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Well theres this guy at my work ( i work at burget king and im 17) and he hits on me all of the time! The other day he kind of stuck his hand down my pants!

anyone have any ideas how i can stop him from hitting on me all the time?!

Advice would help! thanks (link)
filing a sexual harassment suit would work


16/f
Ok, so I caught my boyfriend (of 3 months) in a lie. But I haven't confronted him yet. See, on New Years, he came over, and told me he had to leave by 11:45 because his parents said he had to be home by 12 because it is illegal to drive past 12 if you are under 18. So I was sad because I couldnt be with him at midnight. A few days later, I found out that he actually went and spent the night at a friends house. Should I confront him about this lie? If so, how should I confront him? Should I act upset, or not? thanks. (link)
yeah confront him about it, but dont act to angry right away. your source may be wrong, or he might have a good explanation.


A friend of mine offered to teach me how to play the guitar. He knows I don't have much money and because me and my friends are always helping him out with his business, he told me that he would teach me for free. At first he was really nice and was patient. But when I had my third lesson he YELLED at me and said "YOURE NOT LISTENING TO ME". This was because I told him I wanted to look at my quitar book to see how to play a cord instead of having him move my fingers with his. (this has made me uncomfortable). He is married and I think sometimes he tries to come on to me. He also can get really inpatient with me when I can't play cords right.
I really want to learn to play the quitar but he just makes me so nervous and I'm almost a little afraid of him. I'm only staying with him because of the money issue, and also it would hurt a lot of my friends if I quit because they say what a nice guy he is to teach me for free.
What should I do? (link)
you know it may just be his teaching style, sure it isnt very effective but alot of teachers yell.


I'm around 5'2" and I'm pretty comfortable with my height. However, I have 34 D boobs. Now, most girls might like this, but they are extremely unporportional to my body which the doc said won't grow any taller. I feel like whenever a tall guy talks to me he looks down my shirt. I've heard guys say things about it to, and sometimes I feel like all they are trying to do is get a peek at my chest. What do I do?!? (link)
i have one word for you. duh. but its not because you are short with big boobs. guys would be trying to get a peak at them if you were 5'10" with 32 Bs or hell even As. the fact that you are short with Ds just makes it a bit easier. im not gonna tell you you should be flattered because i understand how it could be annoying. if its that big of a problem for you just dont wear anything low cut and they wont be able to see.


can your docter tell your parents that you have had sex (link)
no not without your permission, but if your worried about an upcomming physical your doctor wont be able to know if youve had sex.


thanx for the good advice! but how would i tell him! wait till hes inside of me and then be like "hey by the way im a virgin and dont know wat im doing?" he comes home in like 3hrs i dont know wat to do! he keeps calling me and telling me hoew bad he wants to feel my body! i dont know how i can tell him! ive been lieing to him since the day we met about this
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just sit him down, and be like "look theres something we need to talk about" im sure hell be understanding


ok heres my question....

I HAVE BEEN DATING THIS GUY FOR THREE MONTHS NOW! HES A GOOD GUY AND ALOT OF FUN! HES VERY POPULAR AND HAS ALOT OF "EXPERIENCE." WHEN I MET HIM ALL HE TALKED ABOUT WAS HOW BAD HE WANTED TO SLEEP WITH ME AND HOW BAD HE WANTED TO HAVE A LIFE WITH ME! I FELT THAT SAME WAY BUT THE ONLY DIFFRENCE IS THAT IM STILL A VRIGIN AND HE DOESNT KNOW IT YET! AND TO MAKE THE STORY MORE INTERESTING IVE BEEN HAVING FAMILY PROBLEMS AND GOT KICKED OUT OF MY HOUSE AND NOW STAYING WITH HIM! WE SLEEP IN THE SAME BED AND WHEN HES IN THE MOOD I FEEL SO BAD BECAUSE I TELL HIM THAT IM NOT IN THE MOOD OR I FEEL SICK BUT THATS NOT IT AT ALL, SO HE JUST ROLLS OVER AND GOES TO SLEEP!I FEEL LIKE SUCH A HORRIBLE PERSON! IVE LIED TO HIM SO MUCH ALREADY AND THE PERSON THAT I MET HIM WITH AND HE WANTS A LIFE WITH IS THE ONE THATS NOT A VIRGIN! IM SO SCARED TO TELL HIM BUT IF I DONT HES GONNA THINK THAT I DONT LIKE HIM AND I DO I REALLY DO! WAT SHOULD I DO? IF HE FINDS OUT I LIED TO HIM AGAIN HE MIGHT THROW ME OUT INTO THE STREET! pls help! and my tonight cause hes gonna try again and i dont wanna lie to him anymore! (link)
ok hes more likely to think you dont like him if you keep making up excuses. just tell him, the sooner the better. im sure he wont mind too much, and hell be more sensitive about 'being in the mood" if he knows you arent a virgin hell understand that its a big deal for you and he should lay off until you are ready. and if hes the type of guy that would just dump you because you are a virgin or because you wont put out then you shouldnt be with him in the first place.


I'm 17/f if that helps.. My friends Lisa and Rachel (who are friends with my boyfriend) asked my boyfriend Derek to get them some weed (cause hes got connections). Then they asked him to drive them somewhere like a park so that they can smoke it.. and my boyfriend wanted me to come along. I dont want to go because i dont wanna smoke weed.. but i dont want my boyfriend to go and get high alone with 2 girls either. He told me that he wouldnt go if i didnt want him to. But it seems like he wants to go and i dont want him to feel like im controlling him.. should i let him go or not? (link)
you should probably let him go, but dont feel like you have to come along. if you do, dont feel like you have to smoke. in fact, you should go and find "some way" to make sure he doesnt smoke too.


I have to go for my first "girly" check up alone because I am having problems at school and they are being slowly sorted out but my parents know nothign about it but my health is going down. What I want to know is during this check up do they really look at your vagina and boobs and what do they do to them? Also do they do anythign to your bum? I am really embarrest andits happening in a month please give me some advice. (link)
well not being a girl my knowlege on the subject is limited. yes they do check out your vagina, though i dont know exactly waht they do, and to my knowlege they do not check out your but


well she likes me, but shes 12. and im 16, so thats a dead no, but something keeps nagging at me..... like this morning 1 changed clothes like 4 times because i didnt know what shed like.... and im not like this. and the daughter, well rebecca shes really cute and all, but shes 12 and the principals daughter, i know this seems so wrong but i dunno...i really dont know what to do and this is a first time that i really dont know what to do next. (link)
through my patented formula i have calculated that you must wait 4 years to do anything about her. now who am i to stand in the way of love? if you really like her then go for it, but know that it is wrong and almost everyone will make fun of you for it.


i really like this guy. and i know he likes me. The thing is he is black and some are my friends are acting weird about that. i mean i don't see anything wrong with it. Is there something wrong with a white female dating a black male?? (link)
no nothing wrong, although its not uncommon for parents to be against it.


my boyfriend dont trust me as much as he should but i dont do anything wrong..i dont talk to other guys and i dont flirt...i just go to school do my work and nothing else..but every time i get home and call him we argue about what happened in school..can someone please help me and tell me what i can do to prove to him he can trust me or help him trust me????? (link)
trust is more fundamental to a relationship than love. if he doesnt trust you than it will not work. you shouldnt have to get him to trust you, he should already trust. my guess is that he is doing something wrong and is projecting that distrust onto you.


i have severe agoraphobia so i cant get out. im getting help so i dont need advice about that, i really needs ideas though on what i can do while im stuck in the house all day everyday. ive been like this for 4 years so i get very depressed especially when im bored. i get bored of tv, computer, videos/dvds. if anyone can think of things to keep me ocupied and happy that would be fantastic thank you x (link)
if you were so assume that you have already seen every site on the internet, you would still never be able to see everything on the internet because of the rate at which sites are created. bored.com myspace.com littlefluffy.com are all fun sites. you can also find forums for things you are intrested in. you can also find people on aim to talk to randomly.


my boyfriend has a heart disease that he needs a heart transplant for, or he will lose his life. these cost so much money n its only me and him no family. wen you get one of these do YOU pay for all the costs, or can it be paid off? (link)
um medical insurance is supposed to cover stuff like this, at least for the most part. if you dont have medical insurance than there is unfortunately nothing you can do.


Hey Guyz. I found an article from VH1.com and copyed it and put it on my site. But At the End of The Article I added this "I Got This Report From VH1. Here Is The Site (GAVE THE URL TO THE SITE) So All Credit Goes To Vh1 and MTV. So Can They Like Get Me For This?
(link)
nah, and even if they could they have better things to do


this is really stupid but what is cybering? like over the internet? thanks a lot i rate!! (link)
talking dirty with one hand, and "being dirty" with the other.


anyone know any good resizing pic urls?

i rate fives. (link)
i use photobucket.com its a picture hosting website that has a relatively small limit for picture sizes, and if you try to upload one that is too big it will automatically resize it for you.


I really want to start modeling but I don't know how to start. I'm 5'5, have an hour glass figure, wear a size 5 jeans (if that helps?), I have light brown hair (it's cut in a "unique" but long style), dark brown (almost black) eyes, medium tan, round/squarish face, and if I were stereotyped I would be called "punk". Could I be a model? or should I just give up?

Just tell me in your answer if you need more information. (link)
im sorry, while i am sure you are very attractive, the way you describe yourself you dont sound like model material. first off punk is not in for models, its in in high school, but not for models. second models these days are size 0 or 1. it gives girls an unnatural goal to try and obtain, and most guys do like girls a bit bigger, in the 4-6 range, but as for models its pretty standard to be 1 or 0. thirdly models tend to be taller than 5'5" but being 15 you arent finished growing yet. i suppose you could find some magazine or ad agency that is looking for punk models specificaly to model punk stuff and such, but unfortunately gereic modeling does not seem like the easiest route


can a man hold in his own cum...in other words can they control when it comes out when they feel it..say after having sex (link)
most men, no. it is really difficult and takes a great deal of practice.


I'm 17, male, in high school.

Long story short: I've been sexually active for awhile now. I've had sex before, recieved blowjobs, etc., though I've never had a handjob before. I've recently been going out with this girl who hasn't had sex, but has a good deal of experience giving handjobs, blowjobs, etc. (she's not easy or anything, but she's had many boyfriends over the course of her life).

She recently gave me a handjob and let's just say I didn't last very long. Admittedly, she was going pretty fast, but I'd say I only lasted about 2 minutes (if that) before I came. Is it normal for handjobs to get you off faster than sex? Does anyone have any experience in this field and can enlighten me? She didn't act like anything was wrong, but she's not one to judge. This may be an irrational fear, but I'm just worried about inadequacy here. So if anyone can tell me what the standard stamina for guys when recieving a handjob is, please let me know. Thanks. (link)
should be the same amount as when you masterbate, give or take a minute.




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