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Okkay, Me and my boyfriend started dating like a week ago.
I think I already love him but im scared to tell him. Im scared because I think its too early to say it. Should I wait for him to say it or what?

Thanks.

Just wait. There's no rush to tell someone you love them. It should come when it's ready and you're certain what you are feeling is love and not just a strong bond/likeness.

i know how 2 give a hicky but it takes a long time so i was wonderin if there is a way 2 give a hicky faster i dont wanna bite really hard so it would hurt them

Just suck harder. It's the only way, really.
Keep in mind, hickeys work better in some places more than others. So if you're giving one on a stomach for example, it won't really give you the same results as, say, a neck.
and don't bite. :)

Heres the story: Friday I was getting gas at this gas station and then all of a sudden my boyfriend appears and he starts talking to me, earlier friday i was pissed at him becasue he told me he stoped smoking pot, then he gave his pipe to one my friends and i asked him why he didn't throw it away a long time ago, because i asked him to stop like 4 months ago. His answer was i don't know, then i heard he was gonna smoke so i asked him and he said he didn't have any weed or else he would have. This got me so mad becasue if its in front of him he will do it, it shows weakness and he gives into pressure and i don't like that. So anyways, we started talking about this at the gas station and we both got mad, so i wanted to get into my car and go, but he blocked the door, we start talking again and i got all scared because i thought he was gonna hit me (he hit his dad before and knocked him out) so i walked towards my door again and he still wouldn't let me in. I got so scared, i thought he was gonna hurt me, and the look on his face scared me so bad. Fnally i got into my car and left, and went to my friends house and was shaking and kinda crying and i couldn't sleep becasue i thought he was gonna come over there and kill me. So today i talked to him and he said he wasn't in a violent mood he was just upset and he told me how he changed and stuff so i said okay one more chance. Quesiton: But was the a good descion? This is the second time he has scared me like that, and all my friends tell me that i should end it becsaue i will end up getting hurt, physically. and this is the 4th chance i have given him becasue he has done other things behind my back and stuff.
Questions: so what do i do? was that a good descion or should i have just ended it? please i need help!

All those chances? He should have learnt by now. and so should you.
If he hurt is DAD, he can hurt anyone - including you.
Don't wait for it to happen. Just get out before it does.
He does things you don't like and you feel threatened by his behaviour. What more will it take to make you realize he's not for you? Broken heart? Broken bones?
You don't need someone like that in your life. It's not a way a person should be treated.

I've been with my boyfriend since the beginning of January. He's the first serious guy I've been with. Gosh I love him so much. He's a sophomore, I'm a junior. He told me he is leaving in July to finish high school in a city 2.5 hours away. He said that finishing high school there would earn him a 2 year associate's degree along the way (it's a special program). I couldn't take it. I told him if he's sure he is leaving, I don't want to see him anymore. I don't want him getting my hopes up with "I love you"'s and kissing. He's basically leaving my life forever in a few short months.

Someone please help me. I'm very sad about this because I love him SO much and he doesn't seem to care! *tear*

You've been together 2 months.. not a long time at all, yet you still feel you love him and want him to stay by you forever. Forget his life and career - it's not important as long as he's near you, right?

How selfish can you be?

I know this is going to be hard for you, but this is your boyfriends future you are talking about.
I bet he doesn't want to leave you, but he's thinking about himself - which he should be doing.
It's not like it's going to be permanent, anyway. If you love each other as much as you say you do, you'll obviously find a way to make it work.
Try to be happy for him. It's a big step in his life and the last thing he will want is you holding him back and giving him ultimatums.

Just hang in there for a while. Hopefully you'll come round to the idea of him being a few hours away. It's not the end of the world. It CAN work if you want it to.

None of what I've said is meant to sound harsh. You just need to see things from his point of view, okay?

I wish you the best of luck.

f/16 CANADA

my vagina, is abnormally LARGE.
its like, the size of my head.
is that proper?

this is serious and I would like to know.

Everyones comes in different shapes, sizes and colours.
I reckon you're fine. but there's no reason why you can't check with a doc, just to reassure you.

On the bottle of one of my eye cleaning solutions, the expire date says 03/2008, which is just march 2008. Would you say it's due at the beginning of march or the END of march?

It must mean any time in March. So beginning and end.

my boyfriends at dinner with his ex because she said if they talked things out they could come to a conclusion. should i be worried? or is it just nothing?? i dont know what resteraunt they are at so i dont know if its a fancy dinner or not.

Well, if I were you, I'd be worried.
Going to dinner with an ex is rather odd.
and what are they even talking about?
When he gets home, ask away. It's silly to come to the worst conclusion when you aren't even sure of the details yourself.

Anyone got any ideas on what I could do? I am pretty bored right now. I got a TV in my room, and a computer in my room(I am on CPU right now). What can I do? I can't really leave my house so. What can I do? I also have a Wii, an Xbox 360, a Ps3, and a DS light. Any ideas?

You have all those things. So use them.

okay so i been having it for about a week now and its really annoying cleanig it soo god dang much!!!

is there anyways i can spend up the healing?

No. You should be cleaning it twice a day. Morning and night. There's no need to do it more than that, because touching it alot not only spreads bacteria, but aggravates the piercing. Just leave it alone. Cartilage takes longer to heal - as you should know.

wats the best thing to clean my catialge pericng with??

hydrgen porxicd, salt water
answre please!

SALT.
You shouldn't use hydrogen peroxide for piercings to be honest - although some crazy people do.

will terrence give me a call back soon?

Who's Terrence?
Call him yourself.

My a this guy are a little more than friends. I just found out few months ago got a girlfriend. Should I continue my relationship with him?

How would you feel if you were his girlfriend and you found out he'd been cheating for months with another girl.
Be the bigger, better person and refuse to do anything with him any more.

Okey. I have my cartlige done on both sides of the top of my ears. But today I did another peircing underneath them. so I now have two peircings at the top of my ear. but the thing is, on one side, I got it like on the bendy part of my ear. Is that very bad or is it ok to keep it there. And if I do leave it in and it gets infected, will it be able to turn into sumthing real bad or if I take it out will it stop being infected soon.

It's fine to have it there. and it won't get infected if you take good care of it, so don't think about that unless it actually happens!
To lower the chances of infection, DO NOT touch your piercing at any time APART from when you clean it. and wash your hands before and after you clean it.

omfgggggg
so me and my bestfriend have fights like this alll the time.
but she always makes a big deal out of alll of them
no joke.
its always "my fault" but of course it is because why would she blame it on herself..?

anyways

so at school, she was gone and i guess at school everyone craves gum so she had gum in her locker.

And me and my friend went in her locker to get gum.
Now, its gum. not a big deal.

so today she comes back and she starts this whole thing"WHO STOLE MY GUM"
well. i didn tknow she would spaz out like this , so me and lindsey(girl who went and got gum with me) didnt say anything.

But lindsey tells her what happened and whatever and lindsey said sorry. and maggie is over it with lindsey. shes cool.

But she ignores me for the rest of the day.
Now come on, its gum. yeah its "stealing"
but if i stole gold or money from your locker, THENNNN you can come to me and argue about it.

So i just didnt talk to her for the rest of the day. And obviously she did the ame thing.
Called me a stealer once or twice and i responded with the rolling eyes.

I mean. wow. is someone not making a big deal about this orrr whatttttt?
she said stealing is stealing.
But im not a robber.
And im not saying sorry.
III wouldnt be mad if she got candy from my locker.. Its food...-_- so what.

??? like why would i need to say sorry for it.

other people would be like " yeah so what she got gum from my locker.."

But maggie is all like " RAWRRR! WHERES MY GUMM. IMA KILL YOUUUUU!"

its quite scary.

anyways.
is this not overrecting?

I dont wannnnaa say sorry.
and i already told her she is making this a big deal.

Who started talking and tried to fugure this out!?
ME!

Who signed off on aim in the middle of the convo.
SHE DID

......... wtf man

ITS CANDY

Sorry, I'm with your friend on this matter. I do think she is over reacting a little, BUT stealing IS stealing - even if she is your friend. You went into HER locker and took HER gum without asking. Yeah, sure, gum isn't a big deal.. But it was still hers.

You're obviously more of a laid back person and wouldn't care if someone went into your locker and took your gum or whatever. But she does care. Everyone's different and has their own opinion on things. Which is why it's always nice to ask before you take something, isn't it?

You basically invaded her privacy and took her stuff. See.. it's not just about the gum.

She has the right to be a little annoyed about it, but seriously, it shouldn't be something to lose a friendship over or have arguments about.
Just say sorry. It will resolve this silly situation you're both in.

Hope it all blows over soon. Good luck.

when my boyfriend fingers me, he can barely fit two fingers in.

we dont use lube, but still its really tight for him.

if he can barely fit 2 fingers, how could his penis ever fit, ha?

im 13 btw.

Thanks for the Q.
(You shouldn't be having sex at 13 for a start if you're thinking about it).
When the time comes, it will fit. A vagina is to accommodate a baby - so a penis will easily fit.
Obviously, it will take some time to get used to it and may cause you a bit of pain/discomfort if you're that tight. but eventually, you'll "loosen up".
You say you don't use lube... if you DO use it, it will make it a hell of alot easier.
Another thing to think about is are you wet enough at the time? If not, then it obviously will be harder for your boyfriend to finger you.
Seriously though, don't worry about it not fitting. Because it will. Make take you a few attempts.. but it will.
So no worries. :)

i use one finger, because two wont fit.
and it feels good, but i cant get an orgasim!
help!

It's alright, not all women can get orgasms from that anyway. Most get clitoral orgasms.
Just keep experimenting and doing things in different ways to see what works for you.

The search should help you out a lot.

okay i have a 20 gauge earring in right now and iwanna switcvh it to a 18. i wanna no will it hurt alot or barlye?

Depends on your pain tolerance.
Since it's cartilage, yeah, expect pain.
Try icing it first.

I have light brown eyes. What kind or color of eye shadow should I wear to accent them?

Browns/gold/green/plum are probably best,
but brown eyes can actually suit most colours, so depending on you and your style, try experimenting. Perhaps try a brown eyeliner instead of black, too. and to make them "pop", don't forget to make sure your eyelashes are nice and even - curl them if they aren't already, because they really open your eyes.

im a little embarrised the pink thing on my vagina sis really big like the lips or whatever and when i stand up u can still see it... will this turn guys off?

If it does turn them off, they're pathetic and not the right guy for you.
Everyones comes in different shapes, sizes and colours.
Don't let it bother you. You're normal.

so here is d sitution , i love this girl n she also loves me a lot. earlier she had a boyfriend for a short period of time, n then thery broke up(long story). now i met this guy and he claims to have had sex with her but she is denying it. by the look of it the boy dosnt seem so friendly but still i dont know how to confirm if he is not telling lies. my girlfriend claims that she is virgin. but m stuck........is there any way how exactly i can come to some conclusion???????
p.s. i am 19 and my girlfriend is 18.

One of them is obviously lying.
I don't see why she would lie about it to you though, because it's all in the past.
So, just take her word for it unless there's clear evidence.
You can ask the boy questions, like when/where etc and see if anything adds up, but I will warn you that probing into this will most probably cause more harm than good.

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