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I cant love.
(Sorry, i wasnt sure what category to put this under!)
I'm afraid to have feelings for people and I dont know why. If I find a guy I like...and then he starts liking me, I start backing out, and its always like this. There was ONE guy that I liked a lot and he liked me a lot but then we only became friends and we were really close, you could say he hurt me because now we hate each other and hes the closest ive gotten to anybody at all...so could anyone help me with my problem? Do you know whats wrong with me??? Please help :( Im getting extremley upset.
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You are too nervous and not ready for a serious relationship. Be patient, the time will come...
♥ :O)
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well maybe there is a feeling that you shpuld maybe not go out w/ any one! there is probaly another guy waiting to spill out his guts to tell u he likes u. Your concoius is just playing w/ your mind!
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Maybe you have probablem with commitment. and the thing with you liking them and then not, well its just puppy love then. when you find the one u will love him forever. nothin is wrong with you, you just need to wait for the rite guy. and then u will be fine.
<_kaitlin_>
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The reason that you are like this is because you are afraid of getting hurt by a guy. You need to face the fact that you may get hurt and that you may not get hurt when it comes going into a relationship with a guy. Don't worry, you just want a guy to actually to want you first. You need to change and just go out there and start dating and knowing that you may get hurt.
-Karen
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You're Probably afraid to get hurt..
Just Remember...
You Never Lose By Loving.
You Only Lose By Holding Back.
Hope I helped!!
~Ashley~
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Your just scared of getting hurt. One of my friends is dealing with the same situation. Don't be afraid. I mean, its okay to be afraid... but don't let that hold you back. Take a chance. If you want to change this no one can help you, only yourself. If you see a guy you like ask him out, and if he says yes, no matter what, don't back down. Thats the only way your going to get back on your feet with the whole dating game. Yes, your going to get hurt again, but thats what life's about, thats what loves about. Living and learning, making mistakes, getting your heart broken. It's all worth it in the end. Trust me.
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Believe me, there is nothing at all wrong with you. When you get very close to someone and something happens to make the relationship shatter, you're so overwhelmed with sadness, and when you think of getting close to someone again, you fear that things will happen again. And that may go on for days, months, even a year maybe! Yes, closeness of people can affect you this much. And your backing away tells yourself "no, we'll be too close and he/she will leave you just like last time." But, if you have already waited a few months or so, and you wanna get back out, all you can really do is put your heart at risk again. And try remembering that this is one person that left you, and people are different. So, you've gotta tak chances with your heart when you get close to someone. I will tell you that I lost my best friend to peer pressure of older guys, and it has hurt me deeply, and now I'm close to someone and I love them very much. And sometimes I am afraid that they will leave me, but I have to take chances just like you do. But if you aren't ready, you just have to wait until you feel ready to get back out in the world with closeness again, good luck.
-TheTeenGirl
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You are hard to get. Its okay you lke the challange of trying to get a guy to like you. Nothing is wrong with you.
♥ Michelle
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it's not that you cant love, its that you are afraid of being hurt again. but remember this little motto...
if you dont get hurt you wont get happy.
basically you need to put yourself out there and take the risk of getting hurt. coz if you never put yourself out there you will never find the one. so risk it and good luck.
~ange
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