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its long but please read--sex
tonight i was at my boyfriends house and ive been with him since october.. 16/f.. just recently i fell in love with him and its an amazing relationship ..i was at his house tonight and he and i were messing around and i suddenly have never wanted to have sex so bad in my life.. im a virgin so im kind of opposed to it.. but i mean im in love with this guy and he means so much to me its just.. being a virgin i get so much respect and i love the respect i get from it.. im afraid if i lose it im gonna regret it somehow or another.. i dont know though.. i really dont know.. what should i do.. i mean i want to so bad because its just so .. there.. but i just.. dont know.. by the way hes a virgin to.. hes 18/m me-junior him-senior
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All I can say to you is if it feels right for both of you, no one is stopping you. I will warn you about this: Once you have had sex with someone, you become extreamly emotionally attached to that person. So God forbid the two of you end up breaking up, you'll be very very hurt in the end. It's so sweet that the two of you are virgins and you want to lose it to eachother. You need to make sure that he feels the same way as you do or else it will be him just doing it for the sex. I also must warn you to be careful about who you tell (if you even say anything to anyone) if you do decide to have sex with him. Since he is 18 and you're still a minor, he could be arrested for rape, because it is considered to be "endangering the welfare of a minor". And, I also would advise you to be careful, use a condom and please use it correctly. Always check the condom when you're done to see if there were any rips or anything in it. If you don't want to get pregnant, you could also have him "pull out" before he orgasms. I wish you the best of luck. Hope this helped. If you need anything else, feel free to leave one in my box.
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if you are catholic then you should not have sex with him. losing your virginity is a big deal and you dont want that to happen at age 16. you know what to do. do the right thing x0ox,good luck
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I think you should hold off because your not ready. Its normal for people..(especially our age) to have those kinds of urges. But its just our hormones acting crazy. I would hold off on having sex with him for now. Keep building your relationship..and if your together for awhile and sometime down the road you decide your definately ready..do it then.
I hope that helped?
-melissa-
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wow .. its good that you held out this long . some people in my school in 6th grade are haveing sex. if you truly want to loose your virginity to hima nd love him you shuld talk to him tell him how you feel about sex .
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Well, it is normal to have these feelings, but not really before you have sex, the way you say it, sounds like you get scared and then you don't, and you probably need more time to think about it. And the only way you will regret it is if you wished you had done it with someone else, and afterwords, regret, sadness, and maybe even anger is nomal to be felt after having sex, and your guy will probably comfort you when feeling that way, I just hope that he won't think that you didn't enjoy it, or didn't like it, you should probably assure him of it, and other than that, your good to go, I hope you have sex at the right time.
-TheTeenGirl
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anonymous -
It's natural to feel the sudden urge to have sex, because after all, you're still young and raging hormones are on the loose! But one drawback of being young is being naive and not knowing what you want.
Losing your virginity is a very drastic decision. Taking into consideration your opposing views to it, consider what your virginity means to you. If it means a part of experimentation during your teenage years, or whether it's losing it to someone you love, think of your sentimental value of sex. If it's to experiment, no one's stopping you. If it's based on love, make sure that you're in love first. Will this guy stick with you after a fight? Is he reliable, trustworthy, and responsible? Do you see a future with this guy?
To really think about it, think of those couples who are devoted to each other for years and years, but break up because of sex. If the sex goes bad, so does the lover...will this guy stick with you? Although you may love him, does he love you...?
Think of it this way, if you do it now, and you two are still dating for a long time, it won't mean as much to you. If you choose to wait, and the guy truly loves you, he will respect your decision and be willing to wait. This way, it'll be more intimate and genuine instead of lust.
With sex, a lot is at stake. stds, teen pregnancy, and plain out emotional turmoil. With whatever decision you choose, make sure you do your research. Safety first!
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i think you should have sex when you think the time is right and if you want to that bad then do it have sex with him.... you no you want to and you know he does too im not telling you to tho im saying do which you please
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I think you will regret it. Just wait. He might seem like the special one now but then later you guys might brake up. I would just wait until you guys have been going out for a little bit longer.
♥ Michelle
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I don't know where you got to school, but congratulations to you for the abstinence club getting respect.
I'm going to answer this by using a quote from some crazy person my school picked up off the street to talk to us about abstinence, and sexual inactivity.
"Your virginity is like a gift, wrapped up in a little box complete with it's own bow. When you're ready, you can give that gift to someone to open, and it will be very special. It is yours to give, and if it is taken away, then you can rewrap it, and no one will ever know."
I believe she used garden gloves with velcro on them as well...
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if you truly feel you are ready for this then go for it. but think long and hard about it. you might wanna wait a few months and see if you still like him.
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