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bad april fools joke
hey,for april fools these guys in my grade got a really popular guy to ask a girl that is really nerdy out! and she was so excited and said yes right away and sfter she said yes he told it was an april fools joke. everyone in my grade thatought it was really funny and everybody still laughs at her!!! i feel sorry for her and i want to stick up for her but i dont want to lose my reputation!!! what should i do???
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You should stick up for her thats what I think you should do.Put yourself in her shoes.What would you feel like if someone did that to you?Is your reputation more important then someones feelings.you`ll go to another school and earn a new reputation but her feelings will be with her forever.So do the right thing.
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You may feel that your the only one that wants to stick up for her but there may be other people that may think and feel the same way.
Besides, it's a very old 'joke' so they should shut up anyway. If people do stop talking to you or whatever it is you fear, it shows who are your true friends are.
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What these guys did was VERY mean. It's great that you want to stick up for her, she deserves a lot better than to be treated like that. You may be worried about losing your reputation by sticking up for her, but I bet there are a ton of other kids in your grade that want to stick up for her too but don't have the guts to do it. So be the brave one and help this girl out. Just think of how lonely, depressed, and scared she must feel. I'm sure she feels absolutely horrible and if someone doesnt help her soon something bad may happen to her. The least you can do is be there for her as a friend and fellow student. Good luck!
*FallenAngel*
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You should definatly not care about what other people think! This girl really deseves to feel liked! Espeshly after what those guys did to her!
You can do whatever you want, but if it were me I would stick up 4 her!
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Those guys were such jerks!!! Ugh, I wish I knew who they were so I could kick their sorry-tailed behinds! She is so much more mature than they are. As for you, rep? Who cares about reputation??? Do what's right and stick up for the girl.
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Sticking up for her probably isn't the best way to go about things. Everyone in your grade laughed at her because it made them feel a sense of power and that they were higher up on the high school food chain than this poor girl. If you tell them to stop laughing at her, all they'll do is laugh at you, too. Sad, but it's true.
The best thing to do is to talk to the girl in private and tell her that what all those people did was really mean and that you're there for her. Right now, she probably needs a friend, and you can do that for her. It'll probably make her feel 10 thousand times better to know that she at least has one person in school that isn't laughing at her behind her back.
I can't give you any advice on how to not "ruin your rep" because I never had a "rep" in high school. I thought reputations were a waste of time, especially if it's considered "bad for your rep" to associate with "nerds". Personally, I think that "nerds" are the coolest people of all because they don't care about stupid things like "reps". I've said "nerd" and "rep" about 28 times in this paragraph... I hope you get the picture.
So, to sum up... Reputations are a huge waste of time that make absolutely no difference to you after you graduate high school. If you're afraid to sacrifice your coolness in order to help somebody, then don't. But remember: The real "cool" people are the ones who don't care about what other people think.
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You can never lose your rep. for taking a stand. What happened to that girl is messed up, and if you fell sorry for her and you think it was wrong, then its only right that you talk to your friends about being a little nicer. If they can't understand that, and think your going soft, they are not worth your friendship. From what I see you are not cold hearted like them, and you don't need negative attitudes like that in your environment.
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