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ok well how can i let a boy know that i wanna to mess around w/ him? but not being 2 clingy or give him the idea that im thinking that were going to get in a relationship.?.

Why would you want to fool around with someone without wanting things to go further (relationship)?
It'll give you a bad reputation and someone mostly always gets hurt in the end - and it might be you.
Anyway, the answer to your question is; be bold and tell him/be flirty.
Can't give much more advice on the matter, because it's a bit of an awkward situation...
You should know how to let him know, depending on how close you are at the moment. Communication is always the key. Ask him what he thinks about friends with benefits.

ants in bathroom how do i get rid of them

What ants are they?
Anyway, this site will cover everything.
Give it a quick read.
http://www.getantsout.com/

Ive got awful stretch marks on my stomach, there are lots of them and they are really red, They are caused by my weight and size but i really need to do something about them they look horrible and are so embarassing. I have palmers coca butter strech mark cream but it doesnt seem to work, is there anything better that you can recommend. Im from England so if it is a product you are recommending please dont say ones that are only available in America.
Apart from using products is their anything else i can do to make them fade??

Thankyou for any help
=D

Bio Oil.
I live in England, too and bought some (because I had scars - which it also works on, as well as uneven skin tone and obviously stretch marks)
You'll have to use it for a while to see results, but it actually does work. Not to mention smells really nice.
and I got it from Boots.
Info about it here if you're interested
http://www.bio-oil-direct.co.uk/

Also, they should fade within time, with or without the help of products. but they most probably won't disappear totally, just so you know.

Andrew/14/Male:I want to make my girlfriend feel special but were not yet old enough for sex. Also i don't make alot of money. What should i do?

You don't need sex or money to show someone how special they are.
Write her notes, cuddles, random kisses, go for walks, TELL her what she means to you, go to parks and other places which don't cost money, have picnics, sweet txt messages, make her something..
If you're willing to spend a bit of money - get her favourite sweets etc, perhaps a teddy, rose.
Good luck and have fun with whatever you do.

I'm curious to know that if you cry for the boy you like does that really mean you love him enough to even cry for him?

Doesn't necessarily mean you love him. You may just have alot of feelings and care for him.. and you're sad you won't be able to get that chance with him etc.

Is flipsyde a christian band?

Yes, I've already tried googling. No, I can't find the answer anywhere.

Thank you.

Well I Googled

and it seems like they could be, from the reviews people have done, such as:
"if you don't lyk it then i don't no wats wrong with you. either your really old and like classical music or your hectically christian and don't listen to anything else but gospel"
Apologies for their poor spelling :]
There's also a few other hints at them being Christian, although their MySpace doesn't say they are. If there's parts of songs which makes you think they might be Christian, it could be so it appeals to most people. If I find out for definite amongst these searches, I'll edit this answer.

okay so i dont wear the ``in `` clothes .i wear what i want when i want.lots of my clothes are tye dye or are pink,blue,black,or brown.i also have a favorite sweater that my grandma made me.it is hot pink,baby blue,white,and a mix of the pink and blue.everyone at school (not teachers)hates it.they say that i should burn it.do i wear it,or do i not wear it and hurt my grandmas feelings?

If it's your favourite, wear it. You shouldn't give a damn what anyone else thinks of YOUR clothes. They aren't you - you are your own person.
Wear it with pride. :)

you know how on the side of your finger nail theres like.. strands of loose skin that, when pulled out, hurts like hell. anyway, a piece of skin was sticking out from under the side of my nail and i was dumb enough to pull it out. it hurts a LOT, and i need it to heal by friday because i have to play violin for a concert and i cant b/c it hurts so much when i push on it.. so.. erm. what are some things i could do to lessen the pain and get rid of it altogether before friday?? ><

Ahh, these suck. I know they're really painful, I had one a few weeks back.
If you've pulled it off, it will most probably be fine by Friday. Just let the air get to it and allow it to heal. Try not to touch it or bang it.
If you get them in future, don't pull! Just pop on a plaster to prevent you snagging it on things.
and good luck with your concert. :)

is it normall for the girl to start squirting in my face

This makes no sense.
If you want her to do it in your face.. then that's up to you.
and not all women "squirt".

is it damaging to blow dry hair with cold air?

Drying your hair any other way than the natural way is damaging. but using the cold setting isn't as bad as the hot setting.
Use a good shampoo and conditioner with heat protection spray before you blow dry or use any other appliances. Just make sure your hair is conditioned well, and you should be fine.

waht if a guy finger bangs you, in which hole? and what if its the wrong one???

It's normally the vagina. There's no way he can accidentally get it in the wrong hole, unless you want it there (bum) :P

should i turn down one of my bestfriends that is going to ask me out?

If you don't like them any more than a friend, then yes...
If you're scared about losing your friendship if you do go for it, talk it through.
Things happen differently for everyone.
Do what you feel is right.

does my bf really love me

You will have to provide some information why you think he DOESN'T, because noone here will know, unfortunately.
If he says he does and he hasn't done anything to make you think different, believe him.

Is it possible that the guys's penis won't fit inside the girl at all? I mean, my friends were fighting about this yesterday and today. And one of them said that happens to girls only if they're, i forgot the word,is to small? And the other girl said that is a "total lie". so who's right? I know, stupid question, but they're both right beside me and they want to know what other people think. haha

They'll fit. Might not at first because it may take some time to get used to.. but they will fit. Vagina's are to accommodate babies. A baby is way bigger than a penis ;)

My sister is 3 years older than i am and is always saying myspace sucks and i should get a facebook. She says schools look at myspace and you could get suspended if you have pics of doing stuff at the school? Is this true? and is facebook REALLY so much better than myspace? Any opinion is appreciated!

It's been known for schools/employers/etc to check myspace and other social websites. To stop that, all you have to do is make your profile private, though.
My personal opinion:
Facebook is lame. Too many applications and what not.. and it just doesn't look as nice. It's okay for what it's intended to be used for: Colleges and Universities etc.
It's all about personal preference I suppose.

how do you bold and make writing bigger on myspace? THanks

http://mygen.co.uk/index.php?page=tutorials§ion=basichtml

You'll find this page very useful.

well there this guy well he has a girlfriend and
we sort met on the internet through one of my friends.it all went well until me and him got serious we told each other i love you and everything and one thing i so regret is sendin him pics of my chest . well i kept asking him to break up with his girlfriend and he kept sayin he would soon. but all of a sudden one day he stopped talkin to me.(we live close to each other)anyways i kept texting and callin him because i didn't know what was going on .i was so mad and sad since his gf knew nothing about what we had done and i felt bad i told her everything and whenever i texted him he just told me to leave him alone that he didn't want to talk to me.and im really heart broken and sad over this i mean i know i should get over it but i can't its been since last october since me and him stopped talkin i tried not tryin to text him but nomatter what i do i want to resolve things with him so bad and he just refuses to talk to me .and my best friend rachel started terxtin him and i told her to ask him if he would talk to me and he said he couldn't handle me.so any advice and would any guy please help me understand why he won't forgive me because its like breakin my heart not bein able to talk to him. oh and fyi im 15 he's 19 and so is his gf and if anyone says well you shouldn't have done anything with him because of your age i already know because my parents tols me not to talk to him anymore but i did anyway so any advice will help thankies .oh and sorry for how long it is .
and also im not into him like that anymore im just dyin to be friends with him again but he wont give me a chance.

Why do you even want to be friends with him? Do yourself a favour and keep your distance. Don't even bother to contact him.
Why? He was stringing you along.
He probably had NO intention of dumping his girlfriend for you. He just wanted what he could get (a picture) and now doesn't want anything to do with you anymore.
It's harsh, but it's the truth.
If he wanted to be with you, he would have broke up with his girl, simple as that. but he didn't.
Erase him from your memory and get on with your life.
Things will be okay soon and maybe then you will realize how foolish you were and that you don't ever need someone like that.

Ok i'm a virgin and I masturbate, and I was just wondering:
1. can the gyno tell by looking up in there
2. can I accidently break off a piece in there..like that determines if i've had sex or not.

A gyno can't tell if you masturbate or are sexually active. They will be able to tell if your hymen is intact or not, though. If it's not intact, it still doesn't mean you're sexually active or masturbate, because it can break for a number of other reasons.
So don't worry. :)

ok so theres a lot of talk about how you can track whos looked at your facebook...so how do you do it?!?!

thanks!!!!!!!

You can't. It's the whole point of sites like that - to keep whoever looks at your profile anonymous.
It may be something you can do in the future, although I highly doubt it.
Don't fall for the trackers, either. They just get your password and post crap advertisements etc whilst pretending to be you.

my close friend has this sickness.
and like. i pray for a cure everynight.

how weird does that sound though?
is that stalkerish. i mean its the kid i like.
i hate giving pity-.. is that giving pity?

i know . how random and weird is this question.

-deana

It's not "stalkerish"
It just clearly shows you are a caring person and want your close friend to get better (even if you like him/her more than a friend).
Praying for them isn't really giving pity, either.

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