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ITS GUM CALM DOWN
omfgggggg
so me and my bestfriend have fights like this alll the time.
but she always makes a big deal out of alll of them
no joke.
its always "my fault" but of course it is because why would she blame it on herself..?
anyways
so at school, she was gone and i guess at school everyone craves gum so she had gum in her locker.
And me and my friend went in her locker to get gum.
Now, its gum. not a big deal.
so today she comes back and she starts this whole thing"WHO STOLE MY GUM"
well. i didn tknow she would spaz out like this , so me and lindsey(girl who went and got gum with me) didnt say anything.
But lindsey tells her what happened and whatever and lindsey said sorry. and maggie is over it with lindsey. shes cool.
But she ignores me for the rest of the day.
Now come on, its gum. yeah its "stealing"
but if i stole gold or money from your locker, THENNNN you can come to me and argue about it.
So i just didnt talk to her for the rest of the day. And obviously she did the ame thing.
Called me a stealer once or twice and i responded with the rolling eyes.
I mean. wow. is someone not making a big deal about this orrr whatttttt?
she said stealing is stealing.
But im not a robber.
And im not saying sorry.
III wouldnt be mad if she got candy from my locker.. Its food...-_- so what.
??? like why would i need to say sorry for it.
other people would be like " yeah so what she got gum from my locker.."
But maggie is all like " RAWRRR! WHERES MY GUMM. IMA KILL YOUUUUU!"
its quite scary.
anyways.
is this not overrecting?
I dont wannnnaa say sorry.
and i already told her she is making this a big deal.
Who started talking and tried to fugure this out!?
ME!
Who signed off on aim in the middle of the convo.
SHE DID
......... wtf man
ITS CANDY
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I agree that she's making a big deal out of nothing, but some people get really uptight about people getting into their stuff. I'm like that too. If I was getting into a lot of fights with my friend, I would probably be kind of miffed if she got into my stuff and took gum from me. I wouldn't be completely angry about it, but it's kind of crossing a line if she's the kind of person to make a big deal out of everything (which it sounds like she does). Anyway, I know you don't want to say you're sorry, but sometimes the best thing to do in a situation, even if you believe that you're 150% right, is to apologize. You don't even have to directly say sorry about actually taking the gum. You can say, "Hey, Maggie, I'm really sorry that it made you angry when I took your gum, and I want to put this behind us and be friends again." To me, that's like saying that you're upset that she's upset but it's not completely lying because obviously it's not saying sorry for the act of taking the gum. Buy her some new gum, too. That might fix things. It's probably not going to help if you tell her that she's making a big deal about nothing because technically you did break into her locker and steal her stuff, but if something else happens in the future that she makes a big deal out of then you can say something about it. For now, just grin and bear it if you want your friend back. In my opinion, it's okay to lie when you're apologizing if it means that you'll no longer have someone really mad at you. It's your choice. Good luck!
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Sorry, I'm with your friend on this matter. I do think she is over reacting a little, BUT stealing IS stealing - even if she is your friend. You went into HER locker and took HER gum without asking. Yeah, sure, gum isn't a big deal.. But it was still hers.
You're obviously more of a laid back person and wouldn't care if someone went into your locker and took your gum or whatever. But she does care. Everyone's different and has their own opinion on things. Which is why it's always nice to ask before you take something, isn't it?
You basically invaded her privacy and took her stuff. See.. it's not just about the gum.
She has the right to be a little annoyed about it, but seriously, it shouldn't be something to lose a friendship over or have arguments about.
Just say sorry. It will resolve this silly situation you're both in.
Hope it all blows over soon. Good luck.
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Look, the details don't really matter. It doesn't even matter that she blew it totally out of purportion! You are over-reacting as well with your refusal to just say "Sorry, I messed up."
You still went into her private storage and took something without asking. It was a mistake, so you should apologize.
Buy her a replacement gum and say you are sorry, you didn't think it was a big deal since it wouldn't be one to you, but now you know it is to her so you wont do it agian.
She might not take your apology. She might keep being a bitch about it. At that point by all means tell her that if she can't accept your apology she can shove off, but before you do that, you have to do the right thing, and apologize, or you are no better then she is.
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You can rationalize all you want. If you take from someone without asking it is stealing, regardless if it's your friend or not. Maybe she went overboard with her anger but I'd be mad too. You may not have a problem with your friends going through your stuff but some of us are not that way.
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