Not in the least. You're perfectly normal. When I was 14, I was 5'2" and I weighed 102. I checked my BMI and found that I was at the bottom of normal weight for that height. I think. So you're perfectly normal.
Muscle does weigh more than fat, so that's probably where your poundage comes from. You are not fat, and you don't have to worry about becoming fat.
With all the excercise you do, being a gymnast and a softball player, you probably have a fairly high metabolism, preventing you from gaining a whole lot of weight.
So you're fine.
-Siren =)

That's not "cum," m'dear. It's vaginal discharge, and it's perfectly normal, unless it smells bad or looks yellow or brown.
You're normal! Relax. =)
-Siren =)

Actually, I think you're normal. I have a friend who's 5'8" and weighs 180 and she looks great.
But if weighing that much really bothers you, add fruits and veggies more into your diet. Any food containing water is very good. Exact out your portions, but don't you dare turn anorexic. Lol. Good luck!
-Siren =)

Heh
If it didn't bother him, then you shouldn't be so horribly embarrassed. I mean, you can't tell me he's never pinched your ass or anything. All guys do that. Even mine does, and he's possibly the sweetest guy on earth. Lol.
So you missed? Big deal. It's no reason to freak out or anything, but I can understand being embarrassed about it.
I'm still embarrassed about the time I tripped over my own feet and almost knocked my boyfriend over and that was, like, four months ago. Lol.
So chill out about it, chica. =)
-Siren =)

I've never had a tattoo, so I dunno how much they hurt.
Though I think it really depends on how high your pain tolerance is. If you have a really high one, then you should be okay. If not...reconsider getting the tattoo.
It's a needle sticking into you a bunch of times.
Hope I helped in some way!
-Siren =)

I was in this situation, but on the girl's side. She probably loves the friendship the two of you have and doesn't want to ruin it.
Talk to her about it, though. Tell her what you just told us, that you'd treat her well, and not hurt her like the others. You're different, and she needs to know that.
Talk to her about all that, and if she still won't go out with you, look around. There may be other people for you. =)
Good luck!
-Siren =)

Just be honest and tell people.
Your parents will love you no matter what. Unconditional love is a must for parents. =)
As for your friends, they should love you for who you are, not who they want you to be, so it should make no difference to them.
Good luck!
-Siren =)

Bored.com is fun if you're desperate.
Fanfiction.net is good if you like to read.
Write a story...draw a picture...You'll find stuff to do. =)
-Siren =)

I hope you mean you weigh 147. I'm not sure what your question is, but...
As for weighing more...work out. Muscle mass builds healthy weight. Good luck!
-Siren =)

Making out is fine and all.
But I would wait for the sex thing. Does she know all the risks involved with sex? STDs, Pregnancy, all this stress, all this PAIN...Since I'm guessing she's about your age, if not younger, she probably doesn't.
Make sure you're not forcing her into anything. You don't want to end up doing something with her you'd regret, would you? I mean, you could break up and she could have all this blackmail. Lol
Think about it. Wait, please. The fact that you decided you weren't quite ready yet tells me you're really, honestly not ready to get into this situation.
What do you do? Live with the lack of sex. Guys do every day.
Good luck in life and love
-Siren =)

it's really a question of maturity and trust, not age.
If you're mature enough to handle sex and all the risks it comes with, go for it. It also has a lot to do with the question of trust. Do you trust this guy enough to do something so intimate with him? I'd reccomend being legal in a lot of places (16+), but it's not a necessity, as long as you're not having sex when you're 11, or something.
Making out...also depends on maturity. Trust, too. How close are you willing to get with this guy?
Dating is also when you're mature enough.
Hope I helped a bit. =)
-Siren =)

Whoa
Hold on. This guy CHEATED on you, and you're thinking about staying with him? That's like proving to him he can get away with it! What you wanna do is prove to him that he can't. I know you love him, but you've gotta get rid of him. He's not nice. He's not a good person. No good guy could cheat on his girl like that.
Get rid of him. Good luck.
-Siren =)

Wow. *Hug*
I'm so sorry...You must feel so awful. You can't blame yourself for what happened to her. Some jerk killed her, and you had nothing to do with it. Even if you hadn't fought that day, she probably still would've been killed. I hate to sound like a pessimist because I'm not, but there's really nothing you could've done. You need to accept the fact that she's gone and move on with your life. She wouldn't have wanted you to screw up your life because you miss her, would she? I doubt she was that selfish.
Think of what she would want. She'd want you to be happy. She wouldn't want you to blame yourself, and make yourself sick over it, which is essentially what you're doing.
I hate to sound insensitive, but you've gotta snap out of it, honey. You've gotta keep going. Mourn for awhile, then let it go.
If you need someone to talk to, feel free to IM (SirenCytherea) or e-mail me. (DemonIre1024@hotmail.com)
My condolences.
-Siren =)

You're kidding...right?
Just hold hands...you can't freak out about bacteria. You're breathing bacteria now. You can't get an STD from holding hands, unless you have a cut on your hand and they have a cut on their hand and their blood gets into your bloodstream, which is really unlikely to happen.
-Siren =)

*Laughs*
Awwwwwwwwwwww. Sorry, but that's adorable. As long as you're comfy with it, let him do it, lol. If not, knock his hand away. Lol.

Stay with him. I had a boyfriend that lived an hour away from me. We never went out much, but he was a lying, cheating...yeah. Anyway.
30 minutes isn't that bad.
If I were you, I would not break up with a great guy because he lives too far away. I know how it feels to see couples everywhere and be sad and all. *Sends hugs in your direction*
Stay with the guy. You sound like a good couple. If he's a nice, genuine guy, you'd better keep him. Those are really hard to find nowadays.
-Siren =)

Well
I believe that violence is not the answer, though I can understand why you kicked his ass. She wants you back? Say no.
Getting back with a cheater is just like saying that it's okay to cheat. It's stupid.
I'm sorry this happened to you. You sound like a good guy.
-Siren =)

Communicate.
That's usually the answer to boyfriend problems. There are way too many couples that don't communicate enough nowadays, and it's killing relationships left and right.
So talk to the boy. Let him know that when he brushes you off like that, it's hurtful. Does he know he's acting like this? If not, you've gotta tell him.
Good luck!
-Siren =)

Ignore everyone else's comments. When dealing with yourself, the only person whose opinion matters is yours. You've gotta learn to love yourself and live with everyone else. Let them think you're goth. You know you aren't, so that's all that matters. I can understand the "like to be wearing something different than all the others" thing. I'm like that. Just be you and ignore the people out there who are too insecure to be themselves. Think about it. THEY are the ones that conform and look the same. Because of their massive insecurity, they feel the need to put down the person who's secure enough to be a real person.
Just stay you, don't conform, and ignore what they say. =)
-Siren =)

Not in the least.
In society today, it's perfectly acceptable for a girl to propose to a guy. It's cute, actually. I'd do it if I had the nerve...Lol
Go for it, and all the best to you both!
-Siren =)

I'm a laid-back 26 year old with a Psychology BA, starting my MA program, and working my way into the field as quickly as I can. It took me an extra Bachelor's degree (in vocal performance and creative writing) to figure it out, but I was put on this Earth to help, to heal, and to love.

I have made the decision to dedicate my life and career to helping others. I am here to do just that.

I've been a member since 2004, and since I signed up, I've gone through quite a lot and learned quite a lot from it. I'm here to give guidance where I had none; no one should have to go through the difficulties I went through alone.

Feel free to visit my website/blog, if you want to read my experience with domestic violence and my thoughts on it.

***While I do tend to answer mental health and other health-related or medicine-related questions, I am by NO MEANS a licensed physician or practitioner of any sort. Any and all advice I give for these questions is from my own experience or studies.***

If you need to get a hold of me quickly, my screen name on AIM is SirenCytherea. Just let me know you found me here.

I'm a strong believer in the idea that there are no stupid questions except the ones left unasked, so, please, keep an open mind, heart, and mouth.

Siren

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