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I like my ex-bestfriend......
Hello, I am 14 and a female. Me and this guy have been best friends for a few years now. We always talked about everything and i always helped him with his problems, especially when he was dating my best friend in 6th grade. i discovered that i really like this guy and have strong feelings for him. we recently dated and it was going good. until one day he stopped hugging & talking to me in the hallways. he wanted to have this guy break up w/ me for him, but they guy never did. so my friend asked him if we were still dating and he said no. i was whip lashed. we havent really talked since then and we never talk anymore. i miss things and i really really like him, but he likes someone else now(a girl who has previously cheated on him) i want to be with him, and i know somethings there. what do i do?? thankyou.
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Hey there :)
Unfortunately sweety I have to agree with the last answer.
I mean think about the way he has treated you. No reason..just stops talking to you..doesn't tell you why.
and I know you probably know all this already in your heart and your sat there thinking but they don't know him they don't know how used to be so sweet.
He used to your best friend the one you could laugh with rely on..and tell absolutely everything to. right?
The truth is we have nearly all had someone like that in ours lives.
I know I have although I had not got deeper feelings for him.
but I did love him as a best friend. What happened? he changed. Plain and simple.
He stopped talking to me..texting me being there for me. it hurt like hell because like you I didn't know what I had done wrong. I wanted him in my life so badly I felt like I needed him there because he always had been.
But then I realised the way he started treating me wasn't right or fair I didn't deserve it and neither do you.
Im sorry I can't give you an explanation for this guys behaviour I wish I could but people change thats the sad part.
We have to learn to accept and let go.
I still think about my best guy friend and it gets me a little bit upset but then I remind myself hes the one who changed and missed out. I don't want to be around the person he is now.
I think you do deserve an explanation though.
For months I was hurt and confused and then one night I said you know what we need to talk about things.. it didn't end well for us and we don't speak anymore but I know thats for the best.
I think if you feel like you need that you should talk to him. Ask him where it all went wrong.. what did you do to deserve it? remind him of what good friends you were how you miss it.
If he feels remorse and wants to get back to that great :)
But if he doesn't that really is your loss. You should move on hold your head up high and be dignified about it. People come in and out of our lives all the time just think of the good times when it gets you down thats what I do.
Feelings will fade eventually over time trust me.
I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck :)
I hope you feel you can relate to my experience because I felt I could to this situation.
Please feel free to inbox me if you have anymore questions
Much <3
Jess 17/f
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I don't think it's worth it for you to be with him
seeing as he treated you the way he did he didn't
give you a explaination to why he broke up with you
& he couldn't even break up with you himself he had
to have another person do it for him who didn't even
go through with it you deserve to be treated better then that i think you should move on from him he isn't worth your time or patience everything happens
for a reason & things weren't meant to be between you two you can't make something work that isn't meant to be if he's moved on & likes someone elese
there isn't much you can do that's his choice :)
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