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How comes I can't keep my focus during sex?
Okay so whenever I would sleep with someone and I've only slept with about about five guys, and they'd go in too deep they'd make me bleed, and like it hurts. And I've also found like I can't keep my focus when I'm having sex and I feel bad because like I want to make him happy but like I can't do it well if my head isn't into it. And I just don't know what to do and is it normal to not really be loud during sex? I feel so unnornal because I rarely moan during sex and it doesn't feel as amazing as like you seen in the movies. Any advice?
(18/F)
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You are very normal so don't worry. My guess is the boys you are with don't care to much about your happiness. You need to find someone that appeals to your heart and your mind. If you're mentally attracted to a man, it will help stimulate you in the bedroom. You are only going to moan or express excitement when it feels good and so far it hasn't. Make sure you know what feels good on your own body when you're alone, so you can tell your boyfriend all the things you like. Have your next bf (you obviously need a new one), take his time before you even start. Soft kisses, slowly getting undresses and having him caress your body will help get your body and mind ready. If you need any other advice, please ask. Hope this helps and good luck.
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Hi there :)
okay firstly let me tell you, you are totally 100% normal don't worry.
Ad you have said your head isnt in it. Which tells you right there you should not be doing it as you are not mentally or physically relaxed so you cannot possibly enjoy it.
Sex is an act of intimacy and love between two people and a possible reason you are not enjoying it is because of the guys you are doing it with. You need to feel comfortable and at ease with the guy.
If someone is hurting you tell them! Its your body and they probably don't realize so just let the guy know "softer gentler please that kind of hurts" you cannot possibly enjoy it if you are bleeding and uncomfortable.
Everybody is different when it comes to sex no body said you have to scream the house down like some girls do. Some make loud noises others soft others next to none so don't stress.
Also ignore what you see in the movies. Sadly to say sex is completely glamorized!
I have had some problems with sex myself as I have only recently started having it with my boyfriend of a year and like you have mentioned it didn't feel amazing for me so I asked on here and I got some really helpful feedback.
You need to know your body firstly. So therefore you need to know what works for you so you can tell your partner what feels good so don't be ashamed or embarrassed to feel around and find out what works best for your body.
Most women (like myself) cannot achieve an orgasm through penetrative sex. Your body needs to be relaxed and stimulated first which usually involves lots of foreplay touching and clitoral stimulation. This is the same for many women trust me I did some research online and found that there are hundreds of women who at first don't enjoy sex. Very few can enjoy it from just penetrative sex.
You cannot make a guy happy if you are not happy yourself! :)
Google betty dodson she has some great tips.
Just relax find what works for you make sure you WANT to do it and communicate! talk to the guy it won't get better otherwise.
I really hope this helps and best of luck
if you have any more questions please feel free to inbox me
much<3
Jess 17/f
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