like out to a baseball game, or a concert, or... you get my drift. Good luck!-- hope I helped.
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