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Coming out of the closet..
I am 17 years old and I feel that it is time for me to tell my friends and parents about me being gay. I have managed to tell a few friends already, and they took it easy. I don't want my other friends (guys in particular and girls that hate gays) to turn around and say that I am gross and never talk to me again. How do I tell them and my parents without it sounding so harsh? I am still the same person as before..
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Hi there, just tell them when your ready. You say your ready now so just do it only if you want to. If your friends were true friends they would except you being gay, not judge you. Daniel.
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There are many books in your public library that can assist you with telling your friends and family that you are gay. Please do some discrete research to soothe your thoughts. Also, contact an organization called PFLAG. They too can assist you.
Most importantly, be true to yourself. Do not conform to the stereotypes you and your friends have for what gay men should be. You are free from the secrets now, and you have a lot of work to catch up to the everyone else's level of growth.
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well u have nutthin to be ashamed bout jus go wit wat yur heart says if yur frends and parents really luved u they would except u for who u r and treat u the same as befor
luv vanna
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well for one, if they're you're true friends then they'll accept it. they'll have to, if they want to remain your friend, that is. you might have a really hard time breaking it to some of them, but you ARE still the same person as you were, you're just revealing a bit more.
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It is good that you are coming out about it and while your parents and friends may not like it they will eventually get used to it. If you loose friends it is because they weren't really your real friends. Tell them straight up, don't worry about sounding harsh. Good luck hun!
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Well I think you should sit your parents down and tell them. Your parent shouldnt care about your sexuality because they love you. And I think they will understand. And your friends that you havent told shouldnt do stuff like that when you tell them. If they do then they are not your real friends. Because friends should like you for who you are not what you are.
*Zoe*
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Hey,
The best policy is to be honest. Your parents (although I don't know them) are going to love you no matter what your sexual preference is; Just because you're a guy who likes guys it doesn't make you a different son, or a different friend. As for your friends, if they're real friends they'll accept it. If they say you're gross and they never want to talk to you again then they're ignorant, stupid people who aren't worth the trouble.
I have plenty of gay friends and it doesn't bother me in the least because they're exactly that - friends. It must be difficult and nerve-wracking, but you might be surprised at how accepting your loved ones will be :)
Good luck!
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hey...i dont think ur mom will think that ur gross shell still love u ..even if ur gay its not like ur a alien ur still a person just like a different gender ..i have a couple friends that are gay and everyone accpts them the way they r ...they cant change u so theyre gunna have to learn to accept u ...u just sit them down and say ..mom , dad ( or whoever) flat out straight and if they dont accept u then theyre not good friends or parents ..cuz its ur choice of lifestyle and dont let ne one tell u ne different ...but then again they might be cool with it u never know but just tell them before they hear it frum sumone else and not frum theyre own son !
good luck --all the best XoKateXo!
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Your parents will love you no matter what. Just tell them at dinner when you're alone with the both of them.
If you know that they have anti-gay beliefs then try to get the most sympathetic parent alone and tell them first.
Your friends should accept you the way you are. With your female friends who hate gays, you should just tell them. They'll be shocked, but if they're really your friends, they'll get over it.
Your guy friends could be awkward. You could tell them just before you have to leave to go somewhere else. Like over the phone right before you have to hang up and go to dinner, or over the IM so they have some time to think about it.
Good luck!
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Just be honest and tell people.
Your parents will love you no matter what. Unconditional love is a must for parents. =)
As for your friends, they should love you for who you are, not who they want you to be, so it should make no difference to them.
Good luck!
-Siren =)
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Well.. its up to you whether you tell them now or later.. but if they stay your friends for a while they're evently going to have to no.. and that is when you're going to find out who is and isnt your true friend. take it from someone who has experience with that... most people accept it and the people who dont are usually not open minded! i hope you tell them and everything works out for the best! good luck! <33 Alex!
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be honest. they should accept you for who you are. the longer you wait, the madder they will be. being gay doesnt change who you are on the inside. if they cant accept the fact, maybe they are true friends. it may shock them so give them time. they may be upset you dint say anything before. tell them it is hard for you to tell them and you hope you can stay friends. Good luck and always be true to yourself. much love, melissa
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Maybe you need to tell one person at a time to give it time to sep in.If ur friends cant accept you for that then they are no friends at all.True friends can accept you for who u are or if u dont want to take the time and tell each person individually,get them all together and tell them then.Once you tell them it will relieve a lot of pressure.I hope I helped!
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