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I suck in bed
NB: don't read this if you are young/innocent/easily offended.
My boyfriend is 17, I'm 16. We spend large amounts of time indulging in 'heavy petting'. But when I give him a hand job (such a horrible way of putting it) he doesn't come unless he gives a hand as well. And when we were trying to sleep together he couldn't maintain an erection. My fault, his fault,nobodies fault?
What should I/we do?
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Ok. It could be his fault or nobody's fault. he is prolly REALLY nervous. And knowing that he can't keep an erection prolly makes it way worse. Just tell him that you don't care and then get him a cock ring. lol. If you have anymore questions, feel free to ask me.
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get a him a cock ring
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This can sometimes be nobody's fault. All I can say is put some more effort into it. Like, when giving him "a hand" try lotion or lubricant. You could also try stimulating him orally, or pornographic movies or magazines while engaging in intercourse. Some guys like it when girls talk dirty as well. Another thing is sometimes the guy has to stimulate the girl to get an erection. I hope I helped.
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well really its nobodies fault. some boys cant keep an erection for plenty of reasons.
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It is difficult to get a man to climax with a "hand job." It does take endurance. They always seem to do it better themselves. Usually "hand jobs" are a sort of foreplay for the man, and not necessarily the complete sex act.
Loosing an erection is usually about what is going on in his head (if it isn't medical, and it probably isn't in his case.) If he is distracted, worried, anxious about his performance, rushed, not relaxed and comfortable about the situation, concerned that you are not comfortable or into it, etc., that is good reason to loose an erection. You are both very young. Things get better as you get older and more experienced.
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The problam isn't you for the handjob it might just take a little more time for him to cum, or he is used to s certain way of doing it. Now in bed most guys do tend to lose their erections and is in now way your fault. When you get older and may have sex with different men you might run across a guy with the same problem. So its not your fault. As for your additions info- No its not that he is nervous it tends to happen with intense sex, because we can maintain an erection with the pase is moderate but above that we tend to get tired after vigerous sex which can force use to lose our erection during sex. But it is before the intense sex he might have a problem.
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dont worry so much, your boyfriend can get medical treatment for his erectional problem, its not that rare for a guy to have problems keeping it up, its not your fault, and as for the hand job (lol) alot of girls cant get a guy to come, they like it a specific way,hard and heavy, and a girls delecate hands and wrist may not be strong enough. but dont stop cus its the thougt of you doing it that gets him so excited that he gives you a hand so that he can,you no, come...have fun.............
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See a doctor about his trying to maintain an errection. There is a condition called, I think, penile errection disfunctuion, that means that a man either cannot get an errection or cannot maintain one.
As for the hand job, maybe your hands are to little or your writst to weak? This has happened to me, when my wrist has just died and he has had to carry on himself.
As for who's fault it is, its probably 50/50 cuz, as they say, it takes two to tango...
Good luck :)
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