about

My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.


ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

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im going on a trip and i do not want to have to deal with my period my last period it was 45 days from the one before then the one before was 31 days from the one before how can i tell when my next one will be

Every girl's period is different. Nobody here can tell you when you're going to get yours next.


Regardless, you shouldn't let your period ruin your trip. Just have fun!


-Laura. (16-f)

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I've liked this girl for awhile now, and I've been thinking about asking her out, but how can I figure out if she likes me?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=532578


From there:
"I'm going to start off by saying this: if a girl smiles A LOT when she's around you, she probably likes you as more than a friend.


The Top 5 other things to look for:
1. She laughs at your jokes.
- No matter how many times she's heard them, or how totally lame they are, she'll laugh at them. End of story.

2. She touches you (not sexually, get your head outta the gutter!)
- She plays with your hair, or fixes your shirt or something. Maybe she even holds your hand, that's a pretty good sign that she likes you.

3. She includes you in things.
- She talks to you even when she's with her friends. She makes an effort to include you, like by asking you things. Even lame questions like, 'What color should I paint my nails?' might be her way of trying to include you.

4. She makes an effort to talk to you/see you.
- She texts you just to say hello, she's late to class just because she wanted to hug you good bye, or she calls you just to see what you're doing.

5. She trusts you, and talks to you seriously.
- She tells you things that she might not normally tell others. Like, if she's in a bad mood and tells others she's fine, she'll actually tell you that she failed that geometry test, or her friends aren't including her lately. She opens up to you and isn't afraid to be herself.


Even though every girl is different, these are the top 5 things girls do when they like a guy. So, chances are, if she's holding your hand and texting you saying :" Hey whatcha up to? :)", chances are she's doing it all for a reason."


Im addition to that, life is WAY too short to not take chances and risks once in a while. Why sit around wondering what could've been, what would've been and what should've been, when you can answer all of those questions and then some by being honest and telling this girl how you really feel about her?


Godo Luck!



-Laura. (16-f)

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Everytime that I try to help my sister with her baby, she yells at me if I do something wrong. Sometimes I just want to yell back at her and tell her all the things that she does wrong as a parent.Should I tell her how I feel? How should I do it if I do?

First, don't criticize her parenting. I am not a parent myself, but I imagine it to be VERY stressful. She probably yells at you because of this, the stress has made her fuse short and the littlest things will make her angry. So, it probably isn't your fault.


What you CAN do, is talk to her about it, calmly, and in a mature way. Approach her and let her know you don't like that she's yelling at you when you're only trying to help. Make sure to let her know that you understand she's under pressure having a baby and not being married, but you're really not into the idea of her yelling at you.


-Laura. (16-f)

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can any body please tell me some songs for really very sad mood... like you have been ditched by somebody or you are fed up of your stupid kinda life...etc etc... but shud be really very emotional kind... am writing a few examples down here...
apologize- timbaland
kim-eminem
when i'm gone- eminem
cry me a river-timberlake
numb-linkinpark
lonely-akon
my happy ending-avril

i know they are quite old song but then if i knew any new ones then what was the need of coming here...

plz help me ...
thanks all you kind helpin people out there

Here are some links to past questions that will help you:


http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=538122
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=529353
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=529137
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=519407
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=517645
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=513561



-Laura. (16-f)

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I am 13 and I havnt made out yet.
People make fun of me and I REALLY WANT TO but I cant get a boyfriend.
What should I do?

Stop worrying what others say/think. Don't rush into your first kiss, if you do it won't be NEARLY as special. Just let it happen naturally. Waiting is totally worth it =]


-Laura. (16-f)

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one time, it was like a year and a half ago when i broke my ipod because a coke accident. but i saved it after even if they didnt work. but i hooked my old ipod up to my charger and it came back to life. but sometimes it still freezes, is it too late, or is there a way to get the excess coke out? it's one of those old ipod nanos. its okay if it doesn't work, it's just cool to have an extra ipod lol.

It's been over a year? Then no, there's no way to get the extra Coke out. It probably isn't even still in there anyways.


-Laura. (16-f)

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ok me and a friend were talking about how to get your butt to get larger. and she said she heard like a teaspoon of peanut butter and a piece a bread before bed would eventually make it bigger.

is it true?

I really don't think that is an effect way to make your butt bigger...


I don't actually think there are ANY miracle ways to make your butt bigger.


Sorry?


-Laura. (16-f)

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I'm a female and is 22yrs of age.


Well I've been talking to this guy for 7mos now and I really don't know if he's ready to be serious. He always introduce me as his lady friend. How tell him that i want more than just a good friend with benefits and how do i know if he really wants to be with me like that?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=543173


From there:
"Well, there are 2 major options you can go about to solve this problem:


1. Be blunt about it.
2. Be shy about it.


I highly suggest being blunt about it, and either asking him if he's into you too, or simply asking him out yourself. Guys like when girls show confidence, and there's no better way to show you're confident than walking up to a guy and asking him out!


Or, you can go the other route and be shy about it, possibly doing nothing to show him you're interested in him. Sometimes, people who use this method drop subtle hints such as smiling [which is common in girls and doesn't always show you're into a guy] or having a friend ask if he's into you [this only shows that you're too shy to do it yourself]. This option is really kind of stupid, and is used all too much...


As I always say:
Life is WAY too short to not take chances and risks once in a while. Why sit around wondering what could've been, what would've been and what should've been, when you can answer all of those questions and then some by being honest and telling a boy how you really feel about him?"



-Laura. (16-f)

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how do you straight lace etnies?

only search advicenators.com



I'm sure you can find a website that shows you how to lace them =]



-Laura. (16-f)

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Me and my boyfriend had sex last week, it was only for two minutes and he noticed weird white stuff on me , we checked the condom. and it didnt break whatsoever their werent any holes in it at all because we really checked and he was also really dry and didnt bust at all. should i be worried, was the white stuff from me?

"Me and my boyfriend had sex last week"


^ Anytime you have sex, there is a chance of pregnancy. Using a condom, however, does decrease the chance of pregnancy.


http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=538566



-Laura. (16-f)

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I'm going to the beach with my sisters, mom, and boyfriend for the day, and don't really know what to do. My boyfriend and I can only hold hands, so no romantic stuff really. But any ideas on games or anything different to do at the beach? So far we've got:

-Swimming in the ocean
-Digging a hole
-Looking for sand crabs
-Photo shoot, haha
-Going running

But we can't really think of anything else. Anything really creative or weird? :P Also, money's kinda tight, so no boardwalk. Hah.

Have a picnic!
Watch the cloud shapes float by.
Build a sand castle.
Play beach volleyball.


only search advicenators.com



-Laura. (16-f)

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How do you get an emo boy to like you if your only half emo and half prepy?

You can start by not sterotyping and labeling him?


My friend Jack answered question that might help you: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=505520


From there:
"First- I'm going to tell you that relationships aren't all they are cracked up to be. Sure- they are fun having someone to share things with and be with. But they involve a huge commitment and if you end up with someone who is clingy- they'll want to be with you every minute of every day- and you might not have time for friends or anything else you want to do. I say this because one of my ex-girlfriends was sort of like that- and got mad if I was busy with other plans.. and it was just really retarded.

Anyway- the best way to attract a guy is to be yourself. If you try to change yourself just to get a boyfriend [especially at your age]- you'll just end up with someone who only likes you for what you've become- not who you are. If you be yourself- and don't change- you'll attract more guys who actually care about your personality rather than just your looks.

I myself like any type of girl. I honestly don't judge looks as much as I do personality. If a girl is absolutely stunningly beautiful, but she's a bitch- why would I like her? What would our relationship be? What would we talk about? Her latest hair extensions? Yeah- that would be REALLY nice *Sarcasm: Party of one!*...
If a girl has a really nice personality- and she's really outgoing and sweet and nice and smart- and she's not necessarily the best looking girl- but she's not super unattractive- then I'll most likely want to date her over the beautiful bitch.

Do you get what I'm saying? If you let guys see your personality more than your looks- you'll end up with someone great. Trust me- most guys prefer personality over looks- they just don't know it yet =]."



-Laura. (16-f)

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15/f

hey i have a question.. i recently met my friends cousin that is a grade younger than us.. (were sophmores and hes a freshman) and hes really nice and stuff but we only hung out once with a group of people and then i text him sometimes but do you think it would be weird to like him because he is a grade younger than me? and i am always the one to text him first.. do you think that means anything or do you think we just need to hang out more? because i layed off the texting a bit so he wouldnt think im annoying or desperate and i want to hang out with him more its just that i hope my friend doesn't mind even though he has a girlfriend (my friend)

thanks in advance! :)

Thanks for inboxing!


No, I don't think it's weird to like somebody a year younger than you. That's hardly any difference at all!


Second, I really don't know if you having to text first means anything, because I'm not a guy. However, if you really want more insight, I can recommend my awesome guy friend Jack and maybe he can help you more?


Here's his column:
http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=CuxMiBeckNow7


-Laura. (16-f)

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recently this group of immigrants from africa came over and i was to show them around school...a couple of them were girls and i ended up dating and having lots of unprotected sex with them...they were about 17 so theyve deffinetly have had sex in africa...i always puilled out in time but do u think i might have AIDS or HIV? what should i do i dont want my parents or anyone else to know.

Get tested.


It's better to be safe than sorry, and if you ask you're doctor to keep it private, it will stay confidential.


Next time, please practice safe sex.


-Laura. (16-f)

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ok well me and my boyfriend are going out for about 5 days now and i like him and all..its just i dont get to see him..like at all..i dont know if i should break up with him because i like him but then i dont its weird what should i do?

Are you serious? You haven't even been going out for a week and you're contemplating breaking up with him? I don't think the issue here is how often you see him, but whether or not you actually have feelings for him in the first place.


-Laura. (16-f)

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I am in a HUGE fight with one of my best friends at school and she is a really complicated person to get along with! Fights with her are like going into world war! I already said sorry and she isn't cracking! This was all over a HUGE misunderstanding about this boy but then we brought up other things like how we were never really were friends and sometimes I just find myself crying over it all! What should I do? I really don't want to lose my best friend!

Just give her some time to cool down. Fighting with a friend isn't the end of the world, and it certainly isn't any comparison to an actual World War. You've done your part and said you're sorry, which was a good thing for you to do. You really can't do anything else =/


-Laura. (16-f)

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okay my best friend has huge boobs. im only 13 but everyone loves her boobs like all the boys and stuff. i want to know if there is any excersises so my boobs can get a little bit bigger. i mean im not flat or anything but i just wish i could maybe most up a cup size or something so the boys will like my boobs too.

There are no miracle exercises to make your boobs bigger. You're only 13, so they're not even done growing yet. And just because boys like your friend's chest and not yours doesn't mean anything. The type of guy you SHOULD want is somebody who doesn't care about what's on the outside anyways.


-Laura. (16-f)

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Okay Sooo I go to photobudcket and i have the picture that i want to put as my caption on mysapce but the HTML tag doesnt fit where the caption goes.. Sooo What do I do??

Don't use the HTML tag, use this code instead:




If you have any problems, let me know and I'll try to help you out.


-Laura. (16-f)

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my friend is annoying and, like if he gets really annoying and i call him retarted or a d#*k head and then he goes "how am i retarted?" or "how am i a d#*k head?" and then im stuck so can anyone help me come up with a good comeback, a comeback for any situation would be good if you want, thanks

btw were both in grade eightand were guys
and pleaz dont be sayin stuff like your to young to be swearing and stuff like that because nearly every kid i know swears and not all of them are as old as me

Both of the other answers are right.

Why not be the bigger person and stop calling your FRIEND names. What happened to being NICE to your friends? If he's annoying, tell him what it is that you find annoying and ask him to stop. You don't need to be calling him names, because that's just rude.


-Laura. (16-f)

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Okay, why do guys ALWAYS freak out when they hear their girlfriend ask them this question: "Do you love me?" I don't see what the big issue is. It doesn't mean the end of our relationship, does it?

I'm not a guy, but I think the reason they "freak" could be for various reasons including:


1. They were caught off guard.
2. It's a new relationship.
3. They don't know how to respond.
4. They don't want to say the wrong thing.
5. It's something they've never really thought about before.



-Laura. (16-f)

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