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hi im from india. im 25. in my life i have come across many problems. my first love left me, my dad married some other person leaving us alone. then from nowhere i got a relationship. he asked me to love him. i said no. so he tried to kill himself fr two times. so i was forced to b with him. i dont want him to die because of me. but i love some other person now truly but not him.. he came to know that one day.. and started creating problems then. he threatens me to give money or else he ll create problems. mom is so upset with me.. i feel to die. i dont know what to do now.. (link)
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I don't know a lot about your situation but this is just my opinion. I think that if you are unhappy, you need to leave him. If there is no way to fix this situation, then just leave him. You can't be held responsible for what he does. You need to go and be happy with your life instead of being miserable with his life. Go to the guy that you're in love with and be with him. Overall, just find what makes you happy. Don't shackle yourself to someone who is threatening you. GET OUT AND BE HAPPY.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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Hi, I'm a 15yo guy.
Er, there's this girl I really like. But I keep getting mixed signals from her.
Sometimes she's really nice to me, and calls/texts me. And sometimes she just doesn't.
I want to tell her I like her, I just don't know how, or if it's the right thing to do. (link)
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This is just my opinion but if you like this person you should go for it. Tell her how you feel. If there's one thing I've learned about liking somebody is that you can't spend your whole life "admiring from a distance". And telling people you like them is never a bad thing to do if you know the person you like. But if it's a person who has never even talked to you before, then you want to form sort of a friendship or just let that person know that you exist and that you are a good guy. Overall I say go for it because you won't know how she feels about you until you ask.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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there is this guy in my grade that i really like and he use to like me too and he also said it to me and told me he loves me and everything and even when i said no didnt like him back i actually did and now we do not even talk and everything and i really like him but he doesnt like me the same way anymore so is there anyway i can get him to like me the way he did before? (link)
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I always tell people, TELL THE TRUTH! Normally the hard part would be for you to have a crush on this guy and be scared to tell him. But in your situation, that part was done for you! The guy YOU LIKED said HE LIKED YOU! But instead you denied your feelings for him. It's never too late to tell somebody that you like them, but that would have been your perfect chance to tell him when he approached you.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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hi im 12/f well last year me and this guy started datin and we won the competion 4 the cutest couple ever in our school we went out 4 bout 1 year n i broke up with him n i just broke his heart into a billioon peaces he would always cry wen he saw me:( i still have stroooooonnnnggg feelings for him but idk if he feels the same way....... well wehug and he let me wear his hoodies n we hang out a lot but he says he dnt feel n e tin i wanna b wit him so bad.how do i win him back??? :“( thanxs;”) (link)
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Love is such a tricky subject becuase it is unpredictable. One thing I want to know is, why did you let him go in the first place? You have to think about ending the relationship before you actually do it. Especially if you two were in love like you said you were. I can't tell you how to win him back but what you should do is tell him the truth. Let him know that you still like him. Next time you get a good guy, DON'T LET HIM GO! If your feelings were strong for this guy, you wouldn't have broke up with him in the first place. One thing you should know, is that men are capable of emotions and feelings. Men can love just as much as a woman can. But we hide it. He says he doesn't have feelings for you anymore. He may be lying or he may be telling the truth. All you can do is let him know that you're available and that you still want to be with him. If he says no, then move on and learn from this whole relationship. I don't know why you broke up with him, but I know that if I like something I'm not going to let it go because if I do, it may never come back. This reminded me of the saying, "If it ain't broke, don't fix it." So if something is going great in your life, leave it alone. Just enjoy it.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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how do i get a boy i like to stop talking about mean things about me
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Well you can approach him and tell him that you don't like what he is saying about you and that he needs to stop. But most kids don't listen so if need be, you might have to tell an adult. But why do you like him if he says mean things about you? YOU SHOULDN'T LIKE SOMEBODY WHO IS GOING TO TALK BAD ABOUT YOU. I think you can do a lot better than this guy.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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i am ten and i want to start my piriod because all my friends did how do i start my piriod in a day
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I don't usually answer questions like this, but to my knowledge, you can't control when you have your period. It happens on its own. You should do some research or just ask your mom about periods.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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Alright well I'm 14 and my best friend is 13 and were both guys, I'm just wondering if we have a good friendship and if I should hold onto it. We have had some trouble in the past because I'm bi and I used to like him and I told him about 4 months ago but then I decided to lie and say I didn't like him so we could stay friends.. Anyways we are really good friends in my opinion we can hang out with each other for 5 days and not get sick of each other we hang out all the time, we don't really talk about EVERYTHING tho.. We talk about everything except my being bi or "used" to like him or anything sexual, but I mean we have lots of inside jokes and when we hang out we always laugh and stuff. The other day I asked him in person how good of I friend I was and I said be 100% honest and he told he I was at the top :) It's hard being friends with someone you like but I feel like I need a good friend like this. And also is it a problem that I always text first? And usually I am the one to ask to hang out but when I do he ALWAYS says "sure" and we always have fun? Good friendship!?!???? (link)
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I don't see the problem. You two have a great friendship together. Not many guys have genuine friendships like this. But you liking your best friend is a different story. I would tell you to be honest and tell him that you like him, but you said that it could ruin your friendship. If he accepts you for who you are, then that's great. I'd say there are other people you could look for instead of your best firend, but it depends on how deep your feelings are. Overall, I hope you guys keep this friendship.
~Andrew~
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So my bestfriend that is a guy used to be my boyfriend.we dated for about 3 months but then i quit it. 15 min later i realized how stupid i was and asked him back he said no. 2 days later him and my best friend are together.(she is not my bff anymore) now that me and him are so close i told him how i felt but he says he just loves me as a friend. howdo i get him back? (link)
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All you can do is make sure he knows how you feel about him. He might come back to you when he's ready, but you can't make people like you. I say that you keep moving forward. Because what if he's happy with the girl he's dating? Then you're just putting your life on hold waiting for him. You have to keep LIVING. I'm sorry if this isn't what you want to hear, but there are more guys out there. Just keep moving forward and you might find the right person.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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im 9 and wants sex. (link)
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There was another question on here that was very similar to this one. Having sex at the age of 9 is sad. No matter how mature YOU THINK you are! You need to wait! If you have sex now, you're going to pick up a bunch of bad habits that will be hard to stop and people will find out, whether you want them to or not. I wish I could talk to you in person so you could get this message through your head. DO NOT HAVE SEX! WAIT UNTIL YOU KNOW THE MEANING! WAIT UNTIL YOU'RE MARRIED! You are not ready to have sex because you don't even UNDERSTAND how big of a step it is. I'm not even sure if you had sex education yet. Overall, what I'm trying to say is, DO NOT COME TO THIS SITE ANYMORE ASKING FOR SEX! Ask a LEGITIMATE question next time.
Get your life together and stop asking for sex.
~Andrew~
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Nearly 20 years and then in a huge argument that turned physical he took out one of our (love) toys and proceeded to beat me with it, then switched to other vices such as putting his hand over my mouth (I was screaming - LOUDLY) while strong-arming me into another room.
I took the toy afterward and threw it away - two days later - still sorting out what happened and the fight and are we going to try and work things out and he noticed that this toy was missing so I told him why...now he's told me he's moving out, taking the kids (teens), and we're done.
I don't know how to fix this! Please help- my heart is shattered. (link)
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You don't fix this. When a man puts his hands on you, YOU GET OUT! And get custody of the children because if he can hit his wife, then he will hit a teenager. I know your heart is shattered, but I don't think you should go back to this man. 20 years is a long time. But now you got your life back. You can't fix this relationship if he's not willing to fix it with you. To me, if a relationship turns physical, then it's OVER! Why would you go back to somebody who you know will hit you? But this is entirely your choice.
I hope you do what you feel is right for you and your children.
~Andrew~
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18/f/usa
I can't feel anything, emotionally that is. I want so much to be happy, but when I'm filled in a room with my friends and family, I notice I'm usually forcing myself to smile. I'm so lonely. My best friend is always falling in and out of love and I've yet to. I miss having boyfriend, but all the guys that ever like me are creeps. I just want to be happy, to actually be able to feel something again.
*Note I am on antidepressants and have been for maybe like a year and a half? (link)
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Well this is just my opinion, but I think you should go outside. Go to a park or go shopping. Do something fun outside of your house. You should find something to do that makes you happy. And you should also talk to your family and tell them how you're feeling. I don't think you're emotionally numb, but you just haven't done anything that you want to do for yourself. I hope you get you're happiness back.
~Andrew~
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I really want to die i cant stand my life anymore and i need a way to go painlessly please help me end my sufferring. (link)
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WHY ARE YOU TRYING TO KILL YOURSELF? NOBODY is going to help you kill yourself. I wish you would have posted why you want to kill yourself instead of asking for suicide methods. How many people would be left on earth if every little thing made them kill themselves. Whatever your problems are, I'm sure they may be hard to deal with and you feel suicide will fix all of it but it WILL NOT! There is no such thing as a painful suicide because you'll feel that pain on the other side. Instead of killing yourself, thank God that your problems aren't worse. Yes some people may have talked about you and called you names, but thank God you're not homeless. Thank God that you're not poor. Whenever you feel like this just remember somebody else's life is worse. And if they can find the strength to keep living so can you.
I hope this helped and thinks get better for you.
~Andrew~
P.S. I really want to help, so if you ever need to talk I'm always here and my email is on my profile.
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Well me and this guy used to have feelings for each other, feeling like we were more than friends. But then he went to slow, the biggest thing we did was he danced with me at a dance and our "thing" went on for 4 months. Then I ended it because it was going to slow. It was kinda awkward at first but after about a week we were back to friends. Right now we are best friends, as close as brother and sister and it's been about 7 months since our "thing", but now I think I have feelings for him again. :/ The other problem is him and another have this "thing" but he told me he doesn't like her that. But I'm the only one who knows so if I intrude everyone else will think I'm trying to get in their way. I don't know if I want to go for it again or just let my feelings go. So I would really like some on advice of what I should do? Thanks :) (link)
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If he's not dating the other girl, then you can ask him if he wants to go out again. But some relationships are slow. My parent's dated for 9 years before they got married. And you're not intruding on anything because he said he didn't like her like that. So that leaves open a window of opportunity for you. But it's your choice. If your heart wants more than a friendship with him, then go for it.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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Hi so I really really like this guy. He is crazy hot and is really sweet but he hardly ever notices me. I really want him to notice me so we can start getting to notice eachother but we are both the real quiet type and he is always in a big group. Just never talking that is. So how do I get him to notice me and start talking To me with freaking him out?please help!!
Ps I'm thirteen and don't tell me I'm too young cause I've had three boyfriends since I was 11. I'm obviously female and I have the ability to change my personality to suit if need be. (link)
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Well don't ever change your personality for a guy. Something is wrong if you have to change WHO YOU ARE for a guy. So you like this guy and don't know what to do. Well, you could TALK TO HIM. There's nothing wrong with trying to get him alone, or you could just do it in front of the whole group but that might be to much for right now. But what I'm trying to say is that there are always questions like this on this website and I try to tell all of them, don't hold back the truth. Just tell that person you like them before it's too late. But you have to talk to him yourself. DO NOT send a friend to talk to him for you. If it helps you could practice what you want to say to him in a mirror, or you can just be spontaneous. I wish you the best of luck.
~Andrew~
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I am with this guy I love him so much! My mum knows I like him but she doesn't know That I am with him Shall I tell her I think she would go crazy! Thank you. (link)
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Tell her the truth. It's better if she hears it now that to find out a couple months later. She might even be underdstanding and supportive. But you won't know that unless you tell her the truth.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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So I've been living with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and he's been getting really mean lately. He's never been physical with me just always putting me down for something and calling me names and just really hurting my feelings. Hell always yell at me just for any reason at all and I try to ignore it for the most part and ill ask him to stop and then hell tell me that I'm the one who's mad and I need to chill out. And I've been applying to about 6 or 7 jobs a week for the past month and I've had 1 interview and a couple odd cleaning jobs. So I'm trying. But he always tells me how lazy I am and how I useless I am since I don't have one yet. But the only reason he has a job is because he works for the company his dad works for. I really try my hardest. I clean the house, ill make him or get him anything he wants. But its still not enough for him to stop putting me down for everything. He's cheated on me before(which he later changed his story to saying that he just made it up to hurt me). I moved to a new state where I don't know anyone for him and he gets mad and acuses me of cheating on him if there's a guy looking at me, even if I never look at the guy. So I have absolutly no friends. My friends from home don't like him. And I've left him twice before but I let him talk me into coming back because he said that he would change. Things were good for a bout a week and got bad again. Its so hard for me to leave since I'm 700 miles away from anyone I know. also what's keeping me from leaving right now is we got a car and its in my name since his lisence is suspended but I haven't paid a cent for it so id feel bad taking it. But I legally can't move from the state while its in my name and payments are still being made. I just feel so stuck. I know its not a good relationship and his dad has had problems with getting physical with him and past relationships. So I'm worried if I stay longer that my bf would get physical with me. Someone please give me advise (link)
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If you don't like the way he's treating you then LEAVE! You are keeping yourself with him for no reason. Go out and find somebody who really loves you and will take care of you.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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My boyfriend and I met in 8th grade and we're both going to be seniors in high school last night. We never worked out in 8th or 9th grade, we were always on and off. We never offically dated but we are now. We started going out June 6th. He means everything to me. He takes words very seriously. Last night he came over and he saw on my phone that a guy cause love u and i said it back. He took it so seriously and broke up with me. I don't know what to do. He ended up forgiving me but then today he told me I broke his heart. I'm even looking at colleges in philly because that's where he wants to go to school. Upenn. Idk what to do anymore. Im 16 but i believe in forever and i believe in highschool love. He's never hurt me. I just want to make it last. he's everything to me. How can you hurt someone you love so much (link)
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Looking to follow him to college is a bad idea. If he ended the relationship, leave it at that. If you tried your best to get him back, then MOVE ON. You're talking about going to Philly where he is going to college also. That means you're trying to alter your life around one person and that's a bad idea. If he still wanted you, he would've have came back to you realizing that the text message was just a misunderstanding. Bottom line is, go to a college that will best suit you and your needs. Don't go to Philly just because your ex is going there. College is a new beginning for you guys. You have to embrace that fact and leave the past in the past. I know you believe in forever, but did you ever stop to think that maybe HE ISN'T YOUR FOREVER GUY?
Hopefully you learn to forgive yourself and move on.
~Andrew~
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I'm 14 and want to get another piercing in my ear, but I don't think my mom is ok with it....do you always have to have a legal gardian with you to get a piercing? (link)
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If your mom says it's not a good idea, then it's not a good idea. Things tend to go wrong when you don't listen to your parents. You get another piercing when you're older. You have plenty of time to think about it.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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22 F Boyfriend 19
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 11 months now. I love him to death and he would do anything for me and loves me endlessly. But his mom is getting re-married in almost 2 weeks. This wouldn't be a problem if his mom stole $5,000 from him and lied to him about it behind his back just a few months ago. Him and his mom were close before this happened but now he won't answer her phone calls and can't even look at her face to face. My boyfriend respects and likes his soon to be step-dad. He doesn't know if he is going to be in the wedding though due to what his mom did behind his back. I told him I didn't think he should go and then he has his family who knows it's not right what his mom did but still thinks he should be in the wedding for the respect of his family and his soon to be step-dad. They are making him feel guilty beyond belief.
I told him I wouldn't be happy if he went and that I couldn't necessarily support it either. I know he's in a tough place. He's cried to me just talking about it because he has such a tough decision to make. I feel terrible now and am going to tell him that I will support him in whatever he decides to do. He told me that he knows I won't go to the wedding but he wishes I would to be there for him because if he did go it'd be a really hard day for him; having to see his mom and all. I'm now debating on whether or not to go just to support him and be there for him.
I wouldn't know anyone at this wedding. Only his mom (which I can barely even look at) his aunt and uncle and his grandparents. I'd have to go on the party bus with the wedding party since my boyfriend would be going, and I would basically be by myself half the time (well his uncle said I could be with him). But i still think it'd be awkward, not to mention i'm a shy/quiet girl to begin with. I'm starting to be torn. Do I go and suffer this awkward night just to support my boyfriend even though I would be stuck alone half the time? (link)
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Who said it's suffering. All you have to do is go and support your boyfriend who is going to support his family. What his mom did is horrible, but family is still family. You can't go to this event with WAR and VENGEANCE on your mind. Now after the wedding, you and your boyfriend need to find a way to keep your money safer to the point where only the two of you have acess to it.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
P.S. Try to put yourself in his mom's shoes. If you had a son or daughter and the both of you got into a very huge argument, would you want him/her to show up to your wedding? How would you feel if they didn't show up?
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I'm 13 years old and really thinking about getting my belly button pierced, should I?? I'm only holding back because they might think I'm a s**t or too young but my mum approves but I don't know bout school?? Plz help;) (link)
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Personally I don't think you should get pierced right now. YOU"RE 13. You have plenty of time to get a piercing and plenty of time to really think about it. You're not sure about getting a piercing yourself because you came to us. Just wait until you're 17 or 18. Not 13. That's a bit to young.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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