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Long-Term Relationship falling apart
Nearly 20 years and then in a huge argument that turned physical he took out one of our (love) toys and proceeded to beat me with it, then switched to other vices such as putting his hand over my mouth (I was screaming - LOUDLY) while strong-arming me into another room.
I took the toy afterward and threw it away - two days later - still sorting out what happened and the fight and are we going to try and work things out and he noticed that this toy was missing so I told him why...now he's told me he's moving out, taking the kids (teens), and we're done.
I don't know how to fix this! Please help- my heart is shattered.
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He beat you period point blank. You need to find your self a lawyer and press charges. Also since there are kids involved sue for custody. You can't go back to someone who is going to beat you. Even if you love him you still can't go back if he's willing to beat you what makes you think he won't touch the kids. It's your responsibility (as the mother) to protect your children. Get them away from this abusive man they call their father and make sure you call the police and tell them what this man did to you.
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You don't fix this. When a man puts his hands on you, YOU GET OUT! And get custody of the children because if he can hit his wife, then he will hit a teenager. I know your heart is shattered, but I don't think you should go back to this man. 20 years is a long time. But now you got your life back. You can't fix this relationship if he's not willing to fix it with you. To me, if a relationship turns physical, then it's OVER! Why would you go back to somebody who you know will hit you? But this is entirely your choice.
I hope you do what you feel is right for you and your children.
~Andrew~
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You get a lawyer and sue your physically abusive husband for custody.
He attacked you. There is nothing left to fix.
This is the time you put your shattered heart to the side, and focus on defending yourself and your children from a man who doesn't know beating his wife is not acceptable.
Reach out to programs in your area that support battered or abused women. Help to support your kids and keep them safe.
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