You boyfriend shouldn't tell you to be friends with who and you shouldn't tell your boyfriend to be friend with who too.. You have every right to pick your friends and so does he. You can take each other's opinions on friends but not ask the other for permission because that's not a relationship based on trust, it's based on judgment and lies.
And it doesn't matter if you have met her or not, but if you really want to meet her then ask your boyfriend to introduce you to her and it doesn't matter if she turned out to be prettier or smatter because you always have to remember he choice you over her.
And about him going over to her without having your permission ... he doesn't need a permission from you, all he needs to tell you "I'm going over", you should be a bit annoyed (just a bit) because he didn't mention it to you... Other than that there is nothing wrong... !
Lianna25 answered Friday July 10 2009, 8:40 am: Well i been with him for a little more than 4 years so we are in a commititted realationship..I was just nervous because he never did that to me before. i guess i got a little insecured. [ Lianna25's advice column | Ask Lianna25 A Question ]
swoods7 answered Friday July 10 2009, 7:19 am: in my opinion, i think the guy should tell you and advance to avoid mix ups. and he should also assure you that nothing would happen. talk to him about it for future instances. hope i helped :)
christina answered Friday July 10 2009, 1:40 am: He doesn't need your permission. He can make his own decisions. It may be wrong for him not to include you in them BUT this is a decision that doesn't need you involved. If he wants friends, then he can have them.
HectorJr answered Friday July 10 2009, 1:11 am: Realize that at one point, at least hopefully, your boyfriend was just a "friend" of yours too. You shouldn't have a problem with this, but if you have strong feelings about it, make sure you let him know. He may feel differently about it, but your relationship is not at all threatened by letting your boyfriend have other girl friends. Hope that helped. [ HectorJr's advice column | Ask HectorJr A Question ]
itdependsonyoux3 answered Thursday July 9 2009, 9:50 pm: Okay, heres the deal, my boyfriend has girl "friends" and half of them harassed me when I started going out with him, because they are all best friends with his ex girlfriend who made my life a living hell when it all began, so I guess it depends on the friend.. I mean, I don't like it, but I'm not some "obsessive" and controlling girlfriend, so he can do what he wants. as long as you trust him, it should be okay :] but make sure he doesnt do it behind your back on PURPOSE because that's a little sketchy. I honestly don't think he should ask for permission to hang out with his friend, but making you aware of the fact that he's gonna be hanging out with a girl would be great :] and put yourself in his shoes, would you like it if he wanted you to ask for PERMISSION before hanging out with one of your guy friends.. no. so it goes both ways in a relationship.
That's just my opinion though. So I think it's okay :] and fine. Don't worry about it. Good luck, hope I helped ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo. [ itdependsonyoux3's advice column | Ask itdependsonyoux3 A Question ]
Cux answered Thursday July 9 2009, 9:37 pm: Your boyfriend doesn't need your "permission" to have friends, and if that's your idea of a relationship, you're sadly mistaken.
Sure, it's kind of sneaky, and he maybe should have let you know it was just a friend and he was hanging out with her. He is allowed to have friends.
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