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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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where can i buy some " bohemian style" clothes for cheap??

You can try Target, thrift stores, Wet Seal, and Forever 21. Maybe even H&M. They usually have more professional looking clothes, or night clothes, but they usually have nice clothes that can be considered bohemian too.

Im almost 18 years old (female) and Im really considering moving out. I cant stand to be around my family and we just have way too much fighting and tension.

does anybody have any experience or stories of moving out for this first time? how hard/easy was it? Im thinking of even possibly changing states, but IDK yet. any experience or advice is apprecitaed.

I moved out the day after I turned 18, and I moved 2000 miles away to California. However, I moved in with my boyfriend, so things were a little easier for me than they were for everyone else. Not everyone can be as lucky as to have someone who's willing to take them in.

I moved out not only because I was sick of living with parents & have a dead end life, but because I wanted to grow up & learn to rely on myself.

Living on your own is very hard. You have to pay for everything yourself. Your bills, your car, for food, clothes & everything else. You also have to take into mind the repairs of things around your home or vehicle that break. Stuff like this can get pretty pricey, so you may want to have a decent job.

For living on your own or away from family, I would definitely suggest that you find a place with roommates. This way, it'll be a little easier, and you'll be with other people who may be a little bit more compatible with you. There are usually people looking for roommates in the paper, or on craigslist, however, meeting people online could be a little dangerous, so I probably wouldn't recommend that.

It's very hard to live on your own, and you really have to have a good plan of action before you make the decision. Make sure you have everything you need before you move because if things fall through, you're fucked.

Hey!

Well, this guy I like he's awesome, cute, funny, caring and i think he could be the one. He also likes me. He makes me feel like.. I'm perfect,like an angel. I finally feel better about myself now that i met him.(I had a lot of guy trouble) Now i feel like he's the one. Right now we are like.."friends with benefits", i asked him out and he said "Can't we just stay best friends". Than after that that he said i don't know. I told him that he can think about it, and i mentioned we can be friends wit benefits..we are pratically already are. ha ha. He said he really wants me, but i don't understand why he doesn't want to date me? I think it's because some jealous girls started, a rumor about him and his last girl friend about him dating someone on My space. He wasn't that was before we even met. He was really hurt. :/ Now..that he met maybe he's to scared to date me because that rumor might seem true. This guys the sweetest guy i have ever met. Do you think we can eventually become more than friends with benfits?

I doubt it.

Friends with benefits doesn't work either, and you're an example.

You cannot have sex with someone without becoming attached to them emotionally. He isn't into you, and pressuring him to become more and giving him an ultimatum will make things awkward.

I would stop this whole situation because it's getting out of hand.

Hey! 131/2 f (Long..i'm sorryy)

I met this awesome guy (Jimmy)last week at the public pool with my friend. We thought he was cute. ha ha :) He thought the same thing and we talked and everything we had fun together. After that day we started texting and talking on the phone and stuff like that. Well i found out that he liked me,and i was SOOO happy because i really like him to. Well we text each other and..he talks dirty. ha ha I also do.. but not LIKE he does, i just say makeout..and stuff like that but he wants to "Do" me. ha ha ;) Well i saw him again today at the pool..with his friend Erica (she's also my friend)i think he knew that i was going..because he didn't act like he was suprized that i was there. Well i went with my cousins and i had to watch them. I didn't talk to them until probably a half an hour than i started talking to them. We were having so much fun. We played a joke on him, and when we were walking away from him he followed because we were going to go swimming together. He started massaging my shoulders IT FELT SO GOOD !! Ha ha. I think he might of untied my bathing suit top a little bit?? I'm not sure though because i was giving my cousins piggy back rides. Well after we got in the pool Erica asked jimmy if i could lick him anywhere. I said i wanted to lick him to her..AS A JOKE, and he said " ;) anywhereee?? Suree". He said. well..i didn't. Well he put his arm my waist and picked me up and dunked me in the pool (safely ha ha) He did that twice. It was cute

He slept with her.

Does it sound like he gives a damn about you?

I have no idea where to post this or who to ask, but I hope someone knows...what band is this?

http://i32.tinypic.com/2its9rr.jpg

That's The Maine! They're amazing. I agree with Laura.

Their drummer Pat is the cutest!

EDIT:

It's a matter of opinion. No one said you had to fucking agree.

do you have to take a tampon out every time you pee? and doesn't it hurt if you take it out too early when its not fully absorbedyet? jw causei want to use tampons but i pee alot.

You don't have to, but I do just because I feel it's uncomfortable to keep it in. It could be just the way I am though. Every girl is different!

I usually take it out everytime I pee during the first couple of days when my flow is heavy.

It does hurt if it's not fully absorbed yet.

(18/f) One of my really good friends confided in me and told me that they are thinking of committing suicide, and he made me promise i wouldnt tell anyone. I'm really scared for him and im not sure what i should do. i tried talking him out of it as much as i could but i am still scared he might do something.

Tell his parents. You cannot keep this to yourself. I realize he made you promise, but promises are made to be broken, especially when the issue of suicide comes into play. You need to talk him out of it, and do not take no for an answer. He needs your help.

When you tell, he's going to upset with you, and that's something you should really take into mind, BUT, also realize that in the end he will thank you.

You really need to help your friend. No one deserves to die, and I'm sure that if he gets the help that he needs, he'll be okay. :)

virgins can get stds, right?

what stds can be passed from mother to child?

because don't most diseases not get passed that way because usually the child doesn't survive to pass it on?

Any STD can be passed from mother child just as any STD can be transferred through needles, and sex.

Yes, virgins can get STD's from either sharing needles with someone (if you're into drugs), or if your mother had one, you can get it through birth.

If you're scared you may have one even though you're a virgin, go to your local Planned Parenthood & get tested. Then you should get tested from then on twice a year (every 6 months).

I'm 17/f and I don't even have my permit. Before you laugh and giggle in your computer chairs please understand that I would rather jump off of a building than drive a car. I've tried the whole empty parking lot, empty field, empty everything, but the second I start the car it's like I tense up. I hate it with a passion, but it's hard to watch my friends out and about with thier liscences (don't care if I spelled that wrong) and I'm still getting rides from my mom. I could have my own liscence right now if it weren't for the stupid panic attacks and the other people driving on the road. How do I get over this? Any one?

Thanks,
ScaredyCat

There is no way to stop how other people on the road drive. But you need to remember that you're not controlling them or their vehicle. You're controlling you and your car.

I suggest that maybe you talk to a therapist about this. They can work with you on these types of things to help you figure out why you get tense, and other things. Once you see progress, I would try to get behind the wheel again.

I'll admit, I'm 18 and don't have my permit, or my license either and have to rely on my boyfriend to take me everywhere. I've had bad experiences with cars though, and then to drive where I live means you need ultra fast reflexes & a great attention span. (I have neither, and I live in Los Angeles).

Hopefully you can find a solution. I'd talk to your parents about it & see what they say, but I mostly recommend a possible therapist to talk to about those panic attacks.

hi im from canada and i struggle with helping my mom get over her addiction, im 14 and i have a chance of moving in with my aunt who is much more better for me and has more time, money and strengh too keep up with me. so do i stay with my mom for grade 8 and be stressed with the bills and her self or do i leave and start fresh with my aunt and hurt my mom for myself?

You need to get your aunt to put your mother into rehab. Maybe, someone could deal with the financials of your mom's house while she's away, but I don't know how well that would work out.

I would say for you to go with your aunt. Your mother is hurting you & herself with this addiction, and it's not fair of her to make you watch her bring herself down.

Go live with your aunt. She's willing to take you in, and can do it with ease. The environment is safer as well. Go with your aunt, talk to her about your mom & see if there is anything you guys can do to get your mom into a rehab center.

I'm obsessed with Twilight! Of all the things I never thought a book/movie could change my lifestyle SO much. I so want to find an Edward of my own and if he looks like Rob Pattinson- BINGO!! UGH!! I just need to come back to reality. But its just so difficult. I refuse to meet guys now because at my last date all I was thinking was how much the guy looked like Taylor Laurent!! Please tell me how do I get over this stupid obsession before I lose my sanity!!

It's Taylor Lautner. Laurent was a character in the book.

You need to chill out with the whole Twilight thing. It's okay to like it, but to stop dating guys just because they don't remind you of Edward Cullen OR Robert Pattinson is stupid.

I mean, I like Rob Pattinson too, and I think he's very gorgeous, BUT I'm not going to stop dating my boyfriend for it.

Just leave the books/movie on a shelf & don't touch them for a while.

So, my bf and I were lying on the bed side by side facing each other and we were hugging etc. with our clothes on and he had an orgasm and I don't know if he had ejaculated. If he had so, could sperm go through clothes? He had boxers and a pair of jeans and I had underwear and shorts.

Then I went to the bathroom and I found that my underwear was wet with discharge. Could it be sperm or just discharge as I was sexually aroused?

It could've been that you were wet from arousal. His sperm would not make it into your clothing if you both had clothes on.

Your period is possibly approaching. I know my breasts always get kinda tender when mine is approaching, so it just may be. I wouldn't worry about your period. Stress is going to delay it. It will come, so just stop worrying.

DO you think its ok for your boyfriend to have a girl "friend", where he went to her house ONCE,without your permission,and you never meet her before?

He doesn't need your permission. He can make his own decisions. It may be wrong for him not to include you in them BUT this is a decision that doesn't need you involved. If he wants friends, then he can have them.

Suck it up. He isn't your property and can do as he pleases. If you don't like it, then I guess you should either break up or suffer. Simple as that.

I'm 12 years old about to turn 13 in November,I'm going into 8th grade and I was curious what the average dick size was for my age. Haha

The average penis size for males in general is 5 inches.

Hi, it's me again, the one I asked about my late period and you replied. I'm worrying about my period because still didn't come, is 3 days late now. When I touch my breast hurts me.

As I sad before, I didn't have sex, my bf just touched my vagina with my clothes on even he had clothes on. If he had an orgasm, sperm couldn't enter my vagina through clothes right? If I worry, it will delay more right? What can I do to not worry about it??

Sorry for asking the second time, but I'm worried. I would appreciate if you reply!!

Thanks.

No, dry humping cannot get you pregnant. Your period may just be late because you're worrying about it. Stress can delay your period, as can eating habits (not eating).

I would just keep your mind off of it. I'm not sure how old you are, but I'm sure you're fairly young. Another thing could be that you probably haven't had your period for very long (a couple of years), and when you've only had it for a couple of years, it's really irregular.

Talk to your mom about this. :) I'm sure you'll be okay & that you'll get your period eventually. It could just be irregularity & stress that's delaying it.

I heard that ex-NFL star Steve McNair passed away on Wednesday, I think. I work a lot and haven't gotten to watch TV for weeks, haha. I remember watching Steve McNair though before and I was curious how he died. I know lots of famous people have been dying and I was thinking maybe all the death was coming from swine flu or a serial killer aiming at celebrities--just something we've yet to uncover (but that's just me being paranoid, I'm sure; hey, I still think Michael Jackson could have been murdered and many people are suggesting he committed suicide!) Anyway, how did Steve McNair die for sure again?

He was involved in a murder suicide. His 20 year old girlfriend shot him because things in her life had been spiralling out of control & she couldn't handle it. She also feared he was going to leave her. She purchased a gun a few days prior to the shooting. She was said to have killed him while he was sleeping firing 1 shot to his head, a few to the chest, and then another shot to his head before turning the gun on herself. She too shot herself in the head, and that's that.

Yeah, I saw tabloid things where they say Lindsay Lohan is dating Samantha Ronson but then other magazines say they announced they aren't dating. I even read they broke up before and, well, it's confusing. I liked Lindsay Lohan and thought she was a really pretty girl but WOW I didn't think she would be a lesbian, especially with someone like Samantha Ronson who isn't pretty at all. Anyway, just curious if she REALLY is dating the girl or if they're just best friends or something. I've been wondering for awhile so I'm sorry about being darn late and behind on the times!

They were dating, but aren't anymore.

Samantha Ronson actually used to be very pretty, but she ended up chopping off all of her hair & now she looks like that. She was once good looking though. She's just butch & there's nothing wrong with that.

As far as I know, they broke up because Lindsay can't behave & she wants to blame Samantha for it.

I heard that the head of the Oscar Mayer company died of age 95. I just assume the company was named after him and his name is Oscar Mayer, right? Yeah, might be stupid :/

Anyway, did anybody else hear about this and can fill me in on what happened? I think it's crazy lots of famous people are dying!

& In Memory!:

My bologna has a first name, it's O-S-C-A-R
My bologna has a second name, it's M-A-Y-E-R
Oh, I love to eat it everyday,
And if you ask me why I'll say...
'Cuz Oscar Mayer has a way...
With B-O-L-O-G-N-A!

hahaha

Yeah. It's a sad summer for famous people.

http://cbs2.com/business/Oscar.Mayer.Hot.2.1077283.html

So, I'm thinking about some ideas for creating my own social website. I need opinions though based on other websites similar to my idea and was hoping that some people here could help me out so I don't have to sign up for the ones I don't use and become active on ones I no longer use.

Question of the day is:

What do you and don't you like about Facebook?
What can be improved on Facebook? How can Facebook improve that specific flaw (or, alternatively, can it NOT be improved for certain reasons) in your opinion?

Official Facebook users only please!

Thank you so much, Advicenators! :D

{ To answer my question about MySpace, please see:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=566118 }

I like that Facebook is more or less people's statuses. You can always see what people are doing. I like that you can like someone's status as well. It doesn't take long to get used to once they change it up.

I think the things I don't like about Facebook are that they keep changing it. They only give it a couple of months before they change it again. I also think that they should add a 'dislike' option to statuses. I don't like that when you write on someone's wall, that it displays it on the main page either. Writing on someone's wall is kind of personal, and you don't want your whole friends list to see if they're friends with the same person. Pictures are kind of a pain in the ass to upload as well because there's no set place where you upload them like there is on MySpace.

I'm not really sure what they can do to improve, but I guess they could just add & take away some of the things I listed, and it'd be fine.

HI!

I am looking for the video of Michael Jackson's daughter, Paris Jackson, from her tribute to her father.

I would like the whole video preferably without any news-people talking over the top of it. Just Paris Jackson's words about her father please?

Thank you!

I searched MySpace and found it. It was the second video on the list.

http://vids.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=vids.individual&videoid=60160041&searchid=60665fb0-aff9-44a7-b0d7-8c19670f5f49

I can guarantee that this will probably make you cry. I cried when I saw her tribute to her dad.

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