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There are two people i truly care about, but cant have both.
I'm a female and currently a senior in highschool. I have 2 ppl I truly care about, for privacy purpose we can call them Derek and Jeremy. I met Derek 9th grade. And dated him for almost 3yrs. I moved highschool's after sophomore year and our relationship actually got stronger, I sad to say I only saw him like 2ce a year. So it didn't seem like much of a relationship. Junior year I met Jeremy and we hit it off right away, I cheated on Derek. And later broke up with him. I have been dating Jeremy for about 8 months now, and still talk to Derek like if we have a relationship. I love them both and have no clue what to do, I feel like I'm hurting both of them. And myself. Derek is my best friend and I can't lose him, I mean he's still here after all I did. But I love Jeremy, and he's so sweet, cute, and loving, and I actually get to see him. I know y'all might think this is typical highschool drama, but I've spent 4 years of my life living this. So no there's not an "you'll meet other guys when you go to college" option. I'm scared of change, scared that I will choose wrong and regret my choice, o please help me....choose.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Maybe you can try this: Imagine your future and what you will be doing five years from now. Are either of them in it? Who do you see there the most and why?
I do believe you can love two people at the same time, but its not right to have them both as a boyfriend.
Maybe you should possibly take a break from, BOTH of them? Just for a while so you can clear your head. Who knows, there might be one you miss the most?
Wish you the best!
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I think you should choose Jeremy seeing as your dating him & you think so highly of him and you get
to see him unlike Derek who you only saw twice a year i'm sure Derek will be there after you choose seeing as he's your best friend and he's stuck beside you after all you did i don't think you'll end up loosing him or he'd abandon you i think you & Derek should remain friends in the end the main thing that truely counts is that your happy do what you think is right and what will make you happy if you feel that you love Jeremy and have nice things to say about him then choose him you sound more confident about Jeremy then you do about Derek you
sound unsure about him :]
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Hi,
It sounds as if Jeremy is for you... but I don't know him personally, so I wouldn't know for sure. He must be a very sweet guy if he sticks by you and loves you that much (awwwe). The only way you won't be hurting both of them (and yourself) is if you chose one guy.
Whoever you don't choose, will find someone who can relate to him better. So it wasn't you, there will be someone else for that guy. Least he won't be spending his time trying to find you when you really don't feel the same. He could be searching for someone else who does feel the same. This will work out for the best. I think you do have more feelings for Jeremy, for there must have been something in your mind telling you to stick with him this long. I am sure that Derek will still be there for you in the end though, cuz he still communicates and is a friend to you right now.
I know what you mean about "you'll meet other guys"... that saying can last a very long time without coming true. I have been with a few guys and I know I have to do a lot of searching to find guys I can personally relate to... you are probably the same. And change, it is always a rough thing to go through, but without change there is no variety. You could be stuck doing the same thing over and over again... Choose the guy that you know will make you smile, who you aren't afraid to be yourself around, who makes you laugh, who holds you tight in his arms, who tells you you are beautiful (because you are) and who will always be there for you. If you follow your heart, you should not regret your choice
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