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im 18/f hes 19/m

im absolutely gutted right now. recently, up until this morning, ive had the most amazing, wonderful and deep conversations with the guy i like. I opened myself up to him more then anyone before. He told me secrets that not even his best friend knows. We have so much in common that we were actually genuinely stunned to even find someone with so many similarities. He would keep telling me how he cant believe we have so much in common, he even said that it was getting to a point it was scaring him, yet he says its the most amazing thing ever. We would send each other cute messages, and made plans to go out on this saturday night, provided that the area wasn't flooded (due to living in Queensland, Australia where there is serious flooding at the moment). Anyway last night he told me to text him again tomorrow.

So i did as he requested, and texted him, being all cute again like the night before. Only for him to be responding to me all weirdly...he didn't even reply to the last text i sent him. he told me he was super bored and dying from trying to think of a new band name. But still just because he's trying to think of a band name shouldn't mean he's not able to talk to me. So anyway, feeling a bit rejected i hopped onto my face book. I was really upset because i really really fell for him and he was just acting so strange to me... so i was updating my status with lyrics and whatnot, whilst texting my best friend telling her how i think i ruined it with him, even though i have no idea what i've done. Next minute i get 3 notifications, all from him. two of them were liking my status (one about me wanting to put glow in the dark stars on my roof, from the previous night before, and one status i only just updated with the lyrics 'don't waste your time on me your already the voice inside my head, blink 182 sesh in my room

I think what you should do is ask him what you did
wrong you deserve a explaination to why he acted the way he did him not letting you know and leaving you to guess for yourself is wrong he owes you a explaination at least that much maybe it seemed like he lost interest in you because he was frustrated because he couldn't think of a name for his band he could of reacted that way because of the lyrics you posted which started out don't waste your time on me he could of taken what was said seriously there could of been other reasons but those are some suggestions your best option is ask him why he did what he did and try to resolve the situation you have a right to know why he acted like he was avoiding you so you don't continue to guess and end up not knowing the truth you can't make something work that isn't meant to be everything happens for a reason just because this didn't work out the way you would of liked doesn't mean that the next boy you meet will be the same their all different anything can happen & anything is possible :)

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Kinda long! But please I need your opinion!

22/f. I recently started talking to a guy that I met on tagged. I haven't seen him in person but we have seen pictures of eachother. We've been talkin for over a week now, almost all hours of the night, and I swear we can have a conversation about anything. I will admit, I am not the type to talk on the phone, so it MUST be serious if I'm sacrificing what little sleep I already get because I enjoy talking to him. For once, I'm talkin to a guy who is like myself in very many ways and is not about sex and all that. I can tell he is a very genuine person. We are both very focused on being friends first....

The thing is I know that one day he is going to want to meet me in person yet hasn't mentioned anything about it yet. I'm a big girl (BBW), and I'm just terrified that his opinion may change if he meets me in person. I mean I have pictures on my tagged showing me from my knees up, but I'm wearing black so you can't truly tell how big I really am... I am my worst enemy and there's many flaws that I know I have (big feet, etc.) But I will say what I lack in looks I make up for in personality.

I haven't dated in 4 1/2 years. So I am very shy when it comes down to it. I've been hurt numerous time and I've come to a point where I put my love life in PARK. I've found extra things to do to keep myself busy so the love life wouldn't be such a big deal. But it's tough cause I feel so alone. My friends are getting married and having kids and I feel just so out of the loop...

What do I do? Continue talkin to him?

Yes you should continue to talk to him seeing as you two get along so good you being able to have a conversation with him about anything is a advantage for you you'll be able to talk about things easier and you won't have to struggle to find topics to discuss not all boys are the same their different some boys judge based on a girls looks and others don't if you can tell he is a very genuine person then i don't think you'll have a problem with him and the way you look don't let the fact that your nervous about him and your appearance stop you from meeting him in person anything can happen he may not comment about how you look seeing as he hasn't said anything before even though in the pictures your wearing black if you do decide to not go you may end up regretting your decision and saying i wished i had gone so i wouldn't pass up a opportunity like this...maybe this is your chance to not feel out of the loop and to not feel so alone i would try to not let your nerves get the best of you and go meet him in person be yourself don't constantly think if he is going to judge you on your appearance the main thing is that counts is that you have fun and enjoy yourself focus on you spending time with him don't let your thoughts wander to your looks it's worth a shot you meeting him in person :)

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I am 23 years old and Me and my boyfriend were together about a month when i found out i was pregnant(with my first)I am now 12 weeeks along and things are not looking good. We have been arguing and i catch him in little lies about stupid things. Which makes me wonder if he lies about other bigger things. I dont think i am in love with him but i am afraid to break up cause i don't want my kid to not have a father.. I only say this because he has a daughter already that he never goes and sees of make an effort to be a good father. Is staying with someone for a baby a bad thing or am i stressing about nothing??

I think for your situation it could be a bad thing
because you don't think your in love with him anymore and you can't trust him your doubting him
i don't think your stressing over nothing you have
every right to stress with your boyfriend's behavior and how he's acting unless your willing to
tolerate his behavior then stay with him for your
child's sake but if you aren't willing to tolerate
it then break up with him ultimately it's your decision do what you think is right for both your
sake and your child's he shouldn't be lieing to you
he should be truthful and honest you shouldn't have
to go through him putting you through that you don't
deserve that if things don't improve i'd break up
with him(:

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i'm 5 days late, and i have all my normal period symptoms but i took a cheap 8 dollar test and it came up positive . i live in florida so you have to be 18 to get an abortion, am i pregnant ? or should i take another test cause i heard of false positives . please help asappp!!!

I think you should take another test just to make
sure it's better to be safe then sorry you could be
pregnant seeing as you haven't gotten your period for 5 days even though you have all your normal
period symptoms plus the test came back positive if
your concerned you could visit your doctor or research it on the internet but i'd take another test to make sure it's better to be on the safe side especially when it comes to taking pregnancy tests
you never know with those(:

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My hotmail account has been hacked so many times and I have discontinued my hotmail somewhere else, now that I am at home trying to do the same thing, I don't remember what I need to do and I also need to know how to do that.
How do I cancel my account?

I was unsure myself of how to delete it so i researched it for you and found a link which is

http://www.tech-recipes.com/rx/1149/close-out-or-cancel-your-hotmail-account/

Hope that helps(:

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Okay, here's the dealio. I'm in tenth grade and the guy I like is in eleventh. We've known each other since I was in sixth grade because we're on the same bus. We only ever talk on the bus, but I really like him.
Nearly a month and a half ago now he told me that he likes me and I told him that I like him, too. But now he hasn't done anything. He still talks to me, but he acts like it nevet happened. Sometimes he says something that makes me think he's about to ask me out, but he never does.
If he really liked me, wouldn't he have asked me out by now? Was he just saying that, or maybe he meant that he liked me as a person, but not like THAT, even though he was shy to tell me and made me guess?
Or maybe he changed his mind?
What do I do?

I'm 15/female, going on sixteen and he's seventeen.

Also, does it mean anything if sometimes he acts like he's so much older and wiser, or his he just kidding?

He could be nervous or he could be waiting for the
right time to ask you out i'd give it some time be
patient don't rush him he wouldn't of said it if it
wasn't true and he wouldn't of said it for the sake
of saying it i think he meant he liked you as more
then a person if he was shy to tell you he wouldn't
of said he liked you and would of kept it to himself
i don't think him acting older and wiser means anything it could just be how he acts your age is
just a number nothing more your ages aren't far apart if i were you i'd wait he may ask you out when
you least expect it anything can happen you never
know i wouldn't confront him about him not asking
you out yet i'd just wait(:

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18/f hes 19/m

ok so i've been texting this guy a lot lately :) we have so much in common its ridiculous! He always keeps bringing up how we do have so much in common that is almost scary...yet so amazing. Im really starting to like him, but i am trying not to fall for him too fast. I don't want to rush things, especially if it meant i'd lose him. We had the most in depth conversation i've ever had with anyone before, for the first time ever i completely opened myself up. He told me things that not even his best friends know about, he trusts me that much.

the thing is, we are meeting properly for the first time maybe on saturday night, (as long as the place isn't flooded) and i'm actually really nervous that i'm going to disappoint him, or he wont be physically attracted to me. haha you can tell i haven't been on a date in a very long time hahaha! Im trying to calm myself down since its meant to be 4 days till i meet up with him, but i've never been this nervous before!

You being nervous is normal nothing wrong with that you both having things in common is a advantage for the two of you you'll have more things to talk about and you'll be able to create conversation easier i don't think you'll disappoint him or he won't be physically attracted to you you've got to have confidence and believe in yourself think positively thinking negatively will only make things worst before you go on the date think of some questions you'd like to ask him maybe something's your wanting to know about him that he hasn't already told you you could ask him what are some of the things he likes that way if you do end up dating you'll be able to buy him things for the holiday's or for your anniversary and you'll know exactly what to buy for him while on the date you want to keep the conversation going so things won't become uncomfortable for the two of you...you could also tell him facts about
yourself or your favorite tv shows or the types of music you listen to those are some suggestions i'm
sure you'll do fine :)

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22/f
i need advice. i've been with my boyfriend for about 7 years now and hes great and we're really in love and we have plans to marry eventually. the problem is when he gets angry or upset even if its a stupid fight that could have been over with one word, he gets too angry and just opens this whole portal of really hurtful words. i know he doesnt mean it cuz hes angry but at the point it really hurts and it makes want to leave him which i dont want to at all. so how can i get him to stop being mean when hes angry? thanks.

I think you need to sit him down and tell him how
you feel he won't know unless you speak up make him realize what he's saying is hurting you tell
him you'd like for him to stop and when he gets angry it makes you want to leave him maybe once he realizes he could loose you if he doesn't change his ways he'll stop make him realize his mistakes seeing as he probably doesn't realize them himself since his anger gets in the way you could try suggesting for him to go to therapy that way he'll be able to talk things out and he'll be able to communicate better instead of lashing out at you or anyone elese right now there's room for change and improvement with him if i were you i'd give him a chance he deserves at least one to see if he changes and if he doesn't then i'd leave him you
don't deserve to have those hurtful things being
said to you also you deserve to be treated better
then that he isn't worth your time :)

Your not alone i get verbally abused by my parents
and i also get hurtful things said to me....

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Hiya well here's the thing I met this dude too during the summer and his name is jim but he waslike a really good friend we would allwsyss joke around and just have a blast toghther but then I told him I liked this other guy dan and he would just seem to go along with it and joke around now after the guy dan stopped talking to me and I really miss him even though he goes to the same school it just isn't the same so it's way past summer I think I still like dan pathetically but no me and jim we see and hang out sometimes and sometimes I bring up dan and he's just like oh I don't like him but besides that I don't want to like jim because I'm scared it will be awkward likeit was with dan in the afterwards so idk should I move on to my good friend or still be pathetic with dan:( please help

I think you should do what you think is right if you
don't feel comfortable being with one of the boys then choose one you will feel comfortable with and you think you can be around i think you should be with Dan seeing as you seem confident about him & you say positive things about him more then you do about Jim you seem unsure about him if you truely think you'll be scared and it will be awkward if you
like Jim then don't be with him go for Dan if you do
choose Dan you both can make up for lost times and
maybe it could be the way it used to be you seem to
bring up Dan more then Jim so i think you should choose him do what will make you happy that's the
main thing that truely counts in the end is that your happy :)

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I'm a female and currently a senior in highschool. I have 2 ppl I truly care about, for privacy purpose we can call them Derek and Jeremy. I met Derek 9th grade. And dated him for almost 3yrs. I moved highschool's after sophomore year and our relationship actually got stronger, I sad to say I only saw him like 2ce a year. So it didn't seem like much of a relationship. Junior year I met Jeremy and we hit it off right away, I cheated on Derek. And later broke up with him. I have been dating Jeremy for about 8 months now, and still talk to Derek like if we have a relationship. I love them both and have no clue what to do, I feel like I'm hurting both of them. And myself. Derek is my best friend and I can't lose him, I mean he's still here after all I did. But I love Jeremy, and he's so sweet, cute, and loving, and I actually get to see him. I know y'all might think this is typical highschool drama, but I've spent 4 years of my life living this. So no there's not an "you'll meet other guys when you go to college" option. I'm scared of change, scared that I will choose wrong and regret my choice, o please help me....choose.

I think you should choose Jeremy seeing as your dating him & you think so highly of him and you get
to see him unlike Derek who you only saw twice a year i'm sure Derek will be there after you choose seeing as he's your best friend and he's stuck beside you after all you did i don't think you'll end up loosing him or he'd abandon you i think you & Derek should remain friends in the end the main thing that truely counts is that your happy do what you think is right and what will make you happy if you feel that you love Jeremy and have nice things to say about him then choose him you sound more confident about Jeremy then you do about Derek you
sound unsure about him :]

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My ex boyfriend Nick broke up with me last April. I was left completely heartbroken. One day he told me he didn't love me anymore, that I was too moody for him and he ended it. I was SO upset, I did so much for him.

I started hanging out with a guy called Kyle, who I'd met a few months before just as friends. Any way I ended up really falling in love with him. He knew things ended badly with my ex and he was really there for me. We started dating and everything was so great, my parents loved him and his parents loved me and more importantly we both loved each other. More to the point, Kyle started to question being together as the stress we'd both been under (it started effecting our relationship) I didn't give him much time to think it over, I pretty much ended it straight away.

Now my ex Nick is back on the scene... saying he misses me and that he hopes we can can work things out. Can I really trust him not to leave me broken hearted again?

Yes i do think you can trust him not to leave you
broken hearted again he wouldn't of said he misses
you and that he hopes that you two can work things
out if he didn't truely mean it he wouldn't of said it for the sake of saying it i think you should give him another chance he deserves one the break up is in the past he made a mistake & isn't perfect him saying what he did to you is kind of like a new beginning for you both you can start over fresh if you do end up giving him a chance he could get the chance to prove to you that he's changed & that he won't make the same mistakes he did in the past so yes i do think you could trust him it's worth a shot i don't think you'll regret giving Nick another chance if you decide to he seemed sincere with his words & what he said :)

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So, a few times a year my boyfriend goes paintballing with a bunch of friends, but i've always been too scared to go. I guess I'm not a big risk taker. But I really want to prove to him (and myself, more importantly) that I'm not such a wuss. I just see some of the welts he comes back with and they look painful. The reason I'm afraid is because I don't want to get hurt when I get shot at. He says it stings a bit for a few seconds and then you're fine. I would like any advice I could get on the subject to make me feel more confident going into it. Thanks!

If you do end up going your going to end up getting shot at there's nothing you can do to stop it from happening it's going to happen one way or another don't think about getting shot at just think of having fun the main thing that counts is that your having fun and sure you'll probably get welts but they won't be permanent they'll go away within time i think you should listen to your boyfriend when he said it will sting a bit for a few seconds then go away and then you'll be fine i don't think he'd lie to you he wouldn't of said it if it weren't true he wouldn't of said it for the sake of saying it i'm sure he wouldn't put you in danger or in harms way you need to trust him & what he said you need to get over your fear & face it you'll feel better afterwards like you accomplished your goal believe in yourself that you can do it if you really want to prove yourself for your sake & his then go ahead take the risk it's worth a shot :)

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How do I know if I am depressed ? and If I am depressed how do I tell my parents I'm only 15 can I be depressed at such a young age ? It's just I'm happy when I'm around people but when I'm alone I feel so sad but even when I'm around people inside I'm sad too , and sometimes I think about suicidal things ):
Please Help
15 years old
Female

Yes you could be depressed that could be a possiblity my advice for you is that you speak to
someone about how your feeling either your parents
or a therapist if you don't feel comfortable talking to a stranger then i'd say your parents is the best way to go you'll know your depressed if you don't feel like you normally do sit your parents down and tell them that you haven't been feeling like your normal self and you've been feeling sad lately and you think about things you shouldn't be yes you can be depressed at
only 15 you aren't alone everyone becomes depressed at some point in their lives no matter what age they are depression is apart of life as far as suicide is concerned it isn't worth it think about your parents loosing their child and how much it would hurt them if they lost you it isn't worth it to cause them pain they don't deserve that & others who care about you too they
don't deserve the pain either you need to tell
someone about how your feeling you'll feel better
afterwards you won't have everything bottled up inside & you'll have a clear mind it isn't good to
keep everything to yourself it's good to get it all out in the open so whoever you decide to talk
to can hear :)

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Well i am currently 12 years old and i see my older sisters and cousin like having fun and i want that too but the people my age don't know how to have fun the way lets say 16-19 year olds do. I am always at home and my sister is having fun and i can't go with her because you know 16-19 year olds would never hang out with a 13 year old i wishh i was older. Im bored of life already there are no more things to do. Like i used to love going onto the internet but now i usually get no notifications on facebook. And if i was gonna hang out with my sister her friends wouldn't even talk to me i feel like a loser around them soo i usually don't even question when my sis says she's gonna go hang with her friends. I have friends but they can't be out late as i can and they don't do the things i like to do. Usually 7th-8th curfews are like 7pm or earlier.For me i don't even have a curfew well my mom kinda gets mad if im out past 12 but its all good. I dont know what to do anymore everyone around me is getting old all the my cousins and sister. I feel like im being left behind from all the fun do i just wait for a couple of years? But i don't wanna wait at all i feel like a loser with no friends. I go to jr. high they are like almost graduating highschool.
I feel lonely and bored of life i literally don't want any sort of item anymore i got everything i need. I even have my grades at an average. I don't wanna wait but i know my friends won't stop being so immature like every time i hang out with my friends i feel like the adult telling them to stop being so loud to pick up after themselves. My sis said im a little mature for my age i wishh i could go back and be immature again but i just can't anymore. All of my friends are 8th graders well most of them and when they leave for highschool next year i know for a fact im gonna be lonely and actually be a loser now. Im not racist or anything but i prefer to hang out with asians cuz im asian and majority of the 7th graders are mexican what am i supposed to do? and dont say i make new friends with the people already around me.
I also need help with the other topic above..

sorry about my rambling i tend to sometimes give too much info...

well i had alot of confidence like in on August but now its gone. I think im a horrible person, neither am i good looking. I AM A LOSER! *-*

You aren't a loser you should never call yourself that you could try talking to your sisters and cousin and tell them you feel left behind from all the fun and you'd like it if just you and them hung out together without your sisters friends tagging along they won't know unless you tell them it's worth a shot no harm in trying you could try doing some after school activities so you'll meet new people & you'll get out of the house for a couple of hours you could also try hanging out with some of the kids in your neighborhood if there's any you aren't a horrible person you help your friends and be the bigger person and act like a adult more mature you don't have to do that but you do it anyways you choose too if you don't think your good looking then good news is you can change your appearance and what you aren't satisfied with until your happy with what you see you'll gain confidence by doing that you can hangout with whoever you'd like it's your choice & only yours try & think positivity even though i know it's tough but thinking negatively will only make things worst :)

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Hello, I am 14 and a female. Me and this guy have been best friends for a few years now. We always talked about everything and i always helped him with his problems, especially when he was dating my best friend in 6th grade. i discovered that i really like this guy and have strong feelings for him. we recently dated and it was going good. until one day he stopped hugging & talking to me in the hallways. he wanted to have this guy break up w/ me for him, but they guy never did. so my friend asked him if we were still dating and he said no. i was whip lashed. we havent really talked since then and we never talk anymore. i miss things and i really really like him, but he likes someone else now(a girl who has previously cheated on him) i want to be with him, and i know somethings there. what do i do?? thankyou.

I don't think it's worth it for you to be with him
seeing as he treated you the way he did he didn't
give you a explaination to why he broke up with you
& he couldn't even break up with you himself he had
to have another person do it for him who didn't even
go through with it you deserve to be treated better then that i think you should move on from him he isn't worth your time or patience everything happens
for a reason & things weren't meant to be between you two you can't make something work that isn't meant to be if he's moved on & likes someone elese
there isn't much you can do that's his choice :)

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how do i leave my life

Suicide isn't going to solve anything you'll just
be hurting people who love and care about you if
your unhappy with your life & not satisifed with
it you need to find what you aren't happy about
and make changes only you can change your life
around your in control of it nobody but you
the truth is none of the columnists on here
are going to answer the question you've asked because you shouldn't commit suicide nobody should it isn't worth it to end your life it's worth living even if you think it isn't

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Im 19 in college and i met this 24 year old guy...he is really nice and we are getting to know eachother on a friend level but i am interested in more but would like some advice to if you guys think the age difference is a problem and if you have ever dated older did it work out?

No i don't think the age difference is a problem
both of you are legal it's not like your minors your age is just a number nothing more i did date a
older boy when i was in high school but truthfully it didn't work out between us we didn't date very long & we stopped talking to one another our relationship wasn't serious if your interested in
more then i think you should go for it..it's worth a
shot there's no harm in giving him a chance & getting to know him better do whatever will make you
happy because in the end the main thing that truely
counts is that your happy & if your not then it's
probably not worth it :)

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I have a resume and every place I apply at I give their application along with this resume.
I'm 18 years old, I have applied atleast 30 places and each of those places, numerous times. I keep a list of places and when I applied. I've had around 4 interviews.
I've never had a job before but right before my 17th birthday I started applying to jobs. which would be March 2008.
I don't know what I'm doing wrong? Most of my friends got jobs and some even have gotten 2 or 3 since I've been applying. I can't even get ONE job!!

I don't think your doing anything wrong honestly
right now the economy's bad & people are loosing
their jobs most places aren't hiring i'm in the same position you are i applied for jobs & i even applied for the same job twice 4 interviews is better then nothing be patient & don't give up it's not your fault that the economy's so bad iv'e been unemployed for the longest time now i know what your going through continue applying wherever you can don't become discouraged :)

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My mom has struggled with depression for years. She's told me she's been suicidal in the past. She's really a good woman, raised me right, and deserves to lead a happier life. Today I walked in on her crying really bad in her bedroom. I know she's feeling "that way" again. How can I help my mom get help for her own depression? I asked her before she wanted to go "see someone" but she told me no, and that the feeling would pass in awhile. I'm concerned.

I think you to sit her down and make her realize
that your concerned tell her that you'd like it if
she visited a doctor and she got help depression isn't something that passes in awhile like she said
it would tell her you hate seeing her this way & you
aren't going to watch as she continues to be depressed like nothing's happening it's hurting you it isn't something that goes away so easily maybe if you were somewhat harsh with your words it will make her realize that she really does need help and she can't continue to live the way she has been if you aren't able to convince her on your own then maybe you should try asking a family member to help it's worth a shot :)

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Hey,

How do you get blood stains off of a white down comforter. i cut my finger and it bled all over it... I looked at the instructions and it said wash in cold water only with mild soap.. but that's not gonna get a blood stain out.

It also said do not bleach.

WHat do I do???

Whenever i get blood somewhere my mom usually
uses baking soda iv'e researched it & found that if you take a bottle of peroxide and soak the stain with it then wash it with cold water that may help too also OxyClean and water you could try that hope your stain comes out :)

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