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My boyfriend and I..are we alright?
14 f.. bf 16 m
WEll..to start off..my bf isn't a perv, or just want's me for my body. We have been dating for awhile and i know that he doesn't just want me for sex..we both like to talk about it..but it's not ALL we talk about. We talk about how he can't wait until he gets to see me next year, and he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. He acutally proposed to me..its not offical of course...>.< he just asked "dont freak out, but i want to ask you something." So i said " ok?" and he said "what would you say..if i asked you to marry me." My heart started racing and I felt myself get all shaky. i said " i would say yes." than he said So..will you marry me..??" I said " yes." Than he freaked out and was like "omg, finally somone who wants me for me..and who won't ever leave me." Many girls before left him..and one ..;/ his first love..well she died in a car crash..and now he has nightmares of me leaving him. I don't ever want to..but to the question is..i sent a sexy picture to him..he told me i didn't have to at all..and he could wait..but i wanted to..i wasn't naked..i was hidden in his jacket..u could see the middle of my chest thts it. I can trust him with that stuff though..he never broke my trust in anyway. We have been dating for a while now..months..he knows the exact date ..hha I don't remember..i told him thats all im sending nd he said "good because i don't need these.I can wait for as long as you want me to." He's very good to me..we do..have the phone sex..>.< rofl but it was my idea..and it just..happend..We both are sexual like that..and we only share that stuff with each other. He is so much like me it's surprizing. He doesn't have a good homelife..;/ he doesn't have any parents so he lives with his grandmothers and they don't want him. Even though he makes them dinner and cleans the house and what not..he just recently got grounded for no reason..right after making dinner for them. He respects them..and does what they say..he also had a rule where he can't talk past 9..so he has to sneak to call me. ;/ I'm really stuck on this guy i just recently got dentention because teachers saw him hugging me , nd giving me a quick peck after school. He always use to meet me after school, but now he doesn't because he doesn't want to risk me getting introuble because of him. He cried and cried after it ..it really made him feel bad. ;/ You can tell he cares about me..and i wouldn't be the same without him.
Do you think we are doing ok..in our relationship.. ?I always get upset because my parents and his..try to split us up because of our age diffrences..>.< makes us both upset.
please don't be harsh..>.< thanks you.
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Ok I'm sorry that this is harsh, but that's exactly what you need.
first of all, you're 14. There's no way in hell you know what love is
Secondly, marriage? At 14?? WHAT the hell are you thinking?
Please grow up, and realise how silly this is.
I'm harsh, but sometimes you need to be.
This is one of those times.
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you have a very googd man right beside you , you guys car efor each other and love each other too, whoo i wish someone would love me like him lol i you guys are doign the rigth thing i would say ,keep fighting fro him because you two were mean to be together
awwww i feel bad for you guys because you love each other and your two family want to splies you and him, that is just mean, they should try to met with that guy and see what a really greaat guy he is for you
and dont rush, becasue life is long and you have lots of time
you will get a chance with him one of these days, dont loss faith in yourself
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okay girl you got a hella good man someone who puts his life at risk for you dispite the consequences. I believe you need to stick by his side and love each other the best way you can. You guys are pretty mature compared to most relationships here out in the world so keep it going because if you do the you guys will get better and better. I also say that the whole sex thing that you shouldnt rush it because if you do the it might make him uncomfortable...but other then that keep it up..like i said hes a good man and you shouldn let others stop REAL LOVE from happening. Besides its not the age that matters its the thought and time you put in. age is only a number. hope you guys say together and continue to be in love.
Blessings,
tinyxoxo
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Hey,
Okay first of all, why would we be harsh honey? lol
Second of all, there is completely no age difference, so you really shouldn't worry about that, maybe your parents only use that excuse cause they don't want you getting seriously involved when your still only 14, but if you really love each other and you trust him and he really does sound trust worthy and decent, then don't let them get to you, and if you really continue this relationship, your parents will start believing in it, they probably just think your going through a phase.
And third of all and finally, as i was reading the problem and reached the end of it, for a minute there, i was like, so where is the problem, where is the part where i'm supposed to give advice lol Your relationship seems perfect and he seems perfect and a very respectable person ,and he definitely doesn't just want you for your body, cause i know guys who want girls for their bodies, and your guy is nothing compared to them, he is so respectable. But you shouldn't lead him on, don't send any more pictures or anything, when the time comes, you'll do what you want and it will be really special believe me.
And it seems that he really does care about you and really loves you, and cares about you not getting into trouble and about protecting you, and although he has a very bad life, i mean, about his home and stuff, that must be really awful, having no parents and how his grandparents don't want him and treat him like a slave, so you seem like the only good thing in his life, so be there for him and don't let go. He really needs you.
Don't worry honey, everything is okay, and it seems to me like it will be okay for a very long time. Don't create problems out of nothing and don't worry or stress, your perfectly fine and you have a very relationship and a very decent guy :D
Hope i helped. If you need anything else, please be free to contact me :D Best of luck!
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The age is really not that big of a difference, If you were 14 and he was 18..Then it would be wrong.
However, You are young. In my opinion to young to be thinking about "marriage". Sending pictures to your boyfriend that are revealing despite naked not not. I would be VERY careful, You say you trust him and everything but anybody is perfectly capable of showing pictures, videos etc to anyone. If you two have sex I highly recommend using protection or birth control. If he is living with his Grandparents HE has to respect their rules. After all he lives under THEIR roof. If that means not talking after 9pm then that means not talking after 9pm. I think you two have an okay relationship, I'm going by what you said above the only thing I might be so so about is you are young and I don't know how long "awhile" is that you've been dating him but don't rush into things.
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to me honestly you guys are doing good you have what most couples want honesty,trust,and the ability to talk,and care for each other .i think that your parents are just in a protective mood they don't see that your happy the just see an older guy with there young child .i hope that you guys stay happy and that your parents can see that yall be long together.hope every thing works out.
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