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I feel like such a loser.
Well i am currently 12 years old and i see my older sisters and cousin like having fun and i want that too but the people my age don't know how to have fun the way lets say 16-19 year olds do. I am always at home and my sister is having fun and i can't go with her because you know 16-19 year olds would never hang out with a 13 year old i wishh i was older. Im bored of life already there are no more things to do. Like i used to love going onto the internet but now i usually get no notifications on facebook. And if i was gonna hang out with my sister her friends wouldn't even talk to me i feel like a loser around them soo i usually don't even question when my sis says she's gonna go hang with her friends. I have friends but they can't be out late as i can and they don't do the things i like to do. Usually 7th-8th curfews are like 7pm or earlier.For me i don't even have a curfew well my mom kinda gets mad if im out past 12 but its all good. I dont know what to do anymore everyone around me is getting old all the my cousins and sister. I feel like im being left behind from all the fun do i just wait for a couple of years? But i don't wanna wait at all i feel like a loser with no friends. I go to jr. high they are like almost graduating highschool.
I feel lonely and bored of life i literally don't want any sort of item anymore i got everything i need. I even have my grades at an average. I don't wanna wait but i know my friends won't stop being so immature like every time i hang out with my friends i feel like the adult telling them to stop being so loud to pick up after themselves. My sis said im a little mature for my age i wishh i could go back and be immature again but i just can't anymore. All of my friends are 8th graders well most of them and when they leave for highschool next year i know for a fact im gonna be lonely and actually be a loser now. Im not racist or anything but i prefer to hang out with asians cuz im asian and majority of the 7th graders are mexican what am i supposed to do? and dont say i make new friends with the people already around me.
I also need help with the other topic above..
sorry about my rambling i tend to sometimes give too much info...
well i had alot of confidence like in on August but now its gone. I think im a horrible person, neither am i good looking. I AM A LOSER! *-*
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You aren't a loser you should never call yourself that you could try talking to your sisters and cousin and tell them you feel left behind from all the fun and you'd like it if just you and them hung out together without your sisters friends tagging along they won't know unless you tell them it's worth a shot no harm in trying you could try doing some after school activities so you'll meet new people & you'll get out of the house for a couple of hours you could also try hanging out with some of the kids in your neighborhood if there's any you aren't a horrible person you help your friends and be the bigger person and act like a adult more mature you don't have to do that but you do it anyways you choose too if you don't think your good looking then good news is you can change your appearance and what you aren't satisfied with until your happy with what you see you'll gain confidence by doing that you can hangout with whoever you'd like it's your choice & only yours try & think positivity even though i know it's tough but thinking negatively will only make things worst :)
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First of all. You are NOT a loser, and don't think that about yourself, ever again. Look, you're only young, and everyone your age is different, with different curfews. You will have to compromise with your friends to stay out and be back home in time for their curfews, I'm sure they'd love to stay out past 12 but they can't do anything about it. My advice to you is that you go out with your friends and have fun as much as they can, and then invite another friend for a sleepover, or a group of you and your friends have a slumber party. You're so young, you shouldnt wish to be older, infact older people wish they were young again. So enjoy it while you still are. Your sisters and cousins do things that are appropriate for their age, we all do different things depending on our age, so you shouldnt envy them about that. Your young and have your whole life ahead of you which means you have plenty of time to do what 16 to 19 year olds do, just wait til your that age, plus your sister and your cousins probably were just feeling like you are when they were 12-13. Everyone goes through it, and to make more asian friends, try to be more social and interact with them. I'm sure there will be plenty at you're school, all you have to do is approach them and be very friendly. Trust me, if you do that they'll think your sweet and approachable. So whats the worse that could happen,right? About facebook notifications, i had a friend who went through the same thing as you. All you have to do is put status's that people are interested in,and write to people and make casual conversations with anyone of you're friends,even if its one you hardly talk to. Theyre bound to be nice to you and you'll have lots of cool friends and a lot of fun before you know it. keep your chin up!
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Hey there,
Okay I'm going to start by saying firstly you are NOT a loser!
I know you may feel like one at the moment but trust me you are not.
Secondly this is something we have all gone through at some stage its just that awkward age. (I know your sick to death of hearing it)
But I remember being in your exact same position at that age. Feeling lonely useless bored.
It is a feeling that passes though you just need to find something to motivate you and interest you.
You are only twelve years old you cannot be bored with life! You havn't even lived half of it yet! :)
I would Agree with your sister you are mature for your age and thats a great thing,but like everything in life it has its downsides.
From hanging out with older kids its what you have come to know and expect from your younger friends.
There is plenty of time to do all that you have a good 6 years. Unfortunately you just have to wait its hard but we all have to do it think about how exciting it will be when you get there. Don't wish your life away.
Why don't you take up some new hobbie after school dance drama take an instrument sports there is soo much to do although you might not believe it right now.
You can't hang out with older people all the time its just not socially healthy. Every young teen feels like a loser around their older siblings and their friends fact! I have.As im sure many fellow advicenators have. I wish I could tell you more but really its a part of growing up.
Don't be negative find the positive in your life.
Good things come to those who wait!
Don't limit yourself to a certain group of people if you make Asian friends great but don't confine yourself to just that.
You need to forget about growing up for now and enjoy being young! When you turn 16 I can almost guarantee you you will be wishing you could be young again. Because believe it or not with all the cool responsibility that comes with growing up there is also alot of pressures and stresses that someone your age can't even dream of.
Please don't feel so down in yourself You are not a horrible person nor are you ugly or a loser!
Keep telling yourself these things. You had confidence at one stage so you obviously have amazing qualities to feel that way about.
Your just down in the dumps.
We all go through those times :) Its about learning to pick ourselves back up and re discover the fun in our lives. Laugh have fun be a kid!
I really hope you take this on board and that it helps you to see things in a new light :)
You seem like a very mature young girl with a strong head between her shoulders. Don't lose that. But don't lose your innocence or youth either. You need to balance the maturity in your life.
I hope I helped and if you have any more questions please feel free to inbox me.
Much <3
Jess -17/f
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