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I've been dating this guy for the past 2 years (on and off) and I am completely head over heels for him. Before we started dating he dated this chick named Emily. I just found out that Emily STILL likes him. And I feel kind of uncomfortable about the situation. I mean, it's his ex, which means he's had feelings for her in the past, and maybe now that he knows that she likes him STILL, those feelings will come back. I told him that I was worried about it, and he looked me in the eyes and said "I love you more than anything and everything. Do you believe me?" and I told him yes, I did. and he was like "then why are you so worried?"
and I explained to him about how she was his ex and how that meant he had feelings for her at one point in time. and he was like "I dated her like what? 2 years ago?" and that wasn't enough for me. Just because it was 2 years ago doesn't mean he can't like her again. and he said "Just because I dated her doesn't mean I had feelings for her. I was desperate." (or he said something like that. Very close to it.)
So, what should I do about his ex? I've seen her flirting with him (resting her head on his shoulder, laughing at EVERYTHING he says, but she only actually touches him when she thinks I'm not around.), and I try to ignore it, for my sake and hers. I'm not the fighting type. I try to be nice to everybody. So what should I do? My boyfriend knows how I feel about it, and he's assured me that he's not interested in her. Should I just leave it alone?
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dont worry, if your b/f really loves you like he said, he wont break up with you! if you love him and he loves you, then you will be just fine. dont worry it will be okay and he will treat you nicely! =]
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No way, don't leave it alone, tell your guy that if he does not have feelings anymore, them he needs to have the guts to get her off of him and say "look, I have a girlfriend, so your little flirty remarks and touching me isn't going to happen anymore, I am no longer interested in you." or something like that, and maybe you should make him say that he was just "desperate" anyway, or you can say it, but not in a fighting act, like "hey, I am dating so and so, and I can't believe what he said, I feel kinda bad, but he said the only reason he dated you was because he was deperate." now yes, I am crazy and yes, it is down right mean, BUT, she was mean too, and I think you should only say that to her IF your guy is not willing to tell her that. But if hes not, then, there is obviously something going on. And who cares if it was 2 years ago, jealousy is normal to be felt no matter how long ago it was, and she has the nerve to flirt with your guy thinking you weren't around, that is horrible. And you say that he has assured you he has no interest in her, so he should not have a problem with telling her to back off, you cannot let this go on, or you will feel horrible for a long time, you need to show him that you won't tolerate this. No wonder 2 years isn't enough, because shes still here. I am hoping and praying that you will stand up for your feelings. I will help you, do not hesistate to ask me more about where to go from there in my inbox, I will help you as much as I can, and I am very interested in this.
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anonymous -
Hey, I can relate to this one! I feel the same way about my boyfriend and his ex.
But what my main concern here is why is she still in the picture? I see that they both still hang out with each other, are they still friends?
I understand how you feel, cuz I think the exact same. But if you two have been dating for two years, assuming the on-and-off pattern hasn't happened too much, there's something about you that he loves. With the Emily girl, if he still had feelings for her, you wouldn't be with him today.
I know it's hard to try and ignore the situation for the sake of causing a scene, but trust him. From what I can see, he seems sincere. With Emily, sure she can flirt, but she can't have what you got...her man. I wouldn't worry about it too much. Hope this helps!
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