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One person can make a difference and every person should try.
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Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
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Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
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Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
Dream what you dare to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be.
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'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
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Ok this is my question iv been with my girlfriend for 10 mounths and i want to tell her something tht would make her love me even more but idk wat to say help me out
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I could tell you so many nice things to tell her and i can tell you what girls want to hear and what makes them trust you and believe in your love and love you more, and basically, i could tell you just about anything, but i won't, because no matter what i'd say, the only thing that you can tell her that would make her really love you is something is that is coming from you, no matter what it will be, even if its a simple i love you, it must come from you, not from the many quotes and love words i can tell you.
Other than that, try to do something really special for her, something really thoughtful, like something she really wanted and always dreamt of, surprise her.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me.
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I have a Dell and I accidently deleted the Recycle Bin off of my desktop. When I search my computer for it, I can get to it. However, it only shows me what is it in. I can't find a link to create a shortcut so it can go back on my desktop. Help! (link)
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Hey, this just happened to me recently lol
Its simple really, right click on your desktop and then click personalize,a window will appear, and then on the left hand panel, there is a small heading called 'tasks' and exactly under it, you'll find something called 'change desktop icons', click on that, a window will appear,you can select the icons you want it to appear, and select 'recycle bin' , then apply, then ok.
This is applied if your vista system.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck :D
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17/F
Okay, this is hard to explain but I'm going to try..
Last night I was sleeping and woke up in the middle of the night, but I couldn't move my body AT ALL. I could pretty much see around me and I told myself to move my body but I couldn't because it just felt soo heavy and painful. After a minute or two I could finally move.
This has happened quite a few times before, but I want to know what this is. It really freaks me out and I'm terrified when it's happening.
Thank you! (link)
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It's called sleep paralysis, and it's actually quite common. Basically what happens during sleep is your body is paralyzed so that you can't act out your dreams. Your mind is always at work, especially during sleep, but for some reason, whenever your sleep cycle is interrupted, your mind wakes up but your body still remains paralyzed. And then after a few minutes, your whole body wakes up and you can move again.
This is completely normal and yes i know how it feels and i understand you completely, it happens to all people every once in a while.Its really freaky, and for a minute, you think you can't even breath. And if you've studied biophysics or the EEG or biology or whatever lol anything related to what happens during sleep, you'll learn the body paralysis part.
Hope i helped, please be free to contact me if you need anything else. Best of luck.
And here is where I got the answer for you, and it seems like other people wonder about that too ;D http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100301202422AAgNRef
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So I'm 15/f, 5'3" tall, and currently weigh 131 pounds. (I hate even typing that number.) Two years ago, I weighed about 140 and completely hated it, so I starved myself. For about a week, I ate barely anything, but I would never go more than a day without eating at least something, even if it was just one or two tortilla chips. It was more just for the feeling of eating, if you get what I mean. In that week, I lost about 16 pounds (so I was 124) and within the few weeks after that, I got down to 116. I haven't exactly starved myself since for that amount of time, but I do go without enough food some days. I don't want to say I've been comfortable with myself since then, but I've kind of learned to ignore it and pretend I am. But lately, I really can't stand it. I look at my stomach and my butt, and all I see is fat. My friends and sisters (who don't know about my body issues) tell my a lot how skinny I am, but that doesn't make a difference. It kind of makes me just want to starve myself more. I look in the mirror, and I absolutely HATE what I see. I look fat and wide and disgusting. I don't want to see myself like that. I hate not loving myself that way. I'm seriously considering starting to throw up after I eat, but I really don't want that. I can't think of any other way, though, besides just ridding myself of the food. I've tried exercise, but it just doesn't work. Any advice?? Please. I hate this so so so much. (Sorry this is so incredibly long.)
PS- I don't eat a lot of junk. I eat fairly well, with the occasional sugary treat. (link)
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Hey, i'm reading this now and i'm just thinking, oh my god, what is she talking about ? she is so not fat, your not even near it. Your fine, your okay, have you seen people who really are fat, have you seen the people like the ones on the 'biggest loser' show? how do you think they feel or what do they do?
And i'm not one of your sisters here, so even if they only tell you that your skinny to make you feel better, i'm not gonna tell you anything just to make you feel better, that's not my job, my job is to tell you the truth, and the truth is that your perfectly fine.
I might understand that you want to look fit and in shape, you can do that by regularly exercising and going for runs and the gym, and you can cut down on any junk, only eat healthy food, and maybe consult a diet doctor, and he could put you on a reasonable diet to make you lose weight in a short time, and it really works if the doctor is a good one. You can also take up a sport or something, cause practicing it regularly will make you keep your fit.
But about starving yourself and considering throwing up after eating, this is just psychological crazy anorexic talk and i'm saying this with all do respect, you DO NOT want to go down this path, cause it will not end well, and bravo for you that you went down till 116 when you starved yourself like crazy,but that's just wrong, thats not something good or to be proud of, and if your parents or sisters DO know about your body issues, they won't be happy about it AT ALL, and if you try sharing your ideas with them ,they'd get really mad ,but you can convince them to see a diet doctor, cause that's the only thing that might make you feel better and make you feel that your making some kind of progress,and maybe would keep your mind away from these ideas, which you really have to let go off before it turns bad, please, trust me.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else or if there are any other updates, please be free to contact me.Best of luck!
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hey 14 f XD
You see I'm a writer..i love writing but I'm worried there not good enough..;/ Like my brother makes me mad because he just started writing and his storys are pretty good..well he's 17 so of course he would be good..but any way u can help me out? Tips? I really love writing..im writing a book now..nd anything will be help full..thanks..
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You should read more books, but not cheesy stories, more like novels and literature and you should also read the news paper, and read about politics and about history, you have to be knowledgeable in different aspects. And maybe you could join some kind of workshops or courses about writing and there are websites for young writers and people actually read your things and rate you and some of these people are experienced writers and authors, so they give you tips and stuff.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me.
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14 f.. bf 16 m
WEll..to start off..my bf isn't a perv, or just want's me for my body. We have been dating for awhile and i know that he doesn't just want me for sex..we both like to talk about it..but it's not ALL we talk about. We talk about how he can't wait until he gets to see me next year, and he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. He acutally proposed to me..its not offical of course...>.< he just asked "dont freak out, but i want to ask you something." So i said " ok?" and he said "what would you say..if i asked you to marry me." My heart started racing and I felt myself get all shaky. i said " i would say yes." than he said So..will you marry me..??" I said " yes." Than he freaked out and was like "omg, finally somone who wants me for me..and who won't ever leave me." Many girls before left him..and one ..;/ his first love..well she died in a car crash..and now he has nightmares of me leaving him. I don't ever want to..but to the question is..i sent a sexy picture to him..he told me i didn't have to at all..and he could wait..but i wanted to..i wasn't naked..i was hidden in his jacket..u could see the middle of my chest thts it. I can trust him with that stuff though..he never broke my trust in anyway. We have been dating for a while now..months..he knows the exact date ..hha I don't remember..i told him thats all im sending nd he said "good because i don't need these.I can wait for as long as you want me to." He's very good to me..we do..have the phone sex..>.< rofl but it was my idea..and it just..happend..We both are sexual like that..and we only share that stuff with each other. He is so much like me it's surprizing. He doesn't have a good homelife..;/ he doesn't have any parents so he lives with his grandmothers and they don't want him. Even though he makes them dinner and cleans the house and what not..he just recently got grounded for no reason..right after making dinner for them. He respects them..and does what they say..he also had a rule where he can't talk past 9..so he has to sneak to call me. ;/ I'm really stuck on this guy i just recently got dentention because teachers saw him hugging me , nd giving me a quick peck after school. He always use to meet me after school, but now he doesn't because he doesn't want to risk me getting introuble because of him. He cried and cried after it ..it really made him feel bad. ;/ You can tell he cares about me..and i wouldn't be the same without him.
Do you think we are doing ok..in our relationship.. ?I always get upset because my parents and his..try to split us up because of our age diffrences..>.< makes us both upset.
please don't be harsh..>.< thanks you.
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Hey,
Okay first of all, why would we be harsh honey? lol
Second of all, there is completely no age difference, so you really shouldn't worry about that, maybe your parents only use that excuse cause they don't want you getting seriously involved when your still only 14, but if you really love each other and you trust him and he really does sound trust worthy and decent, then don't let them get to you, and if you really continue this relationship, your parents will start believing in it, they probably just think your going through a phase.
And third of all and finally, as i was reading the problem and reached the end of it, for a minute there, i was like, so where is the problem, where is the part where i'm supposed to give advice lol Your relationship seems perfect and he seems perfect and a very respectable person ,and he definitely doesn't just want you for your body, cause i know guys who want girls for their bodies, and your guy is nothing compared to them, he is so respectable. But you shouldn't lead him on, don't send any more pictures or anything, when the time comes, you'll do what you want and it will be really special believe me.
And it seems that he really does care about you and really loves you, and cares about you not getting into trouble and about protecting you, and although he has a very bad life, i mean, about his home and stuff, that must be really awful, having no parents and how his grandparents don't want him and treat him like a slave, so you seem like the only good thing in his life, so be there for him and don't let go. He really needs you.
Don't worry honey, everything is okay, and it seems to me like it will be okay for a very long time. Don't create problems out of nothing and don't worry or stress, your perfectly fine and you have a very relationship and a very decent guy :D
Hope i helped. If you need anything else, please be free to contact me :D Best of luck!
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how do you know if your cherry has been popped? like i know you can pop it by rideing a horse or a bike or even putting in a tampon. im a virgin so naturally i think i would have mine still but how would i know if its been poped when i was younger or something? (link)
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Well usually when it pops, there is alot of blood released,and you would've probably noticed that, or if it might've happened when you were really young, than your parents might be aware of it cause they probably would've noticed blood and realized that something happened.
Other than that, the only way is to consult a doctor, a gynaecologist, and he can tell you. I'm not really sure of the mechanism of how they do it, but they sort of put their finger or hand down there and they feel something or they look down there. Its no big deal, simple check up.
Hope i helped. If you need anything else, please be free to contact me.
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do you have a bone in ur vigina like that u can feel? (link)
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If its in the front, its your pelvis, but other than that, nop!
Hope i helped :D
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so im a goalie in lacrosse and i get a TON of bad bruises. my legs are covered in them, and then the brusies i already have get hit again which makes it worse. i wear full equipment, (leg padding, shin guards, etc.) getting bruises as a goalies in inevitable. what i want to know is..
1. Are there serious long term health issues that come with lots of bruising.
2. Is there any advice you can give me on how to make the bruises feel better.
thank you in advance! (link)
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Hey,
I think that you should consult a doctor and discuss with him your worries about this, and he might give you medications, like some kind of ointments or creams, and you could even regularly follow up with him, because seriously, maybe after time,these bruises could progress and get really bad, and imagine if it wouldn't allow you later on to be able to play anymore, I'm really not trying to scare you or anything, but you really never know, and i don't know how bad the bruises are, So you have to be on the safe side. And we can't recommend any type of medication cause we don't have a proper diagnosis.
Please be free to contact me if you need any other help. Best of luck :D
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Heyy, So there this guy that I have seen since september and I always think he's soo cute and some of my friends are firends with him . But I'm not good friendss with them so I can't really just go up and start talking to him. So I have a couple options, tell my friend that i think he's cute and to talk to him for me? Or they are on the track team and so are my friends but there not friends with himbut they know that I think he's cute so they think I should go to track and try out so I can talk to them bout track and well be on the same team, but the thing is... I hate running and I am really bad so I would probly embarrass myself? And if you do say the first one .. What do I tell my friend to say to him to seem I interested but not creepy ?
Thanks
Kaaitlyn (link)
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Hey well, in my opinion, i don't agree that you should let someone talk to him cause that usually might cause problems, like for example, if you never get a reply back cause he's not interested, and then you'd be really upset and you'd be embarassed cause he'd know you think he's cute and he might tell his friends and then you'd start trying to avoid him and stuff. I'm not trying to scare you here or anything, but these things usually happen, or that when you send a friend to talk to him, he falls for your friend instead of you, and i know you probably think this is so movie-like, but its not, it happens in real life, tell me about it.
And i also don't think that you should join the track, cause its something your not interested in, and its really hard and sweaty lol and yes embarassing,never do something for someone! so what you should do is, to go up and talk to him in school when you see him, seeing that you are friends with some of his friends, even if your not close to them, maybe you can get a bit closer to them, and hang out with them, and then when they're with him, you introduce yourself and get to know him, and then later on, he'd recognize you and greet you when he sees you which would develop to small talks and conversations, and you'd get to be friends, and this is the first step, don't jump to conclusions, its never about the appearance, not just cause he's cute, you'd go out with him,sometimes people are different when you know them than when you see them from a distance, so know him first, be friends with him, and then see if you still like him in the same way, and you never know, if it works out, maybe he'd tell you first that your cute and that he wants to go out with you. So take it slowly.
If you need any other help, please be free to contact me. Best of luck.
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in few words, im absouluty in love with this girl. i know she loves me as well. but we split up about 3 months ago. she is now with this other guy. she said she love me and this guy is holding her back. i desprately want to be with her. and she is torn between us two. her current Bf stole her from me. he drew her in by his willingness to rush into a physical relationship. i was a bit hesitant because i wanted it to be specail when it actualy happend. so thats realy it. that wasnt nearly as short as i wanted it to be. (link)
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Look honey,if she really does love you in like the true meaning of love, then she won't be torn between 2 people or she won't have to choose or no physical interaction no matter how good and amazing would make her not be with you. Cause if she loves you, then she'll find being in someone else's hug just not right, and uncomfortable and the sex will just be repulsive and she'd keep thinking of you and seeing you. And also the sex part is not something to stop her from getting back to you, cause i mean, she can do it with you, and it would be even better doing it with the person she loves.
So here is the thing, prove your point that you want her and that you love her and that you wanna be with her, and if she really does love you,she'll come back on her own. But for now, there is nothing you can do about it, and don't blame the other guy, maybe he's a good guy, and he didn't steal her, cause you had already broken up and she agreed herself to date him, so its not stealing, and hey ,i'm not saying she's a bad person either, she might be just confused, maybe after you broke up, her being with someone else was her way of coping with the breakup and moving on and getting over you, cause maybe she didn't think that you'd ever get back together or that you still loved her.
So just prove your point, and if she loves you, you'll get back together, let things fall to place on their own.
If you need any other help or if there are any other updates, please be free to contact me.Best of luck!
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i really like this guy and he is really nie but he doesnt or i dont think he knows who i am..and i am not that strong with boys so i dont know how to get him to like me...? (link)
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Hey there, I just answered an exactly same problem as yours, so i won't tell you to refer to my advice column, but instead i'll copy and paste my answer here.
Well, go up to him and start up a conversation, introduce yourself, get to know him, hang out with him, see what you have in common, see what he likes and what he doesn't, but in a good way you know, not in a stalking way or don't like hover over him all the time, just talk to him as if your making a new friend and getting to know him ,and see what happens then. Sometimes when you actually get to know someone, you find that they're not what you thought they are, its different when you know someone from a distance and when you really know someone, maybe you wouldn't like him anymore, or you wouldn't like him in that way, maybe you'd just wanna be friends with him, you know. So you have to take a step for anything to happen, but if you just stay like this, away in the sidelines, nothing is gonna happen. So give it a shot.
If you need anything else, or if there are any updates, please be free to contact me . Best of luck :D
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im only 13 but all the girls at my school have huge boobs. i dont. so the guy i like wont notice me. should i stuff? or i am thinking of saving for implants. tell me what you think i should do please. (link)
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I think, no no, i'm definitely sure that this guy is not noticing you not because your boobs are small, or that he's noticing others cause their boobs are big. No, no baby it doesn't work this way, it has nothing to do with this. I mean, think of it, there are so many models and celebrities out there who have very tiny boobs, almost a flat surface, and they still go out with the hottest guys ever, and big boobs are not always a good thing. So no, don't think this way at all, i know how you feel, but then i really came to realize that it has nothing to do with this, why have implants and waste your money to just blow your boobs with gas, where they'd look like big balloons which would burst any moment, and no don't stuff anything. The only simple thing is to wear a push up bra or something, that's like the least thing that you could do, and hey u are still a bit young, did you get your period yet, it might still grow more.
And hey, if you want him to notice you, maybe you should go up to him and talk to him and introduce yourself or make conversation ,or get to know him, and if he really does care about the size of your boobs, then he is an a-hole guy and is really low, i mean, later on, do guys marry us according to the size of our boobs? ofcourse not, its the personality which defines us and our heart and our kindness and the things we do, not our looks or boobs.
And you shouldn't even be thinking all these thoughts of actually changing your whole appearance because of some guy you like, you know you might not even like him if you really get to know him. Some people are different when you get close to them than when you know them from a distance.
I advice you against all what your thinking of, and really, try to consider what i said, cause it really doesn't work that way.
Hope i helped, if you need to talk more, please be free to contact me.Best of luck :D
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i really like this kid but he likes another girl .. what do i do =( (link)
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Well, there is nothing much that i can advice you with, cause there is nothing much to do about it, i mean, i could tell you to see why he likes this girl and kind of try to be like her, or try to get closer to him and make him like you and see you more than her, or i could tell you many more things, but that would practically be me telling you to steal him from her, and maybe she already knows that he likes her, and maybe she likes him back, and you just coming in the picture might make her hate you, and then you would just make enemies, and for what, do you know this guy well? maybe he's not all that good when you really get to know him. Sometimes people are different when you actually get closer to them than when you know them from a distance. So just try to let go, just act normal, be friends with him normally, and if there is anything that is meant to happen ,it will happen, but for now, sadly you can't do anything about it, so just try to accept it, i'm sure there are much better guys then him out there who would really love to be with you, and maybe secretly like you while your paying attention to this guy .
Hope i helped, if you need any other help, please be free to contact me. Best of luck :D
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i really like this boy in my class but he doesnt no and his mom was my teacher last year and she never found out.. what should i do!? (link)
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Well, go up to him and start up a conversation, introduce yourself, get to know him, hang out with him, see what you have in common, see what he likes and what he doesn't, but in a good way you know, not in a stalking way or don't like hover over him all the time, just talk to him as if your making a new friend and getting to know him ,and see what happens then. Sometimes when you actually get to know someone, you find that they're not what you thought they are, its different when you know someone from a distance and when you really know someone, maybe you wouldn't like him anymore, or you wouldn't like him in that way, maybe you'd just wanna be friends with him, you know. So you have to take a step for anything to happen, but if you just stay like this, away in the sidelines, nothing is gonna happen. So give it a shot.
If you need anything else, or if there are any updates, please be free to contact me . Best of luck :D
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i was getting fingered by my boyfriend that i am very much in love with, later i walked him to the door and he noticed he had some crusty shit on his fingeres he used earlier. is that normal or am i just extremely nasty? and how do i prevent it from happening again? (link)
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That is completely normal, and no you can't prevent it from happening except if you expect him to finger you without you getting wet, if that's even possible lol That's pretty normal, and i don't know how old are you, so maybe you didn't know about it, but you should know about it. And usually he should wash his hands after doing this, it doesn't leave stains on his finger or causes a smell or anything, its just normal fluids which dries up and becomes crusty. Nothing unusual, and somehow he should like that cause he got you to come, to wet and stuff, so you shouldn't be thinking of preventing this.
Hope i helped, if you need to ask about anything else, please be free to contact me :D
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This guy was telling me i was conceited and not modest for thinking im pretty. Then i told him after years of eating disorders and low self esteem i deserve to be happy with who i am so I AM pretty. he then changed his mind and acted all sympathetic.
Can someone tell me why guys are so absolutely harsh until it comes down to such a serious topic? Why cant they be a little nicer to begin with? :/
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Well i can't really tell you much about this, but this is just something in their nature, they are tough and harsh and sometimes rude and vulgar and say mean things and stuff, but that's just their nature cause of all the things they go through, i mean, their responsibilities and stuff and being manly, i mean, if they didn't be that way, they wouldn't be guys or manly or anything, at least that's what they think, but deep inside they're caring and they think like us and they don't mean anything bad. Some even act in this way just infront of their guy friends, its like between the guys, there is some kind of competition, and the cruelest one is the most manly or the leader of the group, you know, something like that, but between you and him or him and himself, he thinks differently and that is who he really is. So don't let that get to you, all guys are like this, its just their nature.
And to be honest, maybe alot of people would think that someone is conceited to think they're pretty and actually go around saying that they're pretty, but the difference is that he is bold and honest, so he said it out loud to you while others would secretly think it, but usually people think that cause they don't know whats really behind you thinking that you're pretty, i mean, how would he have known that you think that way cause your grateful after all that you went through, so he felt guilty about what he said, i wouldn't really say sympathetic, just guilty, so he acted nicely about it to make it up to you, i'm really sure he didn't mean anything, so don't get mad at him, people usually just blurt out stupid things, it doesn't make him harsh or mean, he really didn't know.
If you need anything else, please be free to contact me.
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I'm a 26 year old female and I just want someone to please tell me what you think! Ok here goes... About three years ago I meet this guy... And real and kinda soon I fell real fast for him... We became inseprable, and I have a daughter that's five and she grew attached to him as well... My family did to and he and my brother became fast friends... We were so in love... And a year later he broke up with me after a argurment... But instead of telling me it was over he decided to just dodge me... He never even spoke to me or my family members... He wasn't even man enough to come to me and tell me how he felt... And my daughter who grew attached to him was deeply hurt... It really took me about over a year to get over him and to this day I still harbor hate and resentment issues towards him... So about 6 months ago I went to enroll my daughter in school... and to my disappointment his mother works there... So I had to run into her... Even though I didn't feel it I was nice and I spoke to her... And until today I really never held a convo with her... I would just see her around in school... But today I had to actually go to her office to talk to her about my daughter missing school... Because she was sick... And his mom is the school nurse... So we begin talking... And she started bringing up his sister... And how she was doing... And then she brought up him... She actually told me that he was getting married... To his exgirlfriend which is his sister best friend and the women that she wanted him to be with all along... She even went as far as to take his fiances picture off her desk and show it to me... Ok now here goes... My opinon of it was that she was super insensitve... She shouldn't have brought that up to my face and it was like she was bragging and boasting about it... It really hurt my feelings because even though we've been broken up for two years now... I still had a small hope that one day we will reunite and now it's totally out of the question... So please someone anyone tell me about this siuation let me know what you think thank you (link)
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I think it was the lowest cruelest act to just walk away and leave you like that, and for what, for an arguement? It doesn't seem to me like the arguement was anything major, cause if it was you would've mentioned it, so him just leaving that way could be of several reasons and i can't assume anything, but maybe he felt too committed and that pressured him and he wasn't ready especially being so close to your daughter and your family, made him feel uncomfortable, like he was married to you or something, and some people have commitment problems. Or maybe something was going on in his life, or he met someone else, or this ex of his and he kind of fell for her so he just walked away on you before he hurt you, or maybe he didn't see the relationship you had the way you saw it, or he couldn't give u as much love as u gave him ... there could be many reasons, or maybe he could just be an a-hole and that's probably it. All what i just told you are simply assumptions, don't take anything personally or into consideration.
And about his mom, somehow i don't feel like she meant to hurt you or rub it in your face, but i think that what she was trying to do was to tell you that he is moving on,and indirectly she's trying to tell you to do the same thing too, maybe she feels bad for you, you never know, she probably had a fight with her son about walking out on you, but its not as if she would take your side against his, you know, so just ignore her, and it was wrong of you to even stand there and hear her say all this or show you pictures or whatever, and you shouldn't even show her that you still care and have hope to get back together with him, you should've told her that you don't care and that your over him and you don't care about his future love life, and with all do respect in a polite manner.
And for you, you should move on, and let go of whatever hope you have, cause that's not gonna happen, and its good that you feel hatred and resentment, cause that will help you get over him, and honestly, what he did just overcomes any good thing you might have had together or any good memories. I know its hard and especially that he got close to your daughter and stuff, but he's just one loser, and there are many other nice guys out there who are much better than him, so don't give up or get depressed or stop your life right there, no, move on and meet new people and someone else, and someone who would really deserve you and you'd be happy with.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck :D
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Heyy guys, I have been with my wonderful boyfriend for three and a half years.. hes great, i cant see me with any other guy, when it comes to being married that is. He is what every girl wants, a sweetheart, nice, caring, everything! But since June we havent been the best.. let me start from the start..
We started dating when I was 15 and he was 17. I never thought it would last as long as it has, the years just flew by. Hes everything I know and ever wanted. I graduated high school in 2009, and this past summer we broke up, got back together,broke up and i dated another guy and we are now back together.
But lately I have been feeling that I was never a teenager, and I missed out on what a normal teenager girl goes through.
Im so confused its unbelievable. I tried talking to him tonight about, and he understands what Im saying, but he says "just live for right now and not worry about the future" but the problem is idk what i want right now. I want to be a normal 18 year old girl.. Going out with her friends, talking to other guys, flirt a little, but at the same time i know when it comes to being married, hes the right guy. I told him I dont want to take a break bc im feeling like this bc im worried he wont be here again.. I told him I wish we didnt find each other soo young..
idk what to do? should we take a break? stay together? im really confused, has anyone had a similar position like this? (link)
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Yup similar position, and been there and done that, it is completely normal to feel this way, and by the way its just a phase and you'll forget all about it, everyone committed to someone, and in a relationship feels that way at one point of the relationship ,and it sometimes usually causes problems, but you shouldn't let it get to you, you should be proud and happy that you are mature and that you are different from the other girls and that you are committed and have a long time relationship and you have the guy that you've always wanted and the guy of your dreams and he's practically perfect, and the thing is, don't cause problems when there are no problems , you know, don't create problems, cause once you lose him, you'll feel so bad in a way that i can't describe, just losing him and being alone, and all those memories and things you had together and they way he was with you and so caring and stuff. And there is nothing called 'taking a break' in a relationship, i don't believe in that, i know its possible and many people do it, but it always causes problems and affects the relationship one way or another.
And hey, do you think he's not missing out on things he likes to do while being with you, do you think he doesn't sometimes miss being single and flirting with girls and being free to do what he wants and hanging out with the guys like he used to, he's a guy for heaven's sake, and guys usually have a wilder single life than girls, but he's okay with missing out on that, cause he likes you and loves you and cherishes you and sacrifices that to be with you, so you should do the same, and i'm not telling you that your wrong for thinking that way, you will probably have to think that way every once in a while, but don't let it get to you, try to see the advantages and the bright side and the love that you are living right now, and that is all much much better than whatever else for a moment you felt like doing, like one outing with you friends, or flirting with a guy or whatever, because even if you do get to do this, it will be just once and twice before wanting to go back to your boyfriend and you'll find that this is not you, but you belong to being with him,and that's where your happy.
I hope i helped, but if you need to talk more or if there are any updates, please be free to contact me. Best of luck!
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i was with my boyfriend for about three years. he is my very best friend in the entire world and ive never been more comfortable with anyone. hes the only person ive ever been with and we make eachother very happy. im in college and my freshman year was great and everything was fine with him, but we spent almost every single day together and were inseperable so i didnt make that many new friends at school. we lived together for a while but i went back to school in the fall for my sophmore year. i really wanted to start hanging out with my friends more and being more independent and it caused alot of problems. we had about a 7 month period where we would fight constantly, break up, miss eachother and decide we can fix the problems, get back together, be happy for a while... and then start fighting about the same things and doing it all over again. finally after about the 5th time of going back i decided that it was the last time. we havent seen eachother in over a month and have barely been talking. since then he has gotten a job and is working full time (which was one of our huge issues), and seems to be doing much better in life. i havent been able to move on and i constantly think about him and miss being with him, and i know he feels the same way. he thinks that him having a good job now will eliminate so many of our issues and that hes in a better place..so half of me is like- you clearly still love him. you loved being with him. you cant move on or think about dating anyone else. you cant stop thinking about him every 10 minutes... so why stay apart??? but then the other half of me is like-- your just going to go down the same road youve been going down over and over, things are going to be great in the begining but they will just end up going back to the fights and getting upset and goign through the whole break up thing all over again. i mean on one hand.. if im thinking about im constantly and missing him so much, then why shouldnt i be with him? on the other hand... is it normal to still be this attatched and effected this soon after a big break up? i just dont know what to do becuase he really wants to see me. he never wanted to break up- it was all me. i obviously want to see him too but im just scared im going to just put myself down that same old cycle and end up regretting it and getting in fights and yelling and all that crying all over again if i do. i dont see myself being with him for the rest of my life, but at the same time i cant get him out of my mind and i miss my best friend. part of me knows that its best in the long run not to go back there, but its hard becuase hes such a big part of my life and i miss it.
what should i do.. (link)
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I don't know exactly what issues you are fighting about, but I don't see any major issues that would make you break down such an amazing relationship, for a minute there, the way you were describing the relationship, and how you're so close to each other it was as if you were married, and the thing about living together for a while, it sounded like you were so inlove and so close, and when this is usually the case, its hard to leave each other or be seperated ,cause you will miss each other cause you were so used to being close to each other, and you'd probably think that your fighting is a very bad thing, but its actually a very good thing cause you are fighting cause you love each other and miss each other, and are jealous when you leave each other, and wonder what each one is doing, and your upset, but your not fighting with bad intentions to cause trouble. And i don't see major problems here, i don't see that someone cheated on someone, or abused someone or whatever, you know. These are just fights coming out of love, and breaking up the relationship is not the solution, but compensating is what you should do. See what upsets him and he should do the same for you, and then compensate for each other, try to change the little things you do. Usually love comes with sacrifices, and it has nothing to do with dignity or respect, its your sacrificing to be with the person you love and to make him happy.
And about the friends part and having no friends, this is so normal, and everyone loses their friends or is seperated from them once they meet ' the one' and the guy and 'their love', and i know it sucks and it feels so bad, and its like your really lonely when even your guy is not around, and that you don't have a best friend to hang out with and talk to and complain to and tell her about your guy and all this stuff, but your guy is your best friend and your brother and your lover, and no matter how lonely you'd get and how bad it feels having no social life, it still feels good and you can sacrifice that just to be with him, which obviously you've already been doing,but didn't notice it except when you went back to school for your sophmore year.
I think you should see him again and maybe talk about it maturely and without fighting, and tell him how your done fighting and you don't wanna have issues with him again,and that you just wanna be with him,and suggest making compensations for each other, cause if you really do love each other, you'll compensate and you won't be able to let go. And that's why i'm not advising you here to move on or date someone else or just forget about him or any of this, because its so obvious to me that you really love each other, and you are meant for each other, and it would just be a waste to let go or break this off, and over nothing major, just little issues that build up to big ones, so find the source of these problems and figure it out, and compensate.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck!
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