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I hate the way I look. So much.
So I'm 15/f, 5'3" tall, and currently weigh 131 pounds. (I hate even typing that number.) Two years ago, I weighed about 140 and completely hated it, so I starved myself. For about a week, I ate barely anything, but I would never go more than a day without eating at least something, even if it was just one or two tortilla chips. It was more just for the feeling of eating, if you get what I mean. In that week, I lost about 16 pounds (so I was 124) and within the few weeks after that, I got down to 116. I haven't exactly starved myself since for that amount of time, but I do go without enough food some days. I don't want to say I've been comfortable with myself since then, but I've kind of learned to ignore it and pretend I am. But lately, I really can't stand it. I look at my stomach and my butt, and all I see is fat. My friends and sisters (who don't know about my body issues) tell my a lot how skinny I am, but that doesn't make a difference. It kind of makes me just want to starve myself more. I look in the mirror, and I absolutely HATE what I see. I look fat and wide and disgusting. I don't want to see myself like that. I hate not loving myself that way. I'm seriously considering starting to throw up after I eat, but I really don't want that. I can't think of any other way, though, besides just ridding myself of the food. I've tried exercise, but it just doesn't work. Any advice?? Please. I hate this so so so much. (Sorry this is so incredibly long.)
PS- I don't eat a lot of junk. I eat fairly well, with the occasional sugary treat.
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You worry too much.
The average weight for 5'3 is anywhere from 115 - 135. So you're still in the healthy range. Maybe 124 would be an ideal weight if you felt like you HAD to loose weight.
Instead of starving yourself, or throwing up, have you considered going vegetarian? I don't mean to sound preachy, but I've always been on the heavy side and when I switched to veg. I've lost 10lbs and have managed to keep it off (and i still eat junk food ocasionally). Meat is high in calories and saturated fat. You might find it helpful if you cut some out for awhile.
Need a plan on what to it?
Breakfast- Quaker Oatmeal. Banana or Orange. Green Tea.
OR Peanut Butter Banana Wrap. Green Tea.
OR 1 unfrosted, choice of flavor poptart, 1 apple. Green Tea.
Snack - Clif or Luna Bar
Lunch - BBQ Tofu (shake n bake is vegetarian) with Lettuce, Veggies of your choice, in Whole Wheat Wrap.
OR Meatless "Meat"balls with Lettuce, and veggies on Whole Wheat Wrap.
Side of carrot sticks/celery sticks with hummus.
Snack - Handful of seeds/nuts.
Dinner - Veggie "Chickn" Strips on a Salad with Italian Dressing.
OR Veggie Burger. 1/4 plate sweet potato fries. 1/2 plate green vegetables.
Anything you want really.
(Drink Milk throughout the day. As well as Water.)
Hope I helped. :]
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Hey, i'm reading this now and i'm just thinking, oh my god, what is she talking about ? she is so not fat, your not even near it. Your fine, your okay, have you seen people who really are fat, have you seen the people like the ones on the 'biggest loser' show? how do you think they feel or what do they do?
And i'm not one of your sisters here, so even if they only tell you that your skinny to make you feel better, i'm not gonna tell you anything just to make you feel better, that's not my job, my job is to tell you the truth, and the truth is that your perfectly fine.
I might understand that you want to look fit and in shape, you can do that by regularly exercising and going for runs and the gym, and you can cut down on any junk, only eat healthy food, and maybe consult a diet doctor, and he could put you on a reasonable diet to make you lose weight in a short time, and it really works if the doctor is a good one. You can also take up a sport or something, cause practicing it regularly will make you keep your fit.
But about starving yourself and considering throwing up after eating, this is just psychological crazy anorexic talk and i'm saying this with all do respect, you DO NOT want to go down this path, cause it will not end well, and bravo for you that you went down till 116 when you starved yourself like crazy,but that's just wrong, thats not something good or to be proud of, and if your parents or sisters DO know about your body issues, they won't be happy about it AT ALL, and if you try sharing your ideas with them ,they'd get really mad ,but you can convince them to see a diet doctor, cause that's the only thing that might make you feel better and make you feel that your making some kind of progress,and maybe would keep your mind away from these ideas, which you really have to let go off before it turns bad, please, trust me.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else or if there are any other updates, please be free to contact me.Best of luck!
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Body image is a hard subject with anyone, girls especially.
First off, your BMI is in a healthy range, so that proves you are not fat.
Secondly, I'm 5'3 and the same weight as you and no one calls me fat.
But I know that it doesn't matter unless you look in the mirror and are convinced of it.
You can easily get a little thinner and more toned. If your like me, then you can just add more cardio and weight comes off pretty easy.
Starving yourself is not going to work. You won't have energy to exercise if you haven't eaten anything, therefore you wont be able to burn as many calories. Boosting your metabolism can be done by eating healthy foods and doing weight training, so starving yourself can actually slow your metabolism over time.
And you can't maintain starving yourself. You cannot consistently live like that. Any weight you lose will come back quickly after you start eating more. Learning to eat healthy and enough to keep you full is whats key.
I suggest doing fun workouts with friends to keep you motivated, like dancing or running outside. Keep a diary of the food you eat each day so you can see where you go wrong. Do resistance exericises or use dumbells to tone up. There are lots of videos on youtube of workouts you can do.
Try to accept your body. Write down what you love about it. Realize that what may seem like a HUGE problem to you might not be noticeable to anyone else. For example, I used to hate my freckles but now people tell me they love them.
Get post it notes and each day write one thing you love about yourself and place it on the mirror. Do this every day until you can't even see your reflection anymore. Then you will only be able to see the true you in the mirror, not your body. Your body is only the shell. I can't express how a good personality and heart is more important. I've come across plenty of "skinny bitches" who people will say they hate despite of how pretty they are. Love that part of you, not the skin, the muscles, the fat, the bones. It won't come automatically but learning to love yourself is probably the most important thing you can do.
Good luck,
-Abby
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well what im going to tell you, you may not really wanna hear, but its the honest truth. i think that you should just be happy with your body your only 15 an 131 pounds is not fat at all. im 18 years old 5'6" and i weigh 160 pounds, so your weight is normal, your not over weight at all. why don't you talk to your parents about this issue, ask them to make you a doctors appt, and you can talk to your doc about the healthy ways of loosing weight if thats what you really want to do, but honestly, your weight should not be your top thing on your mind at 15, be a teenager, and have fun, don't waste time, making yourself sick, because that can just cause major damage to your body, and could send you to the hospital, i know this for a fact i have had friends with your same situation, so please talk with your parents about this, don't take matters into your own hands you could really end up hurting yourself. keep your head held high, talk to your parents, and ask them for help the healthy way, im here for you to talk to if you have anything more to ask or anything, i will help you if thats what you want just don't resort to the unhealthy ways that you have done or are thinking about doing. thanks, princess13
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