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im gonna lose my virginity in february, what do i do?
im going to lose it in february. i told my boyfriend i wouldn't do it with him till we were together for a year, that do i need to know? are there any ways i can make it more comfortable, or make myself look good for this, should I buy lingerie? tell me what i should know? we have a gentle relationship so im not planning on crazy sex or anything !
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Honestly, you dont sound extremely ready. Don't just have sex because 'its part of a plan'. But.. if you say so.. Ok. Guys like langerie, and, of course, wait until Valentine's Day. You could set the mood by inviting him over and having a nice dinner and then say, 'Do you mind if I go freshen up? thanks.' and wink. tell him he can wait in your room while your getting ready. And make sure you both say I Love You. It's like a rule. Sex is about love, not 'Doing it'.--- hope I helped.
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Sounds a solid relationship and attitude. It will almost certainly feel more comfortable if you are physically and mentally as relaxed as possible. You should feel at ease with a guy who's been around 12 months. You'll no doubt be a little tense first time, a little nervous and of course you'll be excited sexually. But being at ease with him and trusting him will help no end. Be sure to enjoy lots of foreplay first, so that you feel nice and wet and, well...ready physically. I'm sure you know what I mean. Don't rush. A gentle relationship? Sounds very promising! Knowing he'll treat you with respect and with care is another big plus. Naturally, sex = fertility = pregnancy. You absolutely must sit down beforehand and thoroughly discuss contraception. Meaning he'll need to use a condom, and use it properly. It must be in place before any sort of penetration and stay in place until it's all over, completely. It can be a bit difficult to discuss maybe, in cold blood as it were, before things really start to happen. But it's essential. A big bonus is that any anxiety and fear of unwanted pregnancy will be removed, or at least very greatly reduced, which means you'll be much more relaxed physically and mentally. Which we've discussed already. Looks? You might want to make-up lightly, fix your hair nice...or you might not. Depends on the woman. A dab of your favourite sexy perfume can't go a miss. Lingerie? Again, some women really enjoy wearing pretty lingerie and find it makes them feel special. Some don't. If you're a 'do' then 'do' by all means. I'm sure he won't object! Basically, anything that makes you feel more confident and generally 'sexy' is good. If you feel a bit self-conscious or silly in glamorous lingerie...don't. Hope I've given you a few ideas or things to think about. Hope too it feels really special for both of you. You'll almost certainly be nevous, but it doesn't have to be a traumatic ordeal first time. Shouldn't be, in fact. And you can't say you're rushing into it. Best wishes.
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Look at the site I have put below. This site has good advice for someone thinking of having sex for the first time. You and your boyfriend should look at it together.
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