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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!

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hey,for april fools these guys in my grade got a really popular guy to ask a girl that is really nerdy out! and she was so excited and said yes right away and sfter she said yes he told it was an april fools joke. everyone in my grade thatought it was really funny and everybody still laughs at her!!! i feel sorry for her and i want to stick up for her but i dont want to lose my reputation!!! what should i do???

CONFUSED

You can never lose your rep. for taking a stand. What happened to that girl is messed up, and if you fell sorry for her and you think it was wrong, then its only right that you talk to your friends about being a little nicer. If they can't understand that, and think your going soft, they are not worth your friendship. From what I see you are not cold hearted like them, and you don't need negative attitudes like that in your environment.

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My friend (we are in 7th grade, and we are 13) has a boyfriend thats a really bad kid. He does drugs, but she tells us that he told her he would stop. but i think that he's lying to her. She wont listen to me ahe thinks that he stopped but i know he diddnt. I just dont want her to go on the wrong path, she says she wont but i think she will. She probubly will without even knowing that.

You should atleast tell your friend that you think her boyfriend is still doing drugs. What are 13 year olds doing doing drugs anyway? But before you explain what you think, make sure you ahve evidence.And let her know she shouldn't follow the same path as him. He's bad news, all he will do is get her trouble, and she doesn't need that she is too young. If your friend doesn't believe you, you can only like the matter take its course. but atleast YOU will know you tired. And if she does happen to fall, you will still be there to catch her.

i am hearing things that my boyfriend is cheating on me and when i ask him he said no. what should i do? please help!!!!!!!!!

If he said no, then all you can do is trust that he is telling the truth. But, if you catch him in the act or in lie, then leave him alone because he is no good. You don't need a bf who si gonna play ping-pong between you and some another girl(s).

i think i may like one of my good boy friends but im not sure if he likes me how do i find out and how do i respond

If he likes you, you will know it. Boys are easy to read, its the girls that are hard to. This is guy is probably thinking the same way about you. So, just ask if he would like to expand your firendship. The worst he can say is no, but look on the bright side, you will still have a good firend, so either outcome is a plus.

im a guy that wants his girlfrind to kiss him, but doesnt know what to say or do... HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!

First of all when a girl wants to kiss you you will be kissed. Don't ever rush a girl. But if she is shy, and kissing her means that much to you, then just kiss her, or ask her to kiss you. The worst she can say is no, right? Plus, once you get that 1st kiss out of the way, you will find yourself kissing alot more often. And as far as how does a girl want to be kissed... every person has they're own way of kissing. Not everyone kisses the same. but like I said you will probably kissing more often after getting that 1st kiss of the way, so that will give you "practice" to learn her style, or way she likes to be kissed.

i have a girlfriend and dont always know what to say to her. i need some help on things to say. shes really nice and i want to be social with her. please help me...

Try finding things you two have in common. It's always easier to talk about things you both can relate to. This is also another way to find out what girls, or particularly your girl, like. Talk about music, movies, or food. A bad thing to discuss is politics and religion so leave thoses subjects alone. And making jokes (but not jokes about her) is always good too. Girls like a guy who can make them laugh. I hope this helps you.

theres this girl that im going out with and she very nice, but another guy likes her and wants her to go out with him. but she likes me and is going out with me. now he threatens to beat me up and kill me all over this. I need ANSWERS for this. please help...

First of all if this guy is threatening to kill you, you should tell someone like a parent or a teacher. If he's not serious about what he's saying than maybe all he needs is a reality check, tell your girl to tell this guy to get over her because she doesn't care about him, she cares about you.

hey i was wondering if this is kool to do this, im a guy and didnt know if it was "OK" to hit my girlfrinds ass, when i see em?

No its not cool. It's dosrespectful. And it makes you look bad. You could eevn get in trouble in school for sexual harrassment if some girl decides to tell on you.

my girlfreind spends a lot of time talking to my friends and other guys instead of me. this kinda sucks because whenever i try to talk to her she walks away or tries to ignore me in the hallways of our school. please help

you need to tell you girlfriend that its messed up when she talks to other guys, it makes you look bad, and you feel like you're being played. If she wants you to be her man then she needs to start acting like it.

My friend Amber is so annoying sometimes. This kid Michael, her boyfriend, thinks the same thing. What should we do.

Best Wishes
Jacob

First of all, this kid Michael doesn't belong with your friend. Second of all, it doesn't seem like either of you are too much of her real freind. Its not very good to gossip with your friends bf behind her back. You 2 need friendship lessons. And your friend probably needs better friends.

i need alot of advise from a lot of peoples b/c there is a boy and if you remember me his name is cody i dont know if he likes me or not b/c he broke his arm over the weekend and when we got to school he didnt let anyone sign it until i did exept his mom now im only in middle so try to give the best advice and thanx for gitten my head straight bout the joke~

This boy Cody probably has a crush on you. If you like him too, which I'm assuming you do, you should ask him how he feels about you. But don't take it too seriously, remember you are only in middle school.

A girl at my school is what you call the school slut. She is always in the bathroom with a guy making out. What should I do??

If this girl is not your friend you should mind your business. But if she is you should let her know she is messing up her reputation. Personally, I wouldn't hang around her because she might give you a bad name too.

My friend told me that a guy at my school lift up girls shirts and feels their stuff! What should i do?

You should probably tell a teacher or a councelor. Exposing people like that is not a game. Lifting girls shirts when unwanted is sexual harrassment, and that kid can get in deep trouble. If you can't tell someone about it yourself, have a parent do it or write a letter or email to a teacher or councelor.

NB: don't read this if you are young/innocent/easily offended.

My boyfriend is 17, I'm 16. We spend large amounts of time indulging in 'heavy petting'. But when I give him a hand job (such a horrible way of putting it) he doesn't come unless he gives a hand as well. And when we were trying to sleep together he couldn't maintain an erection. My fault, his fault,nobodies fault?

What should I/we do?

This can sometimes be nobody's fault. All I can say is put some more effort into it. Like, when giving him "a hand" try lotion or lubricant. You could also try stimulating him orally, or pornographic movies or magazines while engaging in intercourse. Some guys like it when girls talk dirty as well. Another thing is sometimes the guy has to stimulate the girl to get an erection. I hope I helped.

What is head? I'm not being stupid, no one's ever told me. I know it has to do with gur;s doing something to guys related to sex but i dont know what it is!

There are many terms for giving head; blow-job, brain, knowledge, chewy, etc. The correct term is ORAL SEX and what it is exactly is: Pleasuring a persons sexual organ (private part) with your mouth, lips, and tongue. The purpose is to stimulate the body part, in return creating an orgasim or pleasureful feeling for your partner. You'd be surprised, this technique doesn't just do good for just private parts.

I am having a yard sale. And I told my friend who lives next door, that she had anything she was welcome to bring it over.
The promblem is that she is not only bring things over for her but, she has things her family has asked her to sale and her co-workers.
I asked if she was going to be able to help me. She said she would come over for a little while. But won't be able to stay very long.

I am now overwhelmed, I have a 2 year old and a 4 year old, and a yard sale. The first day my husband has to work so he can't help. Do you think it is right that she is bringing stuff for other people. Without asking me? And if so, how can I get her to understand that it is almost too much for me?

You should let your friend know its messed up to pin all that work on you. What does she think, your home is a flea market? Doesn't she know that that yard sale isn't your only responcibility? Plus if she wants to voulunteer in adding more junk, she should volunteer in helping to get rid of it, whether she puts in time or she gets some friends, preferably the ones who gave her all that stuff, to come help you. If she can't understand that, then tell her to get rid of her own stuff.

I need help. I wanna BE WITH guys, but they all think I'm retarded cuz of what happened last week. I think the capt. of the football team saw me jacking off with my pink sparkley dildo. Now none of the guys wanna be with me. What should I do?

Signed,
Retarded and disgusting

What you do alone privately is not retarted or discusting, in fact its completely natural. But when you do it in public, it is. No one needs to know that you do that but you and your significant other. I would say the locker room is definitely not the right place to be doing that. Eventually the rumors will pass. Plus many guys find masturbation as a turn on (as long as its between you 2). Either way I suggest you leave your sex toys at home, and take take this as a valuable lesson in life.

All of my friends are really worried about me because I cut myself. My parents don't know I still cut, but they know that I used to. I'm addicted to hurting myself and I don't want to stop. Everyone wants to change me but I refuse to. How do I get everyone to stop trying to get me to change?

First of all, your friends wnat you to change for a good reason, so don't be mad at them. Most people who mutilate themselves don't do it to die thwy just do it to replace pain with pain, but they probably don't know that and are just scared that you may cut yourself and accidently kill yourself. You should find a better coping skill to deal with your problems. Try to analyze your situations before reacting, then once you have calmed down and really seen how bad or how not bad the problem is take action in solving it without cutting. Fighting an addiction can be pretty hard, but try my suggestion a couple of times and see where it gets you. Goodluck!

P.S. let me know how it goes

Allright, I have recently started taking ADDERALL(ADD drug), which goes against all my beliefs, but this way I can stay at my current school which I love. I have an agreement with my parents if I take it I can stay at my current school. But, today after it started kicking in I heard voices. It started in geography, we were talking about Sharon the butcher of Israel. Someone in my head, who was me but not started telling me about how eyes are made of glass and Sharon took out his victims eyes and put them on a wall. It chanted, "Wall of eyes" until I screamed so loud in my head I was suprised no one heard me. It never shut up, unless I was talking to someone, but once I stopped it started. It's hard to explain, it was like I was saying it to myself, but it wasn't me. It's worn off by now, but I think it is making me insane. I don't want to stop taking it, but it is making me completely diffrent. Should I tell my parents? Should I stop taking it? my grades are better. Is it worth it?

STOP TAKING THAT STUFF NOW! Abusing drugs can cause permanent brain damage or death. And your parents should not be encouraging you to take that stuff, they should be encouraging you to go to bed earlier and get some rest.

my ex boyfriend broke up with me when his girlfriend before me gave birth to his son and now they have broke up he wants me back i want him aswell and have told him. he tells me he wants me but tells his mates he doesn't and it is really confusing.WHAT DO I DO PLEASE HELP ME

Listen girl, I went through the exact same problem for almost a year, and let me tell you it is not worth it! Babymoms and Babydads will always be together, even when they are not, they truelly still are. When 2 people have a child together, they share an eternal bond. Everytime his bm has a problem, and I mean any little problem, he will run straight out of your arms, and into hers. And if they had sex once and it got that far, they will never stop having sex. Its basically like this you should want to be #1 in your guys life, and he's got a #1(girl) and a #2(baby). It may be hard to stay at first, but in the end you'll be gald. Trust me!

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