hey, could you try telling me what you're talking about, I'm sure this is a question I answered, but I'm not sure which because I've answered quite a lot like this, so can you tell me what your situation was?

-TheTeenGirl

You could either use your computer, or TV time, or stop track practice. I know none of those sound too appealing, but like annouying/funny/cool teachers say "education comes before anything else." So, you have to live by that, or you can ask your parents for help on what to decide for more time with yourself and homework, you sound like you've got a pretty tight schedule. And your parents could probably help you if you ask them.

-TheTeenGirl

I believe it is because I do it all the time, its a habit, and my fingers are like fat now, not like huge, but they got fatter.

-TheTeenGirl

Try limiting yourself with planning. Right when you get home, write down plans and put it on final draft paper, and plan some more, put more on paper, and soon, you'll be doing less planning, but all you should try doing is limit your planning. But if you catch yourself planning too much, hust say "hey, all of this planning should go on paper before I forget it." and write it down.

-TheTeenGirl

Tell him that you guys will have to go seperate ways if he doesn't give you an explaination for what hes doing that he owes you, he does owe you a fairly large explaination for all of this, and you need to talk to him, and be calm and say "Look, I just want the truth, I'm not mad, I'm just very confused and you'd wanna know the same if I were doing this to you, and I'd tell you when you came to me. So, I'd appreciate your honesty if you'd give it to me, but I am not willing to keep letting you do this to me." Something like that, just talk to the guy, maybe hes upset about what happened last time with you guys.

-TheTeenGirl

Ah, hey, your best friend needs some serious words from you, if she knew you still love him, then she is not your best friend, theres just no way possible. If she doesn't, you better by God tell her, because if you don't, you will be sad just being around them both! So you better either tell her if she has no knowledge of it, or threaten your friendship if her and that guy don't end. Don't just let it slide, make her end it, and see who she chooses, if you don't do it now, it will only happen again and only hurt you again.

-TheTeenGirl

You shouldn't get mad crazy over that, it is a known fact that MOST guys just want sex, and yes, there are guys who just want a relationship and want to be in love, but there are only so many of those you find out there. And they think it because its true, guys hormones are just more sexual wanting, and there are girls like this too, but most have matured before guys have, and you should try ignoring them, don't kill them or stab them, its really no big deal and someday you'll prove a girl wrong that it isn't every guy.

-TheTeenGirl

uh, I think you know, and you need to stay away from him, do you have any idea what you'd be getting yourself into by being with a 25 year old man? Older men move way faster than girls your age, even at 18 and hes still 25, way too old. You should just throw away where he lives and his number, because his next move is to just try dating you. And you need to make it clear to him that your not gonna call, you don't have to tell him that if he doesn't have your number, but if he calls, you need to tell him.

-TheTeenGirl

Definetly wait, 17 and 25 are way different, please wait, hats a very bad choice to make to be with him at 25.


-TheTeenGirl

nah, it wouldn't be, I'd kind of hide around the topic, like "oh man, you just reminded me of my ex boyfriend! but now I am a single girl, what about you, whose your chick?" I know you have no idea whether he has a girl, but just kind of assume it, like your not asking really. Good luck with the note.

-TheTeenGirl

Well, it is normal to have these feelings, but not really before you have sex, the way you say it, sounds like you get scared and then you don't, and you probably need more time to think about it. And the only way you will regret it is if you wished you had done it with someone else, and afterwords, regret, sadness, and maybe even anger is nomal to be felt after having sex, and your guy will probably comfort you when feeling that way, I just hope that he won't think that you didn't enjoy it, or didn't like it, you should probably assure him of it, and other than that, your good to go, I hope you have sex at the right time.

-TheTeenGirl

No way, don't leave it alone, tell your guy that if he does not have feelings anymore, them he needs to have the guts to get her off of him and say "look, I have a girlfriend, so your little flirty remarks and touching me isn't going to happen anymore, I am no longer interested in you." or something like that, and maybe you should make him say that he was just "desperate" anyway, or you can say it, but not in a fighting act, like "hey, I am dating so and so, and I can't believe what he said, I feel kinda bad, but he said the only reason he dated you was because he was deperate." now yes, I am crazy and yes, it is down right mean, BUT, she was mean too, and I think you should only say that to her IF your guy is not willing to tell her that. But if hes not, then, there is obviously something going on. And who cares if it was 2 years ago, jealousy is normal to be felt no matter how long ago it was, and she has the nerve to flirt with your guy thinking you weren't around, that is horrible. And you say that he has assured you he has no interest in her, so he should not have a problem with telling her to back off, you cannot let this go on, or you will feel horrible for a long time, you need to show him that you won't tolerate this. No wonder 2 years isn't enough, because shes still here. I am hoping and praying that you will stand up for your feelings. I will help you, do not hesistate to ask me more about where to go from there in my inbox, I will help you as much as I can, and I am very interested in this.

-TheTeenGirl

-TheTeenGirl

You have to go to an adult, for starters, your parents, or if you aren't wanting to, tell a counselor, but your parents will know anyway, and you will have to let them know eventually. You don't want to be doing this still at like 26. And, it sounds like your friend just wants attention, so I think you should tell his parents hes doing it too, or talk him into telling them. You need to try figuring out with an adult why you're cutting, stress, depression, attention, not good enough or pleasing anybody. You really need to contact an adult, this is the only way you will stop, and if people on this advice site are just giving you ways to stop like the rubber band snap, I say you try that after telling them, don't just quit without telling your parents, or you will slip right back into your bad habits of cutting. You probably have heard of the rubber band snaping thing, it is where you have a rubber band on your arm, and everytime you feel the need to cut, you snap the rubberband, but I am hoping before you do that, you will get your parents or your guardian involved.

-TheTeenGirl

Well, I'm sure you can try saying "I know this may sound really off the subject and rude, but are we going to reschedule our plans for Disney? I'm not in a rush, but I was really excited and now I'm sad because their grandma died and were not going, and I was dying to go." And you could say that pretty much anytime to your family, or if you have siblings that are around your age you could talk to them and have all of you ask alone with your family, or even just you. I can understand you wanting to go to Disney soon because you thought you were going and you were pretty excited about it, so I am hoping your parents won't yell at you, but you've just got to be calm and they might come around. So I don't really think theres a certain time to wait, just anytime in my opinion, I'm sorry about their grandma.

-TheTeenGirl

I'm not sure about kissing, but a friendly hug and a "its ok" might work, but you might wanna wait a bit longer, hes probably sad and angry and you can give him a call, and maybe go over to his house and comfort him. But, hes probably in one of thos stages where he wants to be left alone. Break ups are horrible, especialy hen they were your life, and you lose yourself, I'm sure you've experianced break ups, so you can say "hey, I've definetly been there, and you ill heal jut like I did." But, I'm sory about your ex.

-TheTeenGirl

Believe me, there is nothing at all wrong with you. When you get very close to someone and something happens to make the relationship shatter, you're so overwhelmed with sadness, and when you think of getting close to someone again, you fear that things will happen again. And that may go on for days, months, even a year maybe! Yes, closeness of people can affect you this much. And your backing away tells yourself "no, we'll be too close and he/she will leave you just like last time." But, if you have already waited a few months or so, and you wanna get back out, all you can really do is put your heart at risk again. And try remembering that this is one person that left you, and people are different. So, you've gotta tak chances with your heart when you get close to someone. I will tell you that I lost my best friend to peer pressure of older guys, and it has hurt me deeply, and now I'm close to someone and I love them very much. And sometimes I am afraid that they will leave me, but I have to take chances just like you do. But if you aren't ready, you just have to wait until you feel ready to get back out in the world with closeness again, good luck.


-TheTeenGirl

Baby, babe, sweet heart, sweetie, apple pie, sugar booger, baby girl, baby boy, what makes a nickname all of the better than the others, make up one out of there name, like if his name is Chris, call him Chrissy Wissy, Christopher Robin,(pooh bear.) Make your nicknames cute and original.


-TheTeenGirl

ok, don't listen to people who are practicly saying that you're overweight! Big calfs are on skinny people too! They are on me, and I know that I am skinny. I use to be self concious, and I really don't have to, except in swimming suits, but I don't wear skirts or shorts, because I'm not that kind of girl. I just throw on jeans and a shirt, but don't try to make them skinnier, you should love yourself this way, I mean, sure its hard, but what you've got is probably all muscle, no fat, I bet you. Do not let people tell you that your legs are just all fat, because they're probably not. Tell them that it is all muscle. But I'm not sure of a way you can make them skinnier, because running just keeps it that way, and I think you should keep your legs the way they are.


-TheTeenGirl

Now, I need you to listen to me, that guy cannot choose the way you look, or the way you do things on your body, and he should like things the way you do to yourself, you chose the way you shave there, and if hes bothered it better be a good reason, because this is your body. And about the shaving, its suppose to get stubbly, its just natural, and you can make it very hairless igh when you shave it, but later in the day, it will have stubs on it, thats just the way it works, so remember, this is your decision. And USUALLY the guy has no problems with the way your private area is taken care of. I hope you and your guy have a great night on Tuesday!

-TheTeenGirl

I've heard, (now just because I may not be experianced, it doesn't mean I know nothing.) that it hurts the first few times. Now, if you're a teen, 14, 15, 16, I hope you gave this time to think over, because lots think they are ready, and end up getting scared when the time comes, I'm not saying you aren't ready, I just hope that you really are and you've had protection discussions with your partner, I guess I could say.


-TheTeenGirl

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