ok this is long but PLZ resond!! ok, my best friend rachel is all over and obsessed with this guy in my class named tyler and he is a jerk and she doesnt see that. SHe thinks that all the disgusting things and weird things he does is hot. well I he hates her because she is so into him and he knows it. he is now bragging to alot of ppl that she is obsessed and i know ahe is going to be hurt really really bad, you know haow much she likes him, she thinks he is hotter than jesse mccartney and well I hate both and I try to tell her that thier are alot of other guys out there but she wont listen and all she wants is him!!! what do i do to help MY BESTFRIEND!!!
Sounds like you have tried to tell her. You cannot change her mind. Seems like she is going to have to find out the hard way. This guy is gonna be a jackass and there is nothing you can do about it. She will just have to learn to dislike jackasses... and listen to her friends.
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I consider myself to be an independant woman, but my bf disagrees.
Well I am 27 and have my own appartment that I rent. I don't have any student loan dept, or credit card dept. I pay my bills on time and have been living in the same appartment on my own without any help from family or roomates for the last 4 years.
I have a car that is paid for that I maintain in excellent condition. I just replaced the tires and always make sure it is serviced regularily.
I work part time at a store that is UNION. Before I got that job I had been collecting a small disabllity pension for having a mental illness. Everyone has said how well I have done for myself considering I have this condition. They (my family and friends) are all very happy for me that I got the job.
My bf, however, is being a total jerk. Well before I got the job, even though I was managing to live on my own and be responible on my disability pension would say the meanest things, like that I was living off the system and how broke I was.
Now that I have the job, he is saying things like "so I guess it's working out for you,", in a negative tone.
Well he has no right to do this to me. We arent living together and I NEVER ask him for any money. I could understand him being mad if we were living together and I wasnt working and spent all his money, but I live ON MY OWN and can look after myself. I think considering everything I've been through he should give me a little more credit.
Why do you think he is treating me like this?
Doesn't matter. The fact that he is acting like that at all is enough. Get rid of him. Acting like that...total deal breaker. Let him find someone else to bring down.
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Well, I go to a lot of concerts because I LOVE live music. Problem is, I have to miss a lot of them because they're 18 or 21 and older. :( Now I don't drink or smoke or do drugs or anything (I'm 14) but I really want a fake ID for 18 or 19 years old so I can get in and see the bands. I wouldn't use it for the alcohol or ciggs or anything, and I do look older so it could work. I believe putting age limits on shows is a stupid thing to do because it just alienates the fans. Do you think my parents would let me? (They trust me a lot, by the way.)
And if this doesnt work, any ideas on how to get into 18+ shows?
They have age limits on shows for a reason. It is not how mature you are for your age, it is the atmosphere and the people who attend the shows. There is drinking and drugs at some and even though you are mature, you can get into a situation very easily that you cannot handle. Not saying it will happen, but it can. If anything happens to you and you are under age, you can solely be responsible for shutting down a venue. They are very strict when it comes to under agers. You would be on their property, and anything that happens to you is their responsibility. Now if you can get a good fake, and you're comfortable with your parents knowing or having their permission. I say go for it. Just be aware and careful.
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um when youre havig sex and the guy is on top, is the only place to put your legs on his shoulders?
If you are old enough to be having sex, then you should be able to figure it out or at least search it on your own. I am not here to show you how to have sex. But since you did ask an actual question...
Google Kama Sutra.
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I can't understand why my fiance is ALWAYS in the MOOD, all the time 24/7 he HAS TO HAVE IT! He gets angry when I say no, yells at me and claims I'm cheating on him. Why can't he understand that EVERY DAY 2-3 times a day is TOO MUCH! I love him to death, but he's killing me.
You need to come to a compromise. He can't have it 20 times a day and you cannot always tell him no. Find a number that is suitable for you both and stick with it.
Yelling at you and claiming that you are cheating is horribly insecure and immature. He needs to grow up and get overhimself. That alone would turn me off, it would also make me break it off. (the yelling and accusations, not the constant wanting of sex)
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OMG I just had the worst night ever at my job. Well I work in a large superstore in the clothing department. This lady wanted someone in the toy section to help her take down a game on the top shelf. I told her I'd help find someone from that department to assist her. Well I couldnt find anyone and then she started to get really mad at me. I was under a lot of pressure so I phoned the manager of the store. He said that no one showed up for work in the toy department that night, so no one could help her. Then I told him how mad she was and then he got mad at me and said "what what does she expect us to do??" and then I tried to calm him down and then he said he would send someone to help her. Well finally someone came down to help her but I'm really worried that I'll be in trouble for what I did. I didn't know what else to do, so I felt phoning the manager was the only option I have. Also, I have to be at work tomorrow and I'm terrified the store manager is going to complain about me to my supervisor. Does anyone have any advice? And do you think I'm in a lot of trouble?
You shouldn't be in trouble for trying to help a woman in a store that was understaffed. Since you are new and didn't know what to do, they shouldn't be angry with you. If you do get in trouble however, I would think about finding a new place to work. I had something similar happen to me when I worked retail, I'll tell the story to you because it should make you feel better.
I used to work at a large retail store (It was all baby stuff) I worked in the furniture department. I was off of work, already clocked out, had my coat and hat on, and apparently as I was walking out of the store some woman tried to stop me and ask for help. I never heard or saw such person. Then next day I was called into my manager's office and was yelled at (YELLED AT)because apparently she complained to the service desk afterward. Total bullshit and totally bogus, yet I was still written up for it.
If they yell at you quit! It is indicative of worse things to come!
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Ok, I know this sounds lame, but I think boys don't like me. I haven't had a boyfriend for a bit longer than a year. I even tried asking some guys out and they said no. It just makes me feel like they don't like me. I'm nice, athletic, funny, cool, and all that stuff. I tried being patient, but it's not working. Even the guys I like treat me just like one of their friends. What am I supposed to do? I'll rate HIGH!!!!!!!!!
You should not focus on the fact that you don't think boys like you. You don't know this for sure. Someone out there likes you (most likely) they just haven't had the guts to say so. Right now you should try having fun with your friends and hanging out and not worrying about when you will find your next boyfriend.
Someone should not be defined by their relationship status. Enjoy being unattached. You can flirt, you can openly talk about how hot guys are, you can do alot of things that you couldn't if you had a boyfriend. Eventually someone will come along, I know it is cliche, but it always finds a way to happen. You will not spend the rest of your high school years (or the rest of you life for that matter) single. Enjoy it while you have it.
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I was talking to one of my guy friends and he said that the taste of a guy's cum depends on his diet. Is that true? Like, he said that if the guy ate fruits and stuff that it'll be sweeter.
Yes, it is true. It only will change the taste slightly. Pineapple will make it sweeter. Acidic foods and things of that nature will make it more sour.
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okay well i have this friend who im like super close to, and i have known him for almost a year now. i like really love this kid. but anyways we always say we love eachother and (he lives in nj and i live in ny) he says that when he gets his car we're gunna "have some fun" and all that kind of stuff. and today he just told me that he fooled around with one of his friends and now everbody hates him. and i cant help but be mad because i really like him and now im kindof mad at him. Im going to call him in a lil bit so we can actually talk but should i be mad at him .. if you were in my shoes would you be mad. i liek REALLLYYYY like him (more than a friend). plzz help. i rate high..*
You have no right to be mad at him. He was not your boyfriend. You can, however, be bummed and upset. You like him and thought that he had feelings for you as well. To hear that he messed around with someone else is not fun. I don't understand why everyone would hate him, to mess around it should be a mutual thing, correct? It is not going to be the be all to end all, so I would be a true friend to this guy and support him. All of his friends "hate" him now, for what isn't a very good reason in my opinion, he probably needs to hear from someone who isn't going to be pissed with him. You can tell him that you are hurt, see what his reaction is.
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Right so I got drunk on Friday (really bad I know and Im not doing it again) and my friend was being really nice about it. But now all she can do is say how Im making a massive deal out of it and I was probably just ACTING drunk and that I wasnt drunk at all because I didnt drink as much as she did. I cant see why she doesnt understand that I really was drunk. I couldnt walk straight, I was laughing at everything and saying things Id never say sober and I had a horrible headache for the rest of the night and very almost chucked my guts up.
Im not proud that I got intoxicated, but I learnt my lesson and all I can now is forget about it and joke about it if anyone else brings it up. Im just not seeing why my friend is so 'OMG YOU WERE SO NOT DRUNK YOU COULDNT HAVE BEEN OMG OMG' to me. Ive never really had alcohol before and Im not used to it so obviously Id be more of a lightweight. I dont know how to say to her that I was drunk, without sounding like I was proud of it. Ive apologised to her for the way I acted (which wasnt bad anyway, I was just giving people hugs and laughing) and she says shes not angry at me. But she keeps on saying how she knows I wasnt drunk when in my own mind, I know I was.
How can I get her to see that Im not proud of getting drunk that night but I really genuinely was drunk and wasnt just acting to get attention?? Help please, and no bashing me for drinking, everyone drinks some time.
The thing I don't understand is why is her reaction such a big deal? If you are not proud of being drunk, then her reaction shouldn't matter. She is being an idiot and being immature. I don't know if that makes you feel any better or not. You could try to reason with her if you really wanted to, because, alcohol has different effects on different people. If you are smaller than her or weigh less, it will take less alcohol to effect you. If she had eaten and you hadn't, that also causes alcohol to enter your system much faster. If she had drank before and like you said you haven't that could also be a reason why you would not have had as much and still been drunk. Those are all reasonable explainations as to why you were, in fact, actually drunk. (or sooo you claim...ha, just kidding) Let it roll off your back, she sounds like she had to be the most drunk that night for her to feel worth while. If she isn't believing you now, she probably won't in the future.
Next time, drink her under the table. Then claim that she was lying about being drunk the next day. Oh, kidding again. Drinking under 21...happens.
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i was on birth control for about a year and i just recently stopped because me and my boyfriend broke up. i figured i didn't need to be on it if i wasn't going to be sexually active. so now that i'm not on it is my period going to be really messed up? i'm just wondering so i'll be aware of this..
If your period was irregular before hand, then chances are that it will go back to the way it was. Birth Control Pills regulate your period for you. The hormones in them prevent ovulation. No ovulation no pregnancy. Once you stop the hormone flow into your body it will revert to the way it was before.
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Say a girl and a guy that are dating have sex alot. If one night the girl didn't want to but the guy forced her to, is that still rape? Becuase she's had sex with him before, she just didn't feel like it right then.
Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. No means no, no matter what.
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If you aren't experianced I don't know if you want to read this.
My bf and I have been together for 1 year and 6 months and have been sexual active together for about 4 months.
Well he came over last night and we were fooling around and started having sex. Everything was going fine but then he started getting rough. It was getting to be wayyy too much for me so I told him to not be so hard. He didn't listen and just kept at it.
It got bad enough for me to where I broke out in tears and he still didn't slow down.
When he was about to finish off he took it out and cummed all over me adn my sheets. I usually don't have a problem with that but when we were done (or when he was done anyways) he wouldn't let me clean up. I wanted to take a shower so bad but he wouldn't let me. We just layed there and slept which was very uncomfortable for me because it was gross and sticky.
Now I don't know if I can be comfortable around him. He's never done anythign like this before. he always used to listen while we were in bed adn never went too fast or hard. I don't know what got over him. What should I do? 18/f
Sometimes people hide their sexual preferrences until they are comfortable with the person they are active with. He may have always preferred sex a little on the rough side, but waited until now to show so. What he did was wrong. When you did not like something and asked him to stop, he should have stopped period. You are in YOUR own house, he CANNOT tell you what you can and cannot do. If he is not going to respect you and stop when he is scaring you or you stop enjoying sex, then you need to get the hell away from him as fast as you can. I do not believe in using sex as a weapon, but cut him off. Tell him that if he ever does that to you again, he will NEVER have sex with you again. It is NOT about just him, though some guys don't always realize this.
Talk to him and ask him what happened. Tell him that you did not like it and don't want it to happen like that again (as long as rough sex is okay for you at all)
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Well, i have this sisters shes 19 her and her boyfriend/"fiancee" have been together for almost 2 years(January 1) all they do is fight and he goes out and stays out ALL night he'll leave at like 6 one night and wont come back till 11 the next day..all she does is sit around and cry me and my mom have told her repeatdly(sp?) to just leave him alone and move on, but shes crazy about him and she knows he goes out nd cheats on her..Later on today me and my sister are gonna be spendin sumtime together and i know shes going to want to talk about it but i dont wanna keep saying everything i say over and over. I need something that will get through her head and make her realize. Any ideas? srry its so long..Thanks in advance!! xox
I am surprised that noone has answered this yet. I hope that this isn't reaching you too late.
This guy is not worth crap. He treats her horribly and she should not be with him. One thing...that is easy for anyone who is outside looking in to say.
She for whatever reason is not ready to give him up. She won't until she can deal with it. All you can do is be supportive of her and let her know you love her. Maybe with some self-esteem and a little guts she will realize that she deserves better. She should not sit at home when he does these things. She should get out and spend time with friends. She may even meet someone that she would like better.
In the end it is up to her. You can keep saying the same things over and over, but, until she is ready, she isn't going to hear a word you are saying.
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hey everyone, i have a really huge problem and i need to know if theres anything i can do to help or fix anything.. my best friend is being forced to go to a different school by her parents.. the reason is because of her grades and how she isnt 'responsible' randomly friday they got rid of her cell phone, and grounded her all thanksgiving break and told her she was going to a differnet school... the school is a christian school and its about 30 minutes away. anyways, they got rid of most of her clothes and replaced them with 'christian apropriate clothes' she'll be starting at the christian school the monday after this next one. i know we'll still talk and stuff but its just not going to be the same having her gone... i need to know some ways i can help or make things change.. or some excuses shes already threatend she would kill herself or turn lesbian (no effence) but theyre just like 'i dont care' please help..
Ewww, sadness for your friend. I think that moving her to a completely different school and drastically changing her clothes and her life is a bit extreme. But they are her parents and that is their desicion.
There is something going on that made them do this. Whether it was the last straw or irrationalness, they are seeing something as threatening to them or her.
If they are acting this way, I would mind your P's and Q's around them for a while. Try to be more respectful (not that you are not now, just to be safe)and fly under their radar. She will need to keep as many of her old friends as she can.
You cannot change their desicion, but you can be there for your friend. That is about all you can do, unfortunately.
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im 14f there is this guy i like i have know since i was a baby but we never really talked but now i talk to him like everyday online but when ever i see him in person he is like shy or something to talk iuno if thats true or wateva because a couple people think that he likes me?? i really like him what should i do to get him to talk to me in person or to do something to try to move this faster?
Why should it have to move fast? What is wrong with taking time and enjoying getting to know someone? If anything worth while is going to come out of a relationship with him, you should be able to take your time in getting him to your level. He is shy, right? If you push him, you may scare him off. You can't force feelings on others (even though many try) When you talk to him keep it light. Try talking about something you know he likes to get him to open up (since you have known him your whole life, I would assume you know things about him) It may take a while for him to get up the nerve, but if you move slow and he does like you, it will be worth the patience.
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My hamster died.:( I had him for like 2 years. Thats not the point though. I was thinking about gettting another animal but I dont know what. Cats,dogs,rabbits and any reptiles are just not going to work...should I just get another hamster but that seems like I am just replacing it. Got any suggestions?I love ferrets but I don't have the money for them.
I rate 5!!!!
Thanks
ps this isn't Britt but she knows I am using it.
If you do not want to get another Hamster (which I think you should, I have a soft spot for Hamsters) try a bird. When I was younger, I could not have a dog, or a cat, or a reptile. My parents were allergic. Well, actually, I am too. Cats and rabbits make me break out in itchy white bumps. Anyway, I had a bird. It was a cockatiel and her name was Sunny. She was a great pet. Birds can be kind of messy, ok, they are really messy. But they can be worth it. If all else fails, just get fish.
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I'm a 16 year old girl.
Ok. So I like my eyes and all but when guys try to get me to go out with them just by telling me that they like my eyes it totally turns me off even if the guy is really hott or nice. Here is an example of what most guys say: "Your eyes have taken over my soul."
The whole "your eyes see into my soul" thing is getting very old. My question is, can't guys come up with some original pick up lines?
If you have beautiful eyes, most likely it will get commented on. This is just what people do to let others know they notice. If they sound completely cheesy, and it's obvious that they are just hitting on you, then it is fine to roll your eyes at them. But if it is in anyway sincere sounding, then you can't hold it against them. They are trying to let you know there is something attractive about you and that doesn't happen all the time (well, at least if you are me) Women like to be complimented in a sincere and original way, guys compliment on what they know. That would be how you look. I bet you would have a WTF moment if guys compeletly stopped complimenting you on your eyes.
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"Actually I have had a compliment on my eyes in about two months and I find it rather refreshing."
That does not make sense. Your entire question was based on the fact that you did not like the redundancy in the first place. Unless you meant to type a n't at the end of your have. So I will respond to you as if you had...because that would make your sentence actually make sense.
So you haven't gotten a compliment on your eyes in a two months, I am taking this from what you have said. Then why ask a question that implies that his happens to you all of the time? You wanted to know why guys are unoriginal and I gave you a reason. Then, because you implied that this is a constant occurance, I tried to point out to you that if it stopped completely, alltogether, you might find yourself wondering why.
You then snidely mentioned that it hasn't happened in a while and you find it refreshing then rated me a 3. So don't ask a question about it if it is not relevant, to you, now. I rate you a 1 for your response. Beauty is fine, but you can still be ugly if you have a nasty attitude.
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i used to cut but i stopped. i hardly ever did it, like, maby once a month, i dont know. but whenever im really upset, i feel like doing it, but ive tought my self to not cut and read the bible instead. but i feel like i should still talk about it. noone ever found out and i dont want annyone to ever know, but im wondering if theres some type of email or something where it can stay a secret. thanx i rate high
There are plenty of ways that you can talk and noone has access to what you say. That is, unless you want to give them access. Try an online journal. There are plenty out there.
www.xanga.com
www.livejournal.com
www.deadjournal.com
www.blogomonster.com
It is your journal, you can keep it totally private or you can open it up to any one. If it is completely private, noone will be able to read but you. If you make it public, others can read it, but you can disable any comments they can make. Or what you can do is have a public journal, yet when you are upset and want to talk about the urge to cut, make that particular entry private. Noone will read it.
You need to keep talking about it. Even if it is just typing about what you are feeling, it can be pretty comforting. It may be able to help you and someday you may be able to talk about it openly with others. That is the most healthy way of dealing with it.
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i need very sound advice on this. My ex and i ended because of something really stupid, and he was so hurt that he just jumped right into another relationship. After months of being with his gf he was telling me he still had feelings for me, but i was so angry and hurt still that i didnt let him know how i really felt!
My ex and i had a long history. Weve been broken up for a year now. Him and his ex broke up just recently.(they break up alot, but always get back together) This is their longest break though.(theyve been together for a year now) Him and i talked the other night for 1 1/2 hrs. During the convo it came out that i still had feelings for him. (he thought i hated him) His first question that he always wants to know is, if i have done shit with any guys. I told him yes, just 1. Hes always been very respectful of me when it came to sexual stuff. (We kinda did it, but i never let him go in all the way). He asked me if i have wanted to, and he said that he has! Then he said "Bad?" He also asked if i had any questions about us wanting each other, and i said, "How do you feel?" and he said he really doesnt know.
Im not gonna sleep with him so you dont have to comment on that. Anyways, i saw him kiss his ex on the cheek today, and him and i have plans to hang out tomorrow. Theres so many ugly thoughts running through my head that i dont know what to think.
He would never take advantage of me like that (because he never has before) But why is he thinking about doing it with me? Is it because maybe he hasnt gotten in awhile and hes horny? (thats 1 of my ugly thoughts)
I dont want to really talk about her when we hang out, and i dont know if hed be 100% honest with me if we did. He talks better to me in person than online, since we havent been together, but im the 1 that IMs him all the time.
I was really hoping we could work through things, and someday get back together.
My biggest question is, Do you think he just wants sex from me, and why??
Any other feelings or comments about this i would greatly appreciate!
Thanks!
"After months of being with his gf he was telling me he still had feelings for me, but i was so angry and hurt still that i didnt let him know how i really felt!"
When you care for someone or love someone, those feelings don't disappear overnight. Even if a break up was sudden and stupid, there are still going to be feelings there ( at least if the person is human in any way). He jumped into a rebound relationship to help him get over being hurt. That does not mean, however, that his feelings for you are completely gone. It is very possible that he still had feelings for you in the beginning. Or still has feelings for you now.
"During the convo it came out that i still had feelings for him. (he thought i hated him) His first question that he always wants to know is, if i have done shit with any guys."
That is really none of his business. He has no access to that information anymore and that probably shouldn't be the first thing he wants to know. It is probably more of a curiosity or selfishness. Even when you have broken up with someone, there can still be the concept of "mine" attached to that person. Even though you cannot stop your ex from being with others, it is an unhappy feeling to know that they are "with" someone else. It is purely selfishness, yet somewhat understandable.
"But why is he thinking about doing it with me? Is it because maybe he hasnt gotten in awhile and hes horny?"
I would assume that he is probably horny. And if you have done other things with guys, he may think that there is a chance of you doing that with him. Don't take it personally. I have had many guy friends and they all say the same thing. Guys just want to fuck. It just is. They are all horny, reguardless if they show it or not, and if they have an opportunity to have sex, you better believe that they will. Unless, of course, there is a very good reason not to...and it would have to be a very good reason. Women have this tendency to attach love and intimacy (and commitment) to sex. Guys don't always think that way. Some of them do, but for most, sex comes before the love and intimacy and attachment. If he still likes you, then I would bet that he is thinking about sex with you. If you know that he would not take advantage of you, then I would guess (even if he is just horny) that he wouldn't unless he cared.
"Anyways, i saw him kiss his ex on the cheek today, and him and i have plans to hang out tomorrow. Theres so many ugly thoughts running through my head that i dont know what to think."
If you are going to hang out, make sure that it is on a friends only basis. He has attachment to his ex, and most likely will get back with her. I would advise against being anything other than friendly until they are definetly over and you trust him compelely.
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